Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)

ruboyuri · 2022-07-12T18:16:06+00:00

It is stupid to do things you don’t want to, and not do things you want to

Otfd · 2022-07-12T18:26:05+00:00

Stupid question.

I choose to date my girlfriend because I love HER. It's a lot more fulfilling to spend time with her, then when I used to have hook ups with random girls at parties.

It's all about the person. My best friend is a pretty good looking dude, would literally have girls come home with him after parties and would just go to bed. Some of the girls even I was jealous of I am talking 10/10. He would avoid sleeping with them, but as soon as he finds a girl he likes he wants to date her.

Not all guys are as vagina focused as everyone in this /r is.

takethelovepill · 2022-07-12T19:04:01+00:00

You know how some guys have "a girl that got away"?

Your attitude is what causes that.

Sure, have fun. But if you meet that special girl and let her go because "sowing wild oats > that girl", there's a good chance that you don't get that chance ever again.

You expect it to be easy to find someone like that, because it's easy to find casual sex and...you are wrong. It's so hard to find someone that special.

Machinecrash · 2022-07-12T18:28:39+00:00

It depends on what you want tbh. If you want kids and you want to vet if a woman will be a good mother mid to late 20s is a good time to get in a relationship because it allows you the freedom to take a few years and get to know her before having kids.

If that’s not applicable then just stay single and screw around if you can. The reason guys usually get into relationships young is because they can’t get consistent sex from women without one.

tired_hillbilly · 2022-07-12T18:19:27+00:00

Casual sex is stupid for everyone always. No matter how hot you or your partners are.

Why wouldn't you want to get with the love of your life as soon as possible? We're only on this earth for ~80 years. Do you want to spend ~10 of them, your best ~10, on meaningless flings or do you want to spend them building a family with someone you really care about?

platinirisms · 2022-07-12T18:31:48+00:00

It seems like casual sex on demand is the holy grail for a lot of men on this sub.

Men want the ability to do that, but that doesn’t necessarily mean men want to do that, if that makes sense.

I want the ability to get any job I apply to, that doesn’t mean I want to go for every job, I only want the job that’s right for me, but that’s easy to do if every job is available to me. It’s proof that I’m valuable and wanted.

Same thing with dating, I don’t want casual sex, but I want to be valuable and wanted by women to the point I could have casual sex, aka it proves I’m a “High value man”. Being this high value man makes it easy for me to achieve my actual goal of having a single stable monogamous relationship with a woman who values me.

Inabind369 · 2022-07-12T19:03:03+00:00

I think in an ideal world, you meet "your person" fairly early, from 16-20, when you both have low (ideally 0) n-counts, and you make it work and stick it out and truly love each other. Obviously, it doesn't work out like that for most people, but I think you should always strive to make "the next one" count. I think it's kind of fucked to intentionally run around banging as many people as possible, although I understand the appeal, I really do.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-07-12T19:46:52+00:00

No it's not stupid. It is stupid to put too much emphasis on casual sex. It's also stupid to put too much emphasis on finding a gf.

Just go out, meet people, have sex, see if you like the person, and date them if you do. Don't reject a person you like just because you wanna fuck around. But also don't force a LTR.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-07-12T19:04:48+00:00

It’s not stupid if that’s what makes him happy. If you find a good girl and you fall in love fucking hold onto that. There isn’t anything better in life and it’s not that easy to find despite what Hollywood and storybooks say.

Just my opinion.

SmakeTalk · 2022-07-12T18:40:16+00:00

The only reason to do anything is because it makes you happy and satisfied. If someone wants to meet the love of their life and commit to them at 18 I see literally no problem with that, and if they want to have casual sex for however many years they should do that instead.

What's important is that we don't force our own wants and desires on others.

So no, it's not stupid, as long as it's what they want.

Flightlessbirbz · 2022-07-12T19:02:20+00:00

No, it’s stupid to do something you don’t want to do. Casual sex isn’t for everyone and is actually kinda pointless. That includes men. Imo it isn’t the best idea for anyone under 25 to get married, but plenty of people in this age group begin dating the person they will eventually marry. It’s a personal thing.

