The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom.

A_Long98 · 2025-11-27T21:11:11+00:00

The more I use Reddit, the more confident I am in discarding anybody’s advice here.

Hoopy223 · 2025-11-27T21:27:42+00:00

Let’s face it, most guys already do this w/o even thinking about it. Redditors are just a bunch of autists though so they have to make a spreadsheet or peer reviewed study about how they banged a fat chick because they were horny/desperate etc.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2025-11-27T20:12:26+00:00

They don't want to drop their standards or get an escort

What evidence do you have of it?

Fair-Bus-4017 · 2025-11-27T18:38:42+00:00

M8 just no lmao. That's the easiest way to lose it. And cool you have done it, now what? You didn't enjoy it and nothing in your life changed except maybe now you feel more ashamed about yourself. Cause you clearly didn't think highly of that woman.

Neglius · 2025-11-27T20:18:53+00:00

Lol 19 isn't late. Wasn't even late back then.

GKilat · 2025-11-28T01:12:54+00:00

I would rather die a virgin than lose it to someone I am not attracted to. It's not worth losing your virginity like that because you only lose it once and you might as well lose it with someone memorable like someone you love or at least someone you find very attractive. Just imagining losing it to someone forgettable or someone I would rather forget is making me feel regret.

gtbreddit1 · 2025-11-27T21:33:39+00:00

Give that 300lb girl a chance or get that escort. Just see what you're missing out on.

What I'm missing out on is having my dick in hot women. Putting my dick in fat women doesn't show me what that's like. No more than fucking a man in the ass would show me what fucking a woman in the ass is like.

My_House_on_Mars · 2025-11-27T18:44:24+00:00

19 years old and you thought it was OVER? man I lost mine at 19 or 20 (can't remember), with a virgin boyfriend and none of us thought we were late, that's crazy

I had my first kiss at 16 and still didn't feel late

kids are too anxious these days

MarioWilson122 · 2025-11-27T18:32:38+00:00

Well some men might not be able to get it up for a 300 pound woman. They might if she's cute, but she can likely get a better offer then some of these struggling men can provide. Of course buying escorts is not only damaging to the ego but is illegal in most states.

Popeoath · 2025-11-28T03:45:27+00:00

Average men doing that is why low-tier men can't get any ass at all.

Broad_Coconut_4757 · 2025-11-27T20:11:09+00:00

Absolutely not. To all my virgin homeboys: please do not give this advice a second thought. It is much better to find a girl with similar values, enter a relationship, and experience that with HER.

Also Consider this..... do you really want to set the tone for your future sexual experiences as: sleeping with someone you blatantly have zero interest in and are treating (both for them and yourself) as a check-box?

MyLastBestChance · 2025-11-27T18:56:24+00:00

I don’t think you’re remembering that the “method” you’re advocating USING to tick your virginity box is an actual human being.

A thinking, feeling, person, with whom you’re trying to do the most intimate (and invasive) act that exists, not an “achievable starter hole”…

You should be ashamed of yourself.

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Livid-Log7463 · 2025-11-27T20:57:10+00:00

Unfortunately even those options require a level of desirability for men, women’s standards don’t go any lower than average regardless of their desirability.

Gold_Sheepherder6569 · 2025-11-28T00:22:43+00:00

Paying for an escort doesn't count and even 300lb women have standards and don't want a guy who has sub-5 looks

Arch_Null · 2025-11-27T18:51:02+00:00

Nah Im good big dawg 😂

Truth be told my pride and vanity is more important than any woman on the planet. Like I genuinely think I have a pretty healthy outlook on life but the idea of me sleeping with a fat or ugly woman puts me in a depressive episode.

TheOneWhoThinketh · 2025-11-27T19:33:28+00:00

Even if you have no experience with women (or men), if you can't learn at least some aspect of how they operate from platonic relationships or even just how they are depicted in media, fictional or otherwise, then you'll likely not be able to pick up anything from having casual sex with one you're not attracted to.

