Daily Community Chat Megathread

Economy-Shake-1448 · 2023-11-13T07:27:45+00:00

Why don’t the passport bros join Mennonite communities? Or like Amish communities? Or similar????

scwizard · 2023-11-13T07:23:23+00:00

Who do you know irl who's has 3+ school aged kids and why did they have so many?

Everyone I know who has that many is through my church. So that's probably self explanatory why they had so many.

Ok-Coat7665 · 2023-11-13T06:50:04+00:00

Would you rather be the fat kid or the smelly kid in school?

Economy-Shake-1448 · 2023-11-13T06:43:59+00:00

There are men here who I know for a fact are over 50 who are defending the use of porn with 18 year old women vs 21 year old women. There are multiple of them so I am not calling anyone out. But imagine them sitting at Denny’s with their discounted senior breakfast and AARP card writing about how they fap to 18 year olds. Good grief then men have the audacity to call women hypergamous.

Sillysheila · 2023-11-13T06:38:22+00:00

QFall (partnered) what’s your divisions of labour like

Mine goes like this: I cook (at least 75-85% of the time) and he cleans (at least 75-85% of the time).

I know that many couples now seem to think each should do exactly 50/50, but honestly I think I’m possibly the worst cleaner in the world. I always leave shit behind and I half ass everything. However I can make you a feast.

My partner is like that but swap cleaning for cooking. He can’t cook much but he can make your house sparkly.

I guess I also do more household budgeting. He does more practical things with his hands (fixing various things; a more typical man chore).

scwizard · 2023-11-13T06:13:11+00:00

How do I find a (good) man without a dating app?

Surely twox will give her sane practical advice right?

You might not find a good man. Oops, there I said it. Men, collectively, are in crisis.

Most men have been raised emotionally stunted, macho driven. Raised to think that women aren't people, they're objects to be claimed. Men are pissed off that women are waking up and asking them to step up when they've been told that they don't have to do any emotional work, that they are king by virtue of their gender. The incel culture is thriving, egged on by toxic politics and social media.

Finding a hidden gem in all this might be impossible. It's doesn't matter where you look, dating apps, the library, or yoga class. You will need to educate him - what you're looking for is willingness, not already formed.

I know this sounds bleak - any casual read of this subreddit is enough to put any woman off dating.

scwizard · 2023-11-13T05:36:24+00:00

*Guy dates a foreign girl*

"That's horrible he should date someone his equal, not someone he has a power imbalance over."

*Guy dates a younger girl*

"That's horrible he should date someone his equal, not someone he has a power imbalance over."

Ok so then are you saying he should date an empowered woman from his country that's his age?

"No way. She'd be way too good for him."

Ok then you're saying he shouldn't date anyone?

"Of course not, he just needs to work on himself and I'm sure there's someone out there for him."

Ok come on. Just admit you want these guys to stay single.

Excellent_Badger123 · 2023-11-13T05:09:26+00:00

Q4All/partnered: How did you meet?

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T04:56:04+00:00

what the fuck LMAO

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EveningEveryman · 2023-11-13T04:50:45+00:00

I wish this whole community could somehow live in a reality in which they were born different sex for a time, then revert back to normal just so an understanding of the truth can be forced.

leosandlattes · 2023-11-13T04:40:18+00:00

Good evening to everyone who:

Has ever been cheated on
Loves Cheerios, Frosted Flakes, or Lucky Charms as their favorite cereal
Was born in the first 6 months of the year, or
Hates thin crust pizza

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T04:37:24+00:00

My mom said she will buy me iron supplements tomorrow 😃

EveningEveryman · 2023-11-13T04:29:25+00:00

Question for involuntary introverts:

Are you jobless? Are you Geriatric? Are you retarded? Are you obese? Are you fat? Are you deformed? Are you extremely short(Below 5"0)?

EDIT: By introvert I mean incel

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T03:11:01+00:00

YAYYYYYYY I JUST REALIZED MY PHYSICS TEACHER ROUNDED MY E TO A D I FEEL LIKE JESUS RN

Luciansleep · 2023-11-13T02:54:00+00:00

I find it odd that women here will defend KeKe palmers actions by saying her man was controlling and that it was just a dance.

Yet turn around and say men using porn is almost like cheating in a relationship

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T02:53:39+00:00

Ok so friday night funkin fell off but my brother is OBSESSED with that game but i would date boyfriend no cap 💯 I need a short guy with blue hair that can sing

shanshkrishur · 2023-11-13T02:35:19+00:00

Why do women who hate on passport bros always use the talking point that foreign women can’t “even” speak English?

SO WHAT if foreign women can’t speak English well, or at all? Does that make them stupid, or otherwise mentally inferior?