HazyMemory7 · 2022-07-12T22:06:43+00:00

Nah. Casual sex isn't fulfilling. If you can find a girl you like enough to potentially spend the rest of your life with, that's a lot more meaningful.

mustbepurged · 2022-07-12T19:28:12+00:00

My comments will be a synthesis of anecdotal and presupposes premises:

If we agree that this hypothetical male has both factors:

1) is attractive enough to easily sleep with women 2) life goal is to sleep with many women

Then yes, it is stupid for said man ti be in a relationship.

If only the first premise holds, but the second premise is false, then it may not be smart to sleep with a lot of women for health and reputations reasons.

I cite a historical fact that Caesar slept with the wives of many of his rivals. This fact likely did not make him any friends in the senate and we all know how his life ended. Causation? No. Correlation? Maybe.

Flintblood · 2022-07-12T21:22:58+00:00

Men 18-25 should date but not get serious, but start looking to nail down a LTR by 25-30 but only if she is marriage minded and marriage material. Whatever you do, don’t just fall into a relationship because it’s “comfortable”. Be intentional

FatmanSlim93 · 2022-07-12T21:56:43+00:00

If you like hooking up then hook up with people. You might miss out on a good relationship and be stuck with shittier partners later tho

Ramzabeo · 2022-07-12T22:57:46+00:00

Before i got married i used to have an easy time finding hook ups, i met my wife when i was 18 just leaving high school, and honestly as cringe as it may sound, sex has always felt so much better with her than with the randos i used to do it with, i assume its because of the connection we have, but 10 years later and i still love having sex with her, hasnt died down at all.

However, while i dont think its stupid, theres some truth to it, long story if you care enough but ill try and make short.

My wifes family is super old school, they believe in not leaving the house till married, sex till marriege yada yada, my wife followed those rules except sex before marriege, her sister however did wait.. her boyfriend seemed like a good dude but she was his first girlfriend, he never had a hoe phase like i did, they got married like 3 years before we did, and 5 years ago they divorced, the fucking imbecile left such a good woman (one RP dudes would die for btw) because he wanted to know what sex was like with other women, i tried to stop him but he didnt budge.

So now hes always complaining in social media how theres no good women (ironic) and wifes sister has since found someone else, my point is tho that since he never had a hoe phase, he didnt know how to appreciate such a good woman, i knew they were special as soon i saw their values, and i think its thanks to my hoe phase, thats my theory anyway.

Edit - if it matters, both my wife and her sister where also virgins like the guy i talked about when i met them, but they (sister, wife) havent felt the need to leave like he did, idk if it matters

Liberated_Asexual · 2022-07-13T00:37:27+00:00

A proportionate few men have the opportunity to sleep around like that, especially that young. If you are one of those men, there's a good chance a lot of women are almost literally chasing you — and most 20-something year old men aren't going to say no to decent 20-something year old pussy.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-07-13T02:24:29+00:00

Yes it's stupid, if you can afford to have variety then you take that opportunity.

Multiple women is objectively better than one.

2022-07-13T06:57:56+00:00

Casual sex is a physical release, it does not satisfy human wants for companionship and love.

Whynotbebetter · 2022-07-13T14:10:04+00:00

No? If you're with a girl you like, there's no reason to break it up just cause you're "supposed" to sleep around. Do what makes you happier and gives you meaning. And believe me, more often than not, in the long run, a good relationship is better than that "wild oats" thingy....

Inabind369 · 2022-07-12T18:09:14+00:00

It's not objectively great. Many attractive men sow their wild oats. But IRL, a lot of very attractive young men and women are serial monogamists because that's what they find fulfilling. Really just depends on the individual.

gofigure62 · 2022-07-12T18:40:06+00:00

I don't think it's stupid to want to be in a relationship as a young adult.

But I think it's stupid to believe that relationships in early adulthood would be or will be their last relationship.

I also think it's stupid when young adults put their relationships over their life goals and ambitions.

Early youth is for exploring, learning, growing, and preparing for the future.

I've seen enough young people ruin their lives over relationships, to suggest that focusing on themselves and their future is a better priority than dating.

2022-07-12T18:41:52+00:00

Not gonna advocate for having casual sex, but at the same time I think there's a case to be made for putting off serious relationships until after college at least.

