Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?

GarPaxarebitches · 2022-12-02T03:59:50+00:00

Yeah, provided that she's clean, doesn't have sex content on the internet, and is OK with me having a slutty past myself.

The less chicks get penalized for casual sex or early sex in a relationship, the more guys are gonna get laid.

If you're a guy who doesn't want casual sex, I get it, some people are very judgemental about sex before marriage/casual sex/sex for sex without feelings. If you're one of those people, you're probably not going to get along with someone who has casual sex or fucked guys after the 1st date.

On the other hand, if you're like a lot of guys and want to fuck women without a relationship, want a world where women are just as interested in casual sex as men, it's both hypocritical and self-sabotaging to restrict ex-sluts to non-marriage material.

The other thing though, is a lot of guys on here have a low body count and most guys in general haven't had a lot of casual sex. Guys who have fucked 2 girls are gonna have a tough time dating a girl with a body count of 50. And guys who are interested in casual sex typically get jealous and bitter that mediocre or better girls can get laid whenever they want with equal and hotter guys. Don't pretend women don't get bitter about guys just wanting sex.

All in all it's tough. If she doesn't make a big deal about having a higher body count than me, it's probably doable. And the same way guys who make 35k don't constantly go around talking about how they make 35k at parties, if you have a high bodycount, keep it a little close to vest, because like it or not, guys get shit on if people find out their wife was having devil's 3ways in college.

Biggest thing though is if you didn't have sex with your partner till after a bunch of dates and the relationship got serious, you really don't want to remind him that in college you fucked guys in college after 1 date or hookups. Because alpha fucks, beta bucks is true. If I figure out that you let 20 guys fuck within a short time of meeting them and we didn't have sex until a month, then I'm gonna feel like shit. Women don't like feeling like they're only good for fucks and not for relationships. TRP guys are the opposite, we never want to feel like we're not hookup-worthy to a woman who would gladly hookup with more desirable guys.

One other thing, don't have sex with me before or after you really want to. If you do it before, it's gonna suck and I'm gonna feel undesirable. And if you do it after, then it's obvious you're pulling the old "delay sex so he's pressured to get serious when he doesn't want to BS". Which is a sign that she's gonna use sex to control you. Jump me when you really feel like it. Because if I figure out that you picked some arbitrary # of dates before fucking because FDS told you it gets guys serious, imma breakup and go play PS5 and not waste my time.

shrimp_dicks · 2022-12-02T04:38:26+00:00

I ltr'd a girl like this. When I was up the relationship was fantastic. Easily the best relationship pf my life up to that point.

Then she immediately cheated on me with one(or more?) of the (many) men from her past when I got laid off from work for like 2 months. Several were waiting for me to fuck up and the barrier of entry was already demonstratably low.

Unless they've been to therapy and worked through why they need to cope with their problems by getting sexual attention from multiple men at once, that part of them is still there and always will be. Relationship or not.

Most women refuse to acknowledge it's a problem until it destroys their family or something though. Even then few will actually do anything about it. They'll just say it was the past, it was an accident, blame the men, rug sweep it etc.

Same way, as great as a runner's high is, even if they have the greatest jogging partner on earth, on the most beautiful trail, heroin addicts can't just decide "i'm a jogger now" start jogging and suddenly the drug dependency issues vanish.

Every guy who wifes up a hoe thinks exactly the way you do until he gets played. Go ahead, try it and see what happens.

Waratah888 · 2022-12-02T03:26:46+00:00

Yes, if there was honesty and high connection.

microphone_commander · 2022-12-02T03:16:30+00:00

Yes i have no problem with it but I dont think the guys here who would are wrong

Ive been with a former porn star before. It's fun but it's not for everybody and I dont pretend everyone should just be ok with something like that

Lovers691 · 2022-12-02T04:15:25+00:00

Yeah, I would if she would never cheat and isn't settling for me

Complex-Glass-8539 · 2022-12-02T03:28:43+00:00

I’m a slut myself, so, yeah, not a problem…..honestly, if she’s cool enough and communicates well enough, and it’s just sex, I’m fine if she’s still an occasional slut after we’re together a while as long as I can be too. I don’t need that, but if we view sex the same, why not take advantage of it. Have done it before and with the right person, works fine for me.

gymbro718nyc2 · 2022-12-02T03:37:14+00:00

I was a man whore myself in my single days so I don't judge. If you can get it you totally should.

