What do you have to offer?

Oli_love90 · 2026-07-03T20:10:38+00:00

Lol, are we all really still stuck in this discourse? If you think women are boring bums that bring nothing, you do not have to date. Dating is not mandatory.

This question is null and void because as humans with various wants and likes there will never be a satisfying answer. All this question does is allow for men or women to argue personal preferences. Okay?

Maybe the question you ask yourself if what qualities am I looking for? Then vet from there.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2026-07-03T20:32:27+00:00

This is such a chronically online way of looking at relationships.

What someone brings to the table isn’t universal. It’s whatever their partner values. You’re acting like there’s one objective list when there isn’t.

And “women have less interesting hobbies” is such a weird criticism. Interesting according to who? They’re her hobbies. As for nagging, if we’re making sweeping assumptions, maybe she’s nagging because you’re not bringing as much to the table as you think you are.

The better question is: Are you someone who makes my life better? Do I enjoy being around you? Do you support me? Do you make me laugh? Can we solve problems together? That’s what actually matters.

Anyone who opens with “What do you bring to the table?” like it’s a job interview is already waving a red flag. I’m bringing nothing to your table because I don’t want to sit there.

Talking_Tanuki · 2026-07-03T20:38:52+00:00

I’m curious whether there is actually an answer that would satisfy you or you just want to vent. People generally don't stay in relationships that bring them nothing. If men choose to date women, it's because they're getting something meaningful out of it.

I'm married. My husband tells me all that he feels lucky to have me, so I have reasons to believe that I bring plenty to our marriage. We’re best friends. He can talk to me, vent to me, lean on me for comfort and support. We genuinely enjoy spending time together. I plan probably 70% of our dates, we check museums, go hiking, do a bit of rock climbing, play video games, watch movies, and cook together. We have a very active sex life. I'm an attentive, giving lover, and he loves being close to me just as much as I love being close to him.

It’s also good to have another adult running the household. We both work and split expenses, and when he was unemployed for a while, I supported us. We split the chores. I enjoy cooking, so he's well-fed. I usually pack his lunches, I do all the grocery shopping and most of the laundry.

Looking at your post and comments here, I have a very strong feeling that you just want to argue and criticize women.

Ronniebbb · 2026-07-03T21:14:27+00:00

Dude if you don't want to be with women then don't. Barring certain regions of the world, it's 2026 and you can be alone, just fucking around or with guys. You don't have to saddle up with a woman when you clearly do not like us nor want us and think we're so damn awful.

And when it comes to what do you bring to the table, I go back to Roy Ken when he was talking to Rebecca. it is highly individualized. I don't know what I bring to the table for my husband he'd have to answer that, but he does love me and we're going strong 8 years into our relationship and now married. As for what he brings to the table for me, he's set the gold standard no man will ever be able to come close to.

JollyBowler2510 · 2026-07-03T20:25:49+00:00

Then don’t date? 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s simple. If women are so boring, why continue to date them?

ashpr0ulx · 2026-07-03T20:11:45+00:00

personally i have never said men have nothing to offer, so we’ll start there. majority of men have a lot of wonderful things to offer. some don’t, and for some reason, those men are the loudest with demands of women. as it usually goes- the worst people in any scenario are the loudest.

that said, what do i bring to the table? a decent income. a killer library. an awesome sense of humor. fantastic cook and even better baker. good at cleaning and organizing. an expert at home maintenance: i can maintain/repair my own home and car rather effectively. i’m great at plumbing and HVAC, in particular, but i can do basic electrical work, mechanic work, and carpentry. i am frugal and great at stretching a dollar. i sing, play piano and am learning the violin. i can sew well enough to repair and modify clothing. i am kind, nurturing, patient, and in general a supportive and positive partner. forklift trainer certified 😎

Acrobatic-Monk9735 · 2026-07-03T20:32:59+00:00

Women: cook, clean, do childcare, work and bring in income, stay relatively attractive and fit

Men: 😤😤😤😤 this isn’t good enough you are boring with boring hobbies you b!!!!!!!

lesliecarbone · 2026-07-03T20:33:11+00:00

woman are at average more greater bums as men, have less interesting hobbys, nag more and have less life goals.

Basically everything woman criticize in men "not bringing to the table" is 2x worse with woman

INFO: Then why do you want one?

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2026-07-03T20:38:34+00:00

I guess everything

I work, I manage the finances, I shop and cook and clean the house, I do the yardwork, I’m the primary parent, I give blowjobs, maintain a healthy weight and appearance, offer stimulating conversation, indulge in his whims, and I don’t nag

I have to say it does wear on me though so I’ve stopped doing my husband’s laundry which so far has helped.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2026-07-03T22:56:05+00:00

Baked goods and a nice ass.

mooncake_bites · 2026-07-04T09:10:20+00:00

Literally nothing. I have nothing to offer a man, so by all means go find the man of your dreams who will treat you like the princess you are~

Present-Afternoon-70 · 2026-07-03T20:04:09+00:00

Let's talk in generalities, because that's what you're doing.