Ime the #1 make or break for couples that age is logistics. Where are you for college? Where do you want to be after graduation, and are those plans flexible? The couples I know getting married right now at my age (23) were born and raised in the same state, went to college there, both families are there, and they intend to live there for the rest of their lives. Couldn't be me, but different people have different priorities. For me getting the fuck out of the Bible Belt was the priority.

2022-07-12T19:32:30+00:00

Just do whatever you feel is right for you. Just because you can do something it doesn’t mean you should.

Inabind369 · 2022-07-12T19:54:57+00:00

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Perseus_the_Bold · 2022-07-12T19:55:59+00:00

You always hear about guys needing to “sow their wild oats”

Brother may I have some oats?

It seems like casual sex on demand is the holy grail for a lot of men on this sub. Is it objectively as great a lifestyle as it’s made out to be?

It would be if women didn't sell their sexual value on a dating market. Extremely few women ever have sex just for the fun of it without expecting payment of some sort.

Bikerbats · 2022-07-12T20:30:53+00:00

Nature has already taken care of that for you. Play the field to your heart's content until you don't want to anymore. What typically happens is that you'll actually fall for someone, and then you won't want to play the field anymore.

alaroot · 2022-07-12T20:43:18+00:00

Everyone's wants and goals in life are different. If you even decided to marry and have kids early mean you have more youth to build your family and can possible even see your grand/great grand children.

According to black pill science on some YouTube channnel like Wheat Waffles, younger ladies have smaller social circle thus less competition for you so if you're a 6 guy you may be able to land a 7 or 8 girl just by being there first.

At younger age some of these ladies still believe in romance, have a more loving heart and are less exposed to the bitterness in life (less crazy) like the older women in their mid 30s onwards are experiencing.

Sure by getting attached to soon you may miss out on the parties, freedom and casual sexs but it all comes down to what you seek in life in the end. If you're chad enough you can opt for an open relationship but you're a normie or sub5 it may be wiser to just get into a relationship first to build your dating resume. You'll appear more attractive if you dated.

SouthernGrass3 · 2022-07-12T21:18:55+00:00

It depends on your priorities. 18-25 is the best time to meet people for a relationship since so many of your peers (including the most appealing) are still available, and socialization factors (easier to meet through college or casual socializing, most folks don’t have kids yet, etc.) are generally in your favor.

Of course, people defer focusing on long term dating in that time frame for different reasons. If those reasons contribute to an important goal, maybe it’s worth it. Is hooking up and then going back on the market with fewer favorable options (some of whom may be put off by your dating history) worth it if you already have someone that you love?

Best_Illustrator_137 · 2022-07-12T21:25:34+00:00

Me personally as a 20 something year old I’m playing the field, just like every 20s person, I wanna enjoy my playing the field days before they’re gone. I think coochie is the easiest it’s ever been to guys who can get it and even though it’s a lot of work juggling multiple people, if you wanna just enjoy casual fun I’d say go for it.

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-07-12T21:25:38+00:00

I mean whatever floats your boat right? Just wrap it always.

l1vefrom215 · 2022-07-12T21:35:22+00:00

Look for a wife when you’re ready to have children. Sowing your wild oats is hugely important for people. Helps you find what you like in a partner. So until your ready to start a family, get out there and meet some people! As far as the particular types of relationships you have before you’re married that’s up to you. A good mix of casual sex and medium term relationships sounds reasonable. I wouldn’t date anyone longer than six months unless you were really enjoying their company and thought they had wife potential.

From your comments it sounds like you haven’t done the whole casual sex thing. Give it a go but don’t be a fool wrap your tool! In general sex is better as a duet than a performance. One night stands tend to be a performance, the duets are more for relationships.

medlabunicorn · 2022-07-12T21:49:57+00:00

Not if that’s what they want.

A co-worker of mine married her childhood sweetheart a couple of years ago - they’d been together for more than a decade- and they seem to be completely happy.

antlindzfam · 2022-07-12T21:58:32+00:00

They should do whatever makes them happy, you only live once :)

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-07-12T22:09:50+00:00

You can be able to get casual sex and still want a relationship

2022-07-12T22:10:57+00:00

The best dating years can vary quite a bit between men. The right time to settle down might be 25 for some, or 40 for others.

If you're a dude who peaks young and doesn't have great earning prospects, I think it makes sense to lock down a relationship while you're still in your physical prime. But if you're a late bloomer with a good career path, you'll probably regret not playing the field more if you wife up the first girl who's interested in you.

