A lot of guys here endlessly whine about dating, but only put in the most lukewarm effort when it comes to actually improving their situation. Whenever advice gets suggested like whether it’s hitting the gym, upgrading style, improving photos, expanding social circles, or simply talking to more women, it almost feels like some men are trying to convince themselves that it won’t work or isn’t worth the effort. Instead of testing the advice in the real world and adjusting from experience, they default to explaining why it’s pointless, unfair, or doomed from the start.
Dating is fundamentally: Looks → Exposure → Social Skill / Escalation
You have to hit a bare minimum in all three, and hit the minimum in the previous category for dating to work.
What I see a lot, though, is guys giving a lukewarm attempt at one of the three and calling it a day. “I went to a few bars and clubs and joined a hobby and it didn’t work.” How would increasing your exposure to women “not work” unless you’re lacking in the other two areas or mabey you barely tried? If you still look unkempt and have no social calibration, simply standing in a bar doesn’t magically produce results. Exposure only works if there’s something there to convert. Also, did you actually work hard at increasing ur exposure, like regularly going out, online dating and expanding ur social circular at once?
Same with, “I went to the gym and it didn’t work.” Okay lets see did you go consistently for 6–12 months? Did you actually get leaner? Build noticeable muscle? Upgrade your wardrobe so your physique shows? Improve your photos? Increase your exposure at the same time? Or did you lift for a few weeks and expect a different dating life?
Or ''I became friends with women and it improved my socials skill but not my dating life'' Ok, so did you try to do the other two things as well? or did you just talk to a few women and give up?
Don't even get me started on the guys who just straight up say 'it's not work the time or effort' or ''i don't don't what to do that'', yet also endlessly complain and whine about women.
Dude on here dabble in one lever, half-commit, don’t stack it with the other two, and then use the lack of instant results as proof the whole system is broken.
I have yet to see a case where a guy actualy gave an honest and hard effort at increasing his '' Looks → Exposure → Social Skill / Escalation'' and didn't at least have some success.
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