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| 299 | BE ALERT: Men on TikTok are fantasizing about ways to hurt women on imaginary dates.Men who hate women this much are terrorists and should be treated as such. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 06:46 PM |
| 36 | Man attempts to low-ball his date after getting horrendous advice from Reddit. Queen blocks and deletes in responseLove hearing this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 02:58 PM |
| 152 | I need support, I think I need to break up with himYou need to focus on taking care of yourself. How you feel and what you need come first. Every single day. Therapy, friends, community, hobbies that interest you, support groups, journaling, creative outlets, etc. I know it might be hard, but you’ll have to figure out how to meet your needs without him. Minimize contact as much as you can. He is causing you more pain, more trauma, than actual benefit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 07:55 PM |
| 7 | Beauty pageants - for the male gaze? For the women gaze?It's funny because men only need to be judged on one thing, like body-building. While women need to have the perfect shape, plus be feminine, well-travelled, intelligent, altruistic, and compassionate, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 02:56 PM |
| 11 | Beauty pageants - for the male gaze? For the women gaze?How is a 17 year old a well-rounded, accomplished candidate if they barely graduated from Highschool? How is a 35 year old woman who has had time to become a well-rounded confident woman no longer eligible for candidacy? Yes thissss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 02:52 PM |
| 232 | Beauty pageants - for the male gaze? For the women gaze?"You are f*ckable, I want to f*ck you. Here's a scholarship and some networking opportunities." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 10:43 PM |
| 10 | How do HVM behave during conflict?*a feeling of safety about approaching any conflict with each other *checking in and safe pauses and genuine respect for one another throughout the process I love these!! Feeling safe to resolve conflict is so important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 03:52 PM |
| 159 | How do HVM behave during conflict?* staying present and relatively calm (not reacting) *when someone gets emotionally stirred, they will take the space they need to get into a present state *taking eachother's issues as valid and serious *not gaslighting, minimizing, invalidating, namecalling, switching the topics, etc. *immediate action or steps planned out to resolve the issue, constructive *recognition of any incompatibilities, but still no invalidating etc. *being proactive on issues, not allowing them to get to a point of c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:22 AM |
| 85 | Like…I know it’s bad, but I didn’t know it was THIS bad.Do men not understand that women can cheat too… dick is SO abundant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 06:31 PM |
| 78 | Why do women always have to be "kind" and "nice"?I honestly feel like men who want nice and kind women just want someone they can control, someone that doesn't have respect for themselves as a full human. I used to be called sweet a lottt, and still get called that, but I absolutely love being called fierce and independent and someone who just dgaf what others think. And yes I also am going out of my way to be kind with other women!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 11:27 PM |
| 12 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.That man is not a professional therapist that can help you heal from your trauma. That man is not you most trusted girlfriends that share a deep understanding because they share the same experience as a woman. That man is not your mother that will hug you and wipe your tears and carry that secret to her grave. That man is not God that will listen without judgement and never tell another soul. Yes all of this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 10:53 PM |
| 69 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?Yeah, definitely. So what I try to focus on is the pure facts. I can appreciate that I had a nice evening with a man, or even a nice month. But the fact is, that’s just what he presented to me. I don’t know how he operates under stress, or what his past relationships were like, or his unhealthy behaviors or coping mechanisms, etc. etc. It’s only over a long period of time that I get to really know someone. And one more thing. If someone finds themselves creating this future in their head over a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 04:54 PM |
| 378 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?Focus on yourself. Two dates is not enough whatsoever to be in a committed, exclusive relationship, let alone long distance. Sure, you can keep in light contact with him. But don't start painting a future in your mind with him. And don't keep analyzing. Honestly, I would drop him out of your mind until you are actually living in the same city as him and then can vet per normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 02:12 PM |
| 20 | Husband Hates Wife: CEO Edition. He refers to his wife publicly as a "sucker", she asked HIM out, they dated for 5 years before getting married. This is his anniversary post after 12 years of marriage.He sounds like a loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 10:56 PM |
| 130 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?We need to constantly reframe and ask always ask ourselves - how does this man contribute to my life. And if he cheats or is interested in other women, which is a reflection on his character, then he is not worthy to be in my life. We NEVER assume responsibility for a grown man's behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:51 PM |
| 82 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?The ordinary woman shouldn’t feel the need to PERFORM with makeup, clothes, and hair to get a man’s love, attention, or loyalty. These are shallow lures — and they’re also totally unreliable. If that’s all your man/crush is into, then you damn well know he’ll be staring at ANY and EVERY good-looking woman who walks by…and will cheat on you with one, if she strikes his interest enough. Yes this. If you are performing to "keep a man" then he will most definitely cheat sooner or later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:47 PM |
| 21 | Water boarding couldn’t have gotten this confession out of me 😭😭why tf do women need to cut up snacks for adult men... sis should go build her own empire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 09:05 PM |
| 67 | Makeup Give UpYes! There's much more I'd rather do than paint my face everyday. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 08:09 PM |
| 66 | Makeup Give UpETA: have also ditched heels over 3 inches. It’s just not healthy for the lower body at all. Me too. I want this to be a thing more - high heels, and sandals that are so tight (like almond or pointed toe), are terrible for the body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 08:05 PM |
| 19 | Symptoms of womanhood. • Sumaya Poetry (Happy Woman’s Day sisters, may we keep fighting the patriarchy and celebrating all that we are).I love this so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 06:24 PM |
| 15 | Men are an optionYESS. Society has made girls and women believe that they need a man to define them. So first we need to get rid of all that conditioning and recognize we are already whole as we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 06:23 PM |
| 233 | The next time you feel silly, know that there are men out there who will jeopardize their entire bank account funds for the chance to see breasts.This. There are literally millions of pictures of breasts online. He wanted to see this women's breasts to do exactly what you said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:51 PM |
| 75 | Anyone else want to get married less the more you see married men leering at you or other women in the company of their partners?Yes definitely. The amount of men that have leered at me or I've seen that leer at other women is totally insane. Most of the time the men aren't even with their wives and that's what kinda freaky to me. Like these men aren't all single. One positive thing women have going when dating is their ability to leave at any time - why would I marry someone and make it that much harder? There is absolutely no benefit to marriage for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:46 PM |
| 30 | Thoughts as I'm packing my things while he sleeps, drunk after going to bed at 7am (a normal night for him)Beautifully written. Saving this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 04:24 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts as I'm packing my things while he sleeps, drunk after going to bed at 7am (a normal night for him)All of that sounds so exhausting!! You deserve so much more. After 3-6 months+ (or less, or more), you will have much more energy and confidence. Make yourself number one priority, every day. Rooting for you 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 04:22 PM |
| 34 | What would you do if your partner doesn’t like thirst traps when you send them?Wouldn’t this be a huge blow to your confidence? It can be assumed that your body doesn’t do it for them, but other bodies do. Sis, his behavior is LV, it has nothing to do with your body. Also don't send thirst traps, you don't need his validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 10:53 PM |
| 93 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childYes exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 08:52 PM |
| 53 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childIf a woman literally loses out on her pay because she is carrying and raising the child, damn right she gets half of the household income. I like that she has doubled down on this. She's smart and is not going to do all of this unpaid labor for free, putting her in a more financially (and emotionally) vulnerable position. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 08:49 PM |
| 11 | Wholesome post❤️ i’ll be doing the sameLove this ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:18 PM |
| 42 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?Tbh it weirds me out that he writes it. That tells me that he likes erotica or porn a little too much, unless you're into that too. But it also totally depends on what he reads/writes and if it aligns with what you like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:16 PM |
| 8 | What happened to Brittany Murphy 🎬This is so sad. I just watched the trailer and will be watching the documentary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 11:35 AM |
| 7 | Euphoria: libfem propaganda or thoughtful series?I haven't watched it - I've only seen the advertisements for it and I was extremely, extremely turned off by it. A lot of sexualization of younger girls - and for entertainment I just don't think that's okay because there are too many girls and guys out there thinking that's okay. Reading the comments here I'm glad I haven't seen it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:38 PM |
| 21 | HVW tips for long distance relationships?I would wait until he relocates and puts effort into seeing and committing to you via actions, and then vet per normal. Seems too early to commit and invest at this point. You can keep in contact with him in the meanwhile, but don't put too much into it [especially don't worry about how you're coming off to him]. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 09:27 PM |
| 6 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceThis was hard for me to read. Imagine if you weren't strong in your boundaries and actually believed her. She is walking male propaganda. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:27 PM |
| 96 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.This is such a great explanation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 11:21 AM |
| 188 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.This guy's dreaming in fantasy land. He said it himself. He just loves the idea of his ex because in reality his ex was an awful person. So ... fantasy land. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 11:21 AM |
| 7 | Friends with Men?Seeking companionship or an activity partner with a man - no. One on one's outside of work - no. Sounds like you want a boyfriend without the sexual piece. The way I see it, woman can have a male friend within a group of friends. Or it can be purely a professional relationship not outside of work. The dynamic between a male and female friendship is not the same as a normal friendship. If he gets a girlfriend, you'll probably be dropped as you should (I wouldn't want my boyfriend hanging out 1on1… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:56 AM |
| 19 | Friends with Men?My co-worker who identified as gay told me that he was homo-romantic but was sexually attracted to both genders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:42 AM |
| 73 | Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle?want you to second guess your standards ^^^ this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 11:42 PM |
| 78 | Every woman must know that the work she does is valuable -- MONETARILY --Excerpt from Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That? Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 06:17 PM |
| 10 | I’m tired of scrotes trying to mask their attraction to minors.^^^ this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:43 PM |
| 23 | I’m tired of scrotes trying to mask their attraction to minors.I remember reading in The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward, that many men she interviewed would talk about wanting an adventurous girl. She kept trying to figure out exactly what they meant by adventurous and then she realized finally what they meant - young. It's so disturbing to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:42 PM |
| 7 | A confusing man is a dangerous man - Excerpts from Lundy BancroftI don't think he's implying that emotional cheating isn't a deal breaker, my guess is he just didn't list it. Also IME when a guy was emotionally cheating, he also was lying significantly. Lundy has another book called Should I Stay or Should I Go? which goes in depth to other behaviors that would would be dealbreakers that aren't necessarily abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 10:00 PM |
| 14 | A confusing man is a dangerous man - Excerpts from Lundy BancroftYes! It is a separate book from Why Does He Do That, still written by Lundy Bancroft. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 03:28 PM |
| 200 | A confusing man is a dangerous man - Excerpts from Lundy BancroftExcerpts are from Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?: Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft I have been reading one excerpt a day for the last couple of weeks and love it so far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:48 PM |
| 252 | Scrote wants to "adopt" a 20 year old "adult daughter"....a homeless pregnant woman from Austria who lost her father at a young agrExcuse me, what? He literally said that he's worried he may become physically attracted to her... Why are they bringing this young woman into their home when they clearly have issues? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:11 PM |
| 19 | on beauty standards and wanting to opt out, way way outthe makeup industry is something I would like to see fade out Same, I hope it does. It is a huge money and energy suck for women - and not to mention the self-esteem hit it takes on girls growing up. I never used to wear a lot of make up, but I did buy quite a bit. I'm so happy to say that I only now use 4 items when I do wear makeup (+glitter if I feel like doing something special). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:47 PM |
| 20 | When does it become problematic for men to follow female public figures on social media?Why wouldn't following Emma Watson be a problem? I had a male friend in college who was totally obsessed with her. He would tell me his sexual thoughts about her not infrequently (I was a cool girl in my engineering classes, I am not proud at all of it). So anytime I hear about her that's what I think of. And Tswfit and Emma were known and objectified while they were young, what if it's a guy in his 40's following them? I would not be with that guy - it's more about character, personally for me,… | /r/askFDS | 09/02/22 09:30 PM |
| 2 | When does it become problematic for men to follow female public figures on social media?This won't work for everyone, but if my boyfriend follows any woman celebrity, then I wouldn't be with him. Reason being I rarely use social media, I don't use IG, IG is literally mostly pictures and doesn't feel as wholesome or ambitious as I desire my life to be. So it's incompatibility at the least. And secondly, (unless it is undoubtedly an inspirational woman that doesn't appeal to the male gaze) women are generally just not respected by men for their genuine talents and accomplishments. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/22 09:23 PM |
| 51 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.And would he have sent that porn to his boss if his boss was a woman? Probably not. It's a boys club. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 10:47 PM |
| 55 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:13 PM |
| 158 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.This guy thinks he's the shit and he's not. I think even if she didn't have an OF, he would've told that she "wouldn't be a good representative for the company". He doesn't like her, probably resentful that she's a woman in coding, his field, and OF was an easy excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:12 PM |
| 150 | Bernard Bergemar - the owner of Mindgeek. A quick exercise.The audacity that he gets privacy while images and videos of women being are abused all over the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:42 PM |
| 21 | Please watch, let’s talk about it. Media has always taught us we were less. Pick me is taught from infancy. This is why we need us.I'm going to watch it this weekend, thanks for the rec! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 11:11 PM |
| 4 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?Omg you just described my ex to a T. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:42 PM |
| 7 | That time I walked out on a date after his first sentenceAmazing!! This made my day, thank you for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:34 PM |
| 46 | Ladies, I'm in desperate need for some advice. Please help!!!you'll hurt more in the long run if you stay in this relationship. ^^^^^^ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:19 PM |
| 77 | When is the last time you had 5 star sex ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐?IF NEVER CHOOSE DON'T KNOW. I totally forgot to add the option Never. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:36 PM |
| 65 | When is the last time you had 5 star sex ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐?Ah you're right!! I meant to add Never as an option - now I can't edit it. Such an important option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:34 PM |
| 14 | Don’t let family stop you from breaking the pickme cycle!!!This is weird af. After completely betraying her daughter who hasn't saved enough money yet for a deposit, and now she's kicked out, she has the audacity to say that she doesn't have room for her daughter to move in or isn't able to help her financially. Why tf did she get involved. I think she hates her daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 02:26 PM |
| 52 | TW: public harrasment of a young woman. Rejection is so hurtful to men that they seek revenge from women. And assisting them is not just men but whole families, pickmeishas, who raise these men and blame women.This is so heartbreaking and infuriating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Average "Dating" Time Before Engagement in the Early 1900s: Two WeeksI think it's still important to ask because you'll find out more info for compatibility, or even if it's just how he responds to the question. But yeah, even if you don't ask, you'd be able to feel his consistent, secure pursuit based on his words and actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 06:25 PM |
| 118 | The Inverse Relationship Between Financial Maturity and Marriage DesirabilityYes I love this post! Between 18 and 23 I spent so much money (and time and energy) on an NVX. I can't imagine how tough of a situation that would've left me in if I did it for decades. Financial security is a huge step towards freedom from bad relationships. I'm understanding that more and more (thanks FDS!) and will not financially provide for a man. I'm 27 and I'm really excited to be building wealth. Hopefully I can buy a house or a place of my own one day. I also like to "live together sepa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 11:03 PM |
| 48 | How to avoid a situationship?Others have good advice. I'll say that I personally don't care about a guy "feeling trapped" if the woman is the one that wants the relationship [first]. It sounds very cat/mouse. It's the reason I don't like most of that book (but I have read and liked many other FDS approved books!). A HVM will know that he has agency over what he does and doesn't want to do. He will want or not want a relationship and won't "feel trapped" by a woman stating her desires, he has confidence in himself. If a guy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:53 PM |
| 6 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?There is NO reason for an adult man to have a tiktok imo lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?I can’t stand sports! Like the max I could do is the Super Bowl or equivalent 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 06:51 PM |
| 24 | Men Can Now Respond Directly to The Female Dating Strategy Podcast!Can't wait to hear these | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 08:19 PM |
| 203 | She Needed FDS a Long Time AgoHaving kids with a man is so much more serious than marriage. Why people have kids but not actually marry is boggling. It's like you're still tied to that man forever now, and additionally have a kid to take care of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 01:01 AM |
| 28 | This man is 24. His “best friend” was 14 while he was a 20 year old man waiting for her to be legal to call his GF. This man is a pedophile.Ew | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 10:39 PM |
| 43 | Comments are ROASTING him for his age-gap preference - very happily surprised! Based Reddit.Love the comments on that post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:50 PM |
| 95 | DAE have a visceral negative reaction to Hinge’s social media ads? Who are these meant to market to? It can’t be women.I remember a male acquaintance who had mentioned his difficulty using OLD ... and then a couple years later he was soo ecstatic, like he solved a puzzle, as he was going on lots of [coffee] dates and said "Damn, you guys have such low standards!!" It made me so sad that women out there were accepting such low effort and low quality men. I remember playing dumb and being like "what's a coffee date? Is that really a date? I don't get how that's a thing..." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:10 PM |
| 8 | The Sun magazine inspiring postBeautiful 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:02 PM |
| 50 | Weaponised incompetence is a manipulation tactic. It is not a cute “quirk” that men do and it’s also not funny to actively KNOW that they do this and defend it. Pick me’s are just so delusional.Men know how to f*cking make a bed, this is ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 03:47 PM |
| 173 | Average "Dating" Time Before Engagement in the Early 1900s: Two WeeksI fully believe there are men who know that they want commitment/marriage and pursue efficiently. And you will have no doubt in your mind about his intentions. Anything else is just a guy wasting your time and energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 03:44 PM |
| 10 | When Talk Show Hosts Make Celebrities Uncomfortable (how gross. it's of course mostly women)That's so horrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 11:19 PM |
| 147 | Your anger is a divine blessingMen want to control us and hate that we are actually human beings that they can't control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:38 PM |
| 14 | Giving up sex with men has been the best thing everI've become so unethused with men in general that I personally don't have a desire to have sex with a man. So my body might desire sex sometimes, but I remember that if I were to have sex with a man he'd honestly just ruin it, so I keep all my sexiness to myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:38 PM |
| 31 | Vetting Strategy: Ask a man how he feels about his sexual health.Not one man I was with sexually ever brought up STD testing. I always brought it up. And most of the time they were sure that they didn't have any diseases.. even though the last time they were tested was ... never or a super long time ago. One guy literally thought his annual, preventative care checkups checked for STDs, like without him asking 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 12:47 AM |
| 26 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 45 - Lundy Bancroft Takes The Queens Inside The Minds of Angry & Controlling Men (Part 1)YESSSS can't wait to listen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 03:04 PM |
| 188 | boyfriend lied to me about him hanging out with his exTime to let him go. 🚩he wants to hangout with his ex privately 🚩he broke up with you when you expressed your boundary 🚩he called you immature and controlling when you expressed your boundary 🚩he called you paranoid when you confronted him about his lie | /r/askFDS | 11/01/22 09:55 PM |
| 8 | Found out boyfriend used a prostitute 13 years ago. Heartbroken.I'm so sorry, what a shock that must've been. I would definitely feel appalled as well. I think first step is dealing with the grief and all other emotions you are feeling. Who you thought this man was, wasn't. And that's tough. Personally, I don't care if if his girlfriend just died, or his dog died, or he lost his job, or ... the reason doesn't matter. [Otherwise we should give the thousands++ of men who experience a tragedy a pass to use women for their own sexual gratification? that's silly]… | /r/askFDS | 11/01/22 09:31 PM |
| 110 | Looking the same after babiesI’m so glad a growing community is showing the reality of how a woman’s body changes post birth I'm 27 and I feel like I am just learning about how pregnancy changes a body, and it's thanks to the women who chose to be vocal about their pregnancy experiences | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:30 PM |
| 10 | Man who used woman for sex is mad that she used him for sex. There is no such thing as casual sex. They will always want to keep it casual but do not like it when you treat them the same wayLol this guy sounds so dumb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:01 PM |
| 17 | Pickmeisha me vs FDS enlightened me:For real! I feel like for me, once I realized my own worth and value, and once I respected myself, this became so clear. As women we need to choose ourselves and not compromise ourselves for LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Never accommodating disrespect in 2022 💕YES I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 07:34 PM |
| 37 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?She needs to leave him (or let him leave her) and move on. He clearly doesn't want to be with her and he is not willing to work on it together. And he needs to stop being a coward and take responsibility for what he created. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 07:29 PM |
| 12 | Although painful at first, this perspective will save you so much grief in the long run. A man who is sincere about you will not play mind games. If commitment is not spoken AND shown, it’s overThis. If you are confused, then cut that guy out of your life. You will not feel confused in a healthy relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 12:24 AM |
| 26 | 8 Signs of a Low Value ManThis is great | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:22 PM |
| 28 | Hopeful reminder: HVM existThese things are cute, but I wouldn't call them HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:52 PM |
| 137 | As I was reading this... I was thinking "He must be significantly older than her." But she handled it perfectly. 💅 👑Men telling women that they are beautiful (or really giving any opinion on women for that matter) is not altruistic. It's creepy and it's predatory. We don't care what you think sir, please go away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 152 | Therapist explains how and why 'men don't actually like women'I've been reading books on feminism more and keep hearing this same thing - men don't actually like women, they like to please/show off to other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 09:00 PM |
| 337 | “Merry Christmas from me and my family, whom I hate!”This is disturbing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 04:42 PM |
| 23 | Another Cringey Article Glamorizing Polygamy as Being More 'Secure' and 'Open-Minded': "My Husband's Girlfriend Is One Of My Best Friends. Here's How Our Family Works."It's such a cope. I wish they would just say what it is "My boyfriend doesn't have the capacity to commit to me, and I'd rather stay with him than be alone." "It's not cheating if I tell him he can do it." "I don't trust that I'll find any guy that would commit to me, so might as well be poly, it'll hurt less." etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 02:04 PM |
| 38 | Thoughts on a male heaux phase?I'm glad you are listening to your ick! In addition to the other commenters, I wanted to touch on: It is really hard for me to imagine that other side of him. Had you not found the sexts on his phone, I really think you would've been blindsided in the future about something. It's clear he's good at hiding/compartmentalizing parts of himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 10:42 PM |
