Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.

povofme · 2021-09-04T13:44:29+00:00

I remember reading a thing a guy wrote a while ago and he said always found pubic hair attractive because it was a sign of sexual maturity and stuff.

I think it’s a recent thing with porn honestly. I don’t think there was much of a importance to shave pubic hair in the 70s-90s

shoesfromparis135 · 2021-09-04T15:52:46+00:00

I started letting mine grow out when I became an art model. I realized it looked childish to have none and these artists were supposed to be drawing a fully-grown adult woman. I let it grow out, I keep it trim, and I discovered that keeping it where it’s supposed to be actually makes me feel EmPoWeReD.

Prior to that, I had dated an awful, awful, horrible guy in high school who absolutely insisted that I needed to be completely hairless to please him. Meanwhile, he was hairy all over. Legs, arms, chest, back, face, neck, hands, feet, dick, ass, all hair everywhere. He looked like a fucking carpet. But I had to be hairless. Yes, he turned out to be a pornsick pervert. Surprise ending.

I can’t believe I let that scrote brainwash me and destroy my self-esteem. I’m not going to waste anymore time writing about him because I don’t want to ruin my day, but yeah. Definitely question the pubic hair thing.

sewingmachinesavior · 2021-09-04T13:16:29+00:00

I love this! I haven’t shaved my pubic hair in decades, though I do trim when it feels uncomfortable. I also quit shaving my armpits, bc I was like no one can see my pubic hair on a regular basis so I felt like I needed to make a more obvious statement.

I have had men refuse to date me bc I don’t shave off my pubic hair. 🤢🤢🤢 It weirds me out when men can only be attracted to bodies with no hair as it makes me question if they have pedophile tendencies.

shedipity · 2021-09-04T13:55:53+00:00

being essentially completely hairless especially on your private areas sounds like a prepubescent child to me, it always weirds me out when i hear guys that won’t date “hairy” women or want their partner to “be shaved”.

flower_vulva · 2021-09-04T15:30:20+00:00

I love this entire post! My confidence also soared through the roof when I stopped shaving! I feel so much more comfortable, mature, and in touch with my sexuality. I also love "imperfections" - I find the current photoshop / facetune culture to be so toxic - I'm not interested in mass-produced plastic dolls or robots, I'm interested in human beings, with all the variations that make them unique 💛

ello-motto · 2021-09-04T12:52:20+00:00

Honestly, I wonder why we were taught to shave it all off?

Why are we supposed to look like children down there? Why are "men" supposed to like that?

More importantly, should we as women be participating in male gaze trends that sexualizes pre-puberty body states?

discoveringliberty · 2021-09-04T13:24:03+00:00

I love this! It feels so powerful loving my pubic hair in spite of men finding it gross. Women loving themselves regardless of how society expects/demands them to be, that is real empowerement.

You can go into my history to see a great story about how I dealt with a scrote who thought he had the right to just decide one day that I should shave it all off, lol.

Wkndwhorechata · 2021-09-04T23:30:10+00:00

Not me twirling my pubic hair 🤭👌

lolmemberberries · 2021-09-04T14:01:55+00:00

I felt the same way when I stopped shaving. It's liberating! Also, it was incredibly sexy to know my appearance is one that I chose for myself.

Peak_Tree · 2021-09-04T15:19:47+00:00

Also constantly shaving there can make you more prone to infections (but oh how women have been dupped that not doing it is unhigyenic)

scooter_se · 2021-09-04T20:06:21+00:00

Ever since I stopped shaving my pubes, I’ve had so much less irritation, infection, and odor that I can’t believe I was shaving in the first place. I trim it up occasionally but pubic hair serves a purpose and helps keep your vagina safe and in a happy homeostasis

dancedancedance7 · 2021-09-04T18:52:03+00:00

Yeah it's a huge turnoff when anyone expresses their opinions on how your business should look. Honestly I've very rarely had a man comment on my hair there, and yes the ones who did were porn sick. I'm pretty sure it's that mixed with a marketing scam to make women buy products and services they don't need.

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-09-04T15:25:34+00:00

I've thought about this often, and if I shave because I want to or if it's for the male gaze.

My pubic hair gets so unruly, it will just keep growing so long if I leave it alone, I feel the need to trim it at least for my own hygiene and comfort. There were a few times in the past few years I shaved for the male gaze, but only the labia, and I left a nice trimmed patch on my vulva. I do enjoy the way it feels when I've groomed it this way. Though I've never gone through the trouble of grooming it this way just for me. 🤔

I shaved everything completely off many years ago,and I absolutely hated it! And YES, I looked like a little girl!! It made me so uncomfortable in my own body. And then was miserable and itchy and had to deal with the in-grown hairs once it started growing back.

I enjoy having pubic hair because it makes me feel like a woman, but I do treat it like other areas of my body with regular maintenance, and making sure it looks nice to me. I took a celibacy vow until next year, so no one but me is going to see my pubic hair, but it still makes me feel good to have it looking polished.