Women, on average, do the majority of the household labor, the majority of childcare, the majority of the social planning, and the majority of the emotional labor that keeps relationships functioning. Women are also contributing financially at historically high rates.

So what exactly are men, as a population, bringing to the table?

If women are doing most of the cleaning, most of the childcare, most of the cooking, most of the planning, most of the emotional labor, and are also bringing in substantial income, then what is the contribution you're claiming women lack?

That's why this question is backwards. You're asking women to justify their value while ignoring the fact that, statistically, they're already doing most of the work required to maintain a household and a relationship.

If you can't understand why that undermines your premise, then you're just a moron.

Tess27795 · 2026-07-03T20:56:17+00:00

If we are so little, why bother? You sound like a someone who has no woman and wants to placate himself by saying how awful we are so he feels better.

I can ask you what is so interesting about your hobbies? Some gaming? What exactly would you do that would not bore me to death? Yet you are so sure that what you do is interesting and what I do is not. What a closed mind.

AngeAware · 2026-07-03T21:20:40+00:00

To be clear I dated in a very specific cultural/socioeconomic context where men's expectations may be higher than whatever the norm is for wherever you all come from.

My fiancé knew he couldn't bring just any girl home. There were understood expectations like being a church-going Christian who was brought up attending private Christian schools, college education, some degree of career aspirations (no just showing and wanting to be a spoiled housewife doesn't fly in this circle), sweet and well-mannered, takes care of her looks, likes children and is excited to have them, cooks and bakes, respects authority, deferential to elders, etc.

Outside of the pragmatic concerns, he says that one of the things that really excited him most initially outside of my looks was how easily he could talk to me. I've heard that from men before. I do think I'm naturally very fascinated by people in general. And especially as I got over my childhood shyness this manifested in my asking lots of questions and wanting to dig deeper into what they're saying without asking for too much or making them uncomfortable. I've found that these tendencies are like catnip for introverted men. Especially if they're physically attracted to you. Mix in shared interests and sense of humor and it's pretty much a done deal.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2026-07-03T22:28:19+00:00

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Expensive_Lion1807 · 2026-07-03T23:32:26+00:00

Here’s where you’re getting confused…

individuals get to decide what makes their partner valuable to them.

If their life isn’t better with that particular person than it would be without that particular person, they probably shouldn’t be with them.

That’s probably going to be a different standard for everyone and likely changes over time and with varying life circumstances and the only person who can determine what specific qualities meet that threshold is the person deciding.

Why would that not be a reasonable requirement?

If you (or men who feel the same way that you do) believe that your life is better without a specific woman, or women in general, by all means don’t date them 🤷‍♀️. That just makes sense.

Chicken_Nugget_2 · 2026-07-04T02:57:31+00:00

You can also choose not to date women

PositionStandard6089 · 2026-07-04T03:13:28+00:00

"Most i can see woman are at average more greater bums as men, have less interesting hobbys, nag more and have less life goals."

this makes me laugh so hard.

okay, lol, so you are so boring that you only know boring women? but that is somehow the problem of all women? yeesh dude.

QuestioningThink · 2026-07-03T20:05:50+00:00

Women don’t have to offer men anything. We’re not the ones falling behind in every area of life and experiencing a loneliness epidemic. But to indulge you, just being seen next to a woman increases a man’s social standing, cohabiting with a woman increases men’s life span and overall health because men refuse to take care of themselves.

LillthOfBabylon · 2026-07-03T20:29:03+00:00

A great theme is "men have nothing to offer, they dont make the live of the woman better" and so one

Because guys here keep crying "It's not my personality, it's my looks!" but most of you will never be hot enough for your personality to not matter.

So actually, what have you to offer? what do you bring on the table to a relationship?

That's the real issue. You guys ask this of women, but ask that about yourself before expecting people to tolerate you. Why should they tolerate you?

Most i can see woman are at average more greater bums as men, have less interesting hobbys, nag more and have less life goals.

So you dont appeal to interesting women who have their lives together.

Serious-Rain-9772 · 2026-07-03T20:41:59+00:00

I offer absolutely nothing. Zilch. Nada.

A man isn’t able to extract anything from me.

Fondacey · 2026-07-03T20:44:00+00:00

#notallmen
#notallwomen

The answer to your question doesn't exist.

It isn't: what do I as a woman bring to a relationship, it's what do I want a man to bring to our relationship and what does he want me to bring. When those things align people find lifetime partners.

I know what I have to offer. I also know what my husband has to offer. We've been together for 34 years and we are really happy with the partnership.

love_in_october · 2026-07-03T21:57:58+00:00

I have a full time job and salary.

Idk what hobbies you find interesting but I'm into a variety of things, most prominent are board games and crafts, and my loved ones really like the things I knit, crochet and embroider for them.

I don't "nag", unless you're the type that thinks politely reminding your partner to do something once is nagging, or you're the kind of partner who doesn't do it even after the reminder.