| 69 | Sex toys- is your body a plaything or a sacred space?Every time I used toys with guys I was dating, I was basically just being used like a sex doll. So I stopped using toys altogether with guys. I remember telling my ex that if he wanted to use toys on me, I'd just have to use them on him first. He did NOT like that and never mentioned it again 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 10:25 PM |
| 991 | Yep, just about what I expected 😡What's so irritating when people talk about sex work is how sex workers can make so much money. It's a big lie being fed to girls and young women. And yeah when you're 18 and you make $1k over a couple weeks or months you think that's a big deal. But once you're actually an adult with a job you realize you can make that in one paycheck, consistently, with benefits, and don't have to pander to men, sexualize yourself, or lose yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:01 PM |
| 109 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?This is really disturbing. They look like soulless dolls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:03 PM |
| 67 | A ‘perfect’ Xmas gift for your ‘indecisive’ gf: a flipping coin with your names on it. Great, now we can even go 50/50 on date night ideas! And it only costs $10. 🤦🏼♀️If a boyfriend got this for me I would throw it at him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:40 PM |
| 23 | Would you date someone who doesn’t understand misogyny?No. I would also not date someone who thinks they know all about misogyny (because let's be real, they don't). Men have gotten to decide what's best for women for too long. I will not date someone that dismisses my voice or other women's voices on issues that predominantly affect women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 02:52 PM |
| 13 | The tea is hotYesss I love this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 01:27 PM |
| 46 | Excerpt from The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir (translated)Link to pdf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 08:50 PM |
| 24 | The more I read, the more I am getting sure that I really don't want to have to do anything with men.I'm with you. The desire that I used to have to be with a man is just ..gone. It's either the abuse and lies and manipulation, or it's that they're emotionally and socially less developed, or they have addictions, or they're just totally ignorant and entitled. And most don't do sex right. Any way you have it, it just adds more stress to the woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:38 PM |
| 8 | Gaslight-proof way to definitively show yourself you do more than your LV/NV domestic partner: have both of you write down everything you do around the house for a week or month.I read the comments and wanted to let you know that I can definitely see where you're coming from. I did something similar to help myself when I was stuck in a fog. But I did not tell him! I wrote down everything that I did to keep myself a healthy adult (I didn't live with him at the time)- going to therapy, financial health, physical health, academic studies, how I help and care for my friends and family, etc etc. I was genuinely surprised at how much I had to offer as a person. And then I wro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 06:21 PM |
| 21 | Do not let this mentality make you more susceptible to manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse. You do NOT need to ‘see things from his perspective’. All you need is block & delete!This was probably one of the most harmful pieces of advice for me growing up - this advice that gets spewed across all self-help areas. It basically caused me to overthink, to self-doubt, and to allow my boundaries to be crossed/non-existsnt. It does not allow me to choose myself. This advice becomes worthless when talking about an oppressed class of people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:08 PM |
| 187 | Male friends are a myth part 2 ):🤮 Men are gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:59 AM |
| 17 | BE AN UNENCUMBERED GAZELLEShe has a movie called Good On Paper on Netflix and it's really good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:04 PM |
| 8 | Age gapsI'm 27. If I met a man that was 29 and he was dating someone that was 23, I would think very, very poorly of him. I would not date him because it would 100% seem he's preying on a younger woman because he either can't get or isn't attracted to women his age. Either way it's a red flag. Also, a person's brain isn't fully developed until 25, so there's that too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:00 AM |
| 68 | Sexual issues in a HV relationshipI've felt similarly in terms of having been (at some level) traumatized from past sexual experiences as well as feeling used from sexual experiences. Even though my last ex was very gentle and caring, I still couldn't enjoy sex for a lot of the reasons you mentioned. What I'm doing now that has been helping is working on my sexuality on my own, without a man's involvement. I read on this sub once that growing up as girls/women, our sexuality has been shaped a lot by men (via being groomed, preye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 11:00 PM |
| 25 | "women's value is looks, men's value is resources"🤣🤣 dying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 10:46 PM |
| 78 | Misogyny is normalised because it only effects womenI’ve been thinking about this too! I truly believe that it’s because men have held entirely or the vast majority of institutional power. And women have been conditioned in this patriarchial society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 11:09 PM |
| 60 | Imagine celebrating men for doing the bare minimum!She’s in love with a man because he didn’t r*pe her… the bar is in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:34 PM |
| 22 | Just a friendly reminder that men will date and marry women they don’t like.The caption should read - Ain’t she the prettiest, but I don’t know why she is loyal to my dumbass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:09 PM |
| 13 | article: a couple that has mutual rules in their relationship that ban porn, lusting over the opposite sex, sexting and texting with the opposite sex behind each other's back has the scrotes and pickmes on the internet in a rage; media wants to emphasize this is a "Christian" or "religious" thing🤣🤣 dying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 02:34 PM |
| 45 | A refusal to engage: How I came to terms with the reality of pornI meet my ex and he says that he watches porn sparingly (read: a lot). Him: I watch porn once in awhile In reality: he watches it every night under the covers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 10:30 PM |
| 14 | When you find out and they gaslight you anywaysYes sadly. When I first started dating my LVX, I knew something was up. But never really got proof until like a year later. I was able to contact a woman who told me everything. I am still so thankful for her talking with me. Anyways I confronted him, he literally said that I paid some random woman to say bad things about him. LOL. I showed him a picture of her, and he said EW. And that he didn't know her. And yet the blanket (very unique) in the photo is what he gave to me!! Honestly, I never w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 10:24 PM |
| 35 | A refusal to engage: How I came to terms with the reality of pornI've never heard of it described that way - sexual discipline - I love it and it makes total sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 09:10 PM |
| 591 | Red pill favourite Jordan Peterson doesn’t agree with their views on women and dating…"[the average woman] has an elevated sense of self and now they feel like they're above the average man" HAHA. Women are finally seeing their true sense of self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 01:06 AM |
| 136 | Exposure to pornography in childhood can lead to the worst of porn addiction. I don’t think this is happening on accident, either.I remember the first time a guy couldn't get it up with me. It was only the second time we were having sex - we were mid-20s. And it turned me off so so much that I never had sex with him again and we eventually broke up. I never had solid proof (because he deleted everything) but I think he was pornsick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 10:43 PM |
| 216 | Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibesYes and let me delete my search history but porn is totally normal and all men do it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:03 PM |
| 348 | This is what we've been told sex is - and it's pretty dehumanizingScreenshot from Jane Ward's The Tragedy of Heterosexuality -- which quoted an essay from “What I Would Have Said to You Last Night Had You Not Cum and Then Fallen Asleep,” an essay by Reina Gattuso. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:51 PM |
| 31 | Reminder: You have worked too hard to be dragged down by a LVMHey sis, I’m so sorry that happened. Now’s the time to give yourself the utmost compassion. You did the best you could at the time. We all did :). Each day you can decide to choose yourself. That might mean having a good cry. Or picking up a book to study. Or getting into therapy. Either way, your past does not define who you are or what you’re capable of. You got this <3. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:42 PM |
| 474 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.You just met him and he made it uncomfortable for you to tell the truth. Time to move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:21 PM |
| 3 | (TW) Incredible book: The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane WardYes, it was very eye-opening! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:36 AM |
| 16 | Anyone else become disillusioned with their male friends?I was a pickme + majored and worked in a male-dominated field. Now I have majority woman friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:30 AM |
| 5 | I haven't seen a disgusting serial dater like Pete DavidsonI find nothing attractive about him. If it's not a PR stunt like other's have mentioned, they won't last long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:00 AM |
| 22 | "in sickness and in health" must have a fine print clause that says something like: "except menopause of course". Because so many men abandon their wives during middle age it's astounding.100%. They're cowards. They're intentionally not clear. They like to string women along to the last possible second. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 12:40 AM |
| 69 | Men aren’t asking you on coffee dates because they care about your safety or convenience.It's a numbers game for men. They are trying to put out as little effort as possible (a shit test, if you will) to secure what they want from a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 08:20 PM |
| 66 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceThat was hilarious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:12 PM |
| 76 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceI LOVE HER. YESSSS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:12 PM |
| 90 | How much talent has the world lost due to sexism?We would have better knowledge and access to women's healthcare that's for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Have you dated a man that can actually clean up?My dad does most of the cleaning and cooking. He also takes care of the lawn and the cars. All while having a full-time job. I have not dated any guy that cleans up as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:22 PM |
| 17 | Model Christy Giles Found Dead at 24 - three men dropped her dead body outside of a hospital after drugging her and her friends during a night out. THIS IS WHY YOU DON'T TRUST MEN AT ALL.The neighbors heard someone moaning in pain all day - https://www.the-sun.com/news/4099280/christy-giles-update-neighbors-heard-moaning/ I wish someone would've called the cops 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 01:43 PM |
| 7 | Model Christy Giles Found Dead at 24 - three men dropped her dead body outside of a hospital after drugging her and her friends during a night out. THIS IS WHY YOU DON'T TRUST MEN AT ALL.That’s so terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 11:48 AM |
| 76 | Model Christy Giles Found Dead at 24 - three men dropped her dead body outside of a hospital after drugging her and her friends during a night out. THIS IS WHY YOU DON'T TRUST MEN AT ALL.Reading this makes me hate men (again). Not just because they do horrendous things having utter disregard for human life. But because they also continue to create a society that enables the abuse of women. Edit: word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 02:18 AM |
| 13 | Sex work is not a "pure" service job like being a barista or a maid, it is undergirded by the commodification of the female body. Women are viewed and treated like goods.If we compare sex work to say consulting, we also see a big difference. I worked for a consulting company as an analyst, and they would send me to different clients to do analyst work, and my employer took a cut. Baristas, servers, lawyers, doctors, etc. all can be contracted out in some way and still be considered normal. For sex work, imagine a person or company contracting you out for you to have sex with different men. It's easy to see that person is being pimped out/trafficked and it is not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 09:44 PM |
| 33 | Sugarbabies and the trope of "modern dating through female empowerment!"I was a sugar baby and everything you said was spot on. I started in college. I saw social media that glamorized sugar relationships. I also grew up watching the Girls Next Door and the Kardashians. At the time I felt it was empowering. But it wasn't at all. How sad that I (and others) felt that THIS was empowering. That renting out my body to men was empowering. I was used like a sex doll and I'm still working through that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 08:33 PM |
| 7 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.I think one of the handbook posts should be stickied every week because I feel the core message is getting lost. Love this idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 02:52 PM |
| 43 | Love Hard - Netflix Film - Does anyone else see the red flags?Yes definitely. The guy catfished her. He lives in his parent's basement and goes online pretending to be somebody else. And then when caught he blames her (it's because she flew out there, she doesn't like Asians, etc). He used her to pretend he was dating her/engaged. And then in the movie they try to compare all of that her lying about liking rock climbing... which is wrong of course. But then she took all the blame at the end for lying and pretending at the party in front of everyone. And th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:30 PM |
| 7 | Whenever I fight with boyfriend I believe he will leave me the next day. How do I cope with this?It's unlikely you can heal abandonment issues when your partner reacts in an abandonment-like way (being cold, disconnecting emotionally, unsupportive). It sounds like his behavior during a discussion/argument retriggers you which only makes issues you may have worse overtime, not better. People can disagree and still be compassionate and loving towards one another, thus will help you feel more secure during disagreements. Personally I wouldn't want someone to withdraw emotionally like that when… | /r/askFDS | 14/11/21 02:13 PM |
| 221 | My milkshakes bring HVM to the yard!Immature ~jokes~. I can't stand them or the men who say them. Huge red flag for immaturity, insensitivity, lack of awareness, entitlement and more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:39 AM |
| 8 | Former supermodel Paulina Porizkova talks about life as an older woman.This was amazing. Everything she said was so spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:32 PM |
| 3 | The "huh?"Yes thank you for posting. This is abusive behavior that doesn't get enough attention. My ex pretended to not understand whenever I spoke about issues that needed to be resolved. And then it wasn't until I read his cover letters (he was applying to jobs) and remembered he has a master's in philosophy .. that I realized he was one hundred percent capable of understanding and was just manipulating me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Netflix Love Hard movie - typical storyline of giving LVM chances (spoiler alert)Just watched this too through an FDS lens. So much cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:05 PM |
| 485 | If they want to scrutinize your relationships, then scrutinize theirs😂Truth. They settled and they want everyone else to settle too. Misery loves company. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:45 AM |
| 50 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.This is literally so pathetic it’s laughable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:03 AM |
| 343 | Reading a relationship book made me realise I don't want a relationship that muchI actually just read (part) of Why Men Love Bitches, and I was really disappointed. I couldn’t finish it. Some of the tips were good imo, but I reallyy didn’t like the commentary “that’s what men like” etc. For me, I feel like sex has kind of been ruined. The performative sex, the “I should just explore” sex, the “let me do this so my man will like me sex”, etc. And with LV guys that I wasn’t attracted to. Guys want sex and turn everything sexual so much that I just don’t like it anymore. So I c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-inI just started a month-long trip. I'm hoping it will refresh and recharge me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 09:57 PM |
| 12 | Mona Haydar - Dog (ft. Jackie Cruz) Has This been added to the FDS playlist? Sooo many gems and she calls out so many LVM behaviors! The hook plays in my head from time to time when I see a LVM. 🤣🥳Thank you for posting - I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 08:53 PM |
| 5 | Need help with moving on from a long term relationshipI had a similar situation with my ex, he had extreme anger outbursts and would be disrespectful to me. Most of the time he wasn't like that though. So it was hard, because the good times were good. But the bad were scary. And I didn't see that pattern ending. I wasn't asked to move out, but he would do really weird intimidating behaviors - he banged on the walls and doors when I was in my bedroom at night, he also threw my keys out and locked the door during a fight and just watched me as I star… | /r/askFDS | 03/10/21 06:54 PM |
| 208 | if a pacarana can lather his butt, pits, and balls then so can your bfI would adopt a pacarana over a manchild every single time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 06:19 PM |
| 18 | You don’t need to have experience to know he will suck in bedI would add, does he see you and does he know you? Does he pickup your favorite [fill in the blank] while he's out, just because? Does he want to integrate you into his life? i.e. does he introduce you to his family and friends in a respectful way (and then doesn't just leave you to your own devices in a room full of people you don't know)? Does he touch you softly on the shoulder/neck/foot/back and it makes you melt? Does he offer to rub your neck and shoulders (not sexual) and does that make y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 05:55 PM |
| 10 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?I also wouldn't date a male teacher. Every male teacher I know seemed to a big child. It's like they those 6th grader boys are almost their peers in a way. Personally, I am a responsible and serious person so it just wouldn't work for me to date a guy like that. Additionally, I just think a lot of them are pedos to some degree. And I'd rather throw out that whole category than to try to find the one that isn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 05:42 PM |
| 44 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?Guys in tech. They are usually arrogant and hold deep misogyny. They also run in the same crowds with guys who play video games, watch a lot of porn, and are socially awkward/lack empathy. Even if these guys learn some social skills and work on themselves as they got older, they still hold a hatred for women because of their early years of being made fun of, not being able to get any girls, and early and plentiful exposure to women being degraded. They're also intelligent (but cowardly) so there… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 05:35 PM |
| 23 | Lmfao I died at this. Do any Eastern European women agree?I’m ordering Roshen now 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:53 PM |
| 3 | What part of leave me alone do LVM not get?FDS is not similar to incel mentality. Don’t know why it keeps being compared to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 12:47 AM |
| 4 | If you are confused about his intentions, read this. These are the words of men, describing how they behave when they love and respect their woman. Don't accept any excuses, ever!Wow I love all of this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 09:57 PM |
| 2 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡Lmao!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:04 PM |
| 4 | In my LV days, I was using breakups and blocks the wrong wayYeah, basically. Sometimes I would say something like “I wish you well” depending on the situation. If it’s a guy that will try to manipulate you back into a relationship, I would just not say anything and block. And yes exactly - writing it out and talking to a therapist are great too. The more we feel into the grief we experience, the easier it is to see that we deserve more for ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:03 PM |
| 8 | 16 mins of Nikki Glasser saying Pickme.Ah I could only get through about three minutes. Very cringe-y. I feel so sad for women who believe they must sh*t on themselves to be funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:56 PM |
| 61 | Need recommendations for understanding psychology/behavioursWhy Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft How to Spot a Dangerous Man by Sandra Brown These two are a must read! Also in the FDS Handbook they list lots of resources for more learning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:37 PM |
| 11 | Sex work is always coercion, there is never true consent.It's mind-boggling to me that we even need to have this conversation. It's complete misinformation and propaganda, selling younger girls and women on the idea that selling your body is empowering. And it's not just selling your body, it's selling your soul and dignity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 01:24 PM |
| 1 | A BIG indicator of abuseYes, such a good point, thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:57 PM |
| 3 | A BIG indicator of abuseYes, great point. My NVX said something similar - he was always the "logical" one and I should be more like him instead of so emotional. His logic was abusive 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:56 PM |
| 10 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢This is so true. Most of the time for me it’s why did I waste so much time staying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 07:40 PM |
| 15 | Have you guys heard of The Body Language Guy on YouTube? He has a video about Gabby and her abuser that you guys should check out https://youtu.be/E9J0Oz47PAsThat's a great video thank you for posting! It's such a relief to hear someone be able to call out an abusive relationship. Previously, it would make me tense because I feel like the "hysterical woman" would always get blamed. For so long I didn't have the language for it and I'm glad it's being recognized. And I LOVED that the guy in the video said that Brain wasn't a real man. Brian's such a weak coward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:05 PM |
| 170 | Hmm...OH. That clears it up. Definitely no prejudice there. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:52 AM |
| 14 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Sis, you gotta shift your attention. A lot of mental energy is going into thinking about the *fantasy* of him. If you see him, it'll just keep you hooked. Find other hobbies, friends, goals to immerse yourself in. You could even reflect deeply why you really want a guy who isn't interested in you. Eventually this will pass. | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 07:16 PM |
| 231 | Gabby PetitoI could relate so hard to her. Her bright spirit, her seemingly happy and loving relationship via social media and contrastingly the police footage of extreme emotional distress and her body being found. I'm just so heartbroken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-inMy heart is broken for Gabby and her family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:29 AM |
| 44 | My gripes with dating menAgreed. It doesn't benefit me to fall in love with a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 05:55 PM |
| 126 | We are taught that dating and life in general is easier for conventionally attractive women. I think they have it worse.I think both conventionally attractive and unconventionally attractive women have it bad. For reasons that you have said, and, for unconventionally attractive women, they’re riddled with never being good enough and they should take whatever man they can get. NVM prey upon them because they know their insecure and/or don’t get male attention as much. And then these women do things that they probably wouldn’t ever do, just to try to make him happy. And then he still treats her like shit. Men treat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:24 AM |
| 71 | Really worried about the Gabby Petito situation… ladies, please be careful out there.This case is so important to see how toxic relationships can be, especially for young women, how it escalates, how it's life threatening, and how still institutions can't protect women and how women who are abused are seen as just being overly emotional. Her fiance and his family are terrible human beings. I pray that Gabby's family finds peace soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:13 PM |
| 22 | When did you realize that FDS was working for you and helping you make better dating decisions?I realized how much energy most men were draining from me. I can accomplish a lot more on my own without being dragged down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 12:02 AM |
| 25 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”This exactly. It’s not talked about enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 07:56 AM |
| 45 | Needing advice on how picky to be regarding a man's careerI would think about a couple things. 1 - How generous is he with his time, money and attention? 2 - How passionate, ambitious, or helpful is he to you, his work, his family, and his community? 3 - How would you feel if you had to pay for things so that you both can enjoy the lifestyle you want? I would be okay with a man earning less than me if he was extremely generous with what he does have (pays for dinners, things around the house, general living costs, etc), or adds significant value in ano… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 06:34 PM |
| 33 | All Women Should Watch This: How a LV, Violent Scrote Can Gaslight People (and You) into Believing He's the VictimI didn't watch the video, but just reading this makes me so mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 05:54 PM |
| 5 | Reality vs FantasyI love this post so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 11:16 PM |
| 41 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureWomen already are the ones buying birth control, making dr appointments for annual checkups at the gyno, paying copays for some birth control, and then having to the the responsible ones to keep it up to date /take it at the same time of day, etc. Yepp all of this. I visited their website and it does feel so misogynistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:10 PM |
| 11 | How would he act if he had power?I like this question! It really helps to identify a man's character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:23 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Check-inI agree. I have been skipping over the male depravity posts (although I still see some of it) because it's depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:30 PM |
| 14 | What YOU do wrongSo I'm mixed on point one. I definitely think it could be worded better. Because women should absolutely have the right to wear what they want without being blamed that their clothing choice caused xyz. For a long time, women's clothing choices have been controlled. Women who were assaulted got blamed for what they were wearing. That they were asking for it. They they were asking for a shitty dude to come near them. No. That being said, I think there should be a distinction of what we wear vs wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:28 PM |
| 67 | Weekly FDS Check-inI've been reading How to Spot a Dangerous Man by Sandra Brown and I love it! I'll probably make a book report post on it when I'm done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:09 PM |
| 58 | AI Deepfake app allows users to face swap women's faces into porn. There are also one where they can digitally remove your clothes. Lo and behold this kind of thing gained popularity on Reddit and was said to be created here.Men are disgusting and this is horrifying.Exactly this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:55 AM |
| 168 | AI Deepfake app allows users to face swap women's faces into porn. There are also one where they can digitally remove your clothes. Lo and behold this kind of thing gained popularity on Reddit and was said to be created here.Men are disgusting and this is horrifying.I completely agree. Example. Men who pay for prostitutes like the fact that these women wouldn’t normally have sex with them if the men weren’t paying for them, the men feel in control. Alternatively, men who don’t want to pay for prostitutes, don’t want to because it’s too easy, they want to be able to coerce more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:24 AM |
| 165 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?I’m keeping my last name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:17 AM |