Sad_Top1743 · 2022-12-02T06:56:25+00:00

You can’t realistically fix any of those variables. You’re asking if I would wife a former ho if she loved me forever and never cheated on me…duh but that’s not possible

abaxeron · 2022-12-02T12:02:58+00:00

You both get along great, she's an incredible woman. Can cook, clean, makes good money, great sex, no diseases, healthy, right age for you, good family, intelligent.... BUT, she had a history of sleeping around. In this scenario she is totally monogamous and not going to cheat.

If we're considering fantastical scenarios, can I right away go for a magical princess from parallel reality?

Look, I'm an aging grumpy fart from a shithole country. There's one thing I learned well throughout my life. There is always a catch.

A 20-year-old me would have wifed her up even without all the perks listed (and well, this is almost exactly what happened).

Current me, not so much. I'm too burned out.

flakybottom · 2022-12-02T03:09:07+00:00

Most likely not. Still indicates a disparity in values or a lack of self control.

JumboJetz · 2022-12-02T03:03:21+00:00

Yes I would.

alphasupremacy5555 · 2022-12-02T04:46:26+00:00

For me it would have to depend on how much of a slut she was exactly and how much she slept around. If she gave a truly honest and true for answer as to her body count and it was long enough I probably would go for it. But she would literally have to have all the qualities characteristics and traits that you described as well as being borderline drop dead gorgeous. If she slept with a few too many guys then no way. Like if she engaged in gangbangs in threesomes where was her and always two dudes then hell no that would be a deal breaker. Only beta simps wife up hoes which happens a lot and I ain't no simp.

Same-Elevator566 · 2022-12-02T05:11:07+00:00

It's a pointless scenario. The whole problem in dating is that you don't truly know who someone is because you can't read their mind. If you can read someone's mind then every form of dating strategy goes out the window.

Exchange slut with literally any other red flag and it wouldn't matter because you know exactly who they are deep down.

2022-12-02T05:52:51+00:00

This is such an odd question because in real life you'd never know for sure whether or not she'd cheat. Plus (and this will trigger the feminist but IDC) most "sluts" I've met IRL don't even have half the qualities you've mentioned.

But pretending this unicorn actually exists would I wife her up? probably not. I'm a good-looking intelligent guy and I feel like I could find a woman with all those qualities who doesn't have a promiscuous past. If I was older though and down on my luck realizing that the clock is ticking, then sure.

Treacle-Flimsy · 2022-12-02T05:53:50+00:00

The way you put it, where everything is great, just a history with this, yeah, I would. But I am saying yes only because literally everything else is great. In reality that's too hypothetical and you have no way to know it for sure

Material-Ad1057 · 2022-12-02T05:59:41+00:00

No, I'm not a slut so it's something that'd make me insecure in the long run. I also think it's not really a possibility anyway, I doubt there can be a connection between me and a slut since we'd have totally different lifestyles/values.

BigZaddyZ3 · 2022-12-02T06:23:03+00:00

Nah. Cause if she’s very promiscuous…

There’s a higher chance of divorce
If she’s promiscuous, I can’t trust her around other guys. She’d be stressful as a wife.
Why couldn’t I find a woman with all those qualities that isn’t a hoe.
If she’s given herself to a bunch of mediocre men, it’ll be hard to respect as a wife.

ilovesoundtracks · 2022-12-02T08:05:00+00:00

Clash of values. I don't value women that have casual sex. I am incapable of being romantic with such women.

domdomdom333 · 2022-12-02T08:56:02+00:00

No cause such a woman doesn't exist. You can't have your cake and eat it too. If a woman has slept around a ton there's a reason for it, and usually people who will keep a relationship private and monogamous are the one's who don't sleep around a ton.