Are these specific women from 1st World Anglophone (English-speaking) countries so delusional to believe that concepts such as lies, manipulation, gaslighting, etc. don’t exist in other languages & cultures and thus these women are more vulnerable or less intelligent?

All it seems is just typical Anglophone chauvinistic ignorance against other cultures. In fact, most foreign women can probably speak more languages than the average American, which is ACTUALLY shown to increase intelligence. Also, English is not some magical language that makes you more intelligent or prevents you from being taken advantage of.

rip-rap-roni · 2023-11-13T02:26:28+00:00

Women can't resist me. Literally. The threat of violence is too great.

hannahg000 · 2023-11-13T01:56:53+00:00

somebody sitting behind me in class stinks. it’s making it hard to focus 😓

bossman146 · 2023-11-13T01:43:21+00:00

People who “tell it how it is” are usually just being assholes.

ThisBoringLife · 2023-11-13T01:40:44+00:00

Missed out on the UFC card yesterday.

Shame, since I do like Pereira.

CalmNeedleworker3100 · 2023-11-13T01:18:07+00:00

"Are women jealous of guys dating younger women, or are they perhaps legitimately concerned for the women?"

I have never been concerned for other men or women, so I find it very hard to believe that women are concerned for other women. These women are virtue signalers and they are definitely jealous.

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T01:10:39+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8DNJm8S/

I cant wait to have a kid babies especially are sooo adorbs im resistant to crying also

hannahg000 · 2023-11-13T01:04:14+00:00

there is something wrong with me. i think i just had another sexual awakening

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-11-13T01:02:51+00:00

I do love the fact that guys are unaware that they were admitting that they are incapable of having a healthy relationship. Lol But they think women should want these toxic ass relationships that these fuckers are offering. 😂

If you were comparing your girlfriend to a girl first date’s with a guy, you dont give a fuck about your girlfriend.

If you compare your relationship with your girlfriend to a cop pulling a driver over, your relationship is dogshit.

Nate_Reborn · 2023-11-13T00:54:26+00:00

Q4All: Did you workout this week?

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T00:44:47+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8DNfPnn/

No but this is literally me to a T looks like i need to get back on iron supplements Lmaoooooo

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T00:36:31+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8DNe8SB/

Dream height difference 😍🤤 Hes like .01 yoctometers too short but its cool tho

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T00:33:11+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8DNFFmU/

I can relate to this on a spritiual level though WHY AM I LIKE THIS

Economy-Shake-1448 · 2023-11-13T00:32:24+00:00

How can a woman be happy in a marriage if she isn’t a well-off trophy wife of a good, loving, and honest man and SAHM to children that she can take care of full time??? I will aspire for this no matter what. This is literally what I want.

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T00:16:18+00:00

"N count"

"but hypergamy"

"Women cant love"

"Teenage love"

"Failing physics"

My honest reaction

Gladboys · 2023-11-13T00:11:16+00:00

someone pick black or red

CompetitiveTennis112 · 2023-11-13T00:05:10+00:00

How important is the power dynamic in a sexual relationship?

Does being dominant get you off more than the appearance of the woman?

(why are men willing to fuck ugly ugly fat women if they're not sexually attractive)

monster_lily · 2023-11-13T00:02:57+00:00

https://x.com/popculture2000s/status/1723724527958462839?s=46&t=b2XPgsD5a-aGl20uLiFUqA

I too need a big (tall not fat) boy Cz its cuffing season yass

Lower-Recognition420 · 2023-11-13T00:01:37+00:00

I'm so sick of being in a world that doesn't understand. Psychiatric help didn't help as a kid because no one understood what exactly was wrong and how to help. My peers ostracized me because I acted different and didn't understand why I did the things I did. Mother, who has been with me the whole time, just barely knows how my disorders affect me.

I feel unbelievably alone because literally no one in my life can remotely relate to my experiences. It's just too different and it's frustrating.

FromAuntToNiece · 2023-11-12T23:56:33+00:00

18% of college-educated adults have never been married by the age of 40. This used to be a much smaller number decades ago, well before the male loneliness epidemic.

This year, I, an elder Millennial male, have joined the ranks, despite my relatively stable career and aims to changing jobs and pursue an MBA, thus making even more money.

Even more, I have no experience being in a long-term relationship. I have had only a few dates in the span of a decade, primarily because of relocation and COVID.

To top it all off, this fearful avoidant just chucked aside his v-card very recently. Therefore, I fully intend to compliment my friend-seeking and dating efforts with taking the plunge into the high-end escort world.

I am a very late bloomer. Ironically, I am able to do this because of my decades-long limerence.

I am posting this discussion on this subreddit, rather than the usual dating or sex subreddits, because I believe that the pill gloves need to come off for "mid-life crisis" folks like me. It's FOMO time!

PILL-BASED ADVICE FOR "MID-LIFE CRISIS" DATING?