| 143 | Men continue to stay in power because the average woman does not understand how they truly think.When I see a man being nice to a woman, I see it as an act. An act that he's supposed to do to get xyz. And that's why so often in a relationship a man suddenly becomes distant or disrespectful. It was never in their hearts. Women have been property of men since the dawn of time. They haven't shifted into respecting and caring for us as human. Edit: I think every woman needs to read Why Does He Do That. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 08:40 PM |
| 123 | Empowering Question to Women Engaging in Hookup Culture (watch till the end)This makes me think about how my self-worth has been broken down over time. And definitely that of women as a whole. We are worth so much more. Thank you for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 01:57 AM |
| 72 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptIt's amazing how many guys I've known in my life that don't have/do majority of what's on this list. And it literally is just being a healthy, decent adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 02:14 AM |
| 42 | The Harsh Reality of Betrayal Trauma and Coming From a Severely Disadvantaged Upbringing to Discovering FDSSaving this. Thank you OP 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 02:05 AM |
| 90 | What was your moment of clarity?I've had many moments of clarity. Most happened when I was away from the guy I was dating -- on a trip or hanging with friends, where I started to become myself again. That's when I realized I was losing myself in my relationships. Then the next time I hungout with the guy, I realized how incompatible/immature/unattractive/etc he was. Just needed some space to see it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:37 PM |
| 146 | I feel like this needs to be said, but let’s stop praising men for doing the bare minimumI completely agree. I was just reading a book this morning (How to Spot a Dangerous Man by Sandra Brown) where she said that the problem women face is they experience being treated poorly (lack of attentiveness, availability, poor communication, immaturity, mental health issues, abuse etc etc) and then the next man they meet seems amazing because all they've experienced is this lackluster treatment when usually the man is just doing the bare minimum, or a lot of times worse, are able to capitali… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:29 PM |
| 26 | I feel like this needs to be said, but let’s stop praising men for doing the bare minimumI like this idea | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:24 PM |
| 6 | Looks are so importantYes. One guy I dated had a flabby loose ass 😣 definitely unattractive on a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 12:48 PM |
| 69 | Looks are so importantSame here. Looking back most of my boyfriends were not attractive. But I was hot (*still am*). I thought that was all that I deserved. And that looks don't matter. No longer will I date a guy I'm not physically attracted to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 12:43 AM |
| 37 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Same here, I am aware of the LV and predatory men that I attract | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 07:10 PM |
| 10 | How do you feel about video games?I'm the same way with a guy watching a lot of sports. I grew up in a area where it seemed like every family loooved watching sports, so I thought it was just something I had to accept. Glad to know there are men out there who don't care about watching sports all that much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:21 PM |
| 11 | How do you feel about video games?Personally I won't date a man that plays video games. Part of it is definitely because there are a lot LV guys who play, but also part of it is because I just personally don't like video games. I believe we would be too different. It's the same with me for drinking because I rarely drink (like a couple drinks per year), and so someone that drinks much more than rarely is out for me. It becomes a compatibility issue. I think it's perfectly acceptable to just not want a man that plays video games,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:19 PM |
| 58 | Men who have no talking gameThey either aren’t putting in effort or they have issues connecting to people/themselves likely from stunted emotional and social development. Either way they are not HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 02:55 PM |
| 3 | UPDATE: If he needs space from the relationship, it's a noYes this. I spent too much time trying to analyze exes and myself. The feeling is truly all that's needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:19 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Check-inOh that's so exciting! Here's what I added to my apartment to make it warmer - curtains, salt lamps, blankets, a rug, artwork, a bookshelf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:07 PM |
| 27 | Weekly FDS Check-inI hear back about a job offer at the end of the week. It would require me to move across the country. I'm nervous about such a big decision. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 36 | Leveling up this weekI'm taking this week for me - I made no plans and am freshening up my apartment - I have all the windows open and fans going and am doing some cleaning and reorganizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Set your account to not allow followersThank you I just changed my account to no followers! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 01:01 AM |
| 68 | What makes YOU so amazing??!♦️ I can face my fears head on ♦️ I take care of animals ♦️ My brain is quicker than most ♦️ I'm supportive and encouraging ♦️ I'm spontaneous ♦️ With everything I've been through in life, I'm still alive and thriving with a compassionate heart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 12:58 AM |
| 25 | Men want to believe porn is empowering to women so they can to consume it without guiltWhat gets me recently is why are men deciding what's empowering for women? Like when have they ever stood up for causes so selflessly? There are a ton of different causes in the world, (collectively that they caused), why did they decide this is one that they feel passionately about to speak up and suPpoRt? It's total BS. Most don't even understand what empowerment truly means. They are just trying to gaslight everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 11:44 AM |
| 110 | What Experts Know About Men Who RapeIt's just disturbing. To be able to blatantly admit to nonconsenual sex (but not rape 🤡), whether it be in response to an ad or as part of a study.... that's privilege and institutional power. Men know they don't see women as equal and use them for sex, in whatever way they can get it. I'm glad they study rapists that have been convicted vs rapists that aren't convicted because that's such an important distinction when majority of rape victims don't report and majority rapists that are reported,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 06:53 PM |
| 121 | Absolutely horrifying. Can’t believe this isn’t getting the attention needed. A disgusting LVX who groomed a young woman and manipulated her into marrying him.Omg he is extremely disgusting. Men like him need to be in jail. How is this so normalized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 12:08 AM |
| 15 | Normalize narcing. Women deserve to know who they’re married to.Yes yes yes. I reached out to a woman to inquire more about a guy I was seeing at the time. She talked on the phone with me for an hour, answered all my questions and gave me tons of information. I'm incredibly grateful for her. All the confusion and gaslighting was gone. I could see a much fuller, clearer picture. This 100% needs to be normalized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:56 PM |
| 40 | This is really sad and honestly terrifyingSex has become so pornified | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 04:05 PM |
| 45 | Imagine a LVM giving this to you as a gift…..I feel bad for the girl that received this… Can we not encourage this behaviour?!If it was the same but for women, there’d be so many negative comments for it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 08:11 PM |
| 76 | Red Pill Scrotes are planning to invade Mexico and spread diseaseThat title 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 01:43 AM |
| 134 | Ask men who want casual sex why they don’t just hire sex workers and watch them explode. Why? They chase women who want commitment because it’s predatory!It’s like a game to them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 01:27 AM |
| 3 | It's not him being turned off, it's meWho writes these articles! They belong in the 🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 01:21 AM |
| 22 | Dropping truth bombs....I love this woman 👑I don't think I ever wanted the d - the guys attached to it were not that great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 12:30 AM |
| 17 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!Someone commented in another post that men are only protectors when they want to control women, which I think is spot on. And then there are the men who feel like they are heroes from all the media they’ve consumed, but then don’t have the courage to actually be one. What I’m learning more and more on this sub is that men are weak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 11:06 PM |
| 191 | Scrotes in the comments were pissed😂 Keep raising those standards queens👑She nailed it. I find myself thinking “well he knows how to control his anger.” ie he doesn’t take it out on me. Like what!! It’s really the bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:44 PM |
| 26 | PickmeI bet it slid while she was taking the ring on/off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:54 AM |
| 7 | Confronting a Cheating Ex & Removing His FriendsI would add, after writing the letter to him (that you don't send), write a long letter from him to you, with the response you wish to hear from him. It can be very therapeutic. | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 05:20 PM |
| 12 | Currently getting some downvotes on a FEMINIST subreddit for saying her "friend" probably objectifies women, so that's why he got defensive and is trying to shame her. 🤗I think there's a difference between appreciating beauty and sexualizing it. All sexualizing is objectifying imo. And most often men are sexualizing beauty, which feels dehumanizing. Women know the difference. Her male friend is a pos. I've stopped asking guys about things like this - from porn to even assault, they operate from a place of entitlement, ignorance and benefit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 12:35 PM |
| 828 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑Her boyfriend supports sex work because he enjoys jerking off to women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:00 PM |
| 14 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.Exactly this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 01:18 PM |
| 20 | OLD in one picGross gross gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 01:11 PM |
| 6 | Financial AbuseThank you for posting this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 01:10 PM |
| 33 | WOC, what modified/additional rules do you have to avoid men with race/culture fetishes?Honestly the biggest issues for me is just the general ignorance of white men. And unfortunately I grew up in a very white, non-diverse area. So everything from my appearance, to my family's traditions, to food, etc was always just considered "different." Most men (and school and society generally) where I live aren't appreciative of my culture, and it's basically seen as "other." So the guys that I've dated have been all white and I realize I've never been able to actually relate to them in suc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 12:43 PM |
| 6 | Horrified at the scrotes in the comments defending this POS, and the pickmes trying to make him feel better about doing a runner, leaving his girlfriend and her 7yo nephew at the site during an active shooter attack.If you don't want to be a coward then ... don't be a coward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 12:28 PM |
| 205 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyWow that was weirdly scary for me to read. Very informative! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 02:11 AM |
| 21 | I broke up with my boyfriend because he uses p0rndying 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 11:42 PM |
| 20 | I broke up with my boyfriend because he uses p0rnAhh this made me cringe :/ poor girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 11:41 PM |
| 57 | Welp this proves it.This is so spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 11:26 PM |
| 147 | I broke up with my boyfriend because he uses p0rnAmazing OP! Not only was he a porn addict, he was incredibly disrespectful and even tried to manipulate you to not uphold your boundary. This would’ve only caused problems down the line. Good for you 💗 Edit: a word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 06:51 PM |
| 45 | There's a "promaledatingstrategy" to contradict FDS. Men really don't know how to act when women have had enough.It’s so messed up. MeToo takes away their power by not being able to freely assault women and to not be called out on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 05:47 PM |
| 10 | There's a "promaledatingstrategy" to contradict FDS. Men really don't know how to act when women have had enough.Imagine having nothing better to do with your time than to completely invent a false narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 05:44 PM |
| 19 | Friendly reminders 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼Yes #2 is SO important. A confusing man is a dangerous man. I live by this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 24 | Men have no ability to emotionally regulate because society has been coddling their feelings from the moment they were bornThis is such a good point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 12:57 PM |
| 57 | Men have no ability to emotionally regulate because society has been coddling their feelings from the moment they were bornYes all of this. Men never had to go through anything what a woman has and it’s made them so weak and entitled. Additionally, men have ALWAYS had institutional power behind them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 12:55 PM |
| 5 | Oh noes mummy messed up lunchI hope she is getting paid to be a lunch maid who deals with a manchild | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:48 AM |
| 7 | Oh noes mummy messed up lunchOmg 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:47 AM |
| 58 | When you hear a man say anything along the lines of “men require sex”, RUNWhat’s so scary is that many men believe it, but don’t say it outwardly, and then they still will likely do anything to get that fulfilled, just in a more secretive and manipulative way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:45 AM |
| 9 | This is too spot on...I hate how women have been so gaslit. FDS is so needed for women! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 12:13 AM |
| 76 | The “sex work is work” mantra is kind of condescending coming from women who thought women being dependent on sexual service to one man for our livelihood was oppressiveExactly THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 12:03 AM |
| 9 | Man 36m lies about divorce to 29f gf. Input girls?I agree with the other commenters. He destroyed trust. She should do whatever she pleases and it sounds like she wants space away from him. I also don’t really see the point of you trying to help him “get her back” and seems not in alignment with what this sub is for. Edit: he also doesn’t want to post this on his own Reddit account because his gf knows his account, which just sounds like he’s continuing to be dishonest | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:58 PM |
| 44 | I reported a comment where a dude confesses that his friend confessed to “looking at pictures” Reddit says there’s no violation. WHAT?!?!?!Ugh gross. Men use Reddit to anonymously say their thoughts and secrets and then they bond over it and don’t feel ashamed for their disgusting behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:16 PM |
| 16 | Why his music taste is extremely important during the vetting process.This is a good point and probably why I’m not into most men. I find that most music, and entertainment, is low value and personally don’t care for partaking in it. I do like listening to other cultures music though, and probably because I don’t know the language, it doesn’t totally turn me off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:58 PM |
| 121 | Psychologist ScroteMen (and boys) are so coddled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:26 AM |
| 188 | TW: Just a reminder. What we learn here can save your life.I would like to unsubscribe from earth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 11:22 PM |
| 6 | This girls IG is every red pill mans fantasy 🙄This used to be my belief 🤦 She is definitely believing a fantasy. I feel 100x better nurturing and providing for myself, and not let men who treat me any less than I fully deserve take up any space in my life. They need to treat me better than I treat myself to even be considered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:40 PM |
| 31 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("Sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:36 PM |
| 21 | drink datesDrink dates are seriously so low effort. And I'm with you, I rarely drink. The last thing I'd do is get drinks with some random guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 01:32 PM |
| 155 | Along the same lines as the post about not being afraid to lie - saw this infographic on FB the other day, very helpful for the "too-friendly" of usWow Safr sounds amazing - I hope they expand to all of the US | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 02:22 AM |
| 12 | The nerve of this disgusting LVM to comment on his gf’s choice of clothing when his underwear looks like that… and she thinks it’s funny/quirky?! Yikes. 🤢Hahah whattt... what happened to the crotch 🤣🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 12:35 AM |
| 51 | I’m so tired of hearing that women are “lucky” because we get free drinks at bars or get into nightclubs for free.Imagine if women collectively stopped going to clubs... they would completely shut down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 12:33 AM |
| 88 | Along the same lines as the post about not being afraid to lie - saw this infographic on FB the other day, very helpful for the "too-friendly" of usMe too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 12:29 AM |
| 118 | Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.Yeah sex work is not empowering. It took me awhile to understand that (thanks fds!) I seriously wish women and girls would realize this and stop being the cool girl (the ones that are choosing to go into sex work by choice). Also men want their cake and to eat it too. They know watching OF and porn is dehumanizing, yet they do it anyways. And they want a woman who “respects herself” - well a woman who respects herself will not put up with guys that watch that disgusting content. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:38 PM |
| 63 | Confused and at loss for wordsNo you're being reasonable. His responses were not appropriate - they were invalidating, belittling and manipulative as he made it seem like something was wrong with you (thus you ask if you are "crazy"). A HVM will not call you insecure, will not name a bogus reason for interacting with an ex, and will not consider talking your relationship a waste of time. Read Why Does He Do That if you haven't already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 12:48 AM |
| 46 | This is what reproducing with a LVM looks like. She says she paid for everything her last pregnancy (getting by on her savings) and that he won't let her be a SAHM even though her whole salary goes towards childcare."should my husband pay for half of the extra food I eat while pregnant? I don’t want come off as a leech!" 🤣🤣omg dying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 02:00 PM |
| 33 | This is what reproducing with a LVM looks like. She says she paid for everything her last pregnancy (getting by on her savings) and that he won't let her be a SAHM even though her whole salary goes towards childcare.This is so messed up. He should've already been offering to pay for everything. She shouldn't be with such a LVM. Man: Let's mutually agree to have kids. I will insert my d*ck vigorously into you until I feel ecstasy where I orgasm. You will most likely not orgasm. Then you must carry and grow the baby inside of you for 9 months, enduring all of the side effects of pregnancy, and and must go into a painful labor, and then feed the newborn with your body and take care of it. I will continue livin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:57 PM |
| 19 | Libfem Empowerment 🤣🤣This is so funny! It highlights how women are being gaslit and gaslighting themselves into pseudo-empowerment. It'd be awesome if they created one on kink and sex work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:23 AM |
| 5 | What is it about video games that I, and many others, find so repulsive?So I am someone that is hugely turned off by any guy that plays video games. Even just "sometimes". I don't like it because they are putting all this effort into a fantasy. They are gaining pseudo confidence in something entirely fake. I also don't like majority of video games themselves because I find it like cartoon-ish and juvenile. Watching a movie and listening to music is passive. A guy playing video games is expending energy into some fantasy, unrealistic world and I find that unattractiv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:53 AM |
| 45 | this sub helped me regain trust in my instinctsOmg great to hear!! I can totally relate. I was becoming sex work positive and sex positive but I feel so much more empowered saying no to all sexual situations that I’m not completely enthusiastic about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:54 PM |
| 21 | Every woman should read the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy BancroftYes totally agree! I never considered myself in an abusive relationship but the book was still beyond helpful and I found many examples that I could relate to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:51 PM |
| 27 | This is actually my worst nightmare. It was posted on a "wholsome" sub.Luckily video games are such a huge turn off for me and will never be with a guy who plays them 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 12:33 PM |
| 402 | From a video about pick up artistsWanting a vulnerable woman is predatory | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:11 PM |
| 888 | Imagine needing pixels to get in the mood..I LOVE that she said "And when I finally have the courage to divorce my husband". Yesss queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:20 PM |
| 4 | What is FDS's stance on dating men who work in really competitive fields where only the most successful people earn a decent amount or loads of money?The way I think about this is, is a guy investing in himself or for a future relationship? A guy can have dreams. But if he wants a relationship, he must also have ambition to provide, which means he has to get some sort of steady job and be financially savvy, recognizing that chances are slim to make decent money as [fill in the blank]. If he is only spending time on this "potential" then he's not ready for a relationship; what can he provide at that point? You would be supporting him. If he's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:50 PM |
| 8 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.Hopefully this is fake. But either way, this is a prime example of why sex work is not empowering for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:06 PM |
| 18 | When in relationships HVM try to compensate for societal misogyny; LVM try to capitalize on itVery well said!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:14 PM |
| 3 | My husband is worried about the stray cats I feedThat's so wonderful OP 💖 When I was staying with my parents during covid, I was feeding a feral cat. Sadly he got really sick. My dad doesn't like pets of any kind and complains about my mom and I spending money and time trying to help them. But one day he said "I made chicken broth for the cat, it's cooling on the counter." It was literally the only thing the cat could get down. 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 10:28 PM |
| 4 | Pick-me-men.Mine too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:24 PM |
| 15 | I’m 19 and I like older men. Is this bad?Any man aged 30+ that would have a relationship with you is a predator. When I was younger, I used to feel similarly. But now I'm 27 now and every once in awhile I see a guy around 30 with a college-aged girl and it's WEIRD. It's like everyone my age now knows that something is off with those guys. Even if they carry esteemed positions. And honestly it looks like the girl is naive and believing some sort of fantasy (not her fault at all). Work on yourself. Focus on school. Build your friendships… | /r/askFDS | 10/08/21 12:34 PM |
| 73 | Pick-me-men.I am with you and I too have been with these men. I think in some ways these guys are worse because like you said, they choose what to omit to you and so you never know what their true thoughts and feelings are, but they pretend/act very well. It's very manipulative. I would reserve the phrase pickme men to the men that are seeking other men's validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:56 AM |
| 5 | I am SO tired of the misogyny, negging, persistent pushy rape culture and cringey male princess demands peddled by so called ‘pick up artist guru’s’ online. Notice the tone of his language wreaks of perceived entitlement to womens attention.I love this 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 10:30 PM |
| 90 | The F*ck boy hotline. See? Men know what they’re doing.Hilarious! And accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:45 AM |
| 24 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayThis is amazing. Imagine if every woman did this the minute they saw a glaring red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 04:06 PM |
| 61 | Yet another example of emotional abuse when girls under 20 get groomed and marry older men with significant age gaps. This husband threatens to cheat when he doesn’t get what he wants with his young wife. They have 2 kids…This is so heartbreaking and infuriating. Her husband is so entitled and abusive. I hope she gets support and leaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:23 PM |
| 44 | For those who remember Derrick Jackson, he cheated on his girlfriend (now wife) when they were dating in college.This is why women need to be taught to leave whenever they feel something is up. You don't need concrete evidence, you don't need his reaSsurAnce, you don't need to try to figure or work things out, you just need to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:55 PM |
| 223 | Nothin but facts 🗣This is so true. Sometimes I worry that the men who are attracted to me are total creeps. I'm small and sometimes get told I look like I'm in high school. So now I like wearing suits and business professional outfits because it looks and feels like I'm an adult, no pedos creepily watching me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:41 AM |
| 283 | I’m disgusted but I’m not shocked at all. It’s very common for families to shield abusers and put their young children at risk to be abused. You’re not safe from male depravity even when you share blood.Women like her aunt seriously must have so much denial and internalized gaslighting just to cope. The fact that there are so so many men out there that get off on child abuse, it's disgusting and so sad. If anyone I knew was outted as a pedo, I would cut off contact with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:37 AM |
| 7 | Alrighty Queens, time to start spreading. These *should* work but let me know if not!Omg great idea OP!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:59 PM |
| 5 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…This sums it up perfectly. I can't stand these guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:43 AM |
| 52 | 97% of modern birds do not have penises because of female bird choice!Birds are now my favorite animal 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 15 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieVery well said. Thank you for posting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:35 AM |
| 21 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMIt sounds like he likes having intimate connections with women. And there are way too many women in this guy's life. His behavior makes you feel unsafe and insecure in the relationship. A healthy relationship will make you feel safe and secure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:20 AM |
| 12 | Incognito modeI just want to say that I dislike the lying and the deceit too. I have no problem with snooping, I just also don't like the time and energy I have to expend to do that. I just want an honest man with integrity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:40 PM |
| 7 | Incognito modeCan you do that on an iphone? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:35 PM |
| 150 | What tell-tale signs or How to vet for a guy that won't cheat after x amount of years?Others thought I was overreacting or being insecure for breaking up because I felt like my ex was going to cheat given the chance. But like no, he constantly filled whatever needs he had with the wrong things, he sought validation from others, and he has family pressure to have his own family. Thank you for writing this out, very well said!! Always trust your intuition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:02 PM |
| 24 | I’d like to hear your opinions here.Good for her. I wouldn't want a man who's still in school living with me in my house completely free. He's gotta contribute something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:14 AM |
| 16 | Grimes not even at the 50% rule with the richest man in the world smhAhh the pictures are kinda creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 12:22 AM |
