“Don’t You Miss Sex??”

I’ve been asked that question over the last few months. I explained to one man that I’m not really interested in dating right now, and he asked me if I missed sex. Another man said to me, “I just don’t understand how people can go without sex!”

Unless they have ED, men are just about guaranteed an orgasm. Men don’t have to deal with telling their partner what they like and don’t like and have it be ignored. Men don’t have to deal with someone not prioritizing their orgasm. They can just jackhammer for five minutes and bust and call it good.

No I don’t miss sex. I miss GOOD sex - and I can count on one hand the number of times in my life that’s actually happened. So these men are incredulous that I won’t exhaust myself or waste my time for some mediocre (at best) dick.

I tried dating for a few years. Earlier this year, I decided to stop. The pandemic being one reason, and the other reason being I just don’t want to. I have a pretty decent life now, why do I want to change that? I can give myself amazing orgasms with zero hassle.

A lot of men I’ve encountered are deceptive. They pretend to have their lives in order because I have mine in order. But their lives are usually pretty messy. They lie about criminal history - not having a driver’s license because of DUIs is a big one in my area. They still talk to their exes on the regular. They neg like crazy to try and take me down a peg. They have anger issues. Sometimes they’re not even single. And I’m supposed to deal with all that for some disappointing sex?

A lot of the time, they don’t even like me. They like the way I look and they like fantasy they constructed in their heads. So when they see how independent I am, that I don’t put up with their BS, that I don’t need them, they turn real nasty real quick. Apparently I’m supposed to downplay myself for some sex. Forget that.

Anyone of us ladies could go out tonight and within a couple hours be getting laid, if that’s what we wanted. Getting sex isn’t a problem. Getting GOOD sex from an honest, empathetic, attractive man is the issue.

My status is “single, but not available.” I don’t miss sex because I blow my own mind at least once a week. I don’t miss having to deal with porn-sick men, selfish men, cruel men, or men who can’t be bothered to floss their teeth or wash their smelly balls. I don’t have to deal with men whose feet look like they just walked through a pile of corpses and whose toenails look like velociraptor claws.

“Don’t you miss sex??” No! I don’t! And unless an HVM drops out of the sky, I’m going to continue not missing sex. I’m not sacrificing the peace in my life for some dick.

Do any of you ladies feel the same way? Do men ever act shocked that you’re single and loving it?