Also, the skillset needed to sleep with a woman, have a relationship with her, and do either of these things with women at different levels of attractiveness, are all entirely separate and require separate understanding.

If your only goal is to lose your virginity, then arguably an escort would be the easiest way. The real question would be what is fundamentally flawed in your psychology that would make that your only goal.

OkOutlandishness6370 · 2025-11-27T20:26:17+00:00

That's an interesting proposition (heh) OP.

I ultimately don't think it would help much. The goal is to get pussy and ultimately, loyalty, from a woman you are actually attracted to.

Trying to fuck a chick whose league you are not even in, or heaven forbid paying for it, is a different type of activity and doesn't build the same muscles at all. There's no skill element. And your deeper consciousness will grasp that fact and not reward you psychologically since you are not making any true progress.

-WhY_HellO_ThERe- · 2025-11-27T18:44:19+00:00

If having sex matters that much to you then yeah I guess. I’m glad my boyfriend waited for the right person cause I would have rated him less 🤷🏼‍♀️

Big-Sir7034 · 2025-11-27T18:48:23+00:00

This reads like that Michael Jordan McDonald’s advert

Technical_End9162 · 2025-11-27T20:53:14+00:00

Generally I think they biggest issue is that you’ve gotta be seen by a lot of people, you’ll loose it if you want to. What’s the risk that not even 1/1000 people won’t find you attractive enough to sleep with

Shadowcat1606 · 2025-11-27T21:23:59+00:00

Meh... apart from the fact that i don't really see 19 as horribly late, so panic-driven ideas to solve a problem that isn't even really one (yet) are probably not the best choice.

And here's the thing... just because a woman is "300 pounds" that doesn't mean she has no self-respect or standards and will just throw themselves at everyone and everything. And even if there are some who would, which i'm sure there are, using someone who's that desperate just to ease my own desperation a bit would probably feel wrong to me. And i don't even see any real benefit in the long run apart from having gotten my dick wet once. Nice, i guess (then again... if it's with someone you're not attracted to?), but what's the point?

And the escort-thing... believe me, it has crossed my mind more than once. I'm 37 years old, i'm completely without any experience whatsoever, prostitution is legal where i live and rather easily available. Of course it has crossed my mind. But there are so many things that keep me from doing it and i'm not sure i could ever look past that. Especially for, again, no real long-term benefit.

Far_Secret_2710 · 2025-11-27T21:50:00+00:00

Uhhh when I was 16 some nice but ugly girl got booze from her bro, offered to bring me some then we drank till I blacked out. I awoke w a used condom on and a note from her saying she’d stolen my v-card. Before the week was out the whole school knew.

Took months of partying before I figured out how to level up to a better lay I’d actually remember. Moral of the story: Your peers will judge your level on your first lay even if you didn’t want to do it so bottom of barrel has cons.

But to tell you the truth I was more happy it was over than I was that an ugly girl did it.

capsaicinintheeyes · 2025-11-27T21:52:43+00:00

As is tradition; no jumping the queue!

DietTyrone · 2025-11-27T22:07:13+00:00

Guys in my fraternity used to call this 'slaying the dragon.' Sometimes you have to bang a few fat chicks on your way to the princess.

RidingRedHare · 2025-11-28T02:43:43+00:00

This will be a lot of fun when that 300 lb girl becomes pregnant and does not want an abortion.

taco5679 · 2025-11-28T03:46:22+00:00

Op is speaking sense. You gotta go lower and get some practice in. At least you can learn how to kiss and how to treat a pussy, etc.

50pciggy · 2025-11-28T07:43:51+00:00

As somebody who lost their virginity to an escort absolutely not, I had this kind of “let’s get it over with” mindset and decided to go thst route, it was incredibly awkward and I wish I had just not bothered.

