Contrary to popular belief women have a rather similar taste in men

hehechibby · 2025-09-24T13:51:14+00:00

I mean I agree that womens taste in men is somewhat similar. Ofc they all have their different types but the basics are almost always the same:

good proportions, above average height, masculine but harmonic facial bone structure etc

But I don't think this is an unpopular opinion at all, at least not in this sub lol

Logical_Breadfruit49 · 2025-09-24T14:29:10+00:00

Women do have different types, but all types are still contextual alphas, meaning the man must still be an alpha within his own type. There is the muscular athlete, the successful musician, the sharp businessman, the preppy professor, all are attractive to various women, but they are all contextual alphas.

A man who is not a contextual alpha in anything will be unattractive to all women.

I think the mistake a lot of red pill guys make is assuming that there is only a single type of alpha. The mistake the blue pill makes is assuming that the alpha does not exist. The alpha does exist, and there are many types of them and each can be attractive to some women but not others, but you must be at least one of those types.

Agitated-Ad-3576 · 2025-09-26T15:18:55+00:00

Most women feel “chemistry” with a 6ft tall man.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2025-09-24T16:02:27+00:00

There is a reason height is the NUMBER 1 cut off on the stats.

Ragazzocolbass8 · 2025-09-24T13:41:38+00:00

Women have a rather similar taste in everything. They're champions of conformism.

CuckCake321 · 2025-09-24T13:17:13+00:00

Why does every man who women have this "instant" chemistry with almost always 6ft+, Muscular and make lots of money? Have you ever seen women have an instant connection with Paul the Petco Gerbil Cage Cleaner?

BobtheArcher2018 · 2025-09-24T13:25:03+00:00

There is strong evidence for women having a stronger 'types' dynamic than men. That said, there are definitely strong patterns in what women like in general, as with men.

My overall take from the reading I have done is that the more you differentiate men in terms of the general, more hierarchical preferences like height, facial symmetry, race and ethnicity, status, confidence, body taper, etc., the more these hierarchical preferences start to overwhelm type.

Take a more primitive tribal setting then the men are quite similar in these hierarchical traits. They are one ethnicity. Formal status differences are quite flat, though there are always powerful status distinctions. All the men are fit. Height differences are constrained. There are no permanent resources that can be accumulated. Etc. In such a setting, idiosyncratic compatibility either by facial type or complementary personality or whatever is going to play a stronger role.

Conversely, in a more modern dating market, there are enormous absolute differences in all the generally desired qualities. Status and wealth distinctions are massive. Physical differences are huge. Etc. In such a setting, individual compatibility matters less compared to the previous scenario.

riceboykr · 2025-09-24T15:58:20+00:00

Denying this means downplaying biology and evolution. Men are designed to spread the seed and women are designed to seek the owner of the best seed. This is all to ensure the propagation of the species.

GrandpaDallas · 2025-09-24T14:14:51+00:00

How do you explain this discrepancy if every woman is different and they supposedly have tastes that vary?

Every woman being different and having varying tastes does not mean that every man no matter what can be seen as attractive.

Some men have mass appeal. Some men have unique appeal. Some men have absolutely no appeal to anyone. The nice part about this is that that appeal can easily change over time. The dorky kid from class can grow up to be a handsome dude, the start quarterback can let himself go and end up without any matches after peaking in high school.

In reality, everyone, men and women, have that "one frat bro" back in the day that made them feel some type of way, but that's obviously going to be when you're young and impressionable and see someone IRL for the first time that makes your heart skip. We all have that. It's not limited to women.

You'll notice that it's not women talking about "that one frat bro," but it's almost exclusively men being afraid of this hypothetical scenario where some guy in her past is going to be better.

Redhotangelxxx · 2025-09-24T13:14:28+00:00

"contrary to popular belief" he says in a subreddit where the number one sentiment being regurgitated is that women are only into Chad lol. Yes, women on dating apps pick the most physically attractive men because there are way more men than women so thet can be million times more picky than men can.

whothehellisfrank · 2025-09-24T14:52:28+00:00

Is what your describing as real as you say it is? Look around. How many people do you see married, have been married, in a relationship. How many of them fit the beauty standard you describe, men and women? If you are really only seeing a specific type of man get all the attention, this might be a bigger reflection of your social circle than society as a whole.

Jetpine9 · 2025-09-24T16:26:12+00:00

My contention is that in modern times the weirdos just have no way of meeting one another, or more precisely, no real way to get to know one another and let those sparkling, but somewhat hidden, personalities shine through. Otherwise, in a highly social environment (where a lot of people get to know one another) you would see people pairing up with ~somewhat~ more variety.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-09-24T16:38:42+00:00

It’s weird how you guys can understand “hot” for yourselves and it’s all good, but you can’t for women, and if you do, it’s bad

Almost like a double standard or something

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Khanluka · 2025-09-25T22:18:05+00:00

Woman are more varient in what they consider a attractive men.

exemple

Orlando bloom legolas

viggo mortensen Aragorn

young arnold schwarzenegger

George clooney

many woman could be like I like one of these but i think the rest is ugly.

