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henlofr · 2022-02-02T12:18:31+00:00

I survey the likes. Any dude who dared like the pic, or worse commented something like “🔥🔥🔥”, receives a DM of me intensely staring into my camera, barking at them.

disavowed · 2022-02-02T08:52:31+00:00

Oh christ, it's no wonder you guys need help. Real talk. If your girl posts to social, she's getting messages sent her way, always. Not her choice, it's just how thirsty douchebags operate. If you ignore her, she'll start talking to them. If you get defensive, she'll start talking to someone who isn't a little boy about her. Talk her up, like the picture, be a fucking man, and trust there's a reason she's with you. If you suspect there are ulterior motives behind her posting it then break up with her and move on. At some point you need to remember that she's an individual and not everything she does centers around you. If you can't handle that, again, do her a favor and just break up.

And yes, for your information, if she's posting a picture to social it's because she's looking for attention and validation—that's not always about cheating or pleasing other men. It's often more to do with her feeling her look and wanting to flex on other women, realistically.

ProjectJ92 · 2022-02-02T06:04:32+00:00

No response if you’re trying to “seduce her.”

Unless you’re exclusive, then I think you should hype the hell outta your girl with a nice comment.

Mriconicdev · 2022-02-02T06:23:09+00:00

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Mriconicdev · 2022-02-02T06:05:17+00:00

A simple like will suffice.

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-02-02T13:38:41+00:00

Is she basically naked and clearly thirst fishing? Probably wouldn't be dating her.

Is it just a picture that happens to be hot because she just is? No problem at all.

There is a fine line between tasteful hot, and trashy hot

I'm fine with her posting a Pic from the beach in a bikini. Not ok with her posting a Pic from bed in her underwear.

curtis5689976 · 2022-02-02T16:40:53+00:00

“Damn I’m about to tear that shit up tonight “

BouncyShroom · 2022-02-02T12:33:50+00:00

This is a good post, and a genuine serious question so I appreciate OP posting this - because it seems like a topic most of us will have encountered.

I'm seeing a girl for the past few weeks who is literally doing 80% of the chasing, pursuing e.c.t and I get the feeling she's going to prop the exclusivity question in the next few weeks. There is really good chemistry. I'm not a big texter, and she initiates most of the texts and messages me 'good morning' pretty much every day.

A few days ago, she posted a picture on insta. Got many likes, with thirsty guys saying she's beautiful e.c.t. I did not like the pic, and when we met a few days after there was no mention of insta.

I'm curious on how you guys deal with stuff like this. There will be thirsty guys everywhere.

seven5four5 · 2022-02-02T14:06:46+00:00

My ex wife had 70k followers. Nothing good comes of it. No amount of trust or confidence or being yourself keeps the one "just a friend" from blowing her back out.

Davosssss · 2022-02-02T12:45:52+00:00

Depends on the personality and age. If she's young then she's probably looking for validation only.

Robofrogg1 · 2022-02-02T18:35:18+00:00

Tell her she’s got something in her teeth. Works like a charm.

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-02-02T15:10:37+00:00

You either get over it, leave or set boundaries about social media

mookyvon · 2022-02-02T15:59:01+00:00

Cringe cringe cringe cringe cringe.

She's not yours it's just your turn. See what happens when a higher status guy (blue check mark, tons of followers) slides into her DMs when you're not watching.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5SHr17YX5Y

StereoFood · 2022-02-02T14:26:38+00:00

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Joncal17 · 2022-02-02T18:36:31+00:00

Id be the one in her comments screaming and pandering how hot she is.

I see no point in getting jealous over that. Shes my girlfriend, we expect respect from each other and thats all there is to it.

Andrew54321 · 2022-02-02T11:14:43+00:00

Wow this whole thing is cringe.

CharlesEchowave · 2022-02-02T16:27:05+00:00

I used to date a girl like this, she like thrist fishing and similar shits, really get on my nerve and she basically tell me her body her rules. I think the best approach is walk away from the girl. My mental health improved drastically afterward.

iLikeE · 2022-02-02T13:43:17+00:00

I don’t date women who have a personal social media for this reason. It would be the same as me posting in grey sweatpants with the outline of my dick on social media. Why am I doing that? I already know what I have and I don’t need validation. I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. The only reason I would do that is to attract a woman who wants to be dicked down. It is thot behavior for someone to post risqué pictures on social media and simp behavior to allow it

competitiveZpie · 2022-02-02T06:07:11+00:00

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SantoSturmio · 2022-02-02T10:57:16+00:00

Comment on something random in the background

ShadowFoxxx15 · 2022-02-02T14:43:10+00:00

Your best bet is to ignore it because if you say something you could be labeled as a jealous, controlling, verbally abusive boyfriend and no man wants to be accused of that

1DarkDD · 2022-02-02T15:29:31+00:00

I like my girl to be sexy and desired by all, but be only mine.

