Man tries to challenge my standards when I say walks are not dates

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-12-30T17:45:07+00:00

The 2nd text shows that he knows a walk is not a date since he uses the term "normal date" (to describe a meal at a restaurant, as per a following text). They know what they're doing.

FDS-GFY · 2021-12-30T16:37:02+00:00

Don’t waste time explaining. Block after his first pushback.

QueenAlice3 · 2021-12-30T17:09:10+00:00

Yes. I love this logic. Restaurant r*pe, very common because you’re “trapped” in a booth. Unlike being trapped in the woods alone with a strange man. Safest date EVER! /s

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-12-30T16:52:14+00:00

“Intimacy in one of its natural states.” Why would I want to be intimate with a complete stranger?

dating-adventures · 2021-12-30T18:06:29+00:00

Lol so my NVM ex, 2 days or so after dumping me, propositioned my friend (he didn’t know she was my friend) on a dating app and asked her to take a walk and then go to his place to see what happens. He lives next to a local park and he literally didn’t want to spend a penny to get laid. She didn’t go lol

poppinkitty · 2021-12-30T16:34:34+00:00

"A walk is low risk for both parties".. in what world? Nothing involving a man is low risk for women. Also "walk dates are something different" just admit you are cheap. This 🤡.

Maingurl · 2021-12-30T17:02:19+00:00

Lol, you should have been like, "Sir you spend so much energy on these paragraphs...when you could have spent it all on a walk date. Good luck "

Risoa · 2021-12-30T17:43:35+00:00

Stop. Communicating. Your. Standards. Simply block and delete when they don’t meet them and move on.

katiekat0214 · 2021-12-30T16:57:15+00:00

The moment they get all defensive and start wah-wah-wah-ing, I'm out the door. Go walk yourself and your dog. That is not a date.

AyemHerself · 2021-12-30T17:25:57+00:00

This is why you don't try to correct guys like this. He doesn't care that you aren't into the idea. His focus now is to "debate" and wear down your boundaries so that you'll accept something you don't want to do to make him happy. Walk dates are shit tests for this reason: it's an opening for him to see how little you'll accept for the privilege of being seen in public with him.

If he were actually interested in doing something you'd enjoy, there would be no mention of a walk date.

The ultimate "low risk" situation is no date with him at all.

meetme__atsunset · 2021-12-30T16:45:38+00:00

He sure used a lot of (at times misspelled) words just to say he's cheap.

iaintgonnacallyou · 2021-12-30T16:28:52+00:00

On Hinge, I have a voice memo saying “My most controversial opinion is that walks are not dates. You shouldn’t be asking a woman you’re interested in to go for a walk with you.”

This man asked why I feel this way. I responded “it’s low effort. If you’re interested in someone, you put effort into them. Plus, I’m not a dog.”

This was his response. I’m so over my standards being challenged by scrotes who can’t meet the bare minimum requirement.

oi_oi_oink · 2021-12-30T16:59:47+00:00

Don't say walks aren't dates, they'll waste your time and start explaining why it's such a great idea. Just say, I don't do walk dates. If they start probing and asking why, just block. Any man who thinks a walk date is a good first date is not worth dating, you'll always have to nudge them in the right direction.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-12-30T18:11:41+00:00

Wow he does go on 🙄

donttextme_k · 2021-12-30T17:37:30+00:00

That’s embarrassing, I’d just ghost if they ever ask for a walk date. Cheap ass ☠️

IDontAgreeSorry · 2021-12-30T17:10:54+00:00

I’m definitely not going to enjoy your company if all we do is walk lol. I love walking my dog for hours, not an LVM. Walk with your boyfriend/husband to catch some fresh air/go on a simple evening walk to sleep better at night? Yes. Walk in a beautiful destination/hiking track when you’re with a man you trust in a committed relationship? Yes. A romantic walk on the beach with your partner? Yes.

Walking with a random ass scrote you don’t know? And taking the time and effort to do your hair, makeup, and pick out a cute outfit? 😐 To just.... walk in the park? Nah. Not worth it. Why would I waste my time? Would rather stay home or actually go on a nice walk with my beautiful baby girl pitbull.

And either way walk where? In a “nice field he wants to show you” probably ahahahahahaha. Dangerous as hell.

oscine23 · 2021-12-30T22:00:55+00:00

I didn’t even understand the first part, and he did the dreaded ‘your’ instead of you’re. He’s dumb, and at minimum, a working knowledge of contractions is required. FOH.