Yes you will most likely lose your virginity this way, but should you? No, you should take your intimate life seriously and pursue someone you actually want (provided it’s not truely an escort of course) yes it may take a long Time, yes you will need to work on yourself but thkse two things are good for you.

And also your just setting yourself up for failure if your lowering your standards to rock bottom just so you can have the experiance, yes that 300lb girl might give the best head on earth but if you are literally being repulsed like a magnet then simply your just not going to get hard and it’s going to get embarsssing as you try to fuck her with a wet noodle.

You can tell when a lot of virgins talk about these topics because the conveniently forget that the humble penis can be incredibly disobedient if it’s with somebody you just don’t like

Low_Rich_5436 · 2025-11-28T09:03:12+00:00

That way if thinking of people as placed on a scale is quite dehumanizing.

Overarching_Chaos · 2025-11-28T09:45:42+00:00

Give that 300lbs girl a chance and after she's given a couple of chances she'll think she's a 7/10. Good luck chasing walruses.

Substantial_Video560 · 2025-11-28T11:32:36+00:00

Just go with an escort, that's what I did. A fun experience.

Only_Excitement6594 · 2025-11-28T17:19:13+00:00

Coomer mindset, indeed

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2025-11-28T20:20:24+00:00

For all the fun I've had and success stories I could tell, This is exactly where I started. The first 2 years of me figuring things out are full of women I'd never show anyone pictures of.

And yeah, when it's presented this way, A lot of people change their minds and revert to the "IT SHOULDN'T BE THIS WAY" argument.

EDIT: Just realized he mentioned escorts. Never did that.

Shirtless_Jesus · 2025-11-28T22:21:19+00:00

Damn good luck with rebuilding your self esteem after that

PuzzleheadedGrab8375 · 2025-11-29T13:25:11+00:00

Maybe this advice helps someone out there, but i guess it’s very bad advice for most people. You gotta like to have sex very much in order to prefer having sex with a 300 lbs women over not having sex at all. I know i’d prefer the later. And i guess i am not alone with that.

So if you say “see what you’re missing out on”, there is really not much to see in this case. This might even traumatise you in a way that it gets harder to actually attract someone you like as well.

I am not a virgin, but am celibate for a few years now and i know i couldn’t get to the point where i prefer having sex with someone i find disgusting over not having sex.

Simple_Report6238 · 2025-11-29T22:31:06+00:00

This is actually a great mindset because if you lower your standards to the bottom of the barrel, when you get a mid girl (face it, that’s the best you’ll do) you’ll actually appreciate her.

Too many people end up “settling” for someone who’s literally in their league because they expect some kind of model. This goes for men and women.

Jay__LeCaprio · 2025-11-27T18:54:07+00:00

I have to agree with this, you see the truth is it’s not that a lot of incels can’t get laid its just that they want to smash the 8s and 9s that look like Sydney Sweeney and they turn their nose up at the 4s and 5s that’s on their level.

Lemon_gecko · 2025-11-27T18:47:38+00:00

for men. If that's what men like - sure. Definitely not the best way for women.

eluusive · 2025-11-27T22:12:33+00:00

I don't support using other people in this way; and I don't think it ends up well for the person doing the using. I did some of this for a while at the recommendation of other people; and it helped me in some ways, but it also left scars on my soul.

Just, learn to make friends out of any woman. Friendzone them all. You would be surprised how much their interest in piqued by getting friend zoned. "I'm supposed to be the one that friend zones everyone!"

ladybird_00 · 2025-11-27T21:33:01+00:00

Women will never respect a man that’s paid for sex. If you’re asked, and you lie, congrats you’re a loser and a liar.

Icy-Gene7565 · 2025-11-27T18:40:26+00:00

No need to disagree.

Its been like that since the 80s. Thats when STDs started being mortal and then feminism hit. Thankfully there have always been fat girls.

Just kidding.

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-11-27T19:50:39+00:00

Some healthy woman with an awkward face would probably have sex with you if you’re nice enough lol. There’s no need to choose the least attractive woman possible for no reason, if you don’t want to, unless you are also in “that league” as a fat guy.