Where as we men only have hot or not.

champion_azure · 2025-09-27T13:58:52+00:00

They have a near universal aversion to a large portion of men with traits already mentioned.

You can wax lyrical about preferences till the cows come home: skater style, sporty etc.

But, what makes dating difficult? , the answers, the truthful ones layout the same traits, many of them immutable.

bluestjuice · 2025-09-24T13:13:08+00:00

This is normally distributed like most other things. Some guys are at the high tail of the bell curve and most women find them attractive. Some guys are at the low tail of the bell curve and almost no women find them attractive. Most guys are in the middle of the bell curve where 30-70% of women find them attractive.

The Venn diagram of ‘which women find me attractive?’ gets less-overlappy the farther from the high tail you move.

Pro-IDGAF · 2025-09-24T13:46:47+00:00

the real problem here is the internet. too many people live there and that’s not were life should happen. until something changes, the beating will continue until moral improves.

carry on.

SexCrispies · 2025-09-24T13:27:26+00:00

venn diagram. overlapping preferences. We had this discussion

Inevitable-Bite8660 · 2025-09-25T00:25:42+00:00

First of all, if you look at romance comics, the male leads all look the same except for their hair color. There is absolutely never a case where my type — a big “bear dad” — is the main character.

I’m always waiting for the day a Korean makjang drama comes out with Ma Dong-seok as the male lead.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-09-24T14:06:23+00:00

it is not possible to "feel chemistry" with someone from seeing them

Lightinthebottle7 · 2025-09-24T13:49:15+00:00

How many times will we run the same circles over and over?

How many times do we have to see morally bankrupt social rejects whine about women being the reason for their own personal problems?

This utter rejection of the personhood and humanity of women, is exactly the reason why most of y'all will forever remain lonely.

JCSledge · 2025-09-24T13:25:37+00:00

Dating sites tend to be poor representatives of the general public. Also how many men get themselves ruled out by being conservative? It’s not always just looks.

Economy-Praline9372 · 2025-09-24T14:59:01+00:00

So what?

Academic-Ball-9606 · 2025-09-24T18:06:09+00:00

Imo they're attracted to behavior more than just looks which is needed as well

wtknight · 2025-09-24T13:26:45+00:00

The problem with some dating apps is that they are not real life dynamics. They cater towards the women who want only hot men to have fun with. The OKCupid study, involving a more serious dating app, showed that women eventually message the men whom they don’t find as physically attractive once they are serious about dating, meaning that women do eventually become interested in things other than looks.

One could argue that these women are just settling for betas. However, the data also show that the vast majority of men are having sex, especially as they get older and both men and women mature. While the most cynical might try to argue that having sex is not the same as genuine attraction, I believe that, for all intents and purposes, men should consider it as such.

2025-09-24T14:17:33+00:00

Women all have the same taste in men and my evidence is the most shallow hook up app on the market.

Yawn, do better next time male female expert.

Verdetti · 2025-09-24T16:10:49+00:00

Okay but the reverse is true: mens' preferences aren't evenly distributed. Men generally prefer women that are small, have prominent buttocks, thick thighs, are agreeable (women also like agreeable men, of course), etc.

-Kalos · 2025-09-24T18:59:53+00:00

Everyone has the same type: Someone who makes you feel good and can get your hormones flowing

2025-09-24T19:27:05+00:00

the fact that you can be the chadiest chad on tinder and not every woman will swipe right on you.

jadzia_d4x · 2025-09-24T23:14:33+00:00

I really wish someone would set up a survey so we could all get on the same page.

Go through a set of profiles, rate each one on attraction as either a woman yourself or your best guess as a man. Maybe a ranking/comparitive section too.

A second exercise grouping similar men.

I don't wanna prove anything, I just can't help wondering if we're all talking about the same thing when this topic comes up every day. Would be cool to see how much alignment there is between actual women's reported ratings and ratings as deducted by men.

Flightlessbirbz · 2025-09-25T00:18:27+00:00

Women have both similar and different taste in men, just like men have both similar and different taste in women. Things like facial harmony, being somewhere in a range of healthy weights, sexual dimorphism, tend to be universally attractive in both sexes. But preferences for coloring, specific features, specific body type (thick, thin, athletic, somewhere in between), vary a lot.

The only area where men seem to have notably more varied taste than women is height, as about an equal number of men seem to like short and tall women, or just don’t care that much. Plenty of women aren’t obsessed with height, but far more women prefer tall vs short.

However, overall I’d say women’s taste is more varied, especially when it comes to faces. Women find a lot of very… unique looking men attractive, while men tend to prefer about the same Barbie face, just in different colorways and on different body types. For example, the female version of Adam Driver would be mocked relentlessly by men.

AnonPinkLady · 2025-09-24T16:02:13+00:00

Shallow people are shallow regardless of gender- obsessing over shallow women and insisting they are the reason some people are alone, and targeting the gender rather than ultimately the common mindset of superficialism- won't solve the problem.

Title	Contrary to popular belief women have a rather similar taste in men
Author	Crazy_Kray
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Date	September 24, 2025 1:08 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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