Luiz4823 · 2022-07-12T22:30:22+00:00

If you want to commit into a relationship despite being able to fuck around with girls, that's ok

If you want to fuck around despite being able to commit to a relationship, that's okay

I'm 23 and can't do either of both so yeah

2022-07-12T22:54:07+00:00

Average boys want a consistent girlfriend that he can sow his oats with, Unless hes Chad then Chad does what he wants

Crushed_95 · 2022-07-12T23:32:02+00:00

Short answer? Yes! Absolutely stupid. These vaginas are for everyone B! Why limit yourself and be unhappy. Richard Cooper said it best. "She's not your girl, its just your turn!"

toasterchild · 2022-07-12T23:36:15+00:00

There is no such thing as oats. If you are the sort that is constantly thinking about the next thing sow away. If you are the sort who values longer, deeper relationships then go for that. Why decide who to be based on what random people on the internet tell you?

I know a lot of people who were pressured to "date around" and didn't enjoy it. Sometimes its lonelier than just being alone, but it depends on the person.

SoIlikeMangos · 2022-07-12T23:47:01+00:00

If this is what guys really want, I really don't know who to trust anymore.

2022-07-12T23:50:12+00:00

Good people who you can trust that love you back are hard to find. DO NOT WASTE THAT for a diversified sex portfolio.

Aishacryptomoon · 2022-07-12T23:55:17+00:00

Of course not! It’s beautiful and command respect. I man who wants to built a committed relationship with one person is very noble, in my opinion. My brother is like that. Not every man is out there looking for casual sex like dogs in heat.

Patrickstarho · 2022-07-13T00:20:42+00:00

Look here look listen.

I was you, madly in love with my gf. Guess what tho.

We broke up. During our relationship I had many women show interest in me. Like they wanted to fuck. These were beautiful girls too.

After we broke up those girls don’t want me no more. They moved on.

So you have to weigh your risks here. If you do break up, how fast can you bounce back? My advice to you is have women friends. Keep a platonic relationship with them just in case she breaks up with you.

Are you balding? Is your hairline receding? Take finasterside now! Prepare for the worst

ALexusOhHaiNyan · 2022-07-13T01:08:17+00:00

Yes. It’s a waste a time to be in a committed relationship when you’re young and attractive. Y’all are just gonna cheat. Let’s say 18 - 25 at least. High school to college steadies don’t last as university years are everyone’s sluttiest years, then give or take a couple years going out running your own life after. But that’s even more compounded but the fact that so many live at home now which either stretches this farther or makes sense to settle down? It’s confusing.

But. I remember a seeing two impossibly hot kids in lovers quarrel about flirting with other people and my friend made that observation. Better to manage expectations for commitment in early years.

That does make it confusing for people that do want to settle down and that’s what isn’t addressed. People should be more upfront about their expectations and aren’t and we live in more confusing times between genders than ever before.

mrlunes · 2022-07-13T01:08:35+00:00

Sex isn’t the goal for everyone. If all you want is casual hook ups then you are making a mistake committing yourself to one person. If you want to grow up and settle down then enter a relationship. It boils down to what you want. I know a hand full of people getting divorces and hardcore marriage problems because one or both desires casual sex. They settle down too early and feel like they ruined their youth. Other young people have zero desire for casual sex and week long relationships so they settle down.

keepinitrealzs · 2022-07-13T01:14:44+00:00

I fucked around and moved a lot until I was 27. Then met my now fiancée and settled down at my current age of 30.

I would recommend what I did but that’s also the only thing I know.

Random rant, this sub is so negative and bitches all the time. If all you do is complain I can guarantee that’s a majority of the reason why you are single. Not height dick size or whatever. Go turn those frowns upside down and get a popsicle or some shit.

mandoa_sky · 2022-07-13T02:47:27+00:00

depends on the person? some people might not want it due to fear of STDs, religious etc.

my little brother is good looking enough to have people of both genders asking me if he's single. that i know of, he's single by choice due to "personal standards"

KayRay1994 · 2022-07-13T03:27:27+00:00

Nope - but also seeking causal sex isn’t stupid as well, stop looking at this so qualitatively - i don’t think either is right or wrong, one just simply suits a person better at a given time of their life, and that factor in itself is entirely subjective

2022-07-13T09:30:52+00:00

I have had plenty of casual sex and I can tell you now having one wife level girl love and adore you is 10x better than any amount of hoes.

averagedude4 · 2022-07-13T13:46:38+00:00

I feel like everyone should have a couple hookups to figure out what they want and who is sexually compatible. A lot of young men struggle to do so though and end up trying desperately to make their first relationship work while potentially enduring abusive behavior and giving up too much.