| 11 | This is why pickmeishas are dangerous… she wants to be instrumental in causing a girl’s trauma all to be friends with her bf’s friends 😠😠This. is. so. messed. up. Stop liking him (bc she totally does) and trying to fix him and get this disrespectful, entitled ass out of your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:49 PM |
| 10 | Man scouted Ohio college in mass shooting plot to ‘slaughter’ women, Feds sayI hope he goes away for a long time. This should also be considered terrorism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:01 PM |
| 115 | When did it “click” for you that’s what posted here/the principles were helping/helped you? Let’s start a list for others…When I first came across FDS. I read post after post and thought it was so incredible. Like all my most innermost thoughts and feelings that I experienced or witnessed, were so validated. I no longer had to believe what I feel has been pushed down my throat during my life. And then some things I didn't know but just clicked - The emotional labor that is put on women to cOmmUnicate and coMMunicAte and commUNcatE. Like no. Never again will I waste my precious time and energy trying to fix, solve, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 01:03 AM |
| 23 | Porn teaches men to derive pleasure from causing women pain. This blatant misogyny is in full view and being promoted by lvm and libfems with internalized misogynyYes yes this. All of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Just watched Black Widow.. We should make something better than the Bechdel test to rate movies.Omg yes movies with no close boobs or ass shot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:30 PM |
| 9 | Just Found This Empowering TikTok Channel Today. Some Great Advice In Here Especially for Younger Women Working on Dismantling Their ProgrammingI love this so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:09 PM |
| 358 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?I had a boyfriend who would finish super quickly and tell me how he is more evolved because he can procreate more efficiently. LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 12:58 AM |
| 68 | How Can You Become The Most Dangerous Version Of Yourself.I love this! As women we are taught by society that the power we hold is in our looks or as sex objects. But that is entirely one-dimensional and ultimately out of our control because it relies upon the male gaze. This is a really great, practical list -- we have so many more tools in our arsenals than just our looks. I especially like "become friends with front desk workers [...] because they have access to information that others do not". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:58 AM |
| 27 | Some Notes on AngerYes, it can be. I just mean the behavior someone takes while angry. So someone can get angry and that is just a feeling/emotion, and then someone can act on that feeling in a positive or negative way. The actions taken can be walking away, asserting a boundary, name-calling, suppressing the emotion, taking it out on someone etc. I just pointed out the distinction here because sometimes anger gets a bad rep because people might assume it's like punching walls, alternatively if I say anger is good… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 09:47 PM |
| 33 | Opinion: surrogacy is on the same transactional spectrum as porn and prostitutionYou can work at almost any job and make $15k in less than 9 months anddd it wouldn't permanently change your body nor would you have to go through emotional or physical trauma. $15k is totally laughable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 04:51 PM |
| 5 | Come join us on Tik Tok! We’re going to start creating more content there and welcome your feedback/ ideas 👑👇Can’t wait!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 11:15 PM |
| 19 | This girl’s TikTok of other male students making rape jokes in class was posted to another sub. This is what the average redditor thinks.When I was a freshman in college majoring in computer science, my two guy friends and I were walking downtown at night and they joked about raping me in an alley... We called each other *best* friends. So crazy. I was so misguided. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 02:34 AM |
| 5 | This girl’s TikTok of other male students making rape jokes in class was posted to another sub. This is what the average redditor thinks.Rape jokes can't exist because there are hundreds, if not thousands, of women raped every day. Rape isn't a joke. Rape jokes are threats. Imagine if the students were talking like this about school shootings. I bet they would receive consequences. Because school shootings are not a joke and are a threat to our society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 02:28 AM |
| 10 | The new dating scam.Wow... Glad she just blocked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:16 PM |
| 10 | The truth tea ☕️🐸I can't wait to do this. I cut out two LVM guy friends in my life recently. It seriously just feels better and better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:13 PM |
| 56 | This girl’s TikTok of other male students making rape jokes in class was posted to another sub. This is what the average redditor thinks.I couldn't even read these, they are disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:10 PM |
| 11 | Low effort is now the bare minimumomg lmao yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:07 PM |
| 64 | Perfect.Love how clear this is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:05 PM |
| 22 | If this is not ultimate FDS energy I don’t know what is 🤣I love that movie! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 01:47 PM |
| 33 | Feeling down because...I’m not interested in men anymore?Just want to say I can totally relate. | /r/askFDS | 16/07/21 03:32 AM |
| 3 | He makes a ton of money. Why is he upset over this?If he makes good money then he'll make that $4k (or his share, $2k) in one paycheck... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 03:07 AM |
| 5 | He makes a ton of money. Why is he upset over this?Yes, exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 03:02 AM |
| 36 | She found cp on her husband's computer and is wondering if she should leave him 🤦🏽♀️women really are this brainwashed. She has two little girls with him.Yeah I agree that sub needs rules around cp | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 10:15 PM |
| 77 | Don’t you just love it when LVM tell on themselves? Do not settle for a man you have to “change.” You’re not a therapist. A HVM will see your worth without expecting you to “fix” him!Yes, agreed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 09:47 PM |
| 1 | VICE (🤢) News: Inside the Hunt for the Porn King — “every single day, the equivalent of half of Netflix’s entire library is uploaded onto PH” — there never seems to be any accountability!!!Terrifying numbers. PornHub is the 9th most visited site on the internet, gets 3 BILLION hits per month, and an unbelievable amount of daily uploads. I also can't help to think that the journalists watch porn, probably sometimes from PH. 🤮I literally don't like guys. Also, it is so sketchy that any information about PH's CEO is completely scrubbed from the internet. Such a hypocrite that he won't effing take down videos of girls when they literally say they're underage or that they did not conse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 09:45 PM |
| 8 | Still think that making an OF is "female empowerment"?Gross. He said he PONDERED about it and still jacked off to his cousin. Like I really wonder what his thought process was to end up thinking that jacking off to his cousin had more pros than cons. There’s literally millions of videos and women out there, and he chooses, his cousin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 12:24 AM |
| 71 | we can’t do anything right…Society [patriarchy] is always trying to control us so that we never feel good enough the way we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 08:36 PM |
| 175 | Vetting Men by their job positionHaving majored and worked in tech, I agree that tech guys are totally out for me. They tend to be misogynistic and arrogant. They also usually are on weird (more misogynistic) online threads or forums. I think they have deep-rooted anger for women. They also know how to hide and wipe everything clean on their devices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:13 AM |
| 6 | I don’t know if you’ve guys have seen this account. But it’s literally just the husband “simping” over his wife even after 24 years of marriage. And I’m down for it, it’s so bloody cute.Beautiful!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 09:12 PM |
| 119 | Why the overwhelming majority of divorces are initiated by women.Men are shocked! because they thought they could control their wife enough to stay in the relationship. They are not shocked that the wife was unhappy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with an unsupportive familyThank you. It's so weird to think about cutting off (even just for a moment) my family, like I know to do it with men, friends, co-workers, but I definitely need to bc I see them every other day which is taking too much of a toll. I just looked up gray rocking and I did that (without knowing what it was) during childhood to my older sister. Confirmation that she bullied me. | /r/askFDS | 13/07/21 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with an unsupportive familyI resonated with this so so much. It helps a lot. Thank you. | /r/askFDS | 13/07/21 06:11 PM |
| 64 | Ikea knows what's upOmggg 🤣 I legit would buy this just to have a reminder, and laugh, every time I saw it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:46 PM |
| 58 | Why do so many women think they need violent sex now?I’m glad I finally value and care about myself enough to not engage and be convinced into thinking I like BDSM. I was definitely going down that route, bought a BDSM starter kit and everything, but luckily I was really starting to heal and never ended up wanting to use it. I’m glad you’re speaking up to your friends about it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:42 PM |
| 2 | This is nothing but truth.100% this is the absolute first thing I do when vetting a new guy. Can and will they respect a boundary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:53 PM |
| 3 | How to Level up from a Pickme to a HVW! (It's about speaking up and drawing boundaries!)LOVE!! PREACH 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:46 PM |
| 7 | So the LVM in my city are pulling this now. Thoughts on how to respond ladies? It was that “let me get the first you get the second” line. She declined a 2d date and got this in reply.Wowwww no. Just block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:40 PM |
| 23 | Never, ever let men sexually manipulate youIt really is predatory behavior. Men Will Fuck Anything needs to be a motto to girls and women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:35 PM |
| 15 | It bothers me how casually men joke about violence or rape.Ugh yes. Until finding FDS, I really thought that I actually was too uptight. Like I just couldn't relax iTs a JokE. Like wtf. It's so clear now. Guys who joke about violence and rape are the one's who are messed up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:27 PM |
| 34 | Start by rebuilding your sex life with yourselfI love this! Thank you for posting. I think I'm more of a sensualist too. Recently I have been wondering about my own sexuality. My sex drive has gone down and I think it's because my body has felt so used from pornified, male-gaze-y sex acts. I love the idea of treating my solo sex life as self-care and as a spiritual, creative expression 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:23 PM |
| 3 | “Water always meets its level”YESSS!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Covert NarcissistI would suggest trying somatic group therapy. Specifically a retreat or weekend intensive. It would help with emotional flashbacks and stuck energy, and doing it in a group helps with the healing that needs others witnessing, holding space and supporting you. I did move to a different state for a year after not being able to heal from my ex, and being around my family was just as triggering. It did wonders. When I came back I was able to function one hundred times better. All of your feelings ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:05 PM |
| 39 | have you ever done something sexual you didn’t enjoy? too bad! you now owe it to all future partners /sHe probably doesn't even care why she doesn't want to do those *mostly degrading* acts. He just feels entitled to her to do them, like it's owed to him, since she's done them with others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 09:08 PM |
| 51 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡This is very sad :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:13 PM |
| 17 | "You need to forgive!"I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 07:42 PM |
| 18 | "You need to forgive!"Yes this. The way I see it, forgiveness is for myself. For believing and trusting when I shouldn’t have. To have compassion for myself. A guy saying that I need to forgive, after something HE did?? That I need to “move on”. That’s manipulative and extremely low value. Bye boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 07:32 PM |
| 5 | “I’m gonna lie to you if I think it’s in your best interest”“I’m gonna lie to you if I think it’s in your best interest” is a lie in itself And his dealbreaker about being with someone who doesn't trust him is like the biggest red flag. Same as "You have to believe everything I tell you, not your own instinct or intuition. You must trust me more than yourself. I must have the control." The gaslighting and mental gymnastics, omg, it is so exhausting dealing with these men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 10:24 PM |
| 13 | Cry me a river.This is so accurate omg 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Got a new, better paying job in May and wanted to reward my hard work. No one treats me better than I treat myself.Love this!! Amazing 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 01:18 PM |
| 9 | FDS Weekly Chat / Check-InI realized that I don't want to give oral sex anymore (and totally good with not receiving it either). It just feels.. degrading to me. Does anyone else feel similarly? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 01:49 AM |
| 5 | FDS Weekly Chat / Check-InI am reading White Fragility by Robin Diangelo (about one third of the way through) and it's striking how so much of what she says about racism can be applied to sexism. She talks about how the vast vast majority of people in power, including media and entertainment, are white men. She talks about the entitlement and defensive tactics behind privilege. Very good book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 10:05 PM |
| 10 | YOU COULD GIVE A MAN YOUR KIDNEY AND HE COULD STILL CHEAT ON YOU. WAKE TF UP SISA boyfriend or husband is never getting my kidney 🤭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 02:01 PM |
| 21 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meHahaha he is trying so hard to paint her in a bad light... but he can't. She sounds driven and successful. He can't take it. Hope she drops this insecure and controlling lvm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:40 PM |
| 14 | Subtle signs of manipulation and psychological abuseThank you for pointing this out. I feel like sometimes by just analyzing external behaviors, it can become more confusing. That has happened to me at least. But once I notice how I am feeling, it brings so much clarity and certainty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Book Review: How to spot a dangerous man before you get involved. A must read if you are actively dating.Thank you, can't wait to read this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 01:53 AM |
| 37 | if he wanted to he wouldYes, I love this advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 01:43 AM |
| 3 | Film: Good On PaperJust watched this movie and loved it. And I really don't watch tv or movies anymore because of the misogynistic elements. But this movie was amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 12:17 AM |
| 4 | Film: Good On PaperThat part resonated with me sooo much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 12:14 AM |
| 56 | Was watching Good On Paper (Netflix), and THE RESONATION OF THIS BIT!I just watched Good on Paper and I love this movie!! HIGHLY RECOMMEND. There is SO much FDS in it. I wish there were more of these movies. I think it can really really help women. The part that resonated with me a lot was when she found out all his lies and said that she knew she never liked him! That happened to me many times. Didn't really like a guy, ended up dating and getting attached, and then (when the relationship started breaking down) remembered I never liked him that much from the beg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 11:47 PM |
| 35 | She is free!!🙌Ahh yes 🙌 🙌 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:09 PM |
| 9 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)I feel so similar. It's probably my worst fear in a relationship - no matter how I take care of myself as I age, the man will always lust after younger women at some point. And they are everywhere, porn, and also social media, advertising, movies, celebrities, etc. I'm not sure how I could ever trust a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 02:24 AM |
| 27 | Dr. Jess just out there spewing straight facts as usual.The karma is about to visit you one really makes me 🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 12:53 PM |
| 22 | Men don't want a FWBVery well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:49 PM |
| 31 | Men don't want a FWBVery well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:49 PM |
| 36 | Kind of Peeved After “Build A Man”Wow unhealthy expectations? That's annoying. Like a) this is just a light conversation/game if you could build an IDEAL man and b) your list is entirelyyy doable, there is literally is nothing unhealthy about what you wrote. My list would be: - Totally present - No drugs, very little drinking if any, very little social media, no video games, no porn, no fantasy lives. I want him to be living and creating in the present and real world - Intelligent & socially aware - Knows himself & has integrity… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:08 PM |
| 235 | I just love everything about this absolute Queen!!Douche canoes! 🤣🤣🤣 I love her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 09:39 PM |
| 45 | On flaky “friends” and why I understand when women overinvest in their romantic relationships. I think we can have pickme tendencies without being a full blown pickme.I can totally relate. My ability to have a woman friend that I can call or hangout with is very, very slim right now. Part of it is due to location for me. But even so, it's like I maybe get to hangout once per quarter with a woman friend, and decreasing as they are getting married or are in serious relationships. But you know who's there to hangout? Guys. Lol. Single guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:25 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-inI just had this sinking feeling that after an OF or camgirl deletes her videos, there’s going to be some guy that recorded everything and then sells it years later for a higher price, and then when some guy looks up his new woman co worker online to try see if she ever had an OF, he finds it. So the guy co worker gets a laugh and gets off, the random guy who recorded it makes a profit, both at the woman’s expense, and the girl gets nothing and might feel uncomfortable at work, maybe eventually f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 09:43 PM |
| 16 | I told him off!Omg yess!! Go you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:15 AM |
| 19 | After being single for years, dating again is like testing out the boundaries I’ve developed in my single petri dish in the wild. I can finally be my authentic self instead of catering to men, but I’m also scared of falling into old patterns. Do you have other reminders?I would add “I need to keep focusing on myself and pursuing my goals” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:25 PM |
| 176 | Men who watch porn are losers.Agree 100%. It is so unattractive. Like men who put all their energy into video games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:30 AM |
| 39 | Passive communication; She was raped vs He raped her. Which do you hear more often? Why?This is SO true. Rape is a men's issue. But I never hear it talked about that way in society, the onus is always on women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 10:14 PM |
| 22 | Passive communication; She was raped vs He raped her. Which do you hear more often? Why?I always thought "he raped her" gave power to the rapist. And "she was raped" gave more focus to the victim. Like he took something as opposed to something was taken from her. It's unfortunate though because going around saying "she was assaulted", in addition to making it sound like the fault is on the women like you mentioned, makes it seem like women just walk around and magically get assaulted. No, men assault. Men rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 09:43 PM |
| 39 | What's something that always bothered you/felt weird while growing up, but you could never place why until you realized it was misogyny?Yes I literally look up movies on parent guide websites to make sure there are no sexual assault scenes before I start watching. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:41 AM |
| 182 | What's something that always bothered you/felt weird while growing up, but you could never place why until you realized it was misogyny?Guys: "She's crazy" --- When all she was doing was getting angry at something disrespectful or abusive the guy was doing Rape scenes in movies Movies in general - I legit thought I just didn't really like movies and that something was wrong with me. Everyone would say oh this movie was so good, etc. etc. It wasn't until I watched a movie that wasn't based around misogyny Edit: wording | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:43 PM |
| 32 | Can we please all do this to men who harass us 😂I love it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 01:26 AM |
| 42 | 🚩 RED FLAGS 🚩 Career edition 🤭😳 (psychopath edition 🥲🧛♂️)Yeah I majored and worked in software engineering.. I literally will never date a guy in tech. Never. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 01:18 AM |
| 7 | I am feeling immense guilt for leaving my relationship. Feeling like the bad guy and that I wasn’t patient enough. Would appreciate support to not go back to him.Have you read Women Who Love Too Much? She has a chapter on recovery that I found very helpful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 09:57 PM |
| 15 | Always, ALWAYS check his phoneI am so so sorry. I can't imagine the devastation. He sounds so manipulative, I hope you completely limit contact with him as to not get confused or pulled into anymore of his lies. Remember, his actions are of NO reflection on you. It is not your fault. It is not your burden to carry. You are strong and that you can and will make it through this. Lean on your spirituality, your faith, and/or any support that you can trust. Take it one day or even one hour at a time. You have every right to feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:50 PM |
| 5 | Scrote is jealous of his girlfriend’s dogs…Obviously her dogs are important to her. If he doesn't like it he can leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:30 PM |
| 50 | On creepy old pervy men…The only 18 year olds who would date someone in their 40s are either really lonely or insecure. Most don't because they know that something's really weird about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 07:06 PM |
| 2 | A Valedictorian used her platform for the greater goodI don't think she is stating motherhood ends our hopes and dreams, but that unplanned pregnancies can disrupt the hopes and dreams of those that do not want to have children. I agree though that society should have an abundance of support for women who become mothers. Then women wouldn't have to worry about not being able to pursue her aspirations that she would otherwise would've been able to if she had more support. Women literally create and raise humans... if that shouldn't have some of the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 03:10 PM |
| 12 | This 👇🏼I like your line of thinking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 02:41 AM |
| 35 | This 👇🏼Yessss, louder for the people in the back 👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 05:08 PM |
| 11 | Even men think pickmes are embarrassing.That's what I was thinking. This guy must not have teeth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 05:02 PM |
| 13 | Being an OF model/stripper/camgirl/sex worker is not empowering, here's what is empoweringI'm so sorry. Men are fucking awful. Then it dawned on me: they don't get their rocks off despite non-consent. They get their dicks hard because of non-consent; because they know that if they had not paid that woman would not have touched them, ever. men who buy prostitution have the exact same mentality of a rapist. These are such big realizations. It is sometimes hard for me to wrap my head around the gravity of just how depraved men can be. And also what makes me so sad to live in this worl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 04:48 PM |
| 1 | You shouldn’t have to teach a man how to be in a relationshipVery true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 03:54 PM |
| 6 | Sexual Incompatibility is a Lie. Let me explainOh yes of course! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 03:53 PM |
| 4 | And that’s the 🍵👀Of course sex on the first date will be great for the man and his dick will be compatible with 99% of vaginas 🤣🤣truth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 02:23 PM |
| 94 | Sexual Incompatibility is a Lie. Let me explainGreat post! I see the sexual aspect of a relationship as an indicator of how healthy the relationship is, as opposed to being the cause of healthy or unhealthy relationship. So if the sex isn't good or there's sexual incompatibilities, it's a sign there is already something wrong with the relationship. Guys who complain about sexual compatibility being the problem are self-centered and dumb imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 02:21 PM |
| 42 | Beware of the non-apology apology!!! Anyone ever had a LVM say "I'm sorry you got hurt" rather than "I'm sorry that I was a piece of shit asshole who did not respect/consider your feelings?" One is not even attempting to accept blame!! BEWARE!!"I'm sorry" Then I ask for what. Then they say nothing or say one of the above dumb statements. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 02:10 PM |
| 147 | Even men think pickmes are embarrassing.This is what personal assistants do. I hope he is paying her for all this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 02:03 PM |
| 101 | "Why won't women date me? I'm a NICE guy!"Doing something "nice" is an act. It's a pretense to get something in return. "Nice" guys also feel entitled to women, thus they get mad when they are rejected. What is actually more attractive is kindness, which is harder to fake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 02:27 AM |
| 113 | Shoutout to r/FemaleDatingStratPros for doing our outrage marketing for us and bringing us more members 😂I found FDS from one of said male enthusiasts and I love this sub!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Beautiful and accurate.This was so beautifully written and sung | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 08:43 PM |
| 8 | Liar, LiarI am so sorry you went through this. You are making the absolute best decision for yourself and your future. This man can no longer deplete you anymore. Like a phoenix you will rise <3 <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 07:05 PM |
| 2 | The delusion, the audacity 🤡😂This guy sounds entitled to women, and then he's bitter and angry when they don't want him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 02:53 AM |
| 5 | My self-esteem glow-up since FDS:YASSS 🙌🙌🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 11:09 PM |
| 12 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.Omg I literally never thought I’d see such a day 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 08:24 AM |
| 9 | Kick him out 2021: What do you refuse to stand for?I refuse to stand for someone that is not willing to be open and honest. I also refuse to stand for someone that invalidates any of my needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:06 PM |
| 14 | How to Spot a PAomg his dick is literally broken | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 02:15 PM |
| 138 | How to Spot a PAI would add having a completely clean browser history / google activity all the time... they're hiding something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:29 PM |
| 5 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?So I would like my future fiance to offer to buy me a house as a proposal. My last ex gave me the idea for this and I loved it. He bought a house that I picked out (he needed to move anyways) and said whenever I'm ready to marry him he can put it in my name. I also want to have co-decision making abilities on where we'll live and what his job will be (e.g. if he travels all the time for work and I barely get to see him, then I would need him to be open to changing his life around to spend more t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 06:41 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Check-inIt's a genuine question. There are some companies that I, personally, wouldn't work at for my own moral reasons. I wouldn't be okay with my SO working at one either because that would be a major conflict of interest. So it comes down to how you feel about the porn industry imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 02:15 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Check-inhahah righttt 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:34 PM |
| 24 | Weekly FDS Check-inWould you work for a porn company? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:31 PM |
