The biggest question asked about genz men is not “Why are they creeps?” or “Why don’t they take no for an answer?”. It’s always something like “Why don’t men approach anymore?” or “Why don’t you ask out any women at the gym?” (An old lady asked me this in the elevator).

In 2018, CNN and late night talk shows always featured stories about how some woman had to deal with a creepy guy and how the male host is “not like those guys at all” and lecturing men on how to behave “appropriately”. 8 years later, nothing has changed with how they talk down to young men. Instead, people like Bill Maher and Scott Galloway throw digs about their sexlessness and how they’ve never held hands with a girl. It’s presented as a crisis that they care so deeply about and needs to be solved but their messaging always contains thinly veiled insults.

A few years ago, instagram pages for club sports would post stuff like “The women at the club are here to play sports. They do not exist for your pleasure so you have no right to ask them out.” Now they always post about “ditching the apps” and videos about how someone met their fiancé(e) in the club. And it’s mostly women who run these pages.

Then there are women who talk about how a guy asked her out in person like it’s such a profound thing (I guess it is these days) and how excited she is.

But keep in mind, this idea is still dying out, not completely dead. There are women who make posts about their harrowing stories of being approached while doing groceries (I’ve never seen anyone get approached in a grocery store in my entire life). And then the top comments on those posts are “They’re not lonely enough”. All I have to say is no shit they’re not lonely enough. They’re not lonely at all. In fact they’re doing much better than the “respectful” men. I put respectful in quotes because the men that don’t approach aren’t actually respectful, they’re just scared. But now they’re realizing that too.