Daily Community Chat Megathread

Xtal333 · 2023-10-30T12:03:21+00:00

Is it good if a woman describes you as flirtatious?

A while back I went out with a buddy and his female colleagues, some of which were decently attractive to me. I talked with a lot of them and we had a great time. One of them described me as flirtatious to another one of my buddies from that same friend group.

What did she mean by this? I wasn't doing anything specifically or thinking about flirting, but just being "myself". Is that a good thing? What do y'all think? (Women especially)

Katatonicsnake · 2023-10-30T11:53:35+00:00

I’m buying a hair dryer for the first time in my life and the guilt I’m feeling is surprisingly strong.

monster_lily · 2023-10-30T11:46:01+00:00

Ngl I love the smell of weed but thats because i love anything that smells earthy i like the smell of mint, orange peels, castor oil, grass, rain, dirt, is there something wrong with me

monster_lily · 2023-10-30T11:43:23+00:00

90% of kids that are dumber than me but have As cheat this is my roman empire

hannahg000 · 2023-10-30T11:38:07+00:00

fellas would you date this woman?

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-10-30T10:36:38+00:00

Does anyone else flirt by trying to be as annoying as possible?

throaway2s1fsfsf4 · 2023-10-30T08:49:05+00:00

https://np.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/17iwxji/tinder_insights_as_21f/

That chats to dates ratio is wild, but probably the only way for a girl to ensure she has a good time getting fucked.

supremethrone · 2023-10-30T08:39:25+00:00

Anyone else notice an increase in the "there's nothing wrong with shy/quiet guys" propaganda by women? What's their goal here?

MboloYaBaKali · 2023-10-30T08:12:52+00:00

Why are religious figures so attractive to so.e women? Have you noticed that nearly every religious leader in history has at the very least had a sizeable female following?

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-10-30T07:31:53+00:00

I know as a man, being a fuckboy is a lot of guys wet dream. I'm just worried about my daughter encountering them when she gets older.

dbz__f · 2023-10-30T07:16:30+00:00

Killers of the Flower Moon is an amazing film

Took the gf to see it but she was pretty bored throughout

NoTea4448 · 2023-10-30T06:46:39+00:00

Imma be real with yall. I only show up on this subreddit to shitpost in this megathread.

Sillysheila · 2023-10-30T06:39:14+00:00

One of the posts for women just has huge seas of removed comments. It’s kind of obnoxious looking tbh

purpleventrilo · 2023-10-30T05:54:30+00:00

I had a great weekend :) got out of my shell and went to a few bars. Had someone halfway approach me TWICE but I was too dumb to realize until a friend and his wife enlightened me. Plan to spend the whole week in social situations before I have to go back to being single parent.

Blocksplain · 2023-10-30T05:48:26+00:00

Ask girl to see show

She declines, she has been seeing the... married man with two children

Give and give and give and give

Women never ask me out

I give more social attention to others than that girl gives to anyone

Give give give give give

Never receive never ever never receive never ever never

Never get asked out no one asks me to the show but I give more than she does but she gets asked

Never get what you give never ever

Is this most men's existence?

scwizard · 2023-10-30T05:44:48+00:00

People accuse me of hating women, but Republican politicians hate women way more.

When Roe was overturned, I thought the next thing people would be focusing on is the details of the exceptions for rape and so on that I thought would surely be quickly passed.

But that didn't happen. Not only were no rape exceptions passed, people even started talking about rolling back no fault divorce.

So my women hating views are abortion shouldn't be allowed except in certain cases. And the Republicans politicians view is ban abortion in all cases. Also rollback no fault divorce, gut workplace gender discrimination laws. Also maybe ban onlyfans while we're at it.

It's like yo chill lol

scwizard · 2023-10-30T05:17:51+00:00

My ex was the same way- said he cheated on his first serious gf with a lot of diff people. Said he had changed and it was 8 years ago and he would never do that again. Sure enough, 6 months into dating I found texts between him and his ex gf as well as other female coworkers that were inappropriate that he was sending while we were together.

Ok but how has he changed did you ask him that?

"I'm a more mature person now"

"I started going to therapy."

"I'm a better person these days"

"I was going through some difficult stuff in life but I'm over it now."

Those aren't real answers. Get him to talk about the fundamentals of his moral beliefs. Get him to go over his past in detail and see if he has any empathy for his ex gfs of if he's talking shit about them instead.

scwizard · 2023-10-30T04:58:53+00:00

19 days ago

Recently became aware of the term negging. Please help me understand if these comments from my boyfriend are negging?