| 49 | He picked porn, so I chose myself.I know that must've been tough, sis. You're choosing yourself which is always the best move. And his defensive around the subject was a huge sign that porn would continue to create problems in the future. You're saving yourself betrayal, heartbreak, deception, etc. and gaining your dignity and your peace. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:26 AM |
| 19 | What kids really need. Not porn.These books are great!! I'm glad she's teaching her son about this stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 10:18 PM |
| 49 | Men think that they can use any woman for their sexual gratificationWow that's so disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 08:34 PM |
| 22 | Men think that they can use any woman for their sexual gratificationHaha that is great | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 08:34 PM |
| 49 | Men think that they can use any woman for their sexual gratificationThey really do rely on women being too nice and complacent. I've been trying to break out of that role, soon hopefully I'll be calling their shit out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 08:34 PM |
| 25 | Is having a male therapist a no?You do whatever feels right for you. I currently have a male therapist. He is gay. I have only ever wanted and had female therapists. However, for the modality of therapy I want, he is the only one trained in it near me, and even still I have to drive an hour for it. But to me, I know I need this type of therapy and it's what works for me, and I know I get more benefit by going to a male therapist in this case than going to a female therapist that uses a different type. I do wish I could have a … | /r/askFDS | 23/05/21 04:36 PM |
| 21 | When their lame man-brags are deeply unimpressiveThis reminds me so much of men omg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 03:35 PM |
| 168 | Men think that they can use any woman for their sexual gratificationThis also reminds me when I was in college and my guy frIenDs were trying to take a picture of me eating a banana. (I was in computer science and literally only had males in my class sometimes). Like wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 03:33 PM |
| 149 | And they aren’t treated well either!It's setting impossible standards for women. And setting the bar low for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 02:59 PM |
| 106 | Did you hear about John Mulaney's divorce? I'm shocked.these women are just collateral damage on their path to "self discovery". This. I will only ever entertain guys that really know themselves and went on their self-discovery journey before they met me. I never want to be that collateral damage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:12 PM |
| 13 | Continue your personal development even in relationships or marriageYes this is something I need to make sure I do. It's also good to have these things if the husband falls ill or passes away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:08 PM |
| 5 | My first foray into FDS dating in the wild! Texting hang ups , help!Hey good job setting and sticking to your boundaries!! When I find myself longing for the idea of someone, what works for me is 1) figuring out what the feeling is that you're desiring so much: love, companionship, worth, excitement, security, being desired, power, etc. And then 2) mentally detach that quality from the guy, because those feelings were already inside you, he didn't create them, and then 3) do things in your life that ignite that feeling g. E.g. for companionship getting a dog, fo… | /r/askFDS | 23/05/21 02:15 AM |
| 13 | Keeping my head upYes same!! There really is no other place that I can think of where women are encouraged like this, with no internalized misogyny and men to interrupt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 01:57 AM |
| 55 | I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit.Hey I just wanted to say that I can relate. I worked as an escort for a couple of years (totally was a libfem). I stopped for like a year and then was thinking about starting it again. I found FDS a couple months ago, and honestly I just couldn't bring myself to meet anyone after that. And I went through the same thoughts of why am I doing this, I could be starting my career and make more money and it wouldn't be degrading and I could actually tell my friends what I'm doing instead of lying (I h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 11:33 PM |
| 13 | Funnybahahah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 11:17 PM |
| 8 | Given the previous post on d*ck size and how it matters, I found this video insanely hilarious80% of the men I dated talked about their dick or somehow brought their dick into discussion or (un)subtly inserted their dick in the conversation This is what they do in real life too, I can't count how many times I just turned around and a guy's dick was out (usually while cuddling or even mentioning sex). I felt that his dick was another person in our relationship. I feel that ha. Guys can be SO attached to their dicks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 10:28 PM |
| 22 | Given the previous post on d*ck size and how it matters, I found this video insanely hilariousThere was a guy I had a couple dates with, and he said "can I ask you a serious question and can you be honest," and I'm like sure. He said "how big is my dick? Is it big? One girl said that it was the biggest dick she's ever seen." OMG I was dying. He had a small f*cking dick. And so I said no it's not big. This girl was totally trying to please his ego. 🤣He was 37. You would know if you had a big dick by that age lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:17 PM |
| 13 | Don’t know if this one has been posted, but the absolute depravity of this man.This is just awful. Kinks just escalate and they're never enough. Plus it's completely degrading. Who tf has NeEds to tie up and gag someone. like wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 08:24 PM |
| 17 | Ladies, what are your physical preferences?5' 8" to 6" ish Athletic build with big strong legs, glutes, and arms Clean and clear skin Excellent hygiene (nails, teeth, hair) Decent sized lips Sweet smile Tanned skin Big dick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:14 PM |
| 54 | Lived to TellTHANK YOU FOR SHARING. This is really inspiring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 04:41 PM |
| 47 | Don't date an asshole man child.OMG. He sounds like a complete jerk. Glad his girlfriend called him out on it. Hope she leaves this manboy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 04:23 PM |
| 13 | HVM are always HVM, even if they’re your ExI’m assuming it’s super easy to be on “good terms” with exes that are still in love with you. Yepp | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:03 PM |
| 54 | A report on the consequences of OnlyFans by a member of the websiteYeah they are predators!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:38 AM |
| 22 | A report on the consequences of OnlyFans by a member of the websiteThis is sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:16 AM |
| 8 | The porn industry should be renamed the “rape industry”YES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:35 PM |
| 117 | Girls did you read the shocking news about Lady Gaga?This makes me so angry to my bones. Rape and sexual assault is so rampant. It's a huge burden that women go through, affecting them for years, sometimes their whole life. I'm glad Lady Gaga has persevered and lived to share her story. She has the money and power, and even she doesn't get to put her abuser behind bars. When will this end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:33 PM |
| 21 | This is why you need your own income.Yeah this is why women need to have their own life that does not revolve around kids or domestic labor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Women react to ripped men.I. LOVE. THIS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Reminder: never reduce yourself to the kind of woman that has to go through their partner's phoneI agree. I can't think of a situation where after going through his phone, you would stay together. Either you find something, which sucks and you breakup. You don't find something, which makes you more anxious because he could've deleted or hidden things, and then eventually (months, years) down the line you do find something and/or the trust is so bad that the relationship just goes downhill, and then you breakup. So either way the relationship ends. Since I've had this happen to me a couple t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:42 PM |
| 18 | The Faux PatriarchSign me up for the true patriarch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:25 PM |
| 60 | How is being bothered by micro-cheating connected to having low self-confidence?UGH this. I always thought I was the one that needed to "get more self-confidence" when my boyfriend was micro-cheating. That's what the internet, dating advice, and people told me. It's so messed up. No you don't need therapy, you need someone with common decency and respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:15 PM |
| 23 | I love this sub for work vettingHaha so fragile omg. Glad you don't have to deal with that guy in your future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:09 PM |
| 83 | Katherine Ryan’s “fix” for the gender pay gap... where do I sign upHaha this is funny! They really should do something like this though. With the gender pay gap and with businesses (mostly men) already using tax loopholes, women are getting the shortchanged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:32 PM |
| 2 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureHow do you see the %? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 09:06 PM |
| 208 | Had to share thisImagine if back in the day women had (probably toxic in this case) power and arrested men for causing them unwanted pregnancies. And then the man was forced to pay for all of the child's expenses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:39 PM |
| 9 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureI would LOVE that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 02:28 PM |
| 76 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureI might present as polished and intimidating, but really I’m not the one in control, I don’t have power no matter how powerful I thought I felt. I never thought about it that way, but makes total sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 02:25 PM |
| 79 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureThank you!! I have been confused about the huge prevalence of make up in society. It is expensive and time consuming. Make up is like a billion (?) dollar industry, and I could only imagine if women could put all that money towards real estate or something, how empowering that would be, rather than to be a consumer to something that really doesn't benefit women all that much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 01:00 PM |
| 11 | Don't accept men who only go 50/50.I DOUBT he's helping her through her anger issues and doing majority of the emotional support. If she needs it so much it is most likely caused by being with this dude. and/or it's a normal response to what is going on around her and he's trying to gaslight her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 12:41 AM |
| 62 | “Set boundaries, find peace”I would find someone where you don't have to ask for every little thing. Why do you need to teach someone *constantly* how to treat you? It is exhausting. It also opens you up to manipulation and gaslighting. I would reserve setting and sticking to boundaries, like the author of that book touched on, for bigger things. (E.g. where you are willing to live, how to navigate in-laws, life goals, etc.) An example I can think of is if you were hired at a company. And then one day you just don't show u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 05:11 PM |
| 33 | A lot to unpack here....why on earth do some women deal with this absolute bullshit??She needs to drop that man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 03:26 PM |
| 71 | A lot to unpack here....why on earth do some women deal with this absolute bullshit??Your mother didn’t go through backbreaking labour to birth a doormat. She birthed a human. Please expect to be treated like one. I'm DYING!! 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 03:24 PM |
| 23 | Scrotes briefly got this video removed for “adult nudity and sexual activity” but it showed up on my FYP anyways. We should all approach OLD profiles with this attitude, it’s hilariousomg she is hilarious!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 03:14 PM |
| 8 | Being a single momThank you so much for sharing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:26 PM |
| 15 | Being a single momSame!! It makes so much sense though because a lot of time the husband or bf is dead weight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:25 PM |
| 13 | Don’t change your last name for a manYeah I really don't understand why women take the man's last name these days. Seems so archaic. If anything I can see creating a new last name for the new family. Edit: Also my sister just got married and I was so happy that she is keeping her last name!! She's in her late 30's and has worked really hard to be independent. I have 5 friends from college getting married this year though and all of them are taking the man's last name :( they're all in their 20s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:19 PM |
| 43 | [Vent] getting attacked on another sub for saying porn addiction is related to cheating and psychopathyPorn has become so socially acceptable because men have controlled the entire narrative. It's crazy. I have ventured out of this sub for a brief period of time and read so many posts of women trying to rationalize their boyfriend/husband's porn addictions or OF accounts. I couldn't believe how much emotional work women were putting into it (betrayal trauma, comMuniCating, monitoring, self-esteem issues, grief, etc.) and it was so heartbreaking to read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 02:01 AM |
| 269 | Reproductive control is the cornerstone of male violence. From one generation to the next.Also men: Women who don't want kids are fundamentally messed up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:47 AM |
| 39 | Reproductive control is the cornerstone of male violence. From one generation to the next.This. is. so. true. THEY MAKE NO SENSE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:46 AM |
| 74 | The price of being the “cool girl” who totally looves threesomes. (But is actually just desperately trying to keep her LVM happy)I almost had a threesome and so so so glad I didn't. It was one hundred percent to be the cool girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 12:23 AM |
| 40 | If men really wanted to be good boyfriends/husbands, there would be more communities on it. But instead, we get communities where men share advice on how to use women for sex and other benefits. The internet is a reflection of men's true priorities. They can't lie to us anymore.PREACH! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:56 AM |
| 12 | Tired of people trying to sell this idea that posting half naked pics on instagram is empowering to us girls and womenYes this. Imagine if women owned most of the real estate, most of the businesses, most of the stock market, and most of the crypto currency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 10:14 PM |
| 41 | GUYS!! his girlfriend found FDS and left him‼️ 👑 😎This is awesome!! I can't imagine going to some sub or group that an ex was on and saying stuff like this. That would look really bad ON ME. So this guy just sounds mad that he lost control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 10:04 PM |
| 29 | On-Screen Violence Towards Women is Not "Realism"I'm so sick of tv and movies being written by and for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 11:54 PM |
| 14 | The truth about all your guy friends.Omg I was reading a book recently about the analytics of internet searches, and the author said that there were twice as many searches for guys trying to suck their own dicks than guys searching how to perform oral on their gfs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:31 AM |
| 47 | The truth about all your guy friends.🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:30 AM |
| 45 | Nobody in the comments section pointed out the obvious, which is that he wants to f*ck this woman if he hasn't alreadyI read this TWICE and I thought it said pornography supplies 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 12:56 AM |
| 270 | The truth about all your guy friends.Guys would put their penis in a watermelon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:38 PM |
| 11 | can I borrow some positive energy from you ladies?Sending you light and love OP! <3 | /r/askFDS | 12/05/21 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Sex Work Twitter makes me feel LESS compassion towards voluntary sex workers 🙄omfg 🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 04:28 PM |
| 43 | Why do men hate us? My theory.Yeah I think they hate how they can become sexually attracted towards us, but then not have control of whether we have sex with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:48 PM |
| 31 | Why do men hate us? My theory.Yes, they want us to believe in whatever propaganda they spew because it benefits them. And when we question it or rebel against it, it makes them angry. They don't want to lose their power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:45 PM |
| 83 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreI would like to unsubscribe too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:27 PM |
| 12 | Why it's hard to find HVMI like the idea of me and me friends having apartments or houses in the same neighborhood or complex, that way you hang out whenever, but you can retreat to your place when you need to. I have been wanting this for awhile | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:22 PM |
| 5 | A device to help protect against rape - it's like a penis caught in a zipperpenis graters 🤣🤣 I'm with ya sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:08 PM |
| 7 | A device to help protect against rape - it's like a penis caught in a zipperYeah I feel like if assault on women was taken seriously, this would've already been invented one thousand different ways. Instead we have a ... whistle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:07 PM |
| 20 | A device to help protect against rape - it's like a penis caught in a zipperIt's called Rape aXe - more information and video here: https://rape-axe.com/about/ "The RX system consists of a condom-like elastic sheath which contains razor-sharp barbs. The woman inserts the single use device into her vagina like a tampon. The presence of Rape-aXe is not apparent externally and there is no discomfort for the woman while it is worn. It cannot cause injury to the woman. The RX can be removed by the woman when she feels it is no longer necessary to be worn as a protective devi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 06:51 PM |
| 1 | I would honestly consider trying thisIt is a device to help against rape | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 06:20 PM |
| 88 | What is the Bare Minimum? (A Reminder)I have no idea why I even bothered “dating” in high school and college | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 06:11 PM |
| 40 | What is the Bare Minimum? (A Reminder)I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 06:11 PM |
| 11 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.Yess. My brain has been automatically doing this to every guy and now I don’t like any. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 05:18 PM |
| 56 | Ladies, please don’t post overtly provocative pictures on social media. Not only does it attract trash men ,but you could lose your job over it.I agree not to post provocative pictures, but I have a huge problem that women can lose their job from it. I don't think that's right and I don't think women should not post provocative pictures because they're afraid of losing their job. That's like saying women should cover up so they don't get harassed. It's just another way to try to control women. Men say and do super shitty things all the time yet they are rarely held accountable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 01:39 PM |
| 72 | Men - You're not as beautiful as you thinkFor anyone who hasn't seen the original with women: https://youtu.be/XpaOjMXyJGk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:05 PM |
| 16 | Do not take that condom offomg 🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:43 AM |
| 10 | Who gives out the answer to a test?Yes this exactly!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:56 PM |
| 3 | One "good" thing I learned from my NVM relationshipWow I can relate to so much of your story. Thank you for sharing 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:52 PM |
| 74 | Do not take that condom offThank you for posting! None of the guys I ever dated or slept with, NONE, have ever brought up STD testing. I was always the one to bring it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 10:58 PM |
| 94 | Sexist dude I know already instilling toxic gender roles into his childrenThis is so annoying and sad. I read in Why Does He Do That that the root of abusive and controlling men (read: men), is not mental health or trauma, it's that from a young age they are taught to be entitled to women. It sounds like this scrote is doing just that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 07:23 PM |
| 111 | Men are given opportunities to defend women all the time they just dont want to or care enough to.Yes they benefit from other men's misogynistic behavior. They also probably care more about a man's opinion of them, then to help women. It's so annoying. I honestly never want to hear about a man who says he helps women or is a feminist or is one of the good guys - like get over yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 07:17 PM |
| 164 | Male coworker triggered by being in a room full of high value womenAnd women are the emotional ones?!?! This is insane. I would hate to have this LV guy be anywhere near me if I had surgery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 07:12 PM |
| 113 | Romantic fraud is on the rise - the shocking lengths men go to take your money and why vetting is vitalAt my last job, I worked in the fraud industry, we were trained on this scenario because it was common enough. Sadly, it happened a lot to lonely/elderly people and they were really embarrassed, so much so that sometimes their son/daughter would have to report it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 7 | I’ve been seeing a common theme on OLD profiles, guys writing “no drama.” I wondered why they keep putting this on their profile.Yes this | /r/askFDS | 10/05/21 03:22 PM |
| 20 | It’s hard to even want a relationship/marriage at this point.I was thinking the same thing. I just want to have a good career (maybe working remotely), a nice backyard in a safe neighborhood and have lots of pets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:43 PM |
| 168 | Weekly FDS Check-InI have been on this sub every day for the last two months. I love it, FDS makes me feel sane and empowered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:22 PM |
| 16 | How to stop women from seeing you as competition and more as leader/respectable friend?Yes this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:59 PM |
| 8 | As requested... My aforementioned cats 😻So lovely 💗💗💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:08 PM |
| 137 | A group of boys harasses and assaults a group of girls minding their own business.Agreed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:04 PM |
| 96 | A group of boys harasses and assaults a group of girls minding their own business.I agree, harassing and assaulting women should definitely be a hate crime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:04 PM |
| 4 | Liberal feminism gaslights women into being complicit in their own oppressionWow this is so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 05:55 PM |
| 6 | My male cat is still the most HVM I've ever met in my life.This is so adorable!! 🥺🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:38 AM |
| 182 | Liberal feminism gaslights women into being complicit in their own oppressionYes this. Growing up, I thought sex work was degrading, porn was cheating, and casual sex just hurts the woman, etc etc. And then the last couple years I hopped on the libfem bandwagon because I thought was archaic in thinking. But now coming to FDS I realized I was never okay with the libfem ideas, they didn't serve me or women, and I feel freed knowing that it's okay to not want porn in a relationship, or to have casual sex etc etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:32 AM |
| 4 | I finally just quit makeup. It's awesome!Feel that freedom!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:50 PM |
| 2 | The women in the comments were adamant that for a husband this is appropriate but it’s too risky to do this for a boyfriend (yes!). Unsurprisingly, the men said this is how a relationship should be.Sis save it for yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:40 PM |
| 15 | The freeze responseWow this is literally what I do so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:37 PM |
| 8 | Be as “ELITIST” as You Want in Choosing a Husbandthank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:32 PM |
| 9 | Let's Have Fun!YES THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:12 PM |
| 27 | If a man tries to justify using the c-word...iTs noT the SamE 🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 04:40 PM |
| 2 | opportunity to give a speechOMG I was going to recommend Nanette as well! | /r/askFDS | 08/05/21 04:35 PM |
| 49 | We need to normalize women “”leaving”” their family for better pay just like men are excused for it.Yes this. The more I'm on FDS, the more I understand how incredibly important it is for women to continually build and invest in her own life: finances, career, friendships, etc. A woman being convinced not to pursue her career, foR tHe faMilY, when a man has done so for all of eternity, is another example of societal pressures keeping women down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 04:22 PM |
| 31 | Classic scrote cheating signs- from the rookie to the serial cheat. Why modern women must trust instinct > firm evidence.Great list thank you for posting. I especially like "random angry outbursts. This can be an explosion of emotions from him juggling his double life /feeling conflicted or him deliberately acting wild so you’ll start to dislike him." Random angry outbursts are def shady, he's hiding something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:55 PM |
| 22 | What my Psych textbook had to say about divorceYes. In my psych class we learned the main reason a man would leave a relationship was because he already found another woman to be in a relationship with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Have men buy pregnancy tests when you start sleeping togetherThis is brilliant!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 12:33 AM |
| 3 | YEP👏🏼LOVE!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 08:32 PM |
| 402 | If he gets a boner when you cry, RUN. That is a Pavlovian response from watching too much violent abuse porn. He has literally trained his brain to be sexually aroused by women's pain.I would add to this: if he gets aroused when you’re scared, he’s a predator. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 08:30 PM |
| 9 | Creepy men taking pictures of young women will never be okay.Omg I'm so amazed by these women!!! Calling him out and not taking any sh!t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 12:39 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with the desire or need to be protected?Omg I have driven for about 10 years now, and the ONE time I got a flat tire was at night on the highway away from home. | /r/askFDS | 05/05/21 11:54 PM |
| 344 | I've also been compared to having "steak " every day and other objects that grow old or boringThis guy's statement is so repulsive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 03:51 PM |
| 3 | What's Your Level Up Plan for this Week/Month?I love your idea about the counters!! I've been focusing more on choosing how I want to spend my time. I find myself doing things out of obligation. So I'm trying to check in with myself much more to recognize when something feels like an obligation or something that I actually want to do. I find myself having more time and I love it!! I've been doing more yoga, reading, FDSing, and networking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 02:48 AM |
| 16 | Poor girl“Should I just call it quits and move on? This is the only way I believe I’ll get over this.” She said it herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:51 PM |
| 11 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you wantRight | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:07 PM |
| 10 | Bless women for the universal bullshit we live withI am seeing this everywhere! Women are dragged down by their SOs. And you know who I see completely excelling in their careers, have amazing friendships and social life, traveling, and just all around kicking a$$? Two of my friends who have literally never dated a man (they are in their 20s). I sadly am seeing more and more how dragged down and held back I've been from being in relationships (including friendships!) with [the wrong] men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:45 PM |
| 6 | Bless women for the universal bullshit we live withI think we need to be very wary of female dominant professions because they seem to be inherently oppressed by the patriarchal system that thinks we a responsible for all the world’s woes and should suffer for it. Wow I never thought about it this way. I studied and worked in tech, which was male-dominated and very misogynistic. It's surprising (but also not surprising) that women dominated fields also are greatly affected by patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:41 PM |