Altowhovian93 · 2021-09-04T14:35:35+00:00

I used to shave my arms and everything else 1-2 times a week from freshman year of high school to my first year of grad school (I think I started shaving just my legs in 4th grade). I’ve got noticeable thick hair on my arms and I got teased. When I finally “let myself go” years later, it was ridiculous how much more free time and healthier skin I had since it wasn’t spent on performative grooming. I do put time into skincare and moisturizing but I feel better because it makes me healthy, not pretty and it’s for me and not anyone else!

hensbanex · 2021-09-04T18:47:37+00:00

Honestly, the only reason I trim mine (not even extremely short) is because I use pads and have heavy flows. The blood keeps matting my hair and it’s so gross to disentangle.

But yes, I’ll never shave it off for the sake of men.

stripesonthecouch · 2021-09-04T22:22:43+00:00

I’ve stopped shaving every part of my body and I love it.

corago513 · 2021-09-04T15:39:34+00:00

Ok, so I have to ask.... what about pubic hair on a man? I used to date a guy that only trimmed his pubic hair once a year and, while we never had sex, the idea of performing oral turned me off thinking of hair that could possibly get in my mouth (I've had that happen) or worry about a musty smell from it (which is really a different issue). I guess I have some unlearning to do too. Thoughts?

hensbanex · 2021-09-05T01:12:44+00:00

love this! I also do not shave my legs and the amount of people who just don’t care is enormous. it is a great bullshit-filter, because if someone does care enough about my legs to comment on them, I know they’re not worth my time 💯💯

Vaahla · 2021-09-04T14:31:45+00:00

I find it incredibly itchy and annoying when mine grows out longer, does anyone else have that happen? I mean once it’s long it’s very irritable not from the growing hair.

Ironsculpture · 2021-09-06T20:08:48+00:00

It's incredibly unfair that women are expected to shave when men are the ones looking extremely ugly with a lot of hair all over their bodies and face. There should definitely be much more attention placed on male body hair, rather than the comparatively little hair women have.

The fact that they have the audacity to complain about "hairy feminists" while looking like chimpanzees under their clothes is unacceptable imo. It's gross as fuck and normalized.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-09-06T02:58:17+00:00

Just another word of encouragement for going full 70's bush: MRSA can be triggered by waxing or shaving too close to the ass and it's also sexually transmissible. If your SO cheats with a waxed crotch type, he could quite literally ki.ll you. Or you could end up having to get parts of your genitals removed to prevent the infection from ki.lling you.

nothingt0say · 2021-09-04T17:39:19+00:00

I hate the double standard, I am supposed to shave but he doesnt have to?

And what is the appeal exactly, do you like the prepubescent look?? I refuse to indulge that taste, sorry.

Also, people my age, we grew up in a time when only porn stars did that, normal humans had pubes, so idk why this expectation now that we are all FULL GROWN that we start trying to look like children down there.

Here is some advice. Stop worrying about shaving ya bush, and go to the gym. That's how you stay looking youthful!!!

putequitue · 2021-09-05T03:06:57+00:00

You can never, ever please a porn addicted scrote. I happen to be very blonde (everywhere) which you would think they would like but I got complaints about not having a well-defined landing strip! Meanwhile he is so hairy and disgusting he has black body hair coming out of his butt crack. The audacity….

InsanitysCandy · 2021-09-05T05:56:38+00:00

Ex-pickmeisha 35f here

Used to shave all the time. Stopped 2 years ago, best descion ever!!

lightcobaltblue · 2021-09-05T07:33:17+00:00

Last year I grew out my body hair, too, and loved it. I would like to grow out my pubic hair again, but I have a problem:

You know the feeling if you ever don't shower for 2-3 days (maybe because of depression or something else) and it feels really uncomfortable and almost hurts? If I shave my pubic hair, it's okay not to shower for 2 days sometimes, but when I have a full grown bush, that feeling is there sometimes after 12 hours not showering and definitely 24 hours. It gets uncomfortable after 24 hours.

Anyone else experienced this? Do I have a weird bacteria problem that most people don't have or what could that be?

Of course I mostly shower everyday, sometimes two times a day, but to prevent any uncomfortable feelings I shave every 5 days or so. I could go longer without said problem but then my pubic hair is poking me and it's itchy for weeks until it grows out and then we're back at the bacteria problem or whatever that is. Trimming could be another solution but my pubic hair is also curly and honestly for me it's easier to just shave everything off than to trim. Maybe I could try comb and scissors to trim it. Maybe that would work better. For some reason I like having body hair. The feeling of hair is more comfortable to me than no hair.

LeanMeanIceQueen · 2021-09-04T14:06:59+00:00

this post is extremely my vibe!

I have also stopped shaving in the past two years. It disgusts me that porn culture has seeped into society so much that the 'traditional' beauty standard is the equivalent of a pre-pubescent child with the breasts of a pregnant woman.