GloeSticc · 2025-11-27T20:11:38+00:00

I was under the impression that, even if it's consensual, it doesn't target any of the underlying problems that cause virginity in the first place. I'm still a virgin, and it's not because I don't understand what I'm "missing out on."

Why do people even want sex? Why is virginity cared about to this extent? It's because both indicate that you are valued. That someone might care about you. And this solution does nothing in rectifying the fundamental problem with people that are struggling with their virginity, because it implicates a transactional relationship rather than the one that people ACTUALLY want. Which is just to feel loved unconditionally.

Keep_calm_or_else · 2025-11-27T22:08:41+00:00

300lb women don't want these raggedy dudes.

harmonica2 · 2025-11-27T22:12:47+00:00

Isn't the OPs way of losing it the way most guys lost it, and tell us something we don't know?

LawfulnessSuper5091 · 2025-11-27T22:19:49+00:00

Well one thing you'll realise is average girls are still fun to make love to, and your standards are probably unnecessarily judgy and out of whack with your own offering.

So yeah just get out there and start enjoying.

RecognitionSoft9973 · 2025-11-28T03:58:49+00:00

This is a terrible advice that can lead to lifelong trauma. As a virgin woman, why would I want to lose it like this? The consequences could be especially terrible for me. Physically and mentally. Obviously, you need to be reasonable about things. If you’re past a certain age, you have the wisdom to make good choices and find the right people. Whether that’s an experienced escort or even someone off the Internet who you can trust, if you can’t get into a relationship. But not to a random person you can’t feel an inkling of attraction towards.

AnonPinkLady · 2025-11-28T04:44:41+00:00

Okay so this always confuses me. Why do people think you need to sleep with one person or lose your virginity in order to sleep with others? I’ve never met a person above the age of 12 that actually cares if you’re a virgin or not. I do know a few people that if they read this post, would not sleep with you. But losing your virginity doesn’t make you suddenly more likely to sleep with other people?? It doesn’t make any sense. You can argue that it’s about confidence but only if you base your confidence on something so dumb.

WebNew9978 · 2025-11-28T06:30:18+00:00

Give that 300lb girl a chance

Yes that’s what the 300lb woman wants to be. Someone’s first pump and dump.

or get that escort.

Or paying a woman to the fake their desire for me. That’ll go over well.

Just see what you're missing out on.

I already know what I’m going to miss.

Then, slowly make steps upward from the bottom of the barrel and see how high you can get. It's an unfortunate path to have to take, but I have taken this path, and it worked for me.

Regardless of what worked for you, those 300lb women wouldn’t be interested in me and I would become suicidal if I lost it to an escort.

ghostteas · 2025-11-27T23:03:00+00:00

Ok so Not all obese women are attracted to men or are easy the assumption they are is kinda fucked Also comparing them to sex workers? You ok?

Like honestly women don’t see it as a horrible thing if a guy didn’t lose it till like 19-20 ish whatever I’ve known people like that my current partner was like that

didn’t till college it’s not the end of the world and when he did it was with a partner he loved and trusted not someone he had zero attraction to or a sex worker

and for me too even if it was a little younger it was with someone I was dating so Idk

Not getting sex right when you expect or want it is not the end of the world and the male loneliness epidemic is kinda dumb cause

Just be kinder and less misogynistic Listen to women and their complaints without jumping in with “Not all men”

Ok if it’s not show women it’s not that you’re one that’s not by your actions and how you live your life not just words

And please take care of your mental health and don’t expect your first eventual girlfriend to become an unpaid therapist or to mother you

Just_Alternative3167 · 2025-11-27T19:03:55+00:00

Yeah, as a 25yo virgin I've been thinking about this quite a bit. I've definitely had my chances with <5/10 women and fatties before. And prostitution is legal where I live too. But my ego and pride are just too big :/

Title	The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom.
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