You should change your profile picture to X, you look better in it (completely out of the blue comment). You look like a child when you wear X. You look like an art teacher when you wear Y. "You’re a mess." If I spill something while eating he’ll chastise me and tell me over and over that I’m like a child. Say my nose is big (I’m not going to show my face on this app but it’s really not big; he has a big nose and a lifelong complex about it). When I have an allergies flare up he’ll say it’s disgusting. Will make fun of me for saying “I think…” before replying to something.

Good thing twox straightened her out and she broke up with him isn't it.

Today...

My bf told me that during his first serious relationship he cheated on his girlfriend with MANY people. Can people really change?

My boyfriend (28) told me that when he was in his first relationship from 15-21 that he cheated on his girlfriend “many many times” simply because “he wanted to.” he said he couldn’t even remember the amount of people that he cheated on her with. He said it was very deliberate (not like a one time mistake). He would seek out these people at school, parties etc.

We’re still in the early stages of dating. However has made it clear he has jealously issues and has projected on me about cheating which might stem from him having done this in his past.

Nope she's still dating the same guy lol

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-10-30T04:48:49+00:00

Creepy guys: Those bitches just hate me for being ugly and socially awkward! They would have let me take panty shots if I was CHAD.

The manosphere: Oh you poor thing! We know you did nothing wrong! Why you bitches hate on sweet ugly awkward boys?! 🥺

CompetitiveTennis112 · 2023-10-30T04:37:31+00:00

bringing back would you rather questions

Gf A: fucks you everyday or anytime you're dtf. can't cook and won't learn to; she is generally uncooperative and very bitchy/entitled, but very enthusiastic with sex. 4/10. Love language is recieving gifts.

Gf B: only fucks you once every 2 weeks or more. very affectionate and will cook your favorite food, give you gifts etc. she prioritizes your happiness but has low libido or something. 8/10. Wants words of affirmation.

You can assume they both have n-count of 0 or 1. They also are not interested in other men.

Whether she loves you or not is up for interpretation.

scwizard · 2023-10-30T04:16:21+00:00

Positive pregnancy test and freaking out

Girls write a whole essay here and never once mention them having sex or who they're having sex with.

When I was 21, I got pregnant and had an abortion. I have since started taking BC pills and have been (so I thought) extra cautious. I took a test earlier just to be safe and check all the boxes before going to a doctor about the abdominal pain. Welp, test was positive and now I’m freaking out. I’m really not sure how this could have happened, especially being on BC, and I’m hoping it might be a false positive although I know those are pretty rare. Gonna go to Planned Parenthood tomorrow morning but I am just absolutely terrified and scared that if it is positive, it’s too late to do anything about :/

It's weird that abstinence never even crosses girl's minds as an option. It's like unthinkable basically.

scwizard · 2023-10-30T03:51:31+00:00

It’s Sunday. He’s at the “climbing gym” which happens to have a bar inside. I’m home. Just did the dishes and straightened up. About to vacuum cause our (really his) husky sheds like crazy. Then laundry and dusting and bathroom. Our anniversary was yesterday and we both forgot. I haven’t brought it up yet so he probably still doesn’t know. I’m feeling like this isn’t a great sign.

What the fuck does she want? For him to stop going to the gym? If you want your husband to help out with the cleaning you need to stop cleaning so much. It's hard to chip in if whenever you have free time, such as when you get back from the climbing gym, there's nothing to do because everything is already done.

leosandlattes · 2023-10-30T03:44:36+00:00

Forget the advice about dating; let’s have advice on how to completely fuck a man’s/woman’s life up. Like give me the most toxic, unethical advice you have about getting a woman to hook up with you or getting a man to give you money, etc. 😭😂

scwizard · 2023-10-30T03:43:08+00:00

I think I don’t want to marry my bf anymore

I was absolutely in love with this man, we have such a beautiful child together. I wanted to marry him because I wanted to show my absolute commitment. Commitment I thought he reciprocated but overtime I just see that I was delusional.

At this point it doesn't matter. You have a child together and you live with him you're effectively married already. Legally married in some jurisdictions.

Months later I log back into my private tiktok. The likes and follows. HUNDREDS OF GIRLS. He was logged into my private account on his phone, knowing I was checking in on his account from my end. I confronted him, told him with the lengths he went to try and hide this, him doing it over and over knowing it hurt me, I consider it cheating and I won’t tolerate it again. He agreed, promised not to do it again and we moved on.

Moments where I feel happy and confident, I just remember these women and how I look nothing like them. Moments where I look at him lovingly, happy with our growth, it’s tainted thinking “what new way is he hiding his addiction to these women.” Him calling me pretty or beautiful feels like a lie.

Damn this isn't even breaking up with a guy cause he looks at porn. It's cause he looks at thirst traps on Instagram.

You love the man you want him to be, not the man he is. You know what you should do.

