Often many men online shame women for having a sexual history. I've seen the term "no hymen no diamond " quite often on YouTube. In response, typically people tell them that the men should also be virgins. However it seems most men do not want this deal. That's why so many men were eager to leave religion as "monogamy isn't natural ". In old media, women are viewed as the one's who want to settle down and get married while men want to have fun in their youth then settle. I'm confused what men want.

Why do so many men not want women to have casual sex but also they themselves want it? I feel as a society if men truly believe in pairing every woman up with her equal then people would mary young and build together. Marry around 18-22. If women must stay chaste at 18 while her counterparts are having sex with many women until his late twenties/thirties who will she marry? Also, where will these women be for men to have casual sex with if all the 18-22 year old women are preparing to be married?

I've also seen men here say they don't expect virgins at marriage but every man has a different body count number on what is "too much". Even Aba from YouTube said he prefers experienced women. Which is it?

What do men want? Young Wives? Or casual sex? Do we return to shaming men and women for having premarital sex?

Do you all want to marry young and build together? Like the 50s? Average age gap in the USA is 2 years so wouldn't it make sense for men to push early marriage if they want young women?

Edit: sorry if I am not making myself clear. I am asking if we should return to men and women marrying young and being celibate like the 50s. Or continue to pedestalize casual sex?