That's like asking would women want a man who has never exercised in his life but is built like and looks like Arnold Schwarzenegger. The two are mutually exclusive.

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-12-02T09:49:26+00:00

Think we have to be careful she’s a whore for a reason but every Saint was a sinner so if you can handle that go head

LaloTwins · 2022-12-02T11:10:11+00:00

Lol no

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2022-12-02T12:17:45+00:00

Nope. Even with the condition of the exercise as defined. She may not cheat (🤣), but where else does she have a problem with impulse control?

Gari_305 · 2022-12-02T12:42:27+00:00

she had a history of sleeping around. In this scenario she is totally monogamous and not going to cheat.

1) The old adage always rings true "Can't turn a hoe into a housewife"

2) I know you like to paint the pretty picture u/Reasonable-Software2 but she'll cheat as seen here

Science is finding that women struggle more than men when it comes to staying faithful in relationships.

I understand you mentioned the following:

I see it quite often that men want to use empirical data to prove being a slut is bad for long-term bonding and relationships. Let's say in this scenario that is not the case.

3) Because it will cause a battery-effect type of relationship, in which she'll drain the guy of his resources not just financial, but also mental and emotional.

4) Also it is well known that semen from those other men in the past has an influence on her in the present as seen here

Scientists have discovered that a protein in semen acts on the female brain to prompt ovulation, and is the same molecule that regulates the growth, maintenance, and survival of nerve cells.

Also mentioned in the study

The team characterized the protein, dubbed ovulation-inducing factor (OIF), that they have found in the semen of all species of mammal they have looked at so far. In the process of discovering its identity, the team compared OIF to thousands of other proteins, including nerve growth factor (NGF) which is found primarily in nerve cells throughout the body.

5) Moreover u/Reasonable-Software2 we have this study

This research brief shows that the relationship between divorce and the number of sexual partners women have prior to marriage is complex. I explore this relationship using data from the three most recent waves of the National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) collected in 2002, 2006-2010, and 2011-2013. For women marrying since the start of the new millennium:

Women with 10 or more partners were the most likely to divorce, but this only became true in recent years;

Women with 3-9 partners were less likely to divorce than women with 2 partners; and,

Women with 0-1 partners were the least likely to divorce.

Thus with these five previous points, I'll add another 3 in the bottom which are the following:

Women who engages in high sex count suffer mental issues, this is seen in prostitutes and women who have sex casually also seen here
Women who have more than one intimate premarital relationship have an increased risk of marital dissolution.
Every man knows when the woman rides the cock carousel or just casually dating, she'll more likely have spontaneous sex with men whom are more sexually attractive to her.

Thus u/Reasonable-Software2 after providing 8 points, it seems pretty clear that though you would like to believe a woman with a slutty past would make a good wife in reality it isn't the case.

Now some hoes will get married but that doesn't mean that she'll change her ways

wtknight · 2022-12-02T14:03:14+00:00

No, I wouldn't. The sexual philosophy of a partner is an important factor when it comes to deciding whom I want to date, and someone who was promiscuous does not share the same sexual philosophy as me.

hazelstone137 · 2022-12-02T14:30:56+00:00

I'd totally marry the slutty fuckboy man I'm dating. He's a wonderful person I can see why lots of women have fucked him.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-12-02T14:34:29+00:00

No, no I wouldn't. If she's a slut we aren't going to connect, very simple.

xatnnylf · 2022-12-02T03:06:58+00:00

Only if the guarantee is she won't cheat or divorce (within reason of course, ie: no abuse). Girls with high bodycounts are more likely to cheat, yes, but even more likely to become discontent with the smallest issues and then initiate divorce.