Imagine when your kid is all grown up having to explain why you got divorced to them.

thetruthishere_ · 2023-10-30T03:38:27+00:00

Heartland makes you want to go live on a ranch, ride horses and round up cattle.

scwizard · 2023-10-30T03:27:59+00:00

i changed my name to the gender neutral abbreviation (like Christina -> Chris) and i noticed a significant increase in customer service. i get refunds more often & i have my food stolen less frequently. the mcdonald's near my house also coincidentally stopped forgetting my orders for half an hour.

Should parents be giving their daughters gender neutral names so they get better treatment?

Ok_Bear976 · 2023-10-30T03:20:48+00:00

you're the teacher. wyd in this situation?

scwizard · 2023-10-30T03:14:30+00:00

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Ayy lmao.

butagoodpersonality · 2023-10-30T03:03:55+00:00

Dating apps are overwhelming.

I know I’m lucky as a woman that we get tons of messages but they just blend together into blah

meteorness123 · 2023-10-30T02:52:39+00:00

Looking back,can you actually believe what they made people go through during the pandemic ? Wearing masks 24/7 and forcing young, healthy people get vaccines despite them being healthy LOL

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EulenWatcher · 2023-10-30T02:31:16+00:00

We have to make some new traditions here. Back at home most celebrations were tied to visits four families, but now it feels like of lonely here. Husband has some relatives nearby and I have no one. With winter holidays coming up I feel the urge to bring up some festivities or I’ll get lonely and depressed.

What are your seasonal traditions?

meteorness123 · 2023-10-30T02:29:27+00:00

If you can't be happy being alone, you will never be happy in a relationship

Do you agree/disagree with this statement and why

adelaidemonkie · 2023-10-30T02:21:45+00:00

Pretty bummed to be spending another Halloween without friends, which means there is nothing to do. I even planned a costume before I realized I have nowhere to wear it. My old high school friends partied all weekend at their colleges. Even my younger siblings had more fun than me this weekend. I have no idea how I ended up this way.

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-10-30T01:56:02+00:00

I seriously can’t take the whole “oh the plight of autistic guys” thing seriously.

There are females with autism.
Alot of autistic guys put 0 effort in socializing.

Training-Banana-5017 · 2023-10-30T01:54:34+00:00

Q4All: Who was your first cartoon crush growing up (excluding anime)?

Mine was 100% Kim Possible. She was the perfect mix of giga stacy + girl next door. Plus the fit goes pretty hard ( crop tops are goated).

MyHouseOnMars- · 2023-10-30T01:29:08+00:00

I don't believe in dating coaches until I listened to Diary of a CIO: The Love Expert: Why Women Are Addicted To Toxic Men,"Have A Boring Relationship Instead!" Logan Ury

This is non biased dating advice

Ok_Bear976 · 2023-10-30T01:26:29+00:00

Women don't need to leave their country to passport bro. Just move into a military town. High ratio of M:F and all the M are young, fit and single or cheating on their wives.

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-10-30T01:17:57+00:00

If there’s one thing I always remember: Don’t give sympathy to people who don't want to help themselves.

As much as I like this one guy, I have to remember: He’s stupid. Always crying about being alone but he fucks it up for himself. Can't be bothered to be more social, always wanting to keep everything secret, struggles to return affection, and sympathizes with neck beards embarrassing themselves.

Like, I care about him, but....he’s 32 and still needs to grow up. That’s embarrassing.

romantic-rose · 2023-10-30T01:15:46+00:00

Is there a sub where we can debate about dating culture without pills and the like.

princedune · 2023-10-30T01:08:21+00:00

idk what happened but it looks like my hairline has receded at least a centimeter in just the past week. I lost a whole handful of hair when I took my shower this morning

SianOiseau · 2023-10-30T00:53:42+00:00

Places (some) women refuse to go on a date.

Tbh I don't think it's that unreasonable with the exception for coffee/ice cream dates, bowling, a bar just for drinks (if you both drink alcohol and comfortable doing so on the first date), maybe waffle house (have no idea of the quality or ambiance) and sport events depending on one's tastes.

Food chains are just...not really romantic. It's okay if you're on a budget and you're teens or if you're both real fans of these places but otherwise it's just not romantic imv. In my case I also can't really eat much from these places and I'd split the bill anyway so it's not that my date would have to go broke.

Going to their place on a first date is a no-go for many women because a) sex is expected and most aren't comfortable with it for the first date and b) that's not safe unless you've known each other for some time before.

Going to church...that doesn't sound like a good place to talk and get to know each other.

