I've seen several women say this. "Men just don't understand women's sexuality. They are projecting their own sexuality on women instead."

So how does male sexuality work? At least in my experience.... I am male.

Is she attractive? Yes. Ok I want to fuck.

Now that part happens automatically. Subconsciously. I don't control this.

At that point I'll start asking myself questions like.

Does she look like a psycho?

Does she look like she might have herpes or aids?

Does she have a lot of kids?

Is she acting weird? Is there any reason to think she's a serial killer?

Am I compatible with this person?

DOES SHE LIKE ME? (a big one)

So yeah to some degree other factors do play a role. Particularly if I'm thinking about getting into a long term relationship. But all that happens after the fact. I already pre-qualified her for the penis. Her actions might disqualify her. But if she never was pre-qualified to begin with I could give a fuck about any of that.

Having a great charismatic fun personality might MAKE ME LIKE HER MORE. But it's not going to make me like someone who I don't find attractive.

The red pill, black pill and lookists like me. We project this on to women. There is a common saying that "you have to first meet a woman's minimum attraction threshold before your personality is even considered". It's definitely how it works with me.

The reason this is important is because a lot of us are struggling with women. If the attraction threshold thing is true then looksmaxing is the first and foremost thing any man needs to work on before they venture on to things like improving their social ability. Obviously society doesn't agree with that. Even on this subreddit there is disagreement on this fact. If you venture out to the real world people look at you like you're crazy if you say something like "A man needs to be attractive". It sounds feminine almost gay.

Anyway.........

So that's my question. Women in your opinion what is it that men don't get? What makes you so different from us (if anything)?

I genuinely want to know. I'm not here to criticize or women hate. In fact I love women, you guys are sexy :) I don't understand the point of hating someone for behaving the same way I do (caring about looks).