ZealousidealAd7191 · 2022-12-02T02:57:37+00:00

No I wouldn’t allow myself to move forward with someone I KNEW was a slut.

Remarkable_Ad_1129 · 2022-12-02T04:07:49+00:00

Why would i buy the cow when other men got the milk for free?

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-12-02T03:17:39+00:00

I think that a lot of men who wouldn't wife her up are a bit jealous/insecure of her and his past

There y'all go again 🤣

As far as the answer to the question most likely not if she batted 10 out of 10 in pretty much every category, maybe a 3% chance, but if she was a public slut absolutely not. I'm not going to act like I'm the top of the food chain but I do have options and when somebody with options wants to marry part of what they look for is exclusivity, and the primary reason that men get into relationships with women is sex, so committing to someone that a large number of other men have had , not a great selling point lol

md8716 · 2022-12-02T06:45:37+00:00

I wouldn't wife her up because I couldn't ever really trust her. The only way I could really make an exception is if she was on a huge dry spell of like 7+ years. Like, she was a slut in college, swore it off, and managed to develop into some amazing person and is now 30.

Main reason I wouldn't do it outside of that caveat is...well, pride, I guess. I'm too proud to put my family name on a woman who a bunch of other dudes just ran through and discarded. Like getting fooled by a prank that everyone was intelligent enough to avoid. I'm sure there's some more enlightened dude out there for her, but it couldn't be me, lol.

MarBitt · 2022-12-02T07:27:02+00:00

If she just slept around, yes. If she was a sex worker, then no.

Women who have had a lot of casual sex are often damaged. They feel abused by the fact that men didn't want anything more and they have negative opinions about men because they had sex with them in a situation where those men didn't care about them at all. And their future boyfriend or husband will suffer because of it. If a woman slept around because she wanted sex, was able to choose men who didn't hurt her, and she herself maintained a positive attitude toward sex and men, no problem.

SteelFox144 · 2022-12-02T03:40:48+00:00

What is a slut? It's just a mean thing to call a woman that doesn't really mean anything besides that she's had sex that you think don't think she should have had. It could be have been with 200 guys, 2 guys, or even just 1 guy. I really think that's one of those words that makes the person using it look like a complete jackass and doesn't actually say anything bad about the person being called it.

As long as she was committed to our relationship now, I couldn't care less. If she still wanted to be banging other men, she wouldn't be in a committed, monogamous relationship with me.

HighestTierMaslow · 2022-12-02T04:33:51+00:00

Its really interesting the reasoning men have for this doesnt apply to their own gender. When a man sleeps around he's just being a man, it doesnt mean he will cheat, struggle with the monotony of a LTR, struggle with impulse control but when a woman does it it automatically means she will struggle with these things. Studies back up that in both genders a history of casual sex correlates with higher divorce rates. Apparently a woman who sleeps around and doesnt do these things is a unicorn but its common for men.

Im a woman and Im turned off by mansluts- ironically for all the same reasons men list here, its rather funny. I also just in general think people should match on their sexual values (for instance though I dont like casual sex, I didnt want to wait until marriage to have sex so I rejected the 2 men that expected that of me, nothing personal to them we werent a good match) I think men who dont show a host of negative traits that mansluts have, that make them terrible LTR prospects, is very rare. If I came across a male version of your woman OP I'd consider it but he'd be rare.

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Legaladesgensheu · 2022-12-02T06:28:57+00:00

In this very hypothetical scenario I would surely do it. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with being a slut. The only reason I wouldn't date one is that I do not want to be cheated on.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2022-12-02T07:55:53+00:00

No. Even if she doesn't cheat her past could still effect me In a negative way, like I end up unknowingly befriending a guy she hooked up with ( actually happened to me).

RootingRound · 2022-12-02T09:11:05+00:00

I see it quite often that men want to use empirical data to prove being a slut is bad for long-term bonding and relationships. Let's say in this scenario that is not the case.