Pilling_it · 2022-07-13T17:43:50+00:00

What's stupid is not doing what fulfill you, especially if you know what it is.

It seems like casual sex on demand is the holy grail for a lot of men on this sub. Is it objectively as great a lifestyle as it’s made out to be?

Fwb are great, ons are awful. Regardless of labels, basically only humping someone for a night without caring about their desires or if you're sexually compatible doesn't hold a handle to fucking someone into the same shit as you are. Not to mention, intimacy, trust and getting further and further in what you like.

ShiningWoman · 2022-07-13T18:53:34+00:00

They can but a lot of these men will want to 'settle down' at some point and most conservative women will not settle down with a man who is a whore.

Custard-Gyal · 2022-07-14T01:36:27+00:00

here's a wild thought - I think it's stupid for ANYONE to be in a relationship when they're young (like below 22/23 at LEAST). It's actually probably worse for girls, since they will typically sacrifice academic and career dreams for guys who don't end up marrying them or seeing long-term potential with them.

I don't think I was suitable to date anyone until 25 and I'm a woman. Yeah, guys will go on and on about "girls expire at 25" blah blah and but not only was I more confident at 25 and more attractive (grew into my nose and filled out a bit more), but my brain was actually fully developed. I understood cause and effect a lot better and knew which guys to stay away from and which ones could be a great addition to my life. had built a more beautiful life for myself, making it harder for me to be manipulated or used by a guy.

This may not seem like a big deal to a man, but for a woman, it's EVERYTHING. Your freedom and independence is invaluable. Too bad most women don't get this until it's too late and they end up baby mamas or stuck in abusive relationships where they're totally dependent on a man.

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-07-12T18:22:45+00:00

I mean as a man if you can easily get casual sex, you're only young once, I'm not going to say it's stupid to be in a relationship at that point but yeah as long as you're actually being safe and not knocking up a whole bunch of women, there's no way in hell I would limit my options to just one.

Just to throw me in as an example during my last two years of college I did have a steady girlfriend that I was with for the next couple of years, and by no means could I just easily get all the fucking I wanted to but how was a decent looking light skin guy on the track and field team, I certainly had my fun in high school and college, and I did and continue to even though I'm married now.

With a woman, we expect them to have a shit ton of options when it comes to sex, but if you're a guy and you have options, to me you'd be a damn fool to be strictly monogamous

AelfredRex · 2022-07-12T18:12:21+00:00

For guys that would be lucky to just get one woman willing to lay with them, being desperate for many is pretty dumb.

wtknight · 2022-07-12T18:13:07+00:00

No, because some people like being in love, and casual sex does not equal love.

NeonCityNights · 2022-07-12T18:43:10+00:00

In your early twenties you should avoid relationships and focus on your career, especially as a man.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2022-07-12T19:07:26+00:00

People don't have to conform to whatever standard is set for them. Men are not a monolith. There isn't a universally right way to live life. As some posters already said in this thread, even the biggest players (not all, but enough of them) fall in love and want to be with a girl. It's an individual decision to pursue monogamy, based on how much you like this particular individual right in front of you.

Hoopy223 · 2022-07-12T19:13:46+00:00

Guys who can get casual sex AND relationships will do both. They may have drama with their girlfriend/wife but generally its forgiven as long as he keeps it on the down low.

tpablazed · 2022-07-12T19:22:00+00:00

I didn’t meet my wife until I was 25.. didn’t have a serious relationship from 19 to 25.. so yeah.. I think guys should definitely explore their sexuality before getting married.. it did me well as now I have been married for 20 years and have an awesome relationship.

IanHawkess · 2022-07-12T18:14:09+00:00

I was kind of a combination of the two, and found a balance. Tbf I never really expected casual sex, and was always kind of amazed that women wanted to give it away so easily. Maybe I was ‘lucky?’

