Most marital problems happen because men love their wives.

Men who love their wives want their wives to love them back, want their wives to desire them, want their wives to not leave them. That looks fine on the surface but when you dig deep, things becomes more complicated.

Women don't really like weak men who can't handle heavy emotions and can't give emotional support to them in the time of need. They obviously don't like men who are miserable all the time and stressed.

Men do face considerable stress as a provider and as a leader of the household. But to me, a man has biggest responsibility to be an emotionally supportive and emotionally stimulating to his wife.

When a man is in love and doesn't want his wife to lose him, he will feel considerable pressure to manage her emotions. Which is counter productive because it's not a man's job to manage his wife's emotions and when a woman see her husband trying to manage her emotions and getting stressed over her emotions, she would feel that she can't express her emotions around her husband freely and has to always be on the guard.

That's where the elusive emotional connection comes from. When woman feel comfortable enough to feel her emotions freely without judgement or pressure to manage them.

It's just easy to deal with someone's negative or unpredictable emotions when you dont really care to be in a relationship with them. But if you really really love your wife and don't wanna lose her, it's difficult to handle the uncertainty that comes with her emotions.

Women dont understand it and think that their husband is somehow flawed and not emotionally caring enough or they lose emotional connection etc. Truth is that their husband's dont wanna lose them so their negative emotions cause lots of stress. It doesn't matter how good a person is at managing stress, prolonged stress will cause strongest person to break.

So people just find it easier to hide and do self destructive things, or in many cases just ignore their wife and kids and play videogames all day because atleast their, they could succeed in something. With time, even men stop caring about their relationships because you can handle so much failure and criticism before you break.

We need to address the main cause here. It's that men love their wives and don't wanna lose them that cause the problems.

Best way to deal with these problem is for men to not love their wives so much and have an abundance mindset. This way, their wife's emotions will stop having effect on them.