I'm wondering about this clause. To be clear, we are talking about a completely hypothetical scenario where absolutely certainty in information is possible?

Clean-Guarantee-9766 · 2022-12-02T12:04:08+00:00

Sheeeeet it’s a party in here and I only learn now 🤓 Bermuda ain’t what it used to be this is the place fr

figuringMylife · 2022-12-02T14:18:28+00:00

hey OP im your type, marry me babe 😩

Anykindofland · 2022-12-02T16:18:12+00:00

All the High N count women I encountered had some very serious issues which made them unfit for a longterm relationship. So no, I would definitely not wife up a slut, no matter how much she wants to believe that the past is the past.

LordPeppino · 2022-12-02T16:30:23+00:00

"Would you ride a pegasus and travel the world, having amazing adventures without worrying about airports?"

This is how the question sounds.

What you're asking is basically if dudes here would wife up the perfect woman.

It's not the woman having sex with other dudes what gross out most men. It's the POTENTIAL effects that promiscuity can make on a woman (and men, but that's another story).

Due-Lie-8710 · 2022-12-02T17:37:51+00:00

i would as long as i can guarantee she doesn't cheat, the issue is this is impossible generally

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2022-12-02T03:03:42+00:00

Nah u know whats crazy. The hoes be the coolest girls nfs. They dead be a vibe I aint gon lie. Idk. I could see myself looking over that fact becuase I like her so much

lovestocomment · 2022-12-02T03:50:43+00:00

Nope. Definitely not.

AntiHypergamist · 2022-12-02T04:43:37+00:00

A slut isn’t going to want to marry you, that’s the point. She’ll be at home crying depressed or on a dating app swiping on chad

Mobrowncheeks · 2022-12-02T05:38:05+00:00

If a man won’t marry a woman who is his dream girl because she was promiscuous,it’s either because he’s religious, or he’s got an options that aren’t promiscuous. Promiscuous women get married all the time .
To say someone is insecure for not marrying the promiscuous woman without acknowledging that promiscuous women are likely promiscuous with other issues as well is not cool. Even though there are plenty who are also don’t feel secure with the type of relationship they will have with a promiscuous woman and that’s not an aha, that’s perfectly reasonable.

I’m currently seeing a woman who “ loves being cummed in” and I’ve never done it. You don’t think that would make a man who was taking her seriously reconsider? Especially if he’s never experienced that?

LogicianMission22 · 2022-12-02T05:39:58+00:00

Nope. She can check every other box, but if she’s a “slut” then it’s an instant no. Her cooking or cleaning doesn’t really matter. I can do those things to. Good money isn’t going to make her more attractive. No diseases and healthy should be obvious. You don’t go to a car dealership, ask for the features, and then they tell you it has tires and windows.

So you’re left with great sex, a good family, and intelligence.

Either way the exclusivity is still important, even if it’s the past. If she’s had a few LTR’s that’s fine, but no casual sex whatsoever.

Most important things for me: Low N count or Virgin, Kind, Volunteers, doesn’t smoke, drink, or use any drugs. As for looks, she doesn’t have to be IG model hot. She just has to be cute.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-12-02T03:00:27+00:00

In this scenario she is totally monogamous and not going to cheat.

You have no guarentee of this. Unless you're proposing a hypothetical where I'm guarenteed the woman will never cheat?

Would you wife her up?

No. I could get all of the same things from a woman who also has low n. This is what abundance does.

I think that a lot of men who wouldn't wife her up are a bit jealous/insecure of her and his past.

This is cringe tier shaming of men's standards. I would not be jealous because I have plenty of options myself, except I had to earn that. Women get options just because they exist; we are not the same.

5x69fq29d0f6m33k17b0 · 2022-12-02T03:28:41+00:00

In this fictional scenario? Sure. The person you're describing is a unicorn, but yeah I guess would marry a unicorn if she was real.