Gambit12345 · 2021-12-30T17:05:22+00:00

People can literally leave in the middle of a dinner date too. It would be awkward to cut a date short at a restaurant or a walk date but at a restaurant there are people around and much less risk of danger.

europoor24 · 2021-12-30T18:51:01+00:00

I walk to the grocery store, if a friend comes with me did I just go on a date? 🤣

assdistroyer · 2021-12-30T19:00:00+00:00

I think we should create a Flair called 'Dusty Hall of Shame' for those dusty ass stingy man ☠️

Far_from_deceived · 2021-12-30T18:24:32+00:00

PRovIdEs lOw rISK Because he is a low value male🥴

daisy_0720 · 2021-12-30T19:45:06+00:00

In the time he took to type all that he could literally have looked up a restaurant and called to make dinner reservations.

They're doubling down on this nonsense out of pure stubbornness because it's actually taking more effort for him to be a cheap scrote than to just... plan a date.

Imagine taking all that time to match with a woman then spend all your energy arguing with her why she's not worth a proper date. Way to cockblock yourself, my dude, but you do you, I guess.

galian84 · 2021-12-30T19:39:47+00:00

Lmao you rustled his jimmies 😆

Notice how he says “unmatched” and then proceeds to send you another wall of text.

And yes - walk “dates” are only cute for committed couples.

hensbanex · 2021-12-31T01:26:18+00:00

neckbeard style of speaking; why do they all sound exactly the same? insufferable; like they are 16 and just found a thesaurus, trying to sound like a supervillain lol

JadeBaby2211 · 2021-12-30T18:53:17+00:00

Lol he doesn't want to pretend he's decent at dinner, when he can mask completely on a walk "date"!

extraodi · 2021-12-30T19:30:27+00:00

Walks aren’t dates. Period.

electroloop · 2021-12-30T19:40:17+00:00

Wow that’s a whole lot of words on his part for a man who just wants to give you a disappointing 2 minutes.

AnniaT · 2021-12-30T19:47:32+00:00

The excuses scrotes give for walk dates lmao Low risk only if it's for him. For women it's too much of a risk to go on a walk with scrotes.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2021-12-30T16:52:44+00:00

Walk dates don’t do something different when they’re (apparently becoming) the norm.

I might accept, “There’s a great cafe at the entrance to LOCAL PARK. We could do outdoor seating, but if you’re game, there’s a man made waterfall at the park with picnic tables. We could eat there then stroll around the park?”

ItsFreezen · 2021-12-30T20:22:14+00:00

"no risk" Yes if your A Man dummy.

preppykat3 · 2021-12-30T21:28:33+00:00

Dude doesn’t even know the difference between “your” and “you’re”. And his arguments are dumb and pointless. I can’t believe anyone would ever offer a walking date. A coffee date is the most lowest form of investment and he can’t even offer that? I would insta block the moment he said “walk”.

corago513 · 2021-12-31T01:25:46+00:00

A whole dissertation

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-12-30T18:56:48+00:00

🤢

The_Cat_Empress · 2021-12-30T20:52:04+00:00

Last time I walked with a scrote in college he talked the whole fuking time and wouldn’t shut TF up.

So no…I want some damn effort! And sounds like he told on himself that walk dates are low effort ways of creating false intimacy. Meh.

souredskittles · 2021-12-30T22:11:08+00:00

Ew tf. First he tries to make you look stupid and then waxes about intimacy and how it’s a unique experience. Just ew. Don’t explain to them next time just ghost. Clearly other women have complained because eh came out with a novel on why you should accept a walk date.

lolmemberberries · 2021-12-30T23:19:25+00:00

You haven't even gone out with this guy and he's already pushing against your boundaries, it's only going to get worse from here. Block and delete.

FierceMentality20 · 2021-12-31T01:49:40+00:00

The men are getting creativity with their audacity.

bioqueen53 · 2021-12-31T03:41:04+00:00

Ugh he should just say he's broke. So stupid.

saragc92 · 2021-12-30T21:00:32+00:00

Stick to your standards!

mirodus · 2021-12-30T21:48:39+00:00

First of all, you’re*** 🙄

adalovelace1793--- · 2021-12-30T22:20:05+00:00

'Haha, I dont date cheap scrotes' 💐💐💐

mandoa_sky · 2021-12-31T02:57:08+00:00

i just point out that since i have hayfever, walks for me are a non-option

Title	Man tries to challenge my standards when I say walks are not dates
Author	iaintgonnacallyou
Upvotes	206
Comments	99
Date	December 30, 2021 4:26 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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