RedPravda · 2022-02-02T15:40:21+00:00

Nothing lol

jujutoastybuns · 2022-02-02T15:44:01+00:00

I do this but my bf likes to show me off so idk

RED_DEAD_REVENANT · 2022-02-02T15:51:06+00:00

Smile and say "that's my girl".

reversedbydark · 2022-02-02T15:55:46+00:00

Say nothing.

Geaux · 2022-02-02T16:49:53+00:00

Like, 5 fire emojis.

slash03 · 2022-02-02T17:08:13+00:00

Let her know how wonderful and beautiful she is . Some people need this kind of affirmation more than others.

Good-Phrase · 2022-02-02T17:45:46+00:00

Attention-seeking and shallow. Probably not someone I’d be into dating in the first place. I’d probably just ignore it though tbh. I’m sure there’s enough guys giving her attention on there probably better if you’re not a fan like all the rest of them too.

Alonso81687 · 2022-02-02T18:38:17+00:00

Don't be thirsty. Like some, not all.

lilbigguy412 · 2022-02-02T18:42:30+00:00

"what size are those?"

10000ColdNights · 2022-02-02T20:08:26+00:00

Pat yourself on the back, you have a hot GF. That’s it

Ok-Artichoke-3730 · 2022-02-02T21:38:31+00:00

I asked my boyfriend this a few weeks ago because one of his friend’s girlfriends posted a very revealing bikini photo. He mentioned he’d feel really uncomfortable if I posted something like it (it wasn’t a stellar photo of HER, it was solely focused on her body — her walking away from the camera in a bikini, basically just an ass shot). I asked what he’d do if I posted something like that and he said “I think those posts usually come from a place of feeling like you need validation or like you aren’t getting attention and affection from the places you usually do. So I’d try to address that and make sure you feel like you’re getting what you need before I’d consider bringing up the actual post.”

There may be something you guys can fix or work on together - she may not feel like her emotional needs are being met (whether or not she realizes this).

After my bf said this I realized I’ve posted 0 “hot” or “scandalous” photos in the year we’ve dated. I posted LOTS in my past relationships, all of which were unhealthy and some excruciatingly toxic. He’s an incredible guy and makes me feel validated, sexy, and impressive every day, so I think I stopped turning to social media for that.

TexRetroTech · 2022-02-02T23:01:13+00:00

I would give it a like since that's my hot ass girlfriend yo! Lol

jjboy91 · 2022-02-02T12:11:21+00:00

You don't have anything to say about that.

Uoger · 2022-02-02T14:20:07+00:00

Bypass all of this by ignoring your hormones telling you to reproduce with a female.

drinktomeonly69 · 2022-02-02T06:07:47+00:00

I’d like and comment something thirsty

marks1995 · 2022-02-02T15:01:29+00:00

She's addicted to the attention and validation she gets from her lurkers. I have friends (older milf types) that post pretty tame images and get inundated with DM's. To the point that most of them stop posting anything.

If she is posting hot pictures, she knows she is going to get a massive amount of attention from guys. With zero effort on her part. And that's a red flag for me.

Yes, I am old fashioned. But a woman should get the attention and validation she needs from her partner and/or friends. That's part of what she gets out of a relationship. I would actually argue that's one of the biggest reasons women get in relationships.

mjornir · 2022-02-02T16:46:43+00:00

Gas her up, she’s your girl after all

SGrosch · 2022-02-02T20:46:31+00:00

Be the exception, don’t like or comment.

And if she’s a IG thot. Next her.

DonnyBomeneddy · 2022-02-02T14:54:56+00:00

I guess the first question is why are you dating a girl. Spin plates then you don't have to mate guard.

j_tothemoon · 2022-02-02T11:24:51+00:00

Honestly I never do. Just like the photo. If you have enough confidence with the girl, you can try to share it directly to her and slide it into her DM but that's a little bit more advanced.

