What is a realistic amount of sexual partners a single 30+ woman is having per year?

wtknight · 2024-04-25T16:36:28+00:00

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Oli_love90 · 2024-04-25T04:11:14+00:00

Is this possible to measure though? Are you looking for personal accounts from women, that’s the best you’ll get with this type of question. There will always be women who have 0 partners and those who have a lot that’ll skew any data.

EulenWatcher · 2024-04-25T03:56:21+00:00

It clearly depends on a woman. My close friend has ever been only with one guy. My divorced friend was married for years and after a painful divorce she dipped in casual sex once, utterly disliked it and hasn't been dating or seeing anyone since, so it's been 0 sexual partners for her for a few years now. I'm sure there are some women who rack the numbers, but they're probably a minority.

Here you have some stats split for different age groups.

ta06012022 · 2024-04-25T04:07:18+00:00

There's data out there, but how do you define "single 30+ woman"? There are plenty of single widows in their 70s, 80s, and 90s who all qualify as "single 30+ women", but I doubt that's what you mean. Do you mean single women in their 30s?

fiftypoundpuppy · 2024-04-25T03:55:50+00:00

However, modern women have unlimited supply

But not unlimited desire, so... I'm going to go ahead and believe the stats.

Women around this age range also are getting desperate to tie a man down for marriage and children

That's why the birth rates are collapsing?

And in any case wanting marriage and a child doesn't mean women are hooking up with men all the time or fucking everyone they date. If anything, it means they're dating with purpose - not throwing themselves on dick after dick.

Women are also never really single. Women are always talking to someone.

In addition to being false (which one can usually surmise by use of unconditional statements like "never" and "always"), "talking to someone" doesn't negate one's partnered status.

What would be the average amount of men she is sleeping with per year?

One or less since most women over 30 are partnered.

FreitasAlan · 2024-04-25T05:34:47+00:00

Averages are useless for numbers of sex partners because that has a Pareto distribution. You have to look at the median. The studies also include numbers for age ranges, so polls including senior women is not a problem. When you look at the histograms, you’ll see people are not as much into hookup culture as most people on Reddit think.

GummieLindsays · 2024-04-25T06:01:53+00:00

From the age of 30 to current, I've only had two. Currently, zero. I'm 34.

Women are not desperate to tie a man down for marriage, LOL.

I've been single for most of my 30's.

There's not an endless supply.

My sex drive has plummeted because I'm not around anyone I can feel sexually attracted to.

Also, I was not brought up in a drinking/party culture. I went to about three parties in my early twenties. One for halloween, one for new years, and then some random birthday party when I was 19, I think. Partying is just not my thing, there's more serious matters in life to deal with than to waste time on partying.

This is not a reasonable post.

😂

soulangelic · 2024-04-25T04:35:00+00:00

Are you looking for personal anecdotes, or…..? I guess I don’t know what you’re looking for if you’re already skeptical of the statistic you referenced.

Choice-Substance-183 · 2024-04-25T05:05:21+00:00

0-6

Depends on the woman and her intentions.

As a 30+ woman, I've had 0-4 depending on the year.

spaffjizz · 2024-04-25T06:57:06+00:00

Ita going to differ greatly between cultures and even sub cultures.

Quite pointless to attempt to speculate, if I'm honest.

Prudent-Conflict-557 · 2024-04-25T08:37:47+00:00

Depends on the year

Dankutoo · 2024-04-25T11:02:30+00:00

I would say 2-3. Most women do not stay single for very long. Those that are long term single tend to prefer zero sex to 'some sex'....which is often why they're long-term single in the first place.

The vast, vast majority of women in their 30s are either in long term relationships/marriages or are spinsters. Single 30+ women who are reasonably attractive, actively looking, and even remotely stable tend to be VERY rare, and are snatched up very quickly.

KayRay1994 · 2024-04-25T04:19:55+00:00

69,420

januaryphilosopher · 2024-04-25T05:56:14+00:00

I'd guess the mode is zero, the median is one and the mean is two or three. Most will not be "talking to someone" at any given time and most women don't even like casual sex.

nectarinepiss · 2024-04-25T09:03:41+00:00

“modern women” r actually having less sex than previous generations lol

rejected-again · 2024-04-25T04:17:57+00:00

This can vary wildly depending on the woman. There are women who mostly live a life of celibacy and spend time with female friends and doing things like watching anime. Then there are the whores who go partying on weekends.

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Ppdebatesomental · 2024-04-25T12:27:18+00:00

modern women have unlimited supply

lol, women have ALWAYS had unlimited supply….whether single or married and at all ages, this is nothing new.