| 36 | Dick does nothing for me.I'm really glad you posted. I feel similar in a lot of ways. I pretended/thought I wanted it, but would almost always have to hype myself up for sex. I think I wanted it for the male gaze (like oMg hE is So haRd foR mE), or I needed to "treat" my boyfriend by offering my body, and a lot of time I just didn't particularly like the PIV sex, there was discomfort sometimes and afterwards I would just feel shitty. And recently I'm like, it can't just be me. This might be a stretch, but I always wonde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:24 PM |
| 41 | Dick does nothing for me.I can relate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:03 PM |
| 318 | Men Intentionally Act As If They Don’t Understand How Porn Negatively Impacts Women. It’s a Power Play. They Fucking Know.I don’t think I’ve ever had sex with a guy who’s brain and whole idea of sex wasn’t completely ruined by porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:20 AM |
| 33 | Last one for now! Hopefully she posts more!That's my favorite part! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 01:47 AM |
| 25 | Since y’all liked the first one so muchShe is so good!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 01:45 AM |
| 6 | BS Communication Ploy- Delaying Your Address of Disrespect Hoping the Timeframe ExpiresThis resonates with me SO much. Thank you for posting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 01:51 PM |
| 23 | I will not be a detectiveOmg this was funny and true. Thank you. Yeah I agree that eventually I will find something (I have already) and all that causes is just more pain. No more of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:06 AM |
| 18 | Imagine if for 1 Day women all acted like stereotypical scrotes, what would happen?Omg reading this list -- men (LVM/NVM) have it made. Like all they have to do is go to work. And even there they can be buddy buddy in the boys club. Everything else is taken care of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 12:41 AM |
| 41 | Tell me about your HV first date with someone who did, in fact, turn out to be HV404 Error | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 11:46 PM |
| 14 | Tell me about your HV first date with someone who did, in fact, turn out to be HVAww 😺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 11:45 PM |
| 146 | Why I don’t feel bad about having uncompromising standardsYes, definitely! I honestly dated anyone who asked in my teens. I did exceptional in school and sports, and took care of my skin and body very well, and then I dated.. losers. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:36 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inIs anyone else getting ads for OF in this sub? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:41 AM |
| 14 | Sex Work Will Never Empower Usyeah the very few men I heard complain about sex work were just angry at the thought that women were enjoying it or making money off of it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:35 AM |
| 11 | Sex Work Will Never Empower Usthis is so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:32 AM |
| 12 | We need to draw a line between oppression that is based on the extraction of cheap labor vs. other types of "oppression"YESSS. Thank you for posting!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:16 AM |
| 10 | Might be the worst pickme I've ever seen. Knowningly marries a SEX OFFENDER & defends him while complaining abt her life "But a thing he did 15 years ago in his own home, without violence or solicitation, that many men also do on a regular basis or the "barely legal" category wouldn't be so popular"Ughh. I really don't like how much she keeps minimizing his offense by saying that many men also do it, and defending him. Like I could have more sympathy if she just said that she married a sex offender, it was a dumb decision because she didn't think about x,y,z. But to keep stating how the sex offender registry is bad for sex offenders and their family?! Like, lady get over yourself. So many sex criminals are never held accountable. The victims are those he abused. The victims can go through … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 12:16 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel empty?Thank you <3 | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 02:25 AM |
| 6 | Men will never understand how vulnerable it feels to be a womanCompletely agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:30 PM |
| 12 | Lol could you fucking not?Hahaha Correctile Dysfunction 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:27 PM |
| 1 | How to not feel empty?Thank you 😊🙏 | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 02:08 AM |
| 45 | The Road to Recovery from the book Women who love too much.So I can say from my experience, that the list is strikingly similar to my recovery. About five years ago, I completely shattered. Bad relationships, poor coping skills, unhealed trauma, and no support. I won't go into details now, but it was really, really bad for almost a year - and I almost didn't make it through. It came to the point that I needed to invest financially in some major support (think: residential treatment). I entered into a program that was better than residential treatment im… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 08:02 PM |
| 4 | How to not feel empty?Thank you for your response. Yeah, I do want all of that. I feel like most of my life I never knew that's what I was missing, education to achieve financial security was like my sole priority. It's good to know that others want these things as well. | /r/askFDS | 26/04/21 06:01 PM |
| 6 | How to not feel empty?Thank you for this clarity. My life isn't as fulfilling as I want it to be. I was trying to build a solid life when I moved back. I started a job and that's where I met my ex. I told him at the very beginning I didn't want a relationship yet because I was trying to make more friends and move out of my parents first. But we sat next to eachother everyday, hungout, and became close and after a couple months we just ended up dating, for two years. 🤦 I feel like I try to get out there - I go to yoga… | /r/askFDS | 26/04/21 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InSo I was just thinking about how incognito mode was probably invented with porn in mind. Idk but it makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 01:09 AM |
| 15 | Men, Integrity, PornYes, exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 01:07 AM |
| 41 | Men, Integrity, PornYeah that's tough for me as well. And that's true -- porn benefits men, there is so much variety and it's everywhere, so they really don't have a reason to stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 01:07 AM |
| 21 | Let’s just make reproductive coercion seem like fun now /swtf that's so awful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 09:27 PM |
| 3 | 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥READ THIS FOR A CHANCE TO APPEAR ON THE FDS PODCAST! 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥I love all of these topics!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 08:22 PM |
| 8 | 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥READ THIS FOR A CHANCE TO APPEAR ON THE FDS PODCAST! 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥Omg yes, I was dIagNosed with BPD, but luckily I could see through it at the time and didn't internalize it. After healing and processing a lot of trauma, I no longer have symptoms that would classify me as BPD. But it can be so detrimental to think something is fundamentally wrong with you, and to "never be cured only managed" from it. It's sad that so many women are tricked into believing that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 08:21 PM |
| 13 | Getting turned off by menAny holes the goal!! 🤣🤣omg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 01:18 PM |
| 19 | Getting turned off by menThese are great ideas. I just have a body pillow and two comforters rn. A heated mattress pad and weighted blanket sounds amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 01:16 PM |
| 2 | C-PTSD therapyYes somatic experiencing, that's what it's called, thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 01:10 PM |
| 2 | C-PTSD therapyI have never tried reiki so I wouldn't be able to compare. It might be similar. I know though that somatic work and core energetics requires a lot more training to become certified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 01:10 PM |
| 10 | C-PTSD therapyThere are probably others that can explain it better than me, but basically the work is body-centered, being present with the emotions and sensations in the body, and then coming to some sort of resolution. Core Energetics and Transformational Breathwork are similar modalities. I personally noticed the best results from body-centered therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 03:37 AM |
| 12 | C-PTSD therapyI am so sorry. The experience with your therapist sounds awful. I have stopped traditional therapy for this reason, I just don't know how to vet them and be on the same page. However, I do somatic healing, which in my experience there is a lot less talking and analyzing and more active listening and trauma healing. Idk if it's my counselor or the field, but I feel like I'm validated and my emotions and thoughts are taken seriously. Just a thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 02:29 AM |
| 167 | Getting turned off by menYes definitely. I have found their entitlement, lack of empathy, and lack of emotional awareness (themselves and others) such a turn off. And definitely their nEEd for porn. I do miss a big, warm body to be held by. Just gotta figure out that one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 02:19 AM |
| 5 | Let's make it a point to offer preferrential treatment and give privileges to the women in our lives. Make a deliberate effort to treat our fellow women exceptionally well, to strenghten the sense of sisterhoodYes!! Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:19 AM |
| 35 | Reading for my healing!Yeah overall I found the book really helpful, specifically, the manipulation and control tactics used by men. The author gives a lot of great examples that helps puts words to behaviors and feelings that I've experienced in previous relationships. Like 80% of the abuse mentioned in the book I never really experienced, but it was totally worth it for that 20% that I could relate to. Also, I normally don't like to read too much about men and their psychology because I just don't like putting my en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:12 AM |
| 12 | “iT’s a VeRy ReWaRdiNg JoB! YoU gEt To MaKe ThEsE aMaZiNg CoNnEcTiOns Of InTiMaCy WitH SoMeBoDy!”So I feel like these women may find it reWarDing because they seek validation and intimacy, however, they might not see that they don't need validation and this is not real intimacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:38 PM |
| 13 | dump his assLOVE THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:25 PM |
| 17 | Grooming in the adult industryDisgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:24 PM |
| 6 | I found this poem by Nayyirah Waheed recently...and then this criticism. How do u feel about it?I really really like this poem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:22 PM |
| 18 | Just a reminder, LV/NV men only see you as an extension of themselvesOMG true!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:18 PM |
| 12 | MEN DUMB OR WHAT?!?!I think a lot of men just care about themselves. They aren't creating a healthy, mutually beneficial partnership by considering the thoughts and feelings of someone else. Just whatever benefits them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:16 PM |
| 14 | Hard factsYes and most mainstream movies and songs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 10:44 PM |
| 35 | Reading for my healing!This is the next book I'm going to read - I'm almost finished with Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. Can't wait to read this one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 10:29 PM |
| 35 | OnlyFans is an experiment in mass grooming teens into a Sex Work Pyramid Scheme, for which most of them will NEVER see more than $180So true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:26 PM |
| 13 | Has anyone else felt better about their body/personal ownership during the pandemic?Life without the male gaze is luxurious. I just imagined this and felt my anxiety drop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:11 PM |
| 10 | Has anyone else felt better about their body/personal ownership during the pandemic?Yess! I have loved wfh. I don't have to put on uncomfortable clothing just to go to work. I've had time to do yoga and meditate in the morning and cook healthy meals for myself - something I always did in college but once I started a 9-5 it became hard to do. I've also been able to limit sooo much of the news, pop culture, general propaganda, etc. which has felt like the best relief. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:08 PM |
| 67 | Health benefits of leaving a LVM and NVMLove this! I'll add a few: - better relationships with friends and family - peace of mind - physically stronger as I had more time to start doing yoga everyday | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 08:56 PM |
| 137 | OnlyFans is an experiment in mass grooming teens into a Sex Work Pyramid Scheme, for which most of them will NEVER see more than $180I was a lib fem and fell for the narrative that stuff like OF is empowering for women. It took me less than a week on being on FDS to realize what a lie that was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 05:59 PM |
| 4 | Conflicting beliefs with my therapist about 'all men'Omg I literally have felt the exact same ways. I realized therapy kept me thinking I was broken, but I still went because I didn’t have friends. I eventually switched to just somatic healing. And I truly feel like I have relatively normal responses given the environment of patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 02:14 AM |
| 9 | If you're not FDS, you're a Pick MeYES thank you for this post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 08:41 PM |
| 1 | That explains all the "Nice Guys™" out thereYes exactly. Their niceness is not authentic. They want something. And we see that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:46 PM |
| 8 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!Haha so weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:43 PM |
| 5 | Comments about how "the lyrics are trash" and videos about how this is *gasp* racist against white men and crys of "industry plants!"! But.. the lyrics don't lie?I am loving this song | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:00 PM |
| 7 | Comments about how "the lyrics are trash" and videos about how this is *gasp* racist against white men and crys of "industry plants!"! But.. the lyrics don't lie?For real | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 06:59 PM |
| 9 | How do you learn how to control/manage your emotions?It can be rough having intense emotions. Here are some things that have helped me: - Take some space. I highly recommend getting away for at least three days and disconnecting from your fiance and anyone else that brings on strong emotions as much as you can so you can have a clear headspace. And notice, does having space away help? If it does, then keep taking space. If it makes things worse, then I would expedite seeing a counselor. - Accept your emotions as they come. Write them all down, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 06:34 PM |
| 75 | WTF is this?!Ugh. How is this not declared terrorism on women. At my school, there were fliers posted all over men's dorms about how to r@pe and get away with it. Like wtf. There is not enough done anywhere to help stop this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:51 PM |
| 3 | I Hid Behind “My Body, My Choice” For Years.Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:45 PM |
| 9 | I Hid Behind “My Body, My Choice” For Years.Thank you for sharing. I feel like I got caught up so much in this as well. Thought I should have sex just like men do. Thought I should be the Cool Girl and do all sorts of things my body didn't want. I kept thinking, that this is how someone feels liberated. I still never totally enjoyed it but I thought it was because I still had some pRudE mindset to overcome. For me I think I got sucked into it because I didn't want to feel that men had all the power. They have so many industries like OF an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Where to meet HVW? What are their green flags?Yessss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:10 AM |
| 26 | Where to meet HVW? What are their green flags?I have two HVW friends (both 27) and I met them when I was in college. We were all very school and career-oriented. What I notice about them: - they are financially independent and financially saavy - they are consistently focused on their self-growth (master's programs, networking, skill-building, etc), and have confidence in that - they are often trying new things - they almost never talk about men or dating - they have large social circles and events to go to - they wear little make up and do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 12:37 AM |
| 9 | Is it possible to trust any man these days?This | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:45 PM |
| 14 | Is it possible to trust any man these days?Her tear-y eyes was heartbreaking🥺 7 years, that’s so tough 😔 she deserves so much better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:45 PM |
| 7 | The only D you need is Dignity (and sometimes Divorce)Never thought about self-discipline that way, great point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:55 AM |
| 5 | The only D you need is Dignity (and sometimes Divorce)I love this! A great reminder. I need to focus more on the activities that make me feel better in the long run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:54 AM |
| 26 | Nothing but truth was spoken.Really? :( I think I saw on another sub that BD was working as an escort in some city, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:04 PM |
| 40 | Nothing but truth was spoken.omg I agree. Start locking up anyone enjoying sexualization of children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:03 PM |
| 8 | Staywithmeisha?yes, me too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 07:54 PM |
| 54 | Stop normalizing pedophilic beauty standardsThat's so sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 07:53 PM |
| 28 | Please comment to share your therapy stories! Particularly couples counseling (fails and wins)I went to couples therapy with an NVX. My self-esteem was shot by that point. Looking back it was completely pointless and traumatizing. I don't think I'll ever go to couple's counseling again. I agree individual therapy can be beneficial. If my partner and I can't work out our issues together, then that's the end of that relationship. And yes I'd love to hear about it on the podcast! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, don't suppress your anger!That is exactly what I used to do. When I used to cry, I would be like am I actually sad or am I feeling [defeated, powerless, helpless], and if so, then I'd get up and do something about it. You could try letting out the anger in ways such as: yelling (I do this in my car or basement), hitting a punching bag or pillow, writing angry things in a journal. You can also do exercises related to intensity such as sprinting, medicine ball slams, pushing or carrying something heavy, hiking up a hill. Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 07:23 PM |
| 19 | I don't careSAME | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:59 PM |
| 4 | Context: the boyfriend has sex with other women for OnlyFans and promotes it on TikTok. The girlfriend says she is “happy”. Comments are saying “y’all mad you get cheated on for free while they’re in a healthy relationship with boundaries, trust, and more money than you” 🤦♀️When she says "we're happy", it totally sounds like it does affect her. It's how I used to say it. Could be projecting but just my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:58 PM |
| 396 | I shudder at therapists like this giving out this advice to vulnerable women."If you're distressed by your boyfriend's frequent consumption of porn, and your boyfriend is only distressed by how you don't like him fapping to sexual abuse, then the problem is really you not him." Let's just coddle our LVM even more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 9 | HelpThese are great. I have also written out messages (never sent) of what I wish my ex would say in response to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:02 PM |
| 8 | I hate Adam Sandler’s films.Omg me too. His movies were soo popular when I was growing up, and I remember trying so hard to like them to fit in. That along with other societal things. I always thought something was wrong with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:15 PM |
| 22 | A few days ago someone posted a tiktok with the first verse and the full song was finally released yesterday!! I’ve been jamming all day! I’d Rather Die - TRAMP STAMPSAmazing! This makes me want to be a rockstar. Funny how I never ever wanted to be one before when there were only bunch of angsty, misogynstic boys as rockstars. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:49 PM |
| 19 | Mood for lifeyes I like the idea behind it, but it def looks instagram-influencer-y | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:43 PM |
| 90 | Guys who leave you at a party or a family gatheringOmg yes I hate this too. I feel so extremely awkward when family members don't know who I am or why I'm there. I feel like it's just the courteous thing to do. I'm happy that my friends are inclusive and cognizant of these types of potentially awkward or uncomfortable situations. A boyfriend should be too imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:37 PM |
| 92 | Yeah sure let's put the blame on a girl and victimize a man who in 99% of cases was the pursuer. Funny how people don't even get enraged that hard at raped victims who had their lives ruined. Omg.How about the OP is responsible for making sure they have consensual sex with an adult? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 03:47 PM |
| 12 | Ready for this comprehensive in-exhaustive list of reasons why he sucked?SO happy for you OP! This NVM sounds absolutely horrible. You did the right thing. Leaving a LTR with a NVM can be sooo painful. Just remember that you are not alone, and this too shall pass. I definitely recommend talking to a therapist or someone you trust, if you haven't already. No need to blame yourself. That's what he did for issues that were his. Just take care of yourself and move forward, holding strong what you will not accept in a relationship anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:40 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InIn addition to the other comments of being kind with yourself and connecting with your anger, I would say reflect on what it is you are craving from him. Is it the love, physical touch, being special, validation, companionship, direction, etc. And then I would sit with the negative feelings that arise when you aren't getting it met and experience that pain. Then I would do some intense brainstorm on how you can meet those needs outside of him and start implementing them right away. Because you c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:06 AM |
| 10 | Why are you ring to date a homeless man though?So she wants to be a mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:09 AM |
| 29 | Amazing that the men who love me tell me not to date and stay away from men.Yeah literally so many men have told me that too. I'll always remember a professor once said that he wouldn't want a daughter because he knows what a teenage boy's mind thinks about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:07 AM |
| 92 | Don’t send nudes.HAHA I so want to do this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 12:52 AM |
| 17 | Do men that dont watch/dislike porn even exist?Yesss. I can totally see that. If they are passionate and immersed in something productive, the less time or desire they would have to dehumanize women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 12:50 AM |
| 46 | Do men that dont watch/dislike porn even exist?I’m worried that they just lie or hide it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 10:05 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI upheld my boundary today and it felt so good!! I can get lost in this person's deflective and denial tactics, and I end up getting confused, angry, or regret what I say afterwards. But this time I held steady the whole time with my boundary. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 08:06 PM |
| 49 | This woman has clearly been manipulated by a LVM who convinced her that his porn habits are to be blamed on her.🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:37 PM |
| 82 | This woman has clearly been manipulated by a LVM who convinced her that his porn habits are to be blamed on her.I just looked her up and am saddened by all her "advice" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:36 PM |
| 169 | This woman has clearly been manipulated by a LVM who convinced her that his porn habits are to be blamed on her.WHAAAT. No. If my guy is not getting his GoD GiVen (whatever the hell that means) needs met, then he can communicate that with me. If he doesn't like it then he can leave and find someone else. STOP BLAMING WOMEN FOR MALE DEPRAVITY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:31 PM |
| 15 | This is why sex work is stupid. They don’t want to actually pay for it. Paying for it doesn’t fulfill their desire for power.THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:23 PM |
| 27 | For who doesn't know about Hedy LamarrI have never heard of her, yet I've heard of the three men A LOT. And I majored in computer science. So crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:11 PM |
| 4 | Concrete initial steps for decentering men from your lifeGreat post The hardest part for me is building new, fulfilling connections. I do almost everything that I could want, by myself. And it is great, sometimes. The thing I like most in a relationship (#2) is having someone to live with and do those things with sometimes. In college when I had a bunch of close girl friends, I literally felt #5 for the first time ever, truly not wanting to date a guy because I had many fulfilling friendships. But it's definitely been hard since then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 12:04 PM |
| 69 | here’s why Scrotes NEGGSO TRUE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 10:53 PM |
| 58 | REMINDER: “The wall” is a patriarchal myth 🙌🏼I feel like so much of what I was taught to believe has been a lie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:49 PM |
| 3 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionI really love this thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:31 PM |
| 135 | Yesterday i was in girl’s study room in zoom. Why do men have to invade women’s spaces and harass them?!It's so crazy. I really think boys need to be taught at a young age not to harass girls. They grow up rarely getting consequences for it. And then they feel entitled. And then they harass girls and women more, with no shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:19 PM |
| 38 | He cheated on her and she's still with him. She now finds out he spends money on porn.I just learned I'm on hopium | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 01:01 PM |
| 2 | I watch this video from time to time whenever I need to be reminded about the good in the world. I've watched it over a dozen times and bawl my eyes out, start to finish, every single time 😭😭😭 love is a beautiful thing, when shared with the right personI read the comments but I still thought I wouldn't cry 😂😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | I watch this video from time to time whenever I need to be reminded about the good in the world. I've watched it over a dozen times and bawl my eyes out, start to finish, every single time 😭😭😭 love is a beautiful thing, when shared with the right personomg me too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:26 PM |
| 3 | This song is awesome and I thought y'all would like it too!I love it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:11 PM |
| 1 | After 6 solid years of relationships, I've finally gotten to a place where I feel like myself againWonderful OP! I can relate. Thank you for posting 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:08 PM |
| 2 | How do you move to a new city and get a fresh start? Is that recommended?Thank you. Those are actionable steps that I think would help - self-reflection on why, making a plan, and still trying to improve on myself here. I am working on not being with the guy anymore. I've started distancing myself from him. I feel an abrupt disconnect would make it harder for me to focus on my next chapter. But yeah it is still fresh and sad and hard. | /r/askFDS | 10/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 5 | How do you move to a new city and get a fresh start? Is that recommended?I finished school a couple of years ago. I bounced around different industries and job roles since then. | /r/askFDS | 09/04/21 06:57 PM |
| 13 | That fucking slug story broke methis is true, it can be so traumatizing for women to go the legal route | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Being groomed by an older man is not “empowering” (translation in comments)that's awful. I had no idea that young teenagers are literally waiting to turn 18 just so they can do OF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 08:28 PM |
| 6 | Would also love to have more conversations about how we can be more intersectional and open to discussions about race and feminism ❤️I completely agree. Except I think Paris Hilton made a sex tape just bc that's what her disgusting boyfriend at the time wanted, and then he sold it for money and Paris did not whatsoever want that leaked. Still, prior to that, she would flex her white privilege in other ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:59 PM |
| 10 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”This is so accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:33 PM |