I don't shave my pubic hair, I don't shave my legs, I don't shave my underarms. I will only trim downstairs if I'm expecting some oral play in my future because it feels polite and it's what I would expect of a partner as well.

When I do date, a majority of men don't seem bothered at all. They have even commented on how smooth my legs are, even though I'm hairy! The ones that are bothered by it - well, good riddance. It's a great litmus test for their gender/beauty expectations. Not shaving underarms makes it an easy topic for early on.

2021-09-04T16:44:58+00:00

Yesterday I googled “how long for pubic hair to fully grow out”

I’ve been shaving for so long I have let it grow out a few months but the growth is so minimal, I just want to look like a full grown women my own age faster, Ive been shaving since I barely had hair and don’t even know what my own pubic hair looks like.

Also, I’d be interested in products for it aswell like beard oil lol

sweet-butter-cream · 2021-09-04T18:12:50+00:00

I remember in high school all my friends would nonchalantly talk about shaving their pubes and how regular it was and I never understood it. It’s terrible, burns, rashes, ingrown hairs. No one has time for their crotch to be itching all day. If a man prefers shaved, that’s the biggest sign of porn sickness out there.

ashklunk · 2021-09-04T23:19:51+00:00

I’ve always disregarded the pubic hair thing. Honestly my hair is so thick and my skin is so sensitive that anytime I tried to do something about it, I ended up with a minefield of infected nicks and ingrown hairs that I thought were way less sexy than hair.

I’ve found that most men don’t actually care. When presented with the option of sex vs no sex, do you think hair would stop them? Lol. No.

However I’ve received some disturbing comments regarding it. Mostly positive, even if gross “I love that fat hairy pussy” etc...:/ men find it arousing in some stupid caveman way, and also they find it rare and say that all of women they’ve been with never let their hair grow like mine. It makes me feel sad that women go to such lengths to keep a standard that doesn’t seem to matter much. I can say though, whenever I do trim or wax, I get so much positive feedback that I doubt they ever meant it when they said they like it hairy.

Like I said, though, if a man can get sex he will roll with just about anything. Don’t sweat it ladies.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2021-09-04T15:52:32+00:00

I struggle with this a lot.

I still shave down there but sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I just let it grow back. The first time I shaved down there was because of swimsuit issues as a teenager and I didn't want guys laughing and getting grossed out at me. There was a time in my early 20's that I let it grow back, but then this scrote that I thought was interested in me saw me down there and told me to shave it because he didn't want to touch it lmao. My LVX was also grossed out by all my body/facial hair so I kept shaving during our whole relationship. It's gotten to the point that I just shave out of habit but at the same time, I'm terrified of the "unknown" in just maybe letting it grow back.

ThrowawayKITTY777 · 2021-09-04T18:31:34+00:00

This is probably TMI but....

I shave everything but the pubic hair and I really do prefer the hairless leg and underarm feel. I've grown out both leg and armpit hair a few times and I just do NOT care for it.

However ....my muff gets the "salon treatment" 😹 I trim it down a bit and color it all the colors I want on my head but can't have because of work. So right now I've got the mermaid fade from purple to blue on my crotch. I've been doing this for.... decades... used to put Manic Panic down there but it's not the greatest and please don't do that they make muff-specific dyes now.

https://www.bettybeauty.com/

I love this brand for comfort and feel and no itch or burn but you have to mix your own tints because colors are limited... I darkened their aqua and pink with the black then mixed those to get the effect I have now. Took 5 tries to get the color mix right but I've nailed it now.

You know what got me on this? When I was like 14/15 my mom's hairdresser was being salty about the other hairdresser in town while we were getting our hair done and said that "The carpet doesn't match the drapes" line. So when we got home I asked mom was it ok if I dyed my "carpet". Mom rejected the idea at first for health reasons but did drive 40 miles get me some henna dye that she thought was safer.... I've had fancy colored muff since then.

The guy I married was surprised the first time we had sex and saw the bright green bush I had then. But point in his favor he thought it was awesome. Also big point in his favor, he manscapes. Yes hair down there is natural and shouldn't be removed entirely but there is nothing wrong with keeping it trimmed and neat for either gender. Or fancying it up if you want.

Asaharaldsdottir · 2021-09-04T22:26:54+00:00

I have a rare genital skin condition called lichen sclerosus. It sucks. One thing that triggers it is shaving my pubic hair. When I shave, the skin in that area forms unbearably itchy plaques, and my skin thins so that if I scratch it breaks and bleeds and hurts. In guys, this condition is can cause phimosis, which most men recognize is a very painful condition. But they still dump me over wanting to to avoid that condition myself.

Gorilla_girl17 · 2021-09-05T02:15:16+00:00

And the reason this gained in popularity was because at strip clubs, showing “hair” was considered more nude. So the women began to slowly get rid of it to wear more and more revealing undergarments without being as “nude”

Title	Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.
Author	GoddessIxtab
Upvotes	724
Comments	142
Date	September 4, 2021 12:27 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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