Your question is, do single women in their 30’s present a market with high demand. Women are still women. There might not be as many consequences with birth control and less stigmatization of casual sex, but women in general are not looking for different casual hookups every week.

marmotjacket · 2024-04-25T14:32:57+00:00

If a single woman doesn’t care about actual body count and will just lie to a future LTR

Then if she either enjoys sex or is just doing the typical “see if it works out and sleep with them on the 2nd or 3rd date”….she’s going to sleep with probably a new guy every few months

If we knew the true median notch count of single 35 year old women, it would probably shock us

I’d guess most never married are at at least 20

I know several women with well over 50 notches and they wouldn’t be able to list them if they tried

DarayRaven · 2024-04-25T04:21:56+00:00

Assuming she is single, what do we think is the average amount of sexual partners a woman this age range, is having per year?

I don't know and don't care

Moldy_Gecko · 2024-04-25T05:18:11+00:00

Here's the thing. The girls you're hooking up with due to hook up culture and the ones going on dadt girls' excursions are the ones you see and begin to think that it's indicative of most women. It isn't. The average is the average because it is. Out of 170 million people, 20 million will seem like a lot, especially if you're in a party area (or, for some reason, a really, really small town with nothing better to do). I'd say the average might have risen to about 10-15 in their lifetime. Which imo, is quite acceptable for a 30yo. I personally was at 12 partners by 22. And that was with a 2 year faithful marriage.

bluestjuice · 2024-04-25T06:50:42+00:00

“Realistic” is such an odd word to use for this. As compared to other numbers which are unrealistic?!

MidoriEgg · 2024-04-25T07:09:10+00:00

Most of my friends are younger than 30s but I do have some that age or older. The variation of head count between women, even who are a similar appearance level, ‘status’ etc is much bigger than you would think, to the point its difficult to come up with an average.

Ok-Zucchini-8056 · 2024-04-25T08:55:04+00:00

My wife is definitely an outlier, but she was 29 when we met, and had quite recently got out of a relationship, and had moved back home with her parents. She was drinking a lot and hated being at home in the evening, so would used hookups as a distraction. She had 7 guys on the go who you could I guess call friends with benefits, and whenever they weren't available she was going on Craigslist to find a guy to hang out with (and sleep with) for the evening. She estimates she was going with Craigslist guys 5 nights a week on average.

I knew none of this when we met. She only started being honest about it after 7 years of marriage.

I think most women lied about the number of guys they have been with, and I think once they lose count it doesn't seem much of a big deal to add more.

full_brick_package · 2024-04-25T03:59:12+00:00

As many as she wants.

Susiewoosiexyz · 2024-04-25T04:37:48+00:00

Why do you care? Honestly - why does it matter?

Intrepid-Rip-2280 · 2024-04-25T07:29:05+00:00

In the age when people are dating Eva AI sexting bot avatars seriously, there's no real limitation for it

bluehorserunning · 2024-04-25T11:08:40+00:00

Wow. The opposite of science.

educatedkoala · 2024-04-25T15:50:10+00:00

I had 60 last year. I also go to sex parties tho so I'm skewing the numbers.

SolidusMonkey · 2024-04-25T16:17:50+00:00

I'd say around 5 to 10, maybe more. It's very common for women in large cities to have partner counts in their 40s by like 25 so so I imagine as you get older and become more financially secure, those numbers go up. The oldest person I know whom I also know her body count is 29 and hers is in the triple digits, pretty standard stuff.

donuz · 2024-04-25T06:06:27+00:00

The woman that I currently see (30F) said she had 100+ in her lifetime. As far as I understand, if they ended up at the “hoe phase”, sky is the limit. Otherwise, I would say our generations average is around 10-15 in total.

RadicalQueenBee · 2024-04-25T07:59:18+00:00

Are you interested in my experience given that I'm 23 or you're specifically interested in women in their 30s? To answer your question specifically, I have one friend in her 30s. A few years ago she used to be in a relationship (so monogamous) which broke up badly. She then had rebound sex with 2-3 men over the course of a year. She's now been voluntarily celibate (sexually and romantically) for over a year.

szczerbiec · 2024-04-25T08:12:07+00:00

The less the better

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-04-25T10:46:26+00:00

Probably a BBC gangbang every other weekend and a different Chad Tuesday through Friday, so over all, I would say close to a 100 cocks a year? Maybe 200?

TheDerInDisorder · 2024-04-25T14:30:40+00:00

With a secretary, and pit crew she could have a higher body count than the battle of Verdun.

operation-spot · 2024-04-25T14:41:58+00:00

What are you trying to understand by asking this question?

Are you trying to see how you’d compare? If so, that’s a losing battle because women will always have more admirers than you. With that said, having access to sex doesn’t mean women want to have it with the people offering it. Not every woman is a part of hookup culture or interested in marriage so it’s not reasonable to believe that women date multiple people at once. Even if they did, it’s not a problem unless exclusivity has been established.

Are you trying to make a moral argument? If so, having sex doesn’t make someone a bad person and I doubt that you’d have this opinion if you were also having sex with

Have you recently been cheated on? If so, that woman doesn’t represent all women so stop looking for an explanation.