| 20 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”Agreed. He should be in jail for attempted murder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:31 PM |
| 17 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”this just gets worse and worse!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:31 PM |
| 374 | SLUG UPDATE: SHE DID EVENTUALLY LEAVE THE GUY WHO WAS FEEDING HER SLUGS! [EXTREME NSFL IN PICS 2 AND 3]Omg this is just so so sad. Her first sentence is minimizing "I recently left a weird relationship where my partner was contaminating my food etc" Weird?! Try abusive. Contaminating?! Try poisoning. This guy needs to be in jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:25 PM |
| 37 | Is it just me, or is sending nude selfies a really stupid thing to do?I also think that nude selfies in general dehumanize a woman to just her sexual body. Like the man receives the pic and oogles at it just like he does when he watches porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 04:40 PM |
| 25 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”wtf this is so messed up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:12 PM |
| 19 | I want praying mantis sex ed. My school preferred "first a couple kisses, then come touching, then blowjobs, then PIV, and then maaaybe cunnilingus but most couples prefer not to" misogyny🤣haha omg this made me laugh, thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:09 PM |
| 102 | Is it just me, or is sending nude selfies a really stupid thing to do?Yeah I think the risk for a girl or woman sending nude pics is so extremely high, and for what reward, male validation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:07 PM |
| 13 | Of course Reddit somehow convinced her this obvious case of porn sickness is ok...Sounds like a Cool GirlTM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 12:29 AM |
| 16 | Sorry but no, withholding sex isn’t a real thing because nobody’s entitled to your body under any circumstances. In her BIO she calls herself a psychologist. 🤡so is she saying have nonconsensual sex (marital rape) or get a divorce? Easy, get a divorce. Don't see why she's trying to convince women to have sex when they don't want to... This is very wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 12:27 AM |
| 5 | Creepy guy I ghosted, never dated, still mad months later 😂Wow haha what a handful! Glad you stopped talking to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 06:21 PM |
| 15 | Of course Reddit somehow convinced her this obvious case of porn sickness is ok...😂 it’s so funny because it’s true, and also very sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 05:07 PM |
| 14 | Gail Dines versus scrote and pickmeshias (one calls Cosmopolitan magazine feminist)And when I was young, what did I subscribe and look up to... Cosmo 🤦 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 02:30 PM |
| 11 | Gail Dines versus scrote and pickmeshias (one calls Cosmopolitan magazine feminist)omg yes I felt sooo infuriated of the people defending the porn industry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 02:27 PM |
| 22 | this is all my past relationships in a nutshell...🤣🤣 relatable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 07:11 PM |
| 25 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inSo a couple of years ago I worked in a job that required me to look through financial statements (credit cards, checking accounts) for many, many people. I remember seeing OnlyFans A LOT. And I didn't know what it was! When I looked just at the OF website, I saw it was premium content but didn't think much else of it. Porn did not cross my mind. I obviously know what it is now, but I really wish I knew it then because I would've loved to see how many were guys and how many were married, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 03:16 PM |
| 2 | I hate (priveledged) sex workers💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 01:50 AM |
| 24 | What does commitment mean to you?So in my experience, here are some things I notice when a man commits: - He is generous with his time, money, and energy with you. By committing he is investing in the relationship, thus he will invest his resources. - He is thoughtful and serious about making future plans with you, be it a date or an event or career/location/life aspirations. He takes your likes, dislikes and values seriously when having such conversations. - He is consistently looking for ways to enhance and grow the relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 01:13 AM |
| 16 | Porn/video games frying mens brains? Major disconnectYeah I agree. They are literally just living in some weird ass fantasy world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 12:44 AM |
| 8 | Early red flag: Men who hate their jobs and coworkersThis is so true, thank you for posting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 09:56 PM |
| 30 | Those Google searches make me sad"why do men still exist" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 09:39 PM |
| 44 | Where's the lie tho🤣🤣this made me laugh, thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 09:36 PM |
| 8 | They’re always the victimOmg. My ex always said something similar to "you're not understanding what I said" after I stated how I was upset at something he did. YEP he was trying to confuse me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:04 PM |
| 14 | Girlfriends/Wives are not on the list of in-network therapists🤣🤣awesome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:55 PM |
| 5 | Never forget ladies!Yes, a relationship with someone that is LV or not right for you will slowly suck the life out of you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:18 AM |
| 28 | More women have died at the hands of a loved one, then men have died in all of the wars put together! This is why it’s so important to vet because men have the potential to kill you.This doesn't get nearly as much attention as it needs to. Men are an extremely legitimate threat to women, and yet I never hear about it in the news. I also love how she's just doing her makeup through the whole video. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:10 AM |
| 11 | Nothing about this is funny. How is this not illegal???So weird | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:20 PM |
| 2 | I'm sick of pop music!Yepp I'm with ya! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:13 PM |
| 50 | "Top Ten Sexual Problems from Using Porn" - excerpt from The Porn Trap by Larry and Wendy Maltz... Remember, ladies, stay away from the porn addicts!A LOT of the women describe feeling distressed at being gaslit (the authors don't use this term specifically, but that's what it is) because they're able to see and sense that something is wrong with their partners, but their partners constantly deny and accuse them of being jealous, insecure, or insane. This is SO sad to me. Probably bc I spent most of my life like this, and I really don't want any woman to be gaslit into believing they are jealous, insecure or insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:08 PM |
| 7 | Men think masturbating to their friends and family is natural, just like menstruation. And if you think it's gross you are victimshaming. WTF is wrong with men??Agree! They are just using the verbiage from REAL narratives that shame victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 03:55 PM |
| 30 | One of the top posts today on this hellsite... a man chasing his wife around with a lobster (repeated every year). This is male humor! Why do men love/take such pleasure in scaring and physically menacing women?It's so messed up. I had a guy tell me once that he liked making me squirm. I didn't understand it at the time, but now, without a doubt I know that's a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 12:57 AM |
| 10 | If all women watched and actively got off to porn of just men with huge dicks, men would feel insecure.Omg I totally agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 08:17 PM |
| 28 | I’m sick of being canceled on because 30 year old men somehow still can’t pace themselves with alcohol and act like frat boysOmg I love your response!! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 08:06 PM |
| 10 | They are definitely more fragile.Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 01:41 PM |
| 64 | I realized how sensitive I've become to see hipersexualized women in mediaYes! I too am hyper-sensitized to seeing anything that panders to men. The only social media I have is a rarely-used FB, and keep any media I ingest to a limited scope. I believe it 100% supports my mental and emotional health. What I find hard lately is interacting in social circles where there is a lot of mainstream media. It's usually a bit of a shock when I hear the music they play, tv shows they watch, the off-handed comments they say, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 03:18 AM |
| 9 | There's no way to vet 100%Yes, I agree. It reminds me of the saying, it's not Mr. Right, but Mr. Right Now. No one knows how the future unfolds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:57 AM |
| 7 | There's no way to vet 100%Wow thank you so much for sharing. Saved this post, it's a really good reminder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:55 AM |
| 48 | School tells girls they can’t decline a danceWow glad they were able to remove that rule. I'm just thinking who created this "inclusive and kindness" rule, a man who feels that boys should be entitled to women, or an internalized misogynistic woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:51 AM |
| 55 | Thoughts on weird and minimalist tech guy?Imo he is not ready for a serious relationship. He is still building his net worth and investing in himself. Imo he will not be a good boyfriend. It sounds like you were weirded out by his house. And I would be too. He did not setup a home to accommodate a woman that he wants to pursue. Instead, it's like a nerd's bachelor pad. Obviously I'm just going by what you said. But basically you can ask yourself, is that what you want? Also, I am in big tech and personally know many of these young, mini… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:39 AM |
| 37 | An interesting video essay on woman sexuality. Thoughts?Interesting video So I feel like for the women mentioned, they felt empowered due to having financial freedom. Something that any successful businessman would also feel. However they are different. Generally speaking, the women exploit themselves, while the businessman exploits others. It is the women's choice. However, it's a pseudo-choice because it's like they are choosing between being poor or self-objectifying and potentially being rich. If they were born rich, and didn't have any trauma, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:15 AM |
| 10 | Scrote on the street told me he wanted to r*pe meThis should be a crime and they should be arrested and charged. This is a threat on a person's safety. Fucking patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 01:14 AM |
| 9 | The Example For a Gender Based Hate Crime on Justice.Gov Angers MeGenuine question, could a man who serially, sexually abuses women be charged with a hate crime? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 12:57 AM |
| 6 | The Example For a Gender Based Hate Crime on Justice.Gov Angers Meso true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 12:53 AM |
| 35 | The Example For a Gender Based Hate Crime on Justice.Gov Angers MeHaha wow!! It's almost like they have to put it into men's perspective to understand. Bc of course if a woman shot up a men's locker room, men would be like, wow what a crazy man-hating woman, that's a hate crime, she hates men. But a man shooting up a women's locker room, he just had a bad day which is normal, idk if that's a hate crime. Also I feel like I can confidently say that if a woman ever committed a hate crime against men, it would NOT be for being sexually frustrated 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 12:50 AM |
| 22 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.ahhh this girl is just submitting to his fragile ego.. and she doesn't see what's wrong with that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 12:00 PM |
| 13 | Can't even shop online without being shown sexualized images of women models taken by gross photographers.ugh yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 11:26 AM |
| 5 | Can't even shop online without being shown sexualized images of women models taken by gross photographers.they should've posted a different shot, mainly talking about the second picture | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 11:26 AM |
| 50 | Tell me how you know your bf won't cheat on youwatching guys play with toys like this weirds me out. it's like they are disassociated from real life and in a fantasy life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:15 PM |
| 29 | Tell me how you know your bf won't cheat on youyeah completely agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:14 PM |
| 83 | WHY are Males?that's so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:04 PM |
| 70 | WHY are Males?Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:04 PM |
| 147 | Accept responsibility when your partner cheats? How about hell no!Yeah this is why my relationship WILL NEVER recover from an affair. I'm not taking responsibility for my partner's weakness. I'm not compromising my boundary just to be back in a relationship with someone who can't keep their d in their pants. Hell freaking no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:00 PM |
| 21 | miss me with that coddling bsYes well said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 03:53 PM |
| 25 | Judge Lyn Taylor epically roasts a scrote so hard - he appears to be a changed manOMG THIS IS AMAZING!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 03:51 PM |
| 7 | The difference a year can makeBeautiful, thank you for posting 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 02:01 AM |
| 39 | I’ve had to use this so many times, sadly it doesn’t always work..omg that's true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:48 PM |
| 7 | Male violence, the media, and fear of going outJust checked their history and sometimes they say they are a man and sometimes they say they are a woman. They also promote things against FDS’s principles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 06:04 PM |
| 2 | How do you get rid off low value woman mindset?Sure, makes sense. So there are probably many many great retreats out there. I will speak to the ones I have been on. They are about 4 days, done in a group setting, are a mixture of somatic/core energetics/gestalt types of work, and they focus on emotional healing. It’s like a long weekend of an intense support group. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 05:42 PM |
| 9 | How do you get rid off low value woman mindset?Happy Birthday 💖 I hear you. I would say keep going to therapy and doing internal work. Also don't be afraid to try a different therapist or type of therapy if you're not noticing that internal shift that you want. What I found that helped for me was going on a transformational retreat where my unloveable beliefs were confronted in the eyes of others, and I felt a sense of my own deeply rooted value that has carried with me. That has been the most efficient and profound mindset shift for me pers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:28 PM |
| 7 | Ran into NVX and didn’t let it ruin my dayWonderful!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 10:38 PM |
| 7 | Let’s discuss: why do some people try to shame you for not wanting to be in a casual sexual relationship?Yes exactly! They don't want to be the only one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 10:27 PM |
| 6 | I realized I couldn't change him---so now I'm single.So much of this sounds similar to my relationship. I know it is tough. Awesome job for upholding your boundaries. You've opened space for getting what you need and deserve 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 10:25 PM |
| 107 | This poor man's wife and family - but porn is a normal and healthy expression of sexuality 🤡This is just another example of how men are weak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 01:31 AM |
| 5 | Decline alcohol on a first date!I don't drink, but I really like these points. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 11:26 PM |
| 8 | So apparently watching porn to get turned on before having sex with your partner is normal... And the comments are not even by men.. 🤢This is just wrong for so many reasons. I can't stand how people talk about sex these days. To me, sex is about intimacy. Like souls meeting and loving, and the physical manifestation of that can be sex. To watch porn does not bring intimacy since there is no connection. Just doesn't make sense, and I feel bad for women who get gaslit into pleasing their partners this way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:55 PM |
| 11 | FDS: A Fairy TaleOmg thank you for this story 🍵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:47 PM |
| 6 | Women can do anythingShe could be single. She doesn't have to be a mother. The image suggests that if someone wants to be both a CEO and be pregnant, she can. She also could be single and working, or a stay at home mom. She can be anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Women can do anythingAgreed!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 03:13 PM |
| 4 | Finance bros are the jesters of the Scrote Serfdom...Yes agreed!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:32 PM |
| 82 | Don’t Dress Up for a Man on the First DateYeah, I agree. What I like to do is to schedule a first date on a day that I already will be dressed a little nicer (have a meeting, brunch plans, etc) so that it doesn’t add as much effort that day to go on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 09:43 AM |
| 7 | has anyone else developed an avoidant attachment style in romantic contexts with men because of misogyny?Yeah it's really tough. I'm in a state now where I am also grossed out by men's sexuality. And as I become aware more and more of men and porn, the thought of a man penetrating me just annoys me. Keep following your intuition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:55 AM |
| 6 | Men who wake up one day and decide to be successfulOmg yes!! I've heard this story so many times. Thank you for putting it into words. It's the privilege of getting to slack off, and then the privilege of leveling up in a career, just because you decided it and finally had to put in some work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:46 AM |
| 241 | Women can do anythingThe CEO of Catch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:28 AM |
| 7 | Boys who believe its the womens fault she was assaulted, deserve to be lonely.Can you please come and say this to the men in my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 12:49 AM |
| 68 | Lol ✨SHOCKING✨ that a man profited off a woman’s idea /sUgh. This reminds me of a photographer that took photos of Emily Ratajowski like ten years ago for a racy photo shoot, and now he is selling a book of all the photos he took that were never published and is profiting off of them. There was an article saying she never signed anything that gave him permission to use them and she tried to fight it but idk whatever came of it. Men profiting off of women’s bodies makes me so mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 05:01 PM |
| 2 | What would a world made by women, for women look like?That is fair. When creating the post, it was specifically a world made for women, as opposed to both men and women, meaning that naturally the power (and thus some corruption that goes with it) is to benefit the woman. My points are not necessarily to reflect a healthy, harmonious society (although that is great too) because of course it wouldn't be healthy for most men to feel crazy or inferior or shamed for who they are, just moreso as a thought experiment. What a scary world would we live in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 01:42 PM |
| 20 | I'm An Incel. Ask Me Anything.I really just didn't want to watch this, coming here to read the comments :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 01:02 PM |
| 22 | Liberal feminism mind fucked meCompletely agree. FDS has opened my eyes to lib fem and choice abuse. It's so crazy because for me I felt like I had to go along with being a Cool GirlTM or else the backlash/unacceptance would be worse. It feels like such a big relief - I didn't even consciously recognize the tension it was causing me. But yesss girl, you're in a new chapter and are never going back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:56 PM |
| 12 | Why don’t men call out their friends for being sex offenders???This is so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:22 AM |
| 126 | Why don’t men call out their friends for being sex offenders???"He's super chill, I never got that vibe from him" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:20 AM |
| 10 | What would a world made by women, for women look like?Men would put more emphasis in becoming husband/father material so that women would want them omg I love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:17 AM |
| 24 | What would a world made by women, for women look like?Yeah true, they wouldn't be worried about getting assaulted because women wouldn't do that so maybe at night they wouldn't have that fear that women do. Yes, agreed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 02:34 AM |
| 64 | What would a world made by women, for women look like?These are good points. My general thoughts were that they could feel more intimated because they weren't holding positions of power, and maybe just generally less confident. Their BS wouldn't be tolerated, thus feeling a little more unsure of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Women are exploited by men even in death: Morgue employee arrested for allowing visitors to have sex with bodies in exchange for moneyHopefully he and all the people he let abuse the corpses go away for awhile. That's such depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 01:31 AM |
| 27 | A reminder that porn ruined relationships and livesUgh yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:23 PM |
| 8 | Her replies in the comments show the pick me behaviour. I am mad. She is teaching other women wrong ideasOh poor things, they just didn't understand what we wanted 😌how are they supposed to know when we ask for help around the house, to help around the house. This is what I've been doing wrong. From now on, I'll just spend a couple hours of my day figuring out how to best get through to my man. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:41 PM |
| 5 | Her replies in the comments show the pick me behaviour. I am mad. She is teaching other women wrong ideasOmg so this is going to lead women to keep wondering, "well maybe if I just communicate with him in THIS way, he would" rinse and repeat. Fuck no I've been on that ride and wasted four years of my life. Let's leave it at IF HE WANTED TO, HE WOULD. And let's be real... 90% of the time he does know you want him to, he just doesn't want to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:34 PM |
| 17 | Chronicles of my LVM ex + my former pick me self.Omg I'm so sorry you had to deal with this LVM :( it's not right. I was with a very similar guy when I was 18. Awful. The ways he would treat me after expressing my feelings were so bad. Invalidating. Disappearing for days. Excuses. And the pickme things I would do. I literally once texted him over 30x in a row when he didn't respond for a week.. yikes. I'm glad you're in a better place now, you deserve so so much more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:26 PM |
| 32 | I would absolutely leave if a man did this. LVM behaviorLack of respect, no thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:32 AM |
| 3 | “Nice guys” love to say women only like bad boys, therefore they don’t get treated right but what they don’t understand is...Yeah guys who say girls only like bad guys, are just entitled and misogynist, and blame women for their own shortcomings. In my experience, those "nice guys" are some of the worst. They feel entitled to have you and treat you however they want for their benefit, usually from some sick and twisted fantasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:02 AM |
| 4 | Add this one to your playlists, ladies! -- Josh by Peach PRCthis is catchy haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:52 PM |
| 23 | When you have internalized misogyny and proud of it 🤡Umm no thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:19 PM |
| 14 | A great video on choice feminismDoes anyone have the link to that video? I would like to watch it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:13 PM |
| 117 | A great video on choice feminismI heard somewhere before that sometimes victims, who were in situations where they were totally helpless, try to take on some of the responsibility in order to not feel utterly powerless. I feel like Choice Feminism is the macro-level version of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:11 PM |
| 29 | Is Charlie an FDS follower (not quite there but he is getting close)!!me too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 10:33 PM |
| 4 | Oh my, this just so terrible. He does not love her. She was doing all the child rearing and working 2 jobs, meanwhile he was hiding his luxuries. Always stay vetting.My experience with guys who are into crypto, is that like 80% of them are misogynist. If they got in it at the retail mining phase 3+ years ago, 95% of them are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:40 PM |
| 5 | Oh my, this just so terrible. He does not love her. She was doing all the child rearing and working 2 jobs, meanwhile he was hiding his luxuries. Always stay vetting.That's almost like sadistic behavior... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:35 PM |
| 9 | Oh my, this just so terrible. He does not love her. She was doing all the child rearing and working 2 jobs, meanwhile he was hiding his luxuries. Always stay vetting.This would seriously be awesome. Facebook first started as a place where guys voted if a girl was Hot or Not, I believe. We could definitely do this, just would have to figure out how to verify it... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:33 PM |
| 7 | In the original tweet a guy got busted by his girlfriend as he liked pictures of sexy models on instagram. Male or female, and especially this one, the replies were terrible.Andddd this is [one reason] why I don't trust men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:23 PM |
| 25 | Woman asks men who are into exploiting their wives sexually for other men (wife sharing etc) why they enjoy it, gets this response. Imagine seeing your wife as a sex toy that’ll earn you brownie points with The Boys.Then buy a fucking car. Don't use your wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:12 PM |
| 6 | Men intend to force you into a no-win situation when they cross your boundaries. Don't let them.Yeah I hope more and more women start unequivocally stating their boundaries. And I agree it is in no way the woman's problem to caretake to how the man feels after stating said boundary, that's completely on him. And honestly if I were to see a guy make some outlandish remark after a woman stated her boundary, I think the guy is the one that looks stupid, and I think more and more people see it that way. No one likes a bully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:14 PM |
| 12 | A man with self awareness realizing men are the problem? This is rare.I thought similarly. Having girls who were abused listen to a debate on rape sounds traumatizing. He’s using it as a teaching moment for the boys, but at these girl’s expense.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 15 | Yikes, they’ve somehow found something worse than walk dates.hahah what the gas station?! And they've been talking for two months?! what the eff kind of date is at a gas station. I sure hope she stopped talking to him... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:57 AM |
| 10 | Yikes, they’ve somehow found something worse than walk dates.😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:55 AM |
| 11 | A man with self awareness realizing men are the problem? This is rare.It's great that he's taking initiative to bring more awareness to this. But honestly I feel pain hearing that there is even a debate about whether the rape was her fault. Like how is that even a question. Fucking no it's not her fault. Predators rape, predators fault. It's not her fault. No need to discuss reasons why it'd be her fault. Let's just not even entertain that. Imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:39 AM |
| 9 | "Why are you so picky?"You are not too picky! You know yourself and know what you want, that is a very very good thing. Honestly other people are probably "too picky" too, just either aren't self-aware to know themselves, or doesn't think their criteria is "picky". I'm currently not dating, but I don't want someone that watches porn. I feel like I'll get so much backlash for that one out in the general public if I tell people that. I also don't want someone that drinks alcohol or does drugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 03:18 PM |
| 5 | I feel like we are living in the time of 'Choice Abuse'Yes, this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:55 PM |
| 17 | Your time is valuable.yes exactly. Men have a world built for them, so they get the luxury of focusing so much of their energy just to grow outwardly or have fun or whatever they want. While a women's world just looks so much different, including healing trauma and trying to keep their sanity just to name a few. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:31 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI am just feeling incredibly used. Used by my work who keep wanting me to produce more and more for clients with no additional pay, and my landlord who is increasing rent and adding fees. Why does my job get to make money off of my hard work, and why does my landlord feel entitled to 40% of my income, they own like hundreds of apartment buildings and do very little. I am in the works of changing my job and housing situation. I just feel like it's incredibly hard to reach financial security somet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:06 PM |