2022-12-02T06:35:17+00:00

I belong to no pill and nope I won't wife her up even if I feel connected to her. I just cannot shake that disgusted feeling about her past.

I see it quite often that men want to use empirical data to prove being a slut is bad for long-term bonding and relationships.

Yes, people bring empirical data into relationships advice but forget that dating someone is often personal preference. So if I feel disgusted about her past, no amount of empirical data can make that right.

I doubt that I am gonna get any good answers as to why one would not want to partner up in this scenario

There is no good answer. Women live their own lives, men live their own life. It's her body, her consent, her choices of how she navigates her life. Well, it's his relationship, his dating preferences, his choice of how he navigates his life.

DaoMark · 2022-12-02T03:10:05+00:00

no, I would not - her sleeping around in of itself is off putting to me

Pizzashillsmom · 2022-12-02T04:06:11+00:00

I don’t see how I could “really connect” to a slut. I’m very much a believer in similars attract and I have a hard time believing me and a slut could have matching personalities.

jrjr_analyst · 2022-12-02T03:23:33+00:00

You both get along great, she's an incredible woman. Can cook, clean, makes good money, great sex, no diseases, healthy, right age for you, good family, intelligent.... BUT, she had a history of sleeping around. In this scenario she is totally monogamous and not going to cheat.

Sign me up! I would love to be married to an incredible woman who clearly enjoys sex! And btw, dope Stacies with high n-counts do exist. If she's in my demographic (late 30s, large East Coast city), she's either already off the market or building a soft harem of her own. I've gotten to date three of them after their abundance mentality took a bruising. Here's what I learned:

For an Average Fucking Chump, the problem with high n-count women is that they simply cannot muster respect for a guy who's spent more time in dry spells than in relationships (a demographic that's growing rapidly, and from what I gather the majority of cis het males on this sub). Chadlite and high-beta divorced guys get a pass because of preselection and because they do have a bit of emotional and sexual experience, just in the context of an LTR. If you're a guy whose n-count is at or below (your age - 18), you're the equivalent of stale Wonderbread. And she's only willing to give you a shot because it's that or starvation (emotional, obviously).

TLDR: High-n women appreciate men whom they consider as peers: sexually prolific with rich, colorful personal lives and secrets to keep. In my admittedly small sample, the non-obese, high-n women were among the best lovers because they were comfortable with their own bodies and had few inhibitions. They just got tired of teaching me, knowing full well that a real stud might be mere swipes away.

EDIT: "Gee, you sound like every other salty ethnocel. Shut up and go after women in your own league." Well, that would be a women with a STEM Master's, reasonable DTI, $88K/year salary, no kids, and a BMI of 24. Or as they call her in my SMP, "Stacy."

gobblegoobleoneofus · 2022-12-02T03:33:53+00:00

no. why would I have to? she already gave me what I want and marriage is optional these days

Impossible_You_8555 · 2022-12-02T05:55:44+00:00

I mean right age means younger, if she's in her early to mid 20s

If she didn't make me wait for sex then yes

Ugliest_Loner · 2022-12-02T03:18:07+00:00

It depends. Will I be able to hook up with other women or have 3somes?

2022-12-02T04:40:13+00:00

Honestly my opinion has flipped over the years however I am going to say:

She's gotta be great like for real. And if her n-count is higher she needs to 1) tell me and 2) help me catch up. Full-stop.

Beyond that she needs to be really hot, earn good money, fit, and super cool.

Like, at the end of the day, it's just a turn-off. At the same time I don't know how different my list of what I want changes depending on n-count. It's not like I'm going to wife up some mid girl because she's a virgin.

breaddacheese · 2022-12-02T07:21:26+00:00

Yeah why not, in your scenario, most of the negatives are gone

Luciansleep · 2022-12-02T07:37:20+00:00

BruddaMSK · 2022-12-02T11:27:06+00:00

Of course

Clean-Guarantee-9766 · 2022-12-02T12:02:46+00:00

Hellz ya

RealAmericanWeasel · 2022-12-02T13:12:34+00:00

I think it’s fine as long as I don’t know who they slept with. I’d probably question their head if I knew the person was ridiculous.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-12-02T14:14:00+00:00

My ex was a stripper. My wife worked as a cocktail waitress at a bar where her uniform was skimpy outfit. What do you think?