1) I have death grip syndrome. How do I get more comfortable having sex with more women, as my escort told me?

The escort definitely implied that I should have sex with more women. Although I can be aroused, only a focus on my limerence can enable me to finish. She told me that my mind has become so accustomed to porn. While this is true, what she doesn't know is that my porn "upbringing" has been absorbed by my limerence.

2) What should my n-count be by age 45, in five years' time?

I am conflicted on this. Even on the escort front, I do appreciate being very selective with whom I choose to get the "Girlfriend Experience" (GFE) from. The need to be coached sexually is balanced against developing more quality sexual experiences and minimizing STD risks.

3) I have already done some selective lying. How much more selective lying should I utilize?

For example, on one OLD account I have lied about my age. If my escort experience over the next five years consists of a handful of regulars and a number of one-timers, I would omit the one-timers in lying about my n-count.

4) I have standards. Have I compromised on them?

Three harder standards stand out: No smokers, no single mothers with two or more children (but one is OK), and no one who is clinically obese or clinically *** (but overweight is OK).

I have yet to set an n-count limit, but I might be OK with a maximum of 10 per the marriage dissatisfaction study.

I don't believe in setting age limits either way. On the one hand, I don't go with TRP's rejection of 30-year-old women and older. Seriously, guys, the biological "Wall" is around 40, not 30. 40 is the new 30 for both sexes, just because most people don't smoke, drink, or absorb excessive sunlight anymore. On the other hand, I also don't go with Half-Your-Age-Plus-Seven garbage. Any woman who has finished college, typically aged 21 or 22, is fair game, and so-called "brain development" be damned.

5) Outside of the usual PPD discussion topics, any long-term relationship partner needs to at least not oppose my career mobility. I need to change jobs a couple / few years from now, and that job needs to enable me to pursue an MBA eventually. This is no doubt a turnoff to women who are more established in either their careers or their personal milestones (like home ownership). I really don't feel like budging on this one, or is this the fearful avoidant in my using my career aspirations to reject LTRs with a lot of women?

Distinct-Yogurt9276 · 2023-11-12T23:51:29+00:00

During the pandemic, there were 10s posting nudes on Reddit. It was crazy. Now it seems only 6s and below are posting nudes

Economy-Shake-1448 · 2023-11-12T23:44:29+00:00

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Why do things like this make men so angry?

Willow-girl · 2023-11-12T23:43:00+00:00

My makeover!

Before: Imgur and: Imgur

After: Imgur

Lower-Recognition420 · 2023-11-12T23:38:59+00:00

One thing that doesn't bother me (and hopefully never will) is seeing my friends in relationships. I don't feel jealousy, resentment, bitter or anything like that towards them. I can hang around them with their girlfriends next to them being all lovey dovey, hear them talk about how they've been since middle school and stuff and not feel a certain type of way about it unlike some guys seem to be towards their friends. I'm just not that kind of guy. Some people here like to make me out to be some kind of villain or asshole because I talk shit here and there but stuff like this is how I really am in the real world.

Dizzirron · 2023-11-12T23:23:11+00:00

What's with the same half dozen women here commenting non stop on every post. Y'all goofy as hell fighting an invisible battle.

dbz__f · 2023-11-12T22:59:21+00:00

Saw on some talk show yesterday this female comedian going on about how a guy was insecure because he wasn’t okay with his girlfriend kissing another guy on stage as part of a play.

Why are men not allowed to have their own boundaries in relationships? For a woman if she’s setting what she’s comfortable and not comfortable with, it’s like, you go girl. But for a guy to establish his own boundaries for what he’s comfortable and uncomfortable with, he’s insecure?

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-11-12T22:52:47+00:00

It’s wild to me guys here would want to plan a family with women they suspect would commit paternity fraud. Then, having the gall to think people should care he’s anxious about not being the baby daddy.

Always remember: Having babies with people you can't trust is STUPID.

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-11-12T22:38:46+00:00

The wall is brutal. Some women look significantly aged by their mid to late 20s. Women peak in looks around 18-21.

Last time I posted about this women were naysaying about how women don't significantly age in face by their mid late 20s. Here is an example

21 years old: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phntTSWCFcQ

28 years old: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fIDgXnRhVXk

From sorority sister college coed to desperate housewife

monster_lily · 2023-11-12T22:16:25+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8DLUt4G/

I wanna be a dallas cowboys cheerleader their unis are soo cute

ZaWarudo234 · 2023-11-12T21:56:58+00:00

I feel like I am losing any and all hope I'll actually find love and it makes it hard to try to work to improve myself. I know that I'm going to get the usual "love shouldn't Define you're happiness l" answer, but the shit still sucks and I don't really see a point in denying it. Is there anything to be hopeful for? I'm really struggling to hold on to the belief that things can get better.