Going to a family function puts too much pressure on the first date.

princedune · 2023-10-30T00:38:20+00:00

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CradleCity · 2023-10-30T00:35:25+00:00

Does anyone have examples in pop culture (well-knwon movies, music, books, etc.) that show/portray a male virgin in not only a positive light, but a romantic light or a sexually desirable light?

As per one conversation I had recently, there 's Jack in Titanic (at least prior to him having the time of his late with Rose), but I want to gather others, in order to do a write-up on pop culture and its distorting/warped romanticisms (I like to regularly question media/culture stuff, it's how my mind rolls).

Edit: Just so we're clear here, what I want to focus on is romantic or sexual light portrayals, so, beyond the mere positive light. No monks or non-sexual heros, please.

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2023-10-30T00:28:08+00:00

Lmao what's with this flair requirement

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-10-30T00:19:14+00:00

Anyone can quantifiably and empirically measure female privilege in real life.

Go to any social setting and count the number of men vs women not socially engaged with someone or how often they are not engaged with someone. There will always be many more men than women who are being marginalized on the social sidelines, who people are not engaging or being interested in.

This isn't just at bars, parties and night clubs where men are trying to hit on women. This is in every part of life. Meetups, work events, classes, conferences, social clubs, running group, co-ed sports, etc. Everyone, old/young, female/male, everywhere are treating women better, more actively engaging and being interested in women.

Female privilege

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-10-30T00:10:50+00:00

Can't stop thinking about him...

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uccelloverde · 2023-10-30T00:05:51+00:00

Does anyone remember the sketch comedy show The State? Yesterday, I saw the cast perform sketches live at a theater, and it was awesome.

monster_lily · 2023-10-30T00:03:47+00:00

Also at rite aid today i saw this old man wearing young people's clothing, like he was old but you could tell he was young in his heart, anyways when he went to check out his change was like $40 and he told the cashier to keep the change TWICE and then i went outside and he had a pretty fancy looking car

RedditLiesMore · 2023-10-29T23:58:37+00:00

There's too little discourse about the role of testosterone when discussing male sexual and romantic desire.

monster_lily · 2023-10-29T23:57:34+00:00

I cant stop thinking about my future wedding day its going to be so bombbb and I get to have 2 different wedding ceremonies

Friedrich_Friedson · 2023-10-29T23:57:22+00:00

"Serpents of heaven befall us

Come when temper and lust are awake

Arise from the deep of the battle

And awake when lust can't wait

Send all misgivings to heaven

And unveil all the beasts in your head

Stand tall for the rain

Remember the pain

When in Rome we all attack

Time to see the sky forever

Find eternal life in fever

Time to copulate

And come alive and break the chains

Commit the sacrament of sin - in for the kill

The sacrament of sin - for the sin is my will

Sacrament of sin - believe it or fall

All the night neanderthal

Ten thousand times we have wondered

And prepared for the ultimate sin

Three times had our lord been forgiven

And three times we fell for skin

Ban all the morals to heaven

And forget all good manners in rage

To rebel in lust

In body and bust

Fornicate to break this cage

Time to see the sky forever

Find eternal life in fever

Time to copulate

And come alive to break the chains

Commit the sacrament of sin - in for the kill

The sacrament of sin - for the sin is my will

Sacrament of sin - believe it or fall

All the night neanderthal

Confess the sacrament of sin - mistress or wife

Sacrament of sin - lead a sinister life

Sacrament of sin - desire to call

Stand up high when cloth will fall

Commit the sacrament of sin - in for the kill

The sacrament of sin - for the sin is my will

Sacrament of sin - believe it or fall

All the night neanderthal

Confess the sacrament of sin - mistress or wife

Sacrament of sin - lead a sinister life

Sacrament of sin - desire and call

Stand up high when cloth will fall

Commit the sacrament of sin!"

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-10-29T23:52:21+00:00

I'm thinking a lot of guys have a comprehension problem and that’s why giving them advice doesn't work.

If they can turn “Be nice to girls” to “you deserve a sex/romance just because you’re so nice”, you can't help these guys.

Friedrich_Friedson · 2023-10-29T23:47:42+00:00

https://youtu.be/1QvKP3_rbUE?si=MWf8IwqDrmZcQL12

Man, I love this song,this album and this band

PaintingEmergency919 · 2023-10-29T23:37:05+00:00

The only people willing to date me have been poly with several other boyfriends. I know that I want monogamy but I'm aware that it's dying and I even read an article explaining how monogamy is immoral and only jealous, insecure, abusers would want monogamy. No man or woman wants me monogamously so I have to just accept if I want any kind of physical or romantic connection I have to join the group fuck and patiently wait my turn for affection while shes fucking her preferred boyfriends. You guys are obviously evolved to above people like me so how do I let go of this disease?

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