But the best sex was always with long-term partners. We got to know each other, we worked out what worked, we tried stuff out, etc etc.

I usually found ONS/hookups disappointing and never really sought them out, but a lot of women approached me for sex (I know, this sounds like total bullshit but it’s true) and I kinda went along with it because why not?

no_usernameeeeeee · 2022-07-12T18:27:41+00:00

It’s dumb to base your own opinion of what you want/need on what others think. If you’re someone who finds more fulfillment in a committed relationship then it’s perfectly fine, go that route and focus on your happiness in that way. If you genuinely just want casual sex, then do that. Don’t let other people define what you want. There’s no such thing as being stupid in this case as long as you listen to yourself.

AcanthocephalaNew947 · 2022-07-12T18:56:01+00:00

None of the above average men I’m friends with are hard up for sex, they don’t view sex the same as a dude not getting laid, at least not from what I see, correct me if I’m wrong, I don’t see the behaviors of this board IRL. There’s a few men who claim to be chads who post here but I have a strong feeling not all of them are being truthful. One in particular talks way too much like an incel to be a Chad, but I digress.

My point is some men avoid commitment, some commit as soon as possible, no two men are the same, not even chads 😂

NewWayNow · 2022-07-12T22:04:27+00:00

I don't think it's about sowing wild oats.

I think men need to be with quite a few women -- maybe 20 to 30 -- in order to really understand what they are all about. Their motivations, their patterns, and most of all, their not-so-nice side.

Nature built women with a very attractive veneer and some rather irresistible features. They've also had a great marketing campaign for many centuries. It's only with plenty of experience that you can see the full picture.

So I would not recommend that a guy settle down until after he has been around the block.

RealNiceLady · 2022-07-12T20:20:17+00:00

Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)

No, it's immoral to have casual sex. Relationships are the endgame.

Or are men who choose to have a relationship when they could have casual sex on to something or are they going to eventually feel the need to sow their wild oats if they haven’t already?

If a guy has good morals, he won't regret anything, but guys with bad morals wonder if they are missing out by not sowing their wild oats.

kokorwqac · 2022-07-12T18:23:45+00:00

i don't see the point of casual sex, why not pay for an escort?

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jymssg · 2022-07-12T18:19:38+00:00

do whatever makes you happy bro

Inabind369 · 2022-07-12T18:31:20+00:00

What are your long term goals?

sarkington · 2022-07-12T18:41:30+00:00

Why don’t you, ya know, do what you want?

0-13 · 2022-07-12T18:56:23+00:00

No? Value is objective.

gladusgates · 2022-07-12T19:05:52+00:00

It's stupid if that's not what they want to do.

Simpin--Aint--Easy · 2022-07-12T19:55:30+00:00

2022-07-12T20:24:22+00:00

They'd be better served putting in work elsewhere....like career, fitness, investment, etc...

but yes I think every guy should get some sexual experience under their belt for sure.

Financial_Leave4411 · 2022-07-12T20:42:38+00:00

It depends on your life plans and financial status.

freespirit1963TJ · 2022-07-12T20:47:51+00:00

I can only speak to this dynamic in the US, people get into serious relationship's and marry too young. That goes for men and women. They say women mature much younger than men. I say do men ever really mature?(I'm a man). I married way too young, and now realize I shouldn't have married until I was about 40. I realize that this post directly references having the ability to have casual sex, but there are a plethora of things that not having a serious relationship opens up for an individual.

slavicslothe · 2022-07-12T23:08:00+00:00

No. Even in a single relationship I’ve tended to have more sex each week than hooking up. Im poly and have three partners so hooking up is basically pointless anyway since Im allowed to do that when I feel like it. Plus people tend to get better at sex the more you do it with the person and being able to go unprotected without worrying about stds as much is a plus.

That said there are more rewarding aspects to relationships than just sex.

SDW137 · 2022-07-13T05:53:45+00:00

It's not stupid if that's what they want.

2022-07-13T06:04:13+00:00

Yeah I can get pussy so no need for a relationship for me anyway

Bobbyjets · 2022-07-13T13:27:21+00:00

Definitely not stupid, it all depends on what you're after

Title	Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)
Author	Inabind369
Upvotes	36
Comments	248
Date	July 12, 2022 6:05 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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