Chill out and stop trying to rationalize things that scare you.

Electric_Death_1349 · 2024-04-25T06:23:56+00:00

500-1000, give or take

arcticshqip · 2024-04-25T07:16:41+00:00

Also, why would drinking increase number of partners? Who wants to have sex drunk? Drunk people want fast food and sleep.. Not a comment on this post alone, but on topic of drunkenness and promiscuity in general.

AdEffective7894s · 2024-04-25T05:15:33+00:00

A woman here said 60. I immediately wanted to kms.

31 and an incel

Why the fuck do I even bother?

No woman is worth the negative feelings and stress I have accumulated. they aren't worth the enormous amount of effort I need to put in to be "worthy"

The problem with being so thoroughly removed from the average human experience is a distinct lack of empathy you develop .

No relationship is with the loss of experiences of tenage and young adult love. I have no framework for how love can exist without ulterior motives.

Even if I do succeed now after I have stability abn a job how am I supposed to not see it as anything but transactional. Veiwing it anyother way would be delusional.

Most_Read_1330 · 2024-04-25T04:44:49+00:00

antariusz · 2024-04-25T05:26:28+00:00

Average, as in Median or average as in Mean.

I'd say the mean average is closer to 4, but the median average is very likely possibly only 1 or 2 (decimals wouldn't apply to median). (per year) But there are a (what I would call) a small number (roughly 10%) of women pushing 6-8 (new man every other month) and 10% pushing 15+ (new man every month plus a few hookups on the side) that would bring up the mean average while allowing the median to stay low

7 in a lifetime hasn't been true in the past 60 years.

If you want my entire "guess" to see how delusion I am...

I'd guess roughly 20% of single women had 0 sexual partners last year. 20% had 1 partner. 20% had 2-3 partners 20% of women had 4-8 and 20% 9+

Spyro7x3 · 2024-04-25T06:55:17+00:00

Probably in the 20-50 range unless you’re actively looking to sample the world on a sexcapade then it’s basically limitless

Sabrepill · 2024-04-25T07:23:02+00:00

The data is mostly bullshit. A single woman in her 30s can easily get laid with a decently hot guy any night of the week. Most women want to fuck at least once or twice a month minimum when they are ovulating. So I’d say at least 17 men a year

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2024-04-25T06:35:51+00:00

Why does it matter?

boom-wham-slam · 2024-04-25T10:48:17+00:00

I'd think 2 to 10 per year is in the normal range for a single woman in her 30s.

XelectricKittyX · 2024-04-25T11:39:30+00:00

Depends on the woman. Different people have different morals, beliefs, desires, and needs. I’m single, in my 30’s, and am very sex positive. I was faithfully married for 15 years, but also very unhappy. The first year after we separated, I was lost and trying to avoid my emotions by dating around. I slept with quite a few men that year. The second year after my divorce, I had more consistent flings and only slept with 3 men. I’m in my 3rd year after divorce and I have no desire to sleep with anyone who doesn’t see me for more than my body. I’ve decided not to sleep with anyone I like until I catch them giving me “the look”. You know, the look someone gives you when they don’t think you see them. Where they look so enthralled by the person you are. That look. I don’t care if I don’t have sex for 5 years… I’m not budging on this.

I’m watching my newly single 35 year old friend go through a similar experience to mine. Wild the first year after divorce, and is now looking for more consistency.

Cyrrow · 2024-04-25T04:57:41+00:00

3-7

It's always a minimum of three because of the 3 months before sex rule. The others are potential men she got the tingles for during the first date who promptly pumped & dumped her.

Changed the highest number to 7 because there's little chance that women will find 10+ men in a city attractive enough to have sex with on one date.

qdavis22 · 2024-04-25T04:44:52+00:00

I’d say 20-30 a year on average

shonenhikada · 2024-04-25T04:03:52+00:00

The avg woman in no way has 7 to 8 body count for her lifetime, when sex workers, by themselves, are racking up anywhere between 100s - 1000s of bodies.

For example Adriana chechik is a super whorish and has a body count of 5000+. The Avg professional pornstar has a body count exceeding 400+.

Using extra Emily's body count, the avg female, by her mid-20s, likely has a body count anywhere from 12 to 15. By 30. Her body count might realistically only go up by 3-5 more. The reason being, a lot of women start focusing on LTR and trying to lock a guy down into marriage before they hit 30. Body count tends to rack up the most during 1st and 2nd year of college, where peer pressure, being away from parents, drugs, and alcohol at parties are likely to ramp up her body count by a lot.

So, in conclusion, between 16-20 bodies by 30.

Partners in past year	% of Unmarried Women 30-39
0	25%
1	49%
2	12%
3	6%
4	2%
5-10	6%
10 or more	0%

Title	What is a realistic amount of sexual partners a single 30+ woman is having per year?
Author	Goodgoy6969
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Comments	174
Date	April 25, 2024 3:46 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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