Crooklar · 2022-02-02T11:02:38+00:00

Who are you advertising for?

Trudzzzz · 2022-02-02T15:01:00+00:00

Depends on the type of photos. I would only date someone whose photos I approve of before before we're exclusive, so she doesn't have to change what she posts once we're together, and of she does we can discuss it.

AngeloMacon · 2022-02-02T06:39:39+00:00

How long have been dating and is it "official"? It's a red flag regardless, but a real serious one is you guys are a couple.

rabieskutta · 2022-02-02T12:33:27+00:00

Go make me a Sandwich .

Anderduds · 2022-02-02T17:43:01+00:00

If I’m dating someone they don’t need to seduce me, they already have - just pay attention and be nice. If you can’t be nice, be funny. If you can’t be either, have a big dick.

Do not ignore the people you want attention from - be kind, be clever, be considerate. People who ignore me get ignored. People who blow up my phone get muted. Matching communication is much more important than content most of the time.

LONEWOLFF150 · 2022-02-02T16:33:34+00:00

Define "hot picture"...

It really depends. Some women can look hot in anything but unless she's purposely wearing questionably appropriate outfits that should be private to show off to potentially other men then that's where I draw the line and probably wouldn't be dating her to begin with.

I don't even date girls that are those cam girls (not only fans, regular cams on these dating apps where nudity is prohibited) because they are flooded with thirsty ass guys much less one girl that shows off everything she has online for every perv to save for later if you know what I mean. If she's posting really photos with appropriate outfits and she just so happens to look hot either way is fine. You'd be surprised though that guys will definitely still thirst like crazy over some girl in a nun outfit and will definitely FLOOD their DMs saying she looks hot and all manner of thirstiness. I recently matched up with a woman slightly older than me online saying that guys will like her photos on the dating app and go as far as asking for money or even a place to stay lol that's something else though. My point is even a plain woman will get plenty of cringe attention no matter what she is wearing.

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dchoop · 2022-02-02T19:21:04+00:00

Comment “🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮” and don’t elaborate

GerritTheBerrit · 2022-02-03T01:36:21+00:00

I dont like pictures of women i have any sexual interest in.
Only relatives or if shes really close to me.

Never like.

If youre not in her top ten be willing walk away (if she gets with the others),
improve. Level up.
So you dont have to worry about the concurrence before the actual game started.

bodycount41 · 2022-02-03T03:07:58+00:00

Validate her with a like and have her suck your dick. Immediately.

ctmsansei · 2022-02-02T10:22:21+00:00

it depends, can you comment on it without radiating pittines and insecurity? then yeah sure. if not, you probably shouldnt unless you have a really good reason for doing so.

x_xerxes · 2022-02-02T12:11:12+00:00

I'd brag, I have this 😁

GorillaGlue89 · 2022-02-02T14:53:51+00:00

She’s advertising to other potential mates is what a biologists would say. But if you’re dating her then you definitely have to say something.

borearas · 2022-02-02T16:31:36+00:00

If you’re dating, she probably would appreciate if you put somethigg by simple as a heart eye emoji

coindad007 · 2022-02-02T16:39:37+00:00

Never comment

alexanderldn · 2022-02-02T16:49:03+00:00

dude like the pic and move on. stop overthinking

LakeShow-2_8_24 · 2022-02-02T17:45:53+00:00

Comment the appropriate adjective to describe the picture and tell her how much you liked the post later when you see her.

surfershane25 · 2022-02-02T18:19:30+00:00

How would you want her to feel/react if you posted a photo where you looked really handsome?

Tell you to stop, take it down, that you’re trying to get other girls, end it with you? Treat her the same as you’d want to be treated, hype her up and have some self confidence or it won’t be your turn for long.

ponyo_impact · 2022-02-02T18:30:40+00:00

I don't use social media so I don't have this problem 😃

But for real you're only making it a problem because you want it to be.

Just simply don't do anything

JoeyPeake · 2022-02-02T18:50:40+00:00

"Where you taking me tonight qt ;)"

Geo_wolf · 2022-02-02T19:08:50+00:00

I do nothing. Guys, girls can post whatever they want, just as you can. Don't feel uncomfortable or jealous, it's just a picture on social media. Like the picture, compliment her if it comes up in a converstation or if you want to directly tell her. And post some pictures yourself! Woman like being able to see who they talk to and what that person is up to.

drapermovies · 2022-02-02T20:54:42+00:00

I usually just tell her in private that it looks good.