Fighting_dorks6969 · 2022-12-02T14:33:35+00:00

As long as she hasnt been "slutty" for at least a year before i meet her

KayRay1994 · 2022-12-02T14:49:25+00:00

If we connect, we’re together, we see a future and she’s loyal then why not? I don’t think its fair to hold her actions when she was single/in her past against her, especially if she’s willing to commit when we date

obviousredflag · 2022-12-02T11:16:13+00:00

I'd rather "wife up" a woman with 20 sexual partners in her past than with 2.

2022-12-02T04:45:01+00:00

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hybridcbu · 2022-12-02T16:02:48+00:00

Marriage will never be on the table. Ltr possible though.

FlyV89 · 2022-12-02T16:16:05+00:00

How am I supposed to build a conection with a slut if she's a slut?

bootyhunter69420 · 2022-12-02T16:28:13+00:00

If she is perfect in every other way and doesn't hang out with any exes, yes.

KingOfTheIncels_ · 2022-12-02T16:40:21+00:00

Sure that'd be awesome. I think the common fears comes from two places, the concern she would cheat and the concern that she's tired of sex and now wants a sexless marriage.

I think the common cause for these fears is feelings of inadequacy compared to other men and that she'll always remember and possibly look back fondly upon other men and that you'd be the beta.

From a kinda evolutionary standpoint I think that's backwards. Overall I think having a past isn't a dealbreaker or necessarily a problem.

NotARussianBot1984 · 2022-12-02T17:04:10+00:00

My current gf is the biggest slut I've met, also the best gf.

Why is she a slut? Because she enjoys sex! She's had male friends that she used to get off. She's had fuck buddies, multiple boyfriend's, etc. She has a high sex drive and is always done. She's poly and uses dates multiple men at a time.

She's not a slut cuz emotional damage, past trauma, excessive need for validation from men, trying to use it to manipulate, use sex appeal as income source, etc etc.

Literally every other slut I've got to know was the latter. They make horrible horrible partners. This on is the former. Hell I'm a slut, I like sex.

A great way to determine who is who, is if they prefer fucking Chad who doesn't eat pussy, or a normal guy that will get you off 2x during foreplay. In the latter, my gf prefers that.

Trp assumes just cuz 99% of sluts are the latter and thus not relationship material, that means 100% are. Nah, just gotta look hard for em.

PandaSquabblesSloth · 2022-12-02T17:18:28+00:00

I’m a wifed up slut. I’ve had 2 serious relationships and when I’m partnered I’m monogamous and loyal.

I think people these days entertain others outside of their relationship, and I do not do that when I am in a relationship. Cheating is rarely intentional, the water rises slowly and then suddenly you realize you’re underwater. That being said, you can feel the water as soon as your feet get wet. I don’t think most people purposefully cheat, but I do think people recognize the attraction when it starts, and get themselves into a situation that is avoidable.

I have a pretty high body count, but my husband’s is multiple times over that. We have had, and periodically have, intentional conversations about defending our marriage and we are both on the same page about friends of the opposite gender. Also, there’s really no reason for me to go out to traditional “pick up” places with out the husband, so there’s that.

I do not think being a slut equals being a cheater, as long as you’re honest with yourself and don’t entertain flirtations, no matter how innocent. I’d rather people think I’m a bitch. One thing about being a slut: you have experience in reading men and their interest level. No, that man does not want to be your friend, lol.

2022-12-02T17:35:32+00:00

No. At the end I don’t want my future daughter having that as an example

Title	Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?
Author	Reasonable-Software2
Upvotes	7
Comments	253
Date	December 2, 2022 2:54 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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