Question for woman: are the good looking guys always better in bed?

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2024-09-10T14:52:04+00:00

Dear god no.

Tricky_Dog1465 · 2024-09-10T14:19:45+00:00

No they aren't, half the time they are selfish as hell

MissJeje · 2024-09-10T15:04:45+00:00

Nope lol the more the guy is conventionally good looking, the more selfish he is usually

egalitarian-flan · 2024-09-10T15:00:30+00:00

Or have you ever experienced an average looking guy be a great lover and had great sex despite he didn’t look like a model?

This is my one and only experience, yes. My guy isn't conventionally attractive, and I know some women would disqualify him automatically because of his weight, but he's a sex god.

blackdaalia · 2024-09-10T15:14:17+00:00

I don't know how to answer this question because it depends on what you mean by good-looking guys. Also, disclaimer, I haven't had sex with many different men.

If you mean my type, they tend to be good in bed, but my type isn't everyone's type. I don't really care about height. I don't like those guys with bodies that resemble famous actors like the Hemsworth brothers. I generally prefer men that have some type of strength but don't look like bodybuilders, that have a beard but don't look like they go to the barbershop religiously every week, that have a charming smile and smell good. In general I am more attracted to charm than a perfect body/face.

If you mean what society sees as the most attractive men out there, the one guy I had sex with that fit this parameter was horrible in bed. He thought having a big dick and just going in and out for 30 minutes straight would be enjoyable, and it really wasn't.

Flashy-Huckleberry-0 · 2024-09-10T15:35:27+00:00

For me it’s been the opposite. The most conventionally attractive guy I dated was the worst. The least conventionally attractive was the best, BUT despite conventional attractiveness, I was personally more attracted to the “less” attractive guy.

This seems to be a confusing thing reading through this thread. Someone being conventionally attractive/aesthetically pleasing doesn’t actually mean I’m more attracted to them. Other than saying “conventionally attractive,” I’m unsure how else to describe people that fit or are close to some societal standard of beauty who I might simply be able to intellectually/mentally acknowledge as being somehow aesthetically pleasing/symmetrical/whatever vs. someone who doesn’t really fit those societal standards but towards whom I might experience more raw physical attraction. Like… these are different things, and sex with the latter would probably be better.

Is there a better way to illustrate that point?

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2024-09-10T14:49:59+00:00

Absolutely not. Have had life changing sex with men that are not model material

Looks have nothing to do with good sex

My_House_on_Mars · 2024-09-10T14:03:51+00:00

of course not

a hot guy thinks that's all he needs

an ugly guy is there to impress

I love how the first comment is "women are going to lie about this!!". Just admit you are bad in bed, it's not about your looks 😂

waffleznstuff30 · 2024-09-10T16:22:50+00:00

Nope. Not at all.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-09-10T17:16:40+00:00

Nah, hot guys aren't inherently great in bed. Some hot dudes thing being attractive is all they need and put no effort into making the experience pleasurable for their partner.

Direct-Alternative70 · 2024-09-10T17:53:54+00:00

More like the opposite. They rely on their looks to get women in bed. Then they have no idea or drive to do anything or learn how to do anything.

attendquoi · 2024-09-10T14:13:23+00:00

Nope, I've had to kick some pretty hot guys out of bed for not knowing what they were doing lol

Fun_Breakfast697 · 2024-09-10T17:50:02+00:00

No. Like it's nice but it doesn't make bad sex into good sex. Bad sex is such a turnoff for me that it kills attraction entirely, even with men who are very beautiful. I will say that I have not found that more attractive men are worse/lazier/less generous in bed, as others are claiming.

Someone who just passes the threshold and is great in bed will instantly become more attractive to me. I've become totally obsessed with guys who were originally you'll-dos because of how well they did.

They do have to pass the threshold though -- sex with someone physically repulsive is always going to be unpleasant, regardless.

SocrateandAthena · 2024-09-10T14:12:26+00:00

Not what I experienced. Sadly, the 2 most handsome guys I slept with were very mid sex experiences, no orgasm at all, even a little painful due to lack of arousal. I didn't even want to see them again. I have had great lovers, always average guys I had a special connection with, and I can say that I have at least 1 or 2 orgasms each time with my hubby. He's not your wet dream alpha man, not that tall, not that built (not even at all), a bit nerdy and intellectual, but for the past decade I coudn't have enough of him.

beautyloser · 2024-09-10T15:27:06+00:00

i’m prepared to get accused of lying but the best sex i’ve ever had and continue to have is with a guy most people don’t find conventionally attractive. i’m wildly attracted to him and couldn’t imagine myself with anyone else. the one time i hooked up with a very conventionally attractive man, i stopped him halfway through because it was so fucking bad and made him leave. ego really does get in the way of a lot of hot men’s ability to please women.

Diamond-Breath · 2024-09-10T14:57:33+00:00

My bf is legit gorgeous and he's really good. Great stamina and eager to please 🥰

Whoreasaurus_Rex · 2024-09-10T13:50:09+00:00

No. Absolutely not.