ChurchofCaboose1 · 2022-02-02T20:59:28+00:00

It depends. Is this "hot pic" nudity? Cuz that's way different than someone being very happy with how they look in a picture and posting it. If it's not nudity, I don't care. If the intent she has is to seek attention, especially sexual attention, I'd probably ask her what's up.

nbh1995 · 2022-02-02T21:43:26+00:00

Depends on the relationship also depends on the girl...I think if the relationship is still in early stages and the girl isn't secure about us I wouldn't do anything and wait for her to seek validation from me...usually my excuse is that I am not on social media much so I didn't see it but at that point she already wants me to see it and only then I give her slight validation...but if its like a confident woman than its a different story lol she wouldn't be posting much on social media anyway...

AnthonyAValera · 2022-02-02T22:01:15+00:00

do what u want, u wear the pants in the relationship… but if u care about her, then let her do what she wants too. find the balance. if its gonna be a healthy long term relationship there needs to be equality of power. but if u dont care, abuse the fuck out of her so that she realizes ur the wrong guy for her so she can dump ur ass. lol. DO WHAT U WANT.

PontusOfMars · 2022-02-02T22:17:57+00:00

Dread game. If you're highly sought after by other women, that'll keep her in line.

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-02-02T22:21:31+00:00

To be secure enough in my relationship to know that posting good-looking photos on Insta is just a normal thing modern women do, and that me making a big fuss over it would make me look insecure and push her away. Hell, I'd even take the photos for her. So long as I'm the only one she's letting see everything, it doesn't matter to me. I'm not going to be controlling or insecure towards her.

Tom38 · 2022-02-02T22:28:54+00:00

Comment on it if ya wanna assert dominance.

Malimalata · 2022-02-02T22:50:04+00:00

Just ignore it unless its serious

Point-Overall · 2022-02-02T23:17:02+00:00

Unless the pic is almost nudity where she is in her underwear/lingerie, feed her ego and compliment her. Anything else like telling her it’s not ok and that she shouldn’t post hot pictures will just show her how insecure you really are and the relationship’seduction will go downhill fast

joy_collision · 2022-02-03T01:17:58+00:00

"You look great baby, let me know if you want to go see a movie this weekend."

caledonguy · 2022-02-03T02:03:38+00:00

Depends on alot of circumstances. If your girl is a onlytoes model (i pimped a girl and made bank doing this a year ago) then its different than if your conservative 5'3 Christian gf did it.

frecklerat · 2022-02-03T02:21:48+00:00

say “daymmmm shawty u the most beautiful thing aliveeeeee” with a bunch of emojis that reflect how ur feelin

bandsupjay · 2022-02-03T02:31:28+00:00

Be scure in urself

SolarTortality · 2022-02-03T03:10:41+00:00

I am absolutely terrible when it comes to women, but if it is tasteful hot I wouldn’t worry about it. If it is trashy hot I’d have to have a conversation with her about how posting things like that is devaluing to our relationship. I’d ask her to agree to some ground rules about posts and to take down the picture I that deemed as trashy

Ground Rules:

1) Not being overtly sexual in nature

2) Be tasteful

3) Have fun

But I’d be mentally prepared for a breakup if the conversation goes poorly, because I would rather not be with her than to be with her while she posts trashy posts on the internet for all of our mutual friends to see. If she is doing that the relationship isn’t going anywhere anyways and the fact that she did do that is already a big red flag and you may be better off just to break up with her now if the post was excessively trashy... as if it was then she does not respect you and may cheat on you.

vj_2000 · 2022-02-03T03:27:21+00:00

you guys are dating girls?

Forsaken-Badger-6652 · 2022-02-03T04:46:25+00:00

My boyfriend always comments on every picture I post, talking about how good I look, etc. I love it ❤️

coacherman50 · 2022-02-03T05:03:57+00:00

Personally I just ignore commenting or replying on the pic if it’s a story. I would just like if it’s a post.

What you could do is maybe tease flirt if it’s a story tho and you feel the need to say something

misoka_ · 2022-02-03T07:18:04+00:00

Whatever other dudes say is just appreciation,idc much

incognito3107 · 2022-02-03T15:10:31+00:00

It really doesn't matter, unless you consider it for more or less than it is :)

epicharlie12 · 2022-02-03T15:16:01+00:00

You failed when you started following her

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