Gladboys · 2023-11-12T21:08:24+00:00

daily reminder that the effort is pointless if you don't believe in yourself. and once you believe in yourself the next best thing to do is believe in others and lift them up when you can 🫡

saraimarsena · 2023-11-12T21:08:18+00:00

i can see loneliness being a difficult experience, especially as it goes on into the years

i remember watching this video, Life as a single lonely man over 40 with Autism, and it was pretty crushing to hear how defeated he sounded. he’s not even a bad looking guy at all, there aren’t glaring personality flags (besides the obvious one being autism, but i don’t wanna call that a red flag).

it’s gotta be depressing to get well into your middle age, seeing all your friends and family get married and start families of their own, wondering why you can’t find that same experience. at that point i don’t see how “just get better friends” can really cut it.

idek how a stranger like me can even take that pain away. at that point a hug and some platitudes isn’t gonna cut it either. there’s gotta be so many men (and women) outside of my realm who go through life unseen and alone. so many of these people aren’t “just bad people”, maybe they’re antisocial, maybe they’re isolated by location or career. idk it just seems really tough

huhwhatokok · 2023-11-12T20:10:23+00:00

Apparently a twitter thread went viral because a guy was obsessively trying to take a girl with a boyfriend out on a date and he was making multiple tweets how her boyfriend wasn’t in her league. I went to see the girl and she was a fatty and her man was a tall dude whose not fat lmao. If anything it’s the opposite he’s out of her league. Itseems like everyone involved is in the comic scene so if you look half decent as a woman in the scene you might as well be Stacy.

hungrychick404 · 2023-11-12T20:09:52+00:00

Modern men would be a lot more attractive if the majority didn’t have a porn addiction. Something is so hot about someone’s sexual energy going entirely towards you instead of people through a screen

rip-rap-roni · 2023-11-12T20:09:13+00:00

If anyone wants to see a good example the of halo effect of beauty and attractiveness, here you go:

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/17tjqz2/comment/k8ynnvk/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

Multiple users on the thread give an explanation on why attractive people are nicer and more honest. The tenets of the halo effect is that without any evidence, you're already primed to believe that an attractive person is more kind, honest, and competent.

Confirmation bias: Attractive person does something nice, and you reinforce what you already believed to be true.

Post-hoc bias: Person does something nice and they happen to be attractive therefore they're nice because they're attractive.

u/purplish_possum and u/Konoha_Shinobee I'm referring to your comments specifically.

janedoebreakin · 2023-11-12T20:07:23+00:00

I think there’s a fine line between a man who is flawed and a man who is in no shape to be getting into a relationship, and it seems like a lot of men don’t understand that.

I started dating a man who really shouldn’t have been entering a relationship, and I’m now married to him. He was an alcoholic and he bounced between shitty manual labor jobs. I would get a free meal every shift at the restaurant I worked at, and I would give it to him because he would buy more booze than food and he was so thin. It hurt my heart to see him like that because I knew he was a good man. He thought I was pretty when no one else thought that and he cared about me. I cared about him. I saw a man who wanted a family and a better life who was about to give up for good. I fell in love with him despite his issues.

Things worked out, but most women wouldn’t even think about dating a man like him, and for good reason. It was heartbreaking and difficult at times. It’s okay to be flawed, we all are. But sometimes I see men with major problems complaining about not getting a relationship, and they don’t even realize how monumental their issue is.

purplish_possum · 2023-11-12T20:03:03+00:00

My GF's uncle (the father of the cousin with the new 6'9" BF) just got back from a few months in Panama. After Christmas he's going to the Philippines for a few months. He's got this passport bro thing down. He's got two pensions (he was a Marine drill sergeant and a cop) and an entire block of rental properties to fund his exploits. He only pays for himself -- women gotta cover their own expenses. Of course it helps that, even at 60, he's still in great shape and he's always had a good face.

ratboi34 · 2023-11-12T19:50:27+00:00

This weekend I got into a conversation about dating with a pretty wealthy 47 yo single woman and she was complaining about men not putting in more effort, sending more texts, not being romantic and traditionally masculine anymore. She probably thought I would affirm her complaints and agree with her that men aren't men anymore. She looked pretty surprised tho when I started talking about me wanting to be cute and feminine in relationships and wanting princess treatment lmao. She started talking about men needing to be leaders and shit and I just asked her some questions about what a leader actually means to her and we figured out that it mostly comes down to her wanting a rich man. She looked like she was genuinely getting to know herself. I think I should become a dating coach for rich women.

purplish_possum · 2023-11-12T19:29:44+00:00

All the talk about empathy has made me realize that most people here don't have a clue what empathy actually is. I suggest they watch the movie A Man Called Otto. The characters do a great job of expressing empathy in its many forms.

https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/a_man_called_otto

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7405458/

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