Werevulvi · 2024-09-10T16:20:47+00:00

Not usually. The average looking guys with insecurities about their level of attractiveness and/or penis size have been the ones who were best in bed, ime. I think they pay attention to being great in bed as a way to compensate for their looks/size, and honestly... it works and I'm not even mad about it lol. I mean one of the best sex I've had was with a chubby, balding guy who was maybe 5'7 and ranred all night about how insecure he was about his 4 inch penis. And even though he was drunk, I still remember it as some of the best sex I've had, now some 13 years later.

There are exceptions of course though. I haven't been with many conventionally attractive men. Only one or two, who either had just the worst taste in women, or were extremely insecure and dysmorphic about their looks. They were both pretty bad in bed but I kinda doubt it was because of their looks. One was just too drunk to get it up, but also oddly too lazy to move much at all. The other was just very inexperienced with women because he had believed himself to be gay up until recently at that time and I was the first woman he was with. So I don't think either of them were bad in bed per se, but just that I had bad sexual experiences with them due to circumstantial reasons. Maybe, I'm not sure.

So I really don't have enough experience with conventionally attractive men altogether to make much of any claim on whether they are good or bad in bed. They men I tend to connect with just usually aren't the conventionally attractive types. Although a big reason for that is because I find that most of the rare few conventionally attractive men I've met have either 1) completely ignored my existence as they've been busy with some conventionally attractive woman instead, 2) been weirdly sexist in an off-putting way, or 3) I just haven't felt any kinda tingles towards at all.

So I usually just ignore those kinda men, unless they're something extra, like they have an eccentric and down to earth personality, or a unique personal style, etc. Because I tend to be attracted towards oddities and asymmetry rather than normative things.

So most men I've been with have been ik the just below average to just above average range, like 4-6/10. But my worst sexual partners have been the men who were outside of that range in either direction. The very below average (2's and 3's) and the way above average (8's and 9's.) I'm not sure why but I think it's for very varying reasons. I get that my problem with the way below average guys was probably just me not really being attracted to them, and/or they were such insane level incel/basement-dweller types that they made me uncomfortable. And yes I was an idiot for agreeing to sex with them anyway but that's a different story.

But anyway I think average men with enough insecurities to wanna compensate for that with great sexual skills, but not so many flaws that they're reality-detached and stuck in a porn fantasy... are generally the ones who are best in bed. Which is also why I do not value looks over everything else, and didn't even for hookups when I did that in the past, but certainly not for relationships. And imo a moderately attractive guy who's great in bed is a much more fulfilling connection over all, than being with a highly conventionally attractive guy who only cares about his own pleasure.

Obsidian_Koilz · 2024-09-10T17:39:00+00:00

Nope.

NothingOrAllLife · 2024-09-10T18:51:30+00:00

God no…

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-09-11T00:20:42+00:00

no of course "good looking guys arent automatically good in bed" like how would that even work?

bluehorserunning · 2024-09-11T05:34:15+00:00

TSquaredRecovers · 2024-09-11T14:00:07+00:00

No, not necessarily.

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Whoreasaurus_Rex · 2024-09-10T18:21:07+00:00

I guess the burning question for me is: why would you go out on a date (much less have sex with) a girl you didn’t find attractive?

Pleasant-Speed2003 · 2024-09-11T19:28:55+00:00

Deffinately not ive been with one chad and he was so bad i decided to stop in 2 mins, he didnt even finish i just had enough.

StrawberrySad7536 · 2024-09-12T20:20:31+00:00

Medium hot/ average looking is best in my personal experience. Someone who takes good care of themselves and in decent shape but would never be cast for a modeling gig, rough around the edges, masculine.

Obvious_Smoke3633 · 2024-09-10T17:27:46+00:00

In my personal experience it trends that better looking self confident men are better less selfish lovers. It's not a guarantee though. Humans are human. Can't generalize. I think it goes more with the confidence than the appearance.

MistyMaisel · 2024-09-10T14:38:16+00:00

I've only fucked one dude. So I can only go by making out....and yes, I would say the better looking dudes were better at making out. Caveat to that, the better looking dudes typically had more practice than the dudes where I was their first kiss or girlfriend. Caveat to the caveat, usually the hotter dudes also didn't mind taking direction, the inexperienced less hot dudes did have problems taking direction. Caveat to that caveat, it's likely the hotter guys were also more experienced in being directed than the inexperienced dudes.

So ultimately, I don't think it was being hotter that made them more fun to kiss, I think it was having more experience, less insecurity, less puppyish excitement, and less ego attached. By this, I can assume that if your woman was getting experience, she'd be good. Same as anything really. A can do and learning attitude will take you far.

Caveat to all this: the experienced guys were usually way more pushy about stuff and aggressive. The inexperienced guys were pushy too, but in a very different way that is more begging than you will do.

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2024-09-10T19:22:50+00:00

I can't compare but I can say that what makes it good is my feelings, real genuine attraction and desire. If I'm crazy about him to begin with he can be technically bad but it will be great to me because of my feelings. And if I'm meh about it but he has good technique it just doesn't do it for me.

I can't really compare, I don't have enough experience. But in my experience it's about my FEELINGS towards him. So logically if good looking guys make women feel more butterflies also the sex should be better because of the feelings.

HighestTierMaslow · 2024-09-10T15:38:02+00:00

No. Yes. Yes. You have chemistry with this girl. Chemistry is different than looks.

Title	Question for woman: are the good looking guys always better in bed?
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Date	September 10, 2024 1:47 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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