| 9 | VIBE CHECK: Scrotes who play devils advocate 🤡yesss exactly well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:52 PM |
| 50 | Finally a video about how porn affects the women in it! Bravo!This is great to see. I hope more and more and more videos, documentaries etc, keep coming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:30 AM |
| 85 | The friend zone doesn't existhaha LOVE IT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:26 AM |
| 50 | 💯% true for me.Yes! A male friend of mine that is gay, once said that basically he is homo-romantic, meaning he only wants to date guys, but is still sexually turned on with women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:22 AM |
| 130 | If you ever need a laugh, just remember that ancient Greeks spread the rumour that having a small D is a sign of intelligence and self control.BAHAHA of course they would This reminds me of a guy I dated in college that would finish super fast, and said it was a symptom of being more evolved, quicker to procreate. 😂I'm pretty sure I laughed right in his face when he told me that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 07:45 PM |
| 40 | Jesus christ this man is a piece of workHe's so fucking insecure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 07:39 PM |
| 63 | Feeling a lot of regret and sadness about how little self-respect I used to haveI would say to forgive yourself, just having compassion for your younger self and be there for her, she was doing the best she can. Be the person that she can count on, that she can trust has her best interest, something that she never got. To grieve - I cry and be tender. Take care of myself as if I had the flu. For anger, I would not turn it inwards (meaning on myself), and instead put it into something. I bought a freestanding punching bag to just hit it when I'm angry. I also yell in my car.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 07:36 PM |
| 32 | Masturbating with pictures of Instagram girls. Probably is the “new type of porn”.Yeah exactly, and there’s sooo many outlets for porn now. I had no idea Reddit even had porn until joining FDS. I was like wtf haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:59 PM |
| 32 | “Doesn’t like men”they obviously are just the dog versions of incels | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:43 PM |
| 57 | Masturbating with pictures of Instagram girls. Probably is the “new type of porn”.omg I can finally confidently say this would be unacceptable in my relationship. My boyfriend following any IG model is just an absolute no, let alone talking to her about jerking off. There is no good reason imo for a man who committed to me, to see sexy IG pictures all the time. just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:30 PM |
| 12 | Which part don't they get?I honestly feel like I could have sex just once per month, in missionary, and be happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 05:23 PM |
| 30 | Which part don't they get?😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 05:21 PM |
| 42 | Which part don't they get?I like this point, if they really need it then they could just fuk their male friends. Why don't they.. bc a lot of them just want to dominate and hurt women and that doesn't qualify as a need bRaH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 05:15 PM |
| 10 | Need advice from my ladiesI would immediately block any advances, so anything that seems a little tooo nice or tooo friendly, don't wait for them to completely ask you out. Be firm and try not to placate to being too nice, because they'll think they still have a chance. Alternatively, it might not be the best way to handle it but you could say you are in a serious relationship and that will sometimes stop a lot of men and you'll never have to lie about it to them again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 05:07 PM |
| 106 | How to make the first move, but not reallyI like this thank you for sharing! I realized smiling was mine, but with masks now, no one knows 😂 it reminds me of "dropping the handkerchief", where a woman can drop her handkerchief in the old days signifying interest, which invites a man to pick it up and then pursue her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 04:56 PM |
| 8 | Men be like: Don't sleep with drunk girls. Not because they aren't able to give their consent freely, instead it's to avoid a "false rape allegation".ughh yes I heard this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 04:26 PM |
| 4 | Not even two days 🤦🏻♀️✌🏻Haha she is funny! I love when she pulls her glasses down. But yeah, I was dating a LVM once, and man when I even mentioned the possibility of using sex toys, he ORDERED a bunch immediately and was all ready to go. Like what dude you didn't even take that initiative in planning a date or treating me nicely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 01:01 PM |
| 45 | "You are worthy of something great." So don't settle.Omg yes!!! Love it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 12:52 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI have about four female friends from college getting married this year. I'm not super close with them (anymore) but I can't help but think that these women can do better, definitely some pickmeishas :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 02:32 AM |
| 41 | Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.YES!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 01:27 AM |
| 5 | I think this applies to FDS too.So true. Why is FDS literally the only place that I've heard be against porn, sex work, BDSM etc. Ughh makes me so mad how brainwashing the patriarchy and libfem is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Love this. Discrepancies between actions and words will tell you if someone is genuine or not.Yes exactly! Listen to the actions, not his words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 10:59 PM |
| 5 | What does good sex even look like?I honestly don't know anymore. I used to think I had good sex, but Idk. Since upping my standards (yay!) I just haven't felt attracted to anyone. And now that I haven't had sex for awhile, I just haven't liked the idea of a guy penetrating me and the domination that comes with that. A journey 💝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 10:56 PM |
| 19 | Men love to remind women that they can physically dominate us because they are bigger and stronger than us. That's why I think women shouldn't be afraid of gaining muscle and having a little extra body fat, so we have more mass to throw around in self defence.Thank you for posting! I am petite (5'1",110lbs) and I have always been more weary of doing some things by myself, because I would just hate how vulnerable it would make me. And I have one friend group that is bigger/taller, and felt like they haven't really understood why I am just not okay being left alone somewhere at night. Like the sheer idea of most men being able to physically overpower me is scary af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 10:46 PM |
| 29 | "Men want to be judged on their intentions, not on their actions"So the way I look at it is this: It is NOT about them. It is not about what they meant, what they thought, how they thought, etc. It is about YOU and how a behavior impacts YOU. A response such as "I didn't mean..." is a defensive one. They are protecting whatever beliefs they hold about themselves. To me, that is on the poor side of communication, relationship building, and conflict resolution. A beneficial response would be to apologize and/or inquire to how to resolve the issue, with immediat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:10 PM |
| 8 | Hannah Gadsby - Nanette (on Netflix)Omg I loved this comedy special!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 03:37 PM |
| 12 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?My ex once told me that he "didn't know his address" since he just moved and I wanted to send him a welcome/care package. I was naive then but even I knew that was so dumb and sus. Found out soon after he was living somewhere with another girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 03:27 PM |
| 14 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?I saw that my ex was partying in Florida once via stalking his friend's social media, and when I asked if I could come over, he said tonight wasn't good because he was helping his parents but maybe on some other day. He kept lying for a bit. And then I sent him a screenshot showing that I knew he was actually partying in Florida.... I got no response for about a week and then I texted him and APOLOGIZED. I had no respect for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:41 PM |
| 7 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?Omg I have soo many | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:36 PM |
| 9 | Imperfection vs. Red FlagsYour distinction between human flaw and toxic was very helpful, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:06 PM |
| 2 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.I feel like this also applies to family relationships, and work. I was getting sinus infections on a weekly basis living with my parents and going to work everyday. I moved out and quit my job on the same day and have not had only had one sinus infection in the last year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inGood question -- I actually don't know. The comment just said something like "this is boring, going back over to FDS (w/ link)" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 12:46 PM |
| 26 | How much of women's birth control use is simply to accommodate men?Same. There is no sex that would make me risk my physical and mental health at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 12:45 AM |
| 451 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.OMG yes! I would start having intense emotional reactions, crying spells all the time and pent up rage, and then read a bunch of self-help books and go to therapy to try to fix myself. Turns out it was just because I was staying in a relationship with an abusive ex. Once that relationship ended my symptoms cleared up so fast | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 12:07 AM |
| 27 | HVM are not offended by FDSYes yes exactly! It's so true HVM wouldn't get defensive about stuff on here, they would just use it as a way to better understand women and themselves. It's the LVM that see it as a criticism because they notice the behavior in themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 05:35 PM |
| 7 | How can I avoid getting too emotionally attached early on and letting myself get led on?Focus your energy on meeting your needs! Fill your life with some strong, female connections, maybe from a place of worship, community center, or a support group. Invest your energy into growing and expanding yourself! Go to yoga, start a side hustle, volunteer in something that feels worthwhile to you, invest your money Don't let anyone, especially a guy, waste your time! For me, I did cut out dating any guys because I knew I needed to build myself first. After that, don't waste any time or ene… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:58 PM |
| 6 | Opinions on anime?I honestly find it weird. I have very little exposure to it though, and I think my preconceived notions would make it hard for me to have any objective view on it. If the guy fangirl's though, regardless if it's anime or something else, that's probably gonna be an automatic no for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:47 PM |
| 15 | Advice on How to Get Through Periods of DepressionA mantra I used when I was getting out of a toxic relationship was "No matter how bad it is, or how bad it gets, I'm going to make it." I had the mantra close to my bed so every morning that's what I focused on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:30 PM |
| 33 | TW: Vulnerable young women are being groomed into doing sex workThank you for sharing. I feel like this was one of the last FDS principles for me to really realize. I got sucked into the myth that sex work is empowering. It's so weird too because for most of my childhood I was ashamed of my female body and sexuality. And then there was a little relief hearing about "sex work empowers females!" but really what I needed was to feel empowered with my body and sexuality, anddd have respect for it and not be a pickme and try to please men sexually. Idk if I'm exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:28 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with the feeling of loneliness?I would agree with the all of the posts so far, get to know yourself and experience the loneliness feeling, treat yourself really well, find things you like to do, and maybe join an online club. I was hesitant at first, but I'm glad I joined an online weekly women's call, it's actually been super fun and refreshing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:15 AM |
| 2 | Friendly reminder, ladies. You can't fix him.Omg this really resonates with me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:04 AM |
| 23 | Spreading wholesomeness! He feels like it's a privilege to get married to her. So happy for her!That is really sweet. Idk if it's just me, but I just can't believe it :( it's almost like appearing too emotional to me. I hope they have a happy life tho :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:57 AM |
| 14 | 🔥🔥The Female Dating Strategy podcast teaser is now live on Spotify! Check it out! 🔥🔥I can't wait for the first epsiodeee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:46 PM |
| 16 | 🔥🔥The Female Dating Strategy podcast teaser is now live on Spotify! Check it out! 🔥🔥YES YES YES YES! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:44 PM |
| 10 | MeNs InFiDeLiTy Is DiFfErEnTThis is a lame excuse and men need to grow up and take responsibility. And if they truly can't control their BiOlOgIcAl uRgEs, then they need to be removed from positions of power and be supervised because that shit is dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 08:31 PM |
| 57 | Every single one of us....It's only been the last two years where I recognize how freaking scary it is to be a woman. It's around the same time I realized I was placating to men... to freaking stay safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 08:19 PM |
| 32 | Every single one of us....Omg yeah. When I was in 16 I remember going to get gas, going directly in the building to pay for it (which I hate doing!), and I was wearing a skirt and coat, dressed up for new years. And this older guy who worked there basically followed me in (he was outside doing something), insisted I come to his register and opened a new one, when there was another guy already working the register, and then after he checked me out (pun intended), followed me back outside to my car and was creepily watchin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 08:17 PM |
| 25 | This guy gets it 🙌🐍LOVE IT!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:30 PM |
| 21 | MeNs InFiDeLiTy Is DiFfErEnTHAHA let it slide 🤣 this logic is so messed up. How about we just say cheating is disrespectful and hurtful. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inIt's been a dream of mine to live in a house or apartment complex with a bunch of other women, preferably high-value to help inspire and support each other ❤️I'm starting to think it could be a reality | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 6 | Typical🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:17 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inJust wanted to say thanks to whoever posted a link to FDS in the wallstreetbets sub. I literally never used reddit until hearing about the gamestop saga and wsb, and when I was scrolling thru wsb comments saw a link to here. So lucky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:11 PM |
| 3 | 6pm curfew for men suggested by Green Party, views?That is literally such a fantasy of mine.. like a whole new world would open up after it gets dark :D I don't know how I would feel about the ethicality of such a thing, but it would sure be nice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:00 PM |
| 6 | How To Interpret Compliments From MenI never thought about it that way, thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:52 PM |
| 6 | Roasting my past libfem pickme self 🤡Thank you so much for sharing your story!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:42 PM |
| 4 | A man doesn’t have to call you a bitch to be a misogynist.LOVE this. Thank you for posting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:21 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inwhy. the. fuck. is. marrying. a. minor. legal. still. in the US | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:35 AM |
| 82 | Stop telling yourself “deep down he’s a good person”Yes! Accept someone that is high-value today, not potentially, could be, sometimes, will be in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:33 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI was so disturbed when I found out the guy who was pursuing me (age 28) was previously seeing a 19 yr old girl... I found out many months later. And he was gonna go to Hawaii with her and her [teenage] friends. I creeped online, and she literally justt turned 19 when they met, before that she was talking about prom. Freaking prom!! whyyy. I legit felt so offended that he now was trying to get with me. And mad at myself a little for entertaining it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:26 AM |
| 13 | Men are entering Academia with the express intent of preying on students. Like most LVM and Predators, they try and infiltrate the ranks of trusted institutions to find their victims and hide their intentions behind the authority of their title.This reminds me about one of my professors who was indicted on charges related to having sex with a minor, aka raping. He wouldn't do it near the university, he would travel out of state for these meetings. And they found some online account where he had been very, very active indicating he's done this at least a dozen times. He's in jail now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:20 AM |
| 17 | Men are entering Academia with the express intent of preying on students. Like most LVM and Predators, they try and infiltrate the ranks of trusted institutions to find their victims and hide their intentions behind the authority of their title.Not to completely generalize, as I'm sure there are many that are not, but I feel there are many predator-like male professors, or professors that imagine having sex with their students. They might not start off that way, or effing be premeditated like this poster. But I feel like if so many men watch porn, and are constantly around college girls, in a more powerful position, there are bound to be times that they slip up. This is the reason I will never date a college professor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI'm curious too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:03 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inomg yesss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:38 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inWhat are your opinions on guys who like anime? I've always been weirded out by it personally, and I know some anime is basically animated porn which is obviously a no-go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:35 PM |
| 25 | Men are entering Academia with the express intent of preying on students. Like most LVM and Predators, they try and infiltrate the ranks of trusted institutions to find their victims and hide their intentions behind the authority of their title.So gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:23 PM |
| 45 | Vice, a publication which supports sex work and advocates for it, also had this article up: Sex Worker Marylène Levesque Killed After Paroled Murderer Allowed to Satisfy 'Sexual Needs'. So tell us again how sexwork benefit women. Clearly getting murdered and/or raped empowers women.🤦♀️🙄I used to be an escort.. really just a prostitute but never called myself that, and I can 100% agree to this. Having sex with someone that I'm not attracted to was definitely not enjoyable, just used grit to try to get through that part. And I definitely deluded myself to being sex work positive aka to please men at the expense of myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 08:50 PM |
| 2 | How To Avoid The “Nice Guy”Thank you for posting 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 07:55 PM |
| 20 | Her husband is having an “emotional affair” with a younger woman. 🙄 This is why I’m scared to get married and have kids with a man.This is sad. The woman says she doesn't know what she did wrong.. she didn't do anything to make him cheat or not cheat, that's all his making. This is tough, Idk how I could trust someone after cheating. I'm scared of getting into any serious relationship as well, let alone to have kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:12 PM |
| 2 | I would give my child my maiden name as their last name after this.wtf there were probably red flags before that conversation, but what an awful time to recognize her fiance is a dIck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:02 PM |
| 2 | What kind of twisted thinking is this? „If Sex Work wouldn‘t exist, men would be even more violent to women“ I‘m so tired of this BS that libfems spread to justify exploitation of women to „prevent“ more violencethis is dumb, very poor logic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 05:58 PM |
| 5 | We've all heard of gaslighting, but what about when we delude ourselves? A man like this is not "amazing"!Omg yeah I never imagined I'd be in the boat of a guy not being able to get it up so soon (we were both in our 20s).. every bf I ever had was rock hard until then. And omg the feeling of being not good enough is intense.. like why isn't he attracted to me to get it up, he still masterbates, i didn't get it. Also communication. Should be able to talk about that shit in a real way with your SO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 12:06 AM |
| 16 | America's Next Top Model is male propaganda that grooms young women to think they're not allowed to say "no"When I was a young middle schooler, I watched this show, I loved this show. Looking back I see how messed up this show is. That and all my other favorite kid shows, the Kardashians, Girls Next Door, god knows what else that shaped me into a pickme with no boundaries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:32 AM |
| 5 | What did I just read?!There is NO SUCH THING as "TASTING SOME PUSSY" of a SIX YEAR OLD GIRL. Why the fuck is every single adult sexualizing a little girl. This is abuse and pedophilia. Very disturbing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:17 AM |
| 4 | These middle aged men are dating teenagers, disgusting 🤢. They admit they do it because they're easier to manipulatewtf.. feels like a pedo's journal disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:13 AM |
| 3 | Nothing says love and monogamy like a room full of naked ladiesI hate how I believed this pickme crap. That I should be completely faithful, yet he can go to strip clubs because hE's A mAlE aNd It'S nOt ChEaTiNg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:04 AM |
| 6 | Nothing says love and monogamy like a room full of naked ladiesAnd create an onlyfans where other men can give attention to you. if he can go look at naked ladies then a bunch of guys can look at this naked lady | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:00 AM |
| 3 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!WOOO GO YOU!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Is it only fair to blame the sex works ?HAHA WHAT I agree that's a huge problem. Let's be real though the "adult girls" are not the reason why... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 01:48 AM |
| 26 | Don’t let your guard down for a single second ladies... Exhibit A as seen on AskTRPWow...that's evil | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 01:31 AM |
| 22 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menThis is totally true. When you start standing up for yourself, you will face backlash from those that benefitted when you were more passive/submissive/silent. It's truly about respecting and valuing ourselves, just like any healthy person would do. In the past, when I started to value myself more, I was met with contrasting information, basically making me doubt myself and go back to my old ways. So it makes me sad for any woman who has this same self-doubt and ends up pleasing the male, confusi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI know it might not be everyyy women's cup of tea, but I sure hope most women can see FDS and come to any senses that were previously obscured by society. That'd be so awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 04:19 AM |
| 1 | Violence Against Women In Media Is EXHAUSTINGCompletely agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Anyone noticed how homophobes are usually also incredibly mysogynisticHaha that's a great idea | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 03:48 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI love your comment. I actually majored, and worked briefly, in software development. I did not like the field, and I realize a lot of it had to do with just how male-oriented everything in that field was. From being one of only two girls in most of my computer science classes (hearing/witnessing subtle and blatant misogyny so much), and how to learn/find out info I consistently had to be on these male-oriented sites. I wonder how much I would've liked it more had there been a positive female cu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 03:45 AM |
| 1 | I’m new to this community and this way of thinking, so I’m wondering. What are your thoughts on the kind of music we listen to? Do you ladies actively try to avoid music with lyrics that are disrespectful to women/sexualise women?Over the years, I've just stopped listening to most popular music for that reason. Also anything too "romantic" or too sad. And I've been drawn to more uplifting, sometimes alternative, music, that just overall feels healthy. Makes me sad that these types of songs are so popular. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 01:29 AM |
| 1 | They only use that excuse when it’s convenientOh my gosh, I believed for so long that mEn ArE ViSuAl. Like ingrained in me. But it feels much more like an excuse than biology lol I also wonder how many men really believe that their gender is more "visual" than women because that's what society has told them, and so they never have to act more civilized, and never thought to question it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inJust joined and very grateful that this subreddit exists!!!! I have read through many of FDS posts and comments and feel so relieved, believed, seen, accepted, etc :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:52 PM |
| 1 | 84k subs and how does this even exist?exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 07:48 PM |
| 11 | Advice for a man who married a gorgeous woman with whom he has nothing in common. I loved her response.you nailed it! haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Men's poor logic with sex.This is what I've been struggling to articulate in my mind for the last year. I've been sooo gaslit my whole life regarding this. I'm just now trying to make sense of my feelings vs. what society says is true/acceptable etc. And this post is so validating for me. I'm so glad I'm not crazy for thinking this. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Is Borderline Personality Disorder the real Battered Woman Syndrome?Diagnosing and treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder really really irks me. I completely agree that IT IS most likely NOT THE PERSON who is diagnosed that is just somehow messed up. That somehow the people diagnosed with BPD are oVeReAcTiNg. People diagnosed with BPD are just being triggered (PTSD/cPTSD) by very real trauma and experiences that they have had in their past, known or unknown. And if people diagnosed with BPD keep having the same reactions with the same people (i.e. husband,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:19 AM |
| 1 | How to break a trauma bond?For me, finding support - be it a counselor, support group, family etc. Figure out what aspect that you desperately crave from this relationship (e.g. physical touch, security, being wanted, companionship, etc.) and meet that need in another way. It can be as simple as holding your inner child in your mind and hugging a pillow. Feel the grief of the loss, and the freedom of what could be gained. Know your reason for why this relationship is no longer serving you. Reduce contact, or cut it off co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:08 AM |
| 2 | Be weary of men who intimidate you into not voicing your concerns in the relationship.Omg. this. It feels so good to know that someone understands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 02:54 AM |
| 1 | I am a victim of sexual assault and this opening from a scrote I matched with on Tinder made me feel physically illSo gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Blaming a literal child is easier than calling out a pedo. GrossRight!! To think of the level of pride/lack of shame this guy has (and guys in general, due to societal norms for guys) to defend on the internet pedophiles!! like wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Blaming a literal child is easier than calling out a pedo. Grossyeah I feel they are pedos themselves, or at the very least can understand these pedos because they see it in themselves and they don't want to blame themselves, which is still just disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI'm literally sooo incredibly happy/thankful that this thread exists. I thought Reddit was more male-oriented so I stayed away. Reading through so many of these posts I resonated so much, and just feel so incredibly relieved from not being gaslit (I feel like I definitely have been over the years from people, society, dating info, etc). I'm so happy to be here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:10 PM |
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