I have life goals. Buy a house, advance in my career, travel to certain places, etc.

I'm my husband's best friend and really caring, apparently. He, you know, likes spending time with me.

Theawkwardmochi · 2026-07-03T23:21:17+00:00

Food. I cook, and boy can I cook 🤣🤣🤣🤣

PuzzleheadedRow9896 · 2026-07-04T02:35:37+00:00

I mean, I'm married, but:

I'm cute
I'm fit
I'm beautiful
Good job
Good finances
Excellent cook
Funny
Interesting hobbies
Have life goals
Very positive can do attitude
Never met a cat I didn't like
Excellent taste in blankets
Superior knowledge of health insurance
Emotionally intelligent and solid
Zero drama 16. From a solid, but slightly crazy family of decent means.
Extremely respected in both my small communities and the local community.
I'm 32 and I look 20 cuz of that vampire blood.
You can bounce a quarter off this ass
I'm loyal to a fault.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2026-07-04T23:28:30+00:00

A small bag containing 3 teeth, a ball of moss, some acorns, 12 feathers, and fist full of hair.

chamomilecloud · 2026-07-03T20:16:58+00:00

Women do not have to offer anything if she just wants a random man to fuck. By virtue of having holes, and most men wanting hole and are only able to obtain this via a relationship, women are inherently valuable to those men and make his life better through sex. The inverse is not true. That's why women are less interested in partnering with men.

Women have something more to offer for men who are worth it. I am not going to sit here and justify why my fiancé chose me just so angry men can jerk off to it through their tears or smth. But he gets all of what I have to offer—emotionally, financially, sexually—because he's worth it.

VenusNoire_ · 2026-07-03T20:18:14+00:00

This is always a strange question because companionship and affection will always be personalized. It’s dependent on the other person, their personality, and emotional needs. It’s easier to speak in generalities, but I always wonder what the men who ask women “what do you bring to the table?” even think they’re getting out of intimate relationships with women to begin with. Sometimes it seems like a lot of feminine forms of labor are either invisible or undervalued and yet are still expected as like baseline. People who ask this question to begin with are kind of telling on themselves, imo.

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Lost_Reaction_5489 · 2026-07-03T22:28:23+00:00

And yet this forum and many others like it exist. The Red Pill exists because men know what women offer simply by existing near them.

purplejellyotter · 2026-07-04T00:23:27+00:00

What should women be offering that meets mens standards? Most comments by women have been shot down so what exactly is the appropriate answer here?

pie-mart · 2026-07-04T01:12:34+00:00

Men and women both have love to offer if nothing else, and how can that be bad

Siukslinis_acc · 2026-07-04T06:49:19+00:00

My companionship, knowledge, skills, perceptions, mindset, worldview.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2026-07-04T09:35:37+00:00

I offer enough to get married.

If you don't think a woman has anything to offer, don't date them.

If the juice isn't worth the squeeze then don't squeeze.

waffleznstuff30 · 2026-07-04T17:12:30+00:00

This is such an out of touch and frankly sad way to look at relationships. That there has to be some exchange of goods or transaction going on in order for a relationship to be valid and viable. Do you just ever.... Like someone? Like sitting and losing track of the hours you spend just yapping together. Living life together dirty sweaty post gym store runs? Because it's just something you do together? Going through the motions of life. Shared inside jokes? Like can you coexist with someone without the gendered expectations and performance of dating to get something from someone.

To a man who looks at my love and my time and consideration as just currency to fuel his ego or my company as a means to an end for sex and think of a relationship with me as some kind of power dynamic. I have nothing to offer.

To a person who grows and builds with me I have a lot to offer. I am a great companion, understanding. We can do things we both like (concerts, dancing the night away, trying new things hobbies that we both like doing and eagerness to oblige even if it's not my thing because I like spending time with my partner). We go through life together. I like an equitable relationship. If he gets the concert tickets I drive? If he gets dinner I get drinks. Do we have a shared weirdness and love of the macabre and strange. Is he the Gomez to my Morticia? Where we just adore each other and are strange together? We both just value each other and that is the offer. Not I am the prize you have to pick me! Or you are the prize so I will do anything for you? It's wow this connection we have is the offer. We both grow together and build something together. Our lives were okay before, but coming together makes our lives better.

RelativeCondition915 · 2026-07-04T17:19:28+00:00

I have no idea what I offer. I don't think I'm relationship material. I don't want to be in relationship. But I have had plenty of people trying to be in serious relationships with me, so I imagine I offer a Freudian childhood wound reenactment or a fantasy of taming a wild horse.

KBK226 · 2026-07-05T00:13:32+00:00

I’m married, & I would say I make my husband’s life much easier. I cook for him, clean the house, do the laundry, do a good portion of the childcare- but he is very involved in our daughters lives so I’m not saying I do MORE but I do take care of most of the “invisible labor” with our girls (buying clothes, making sure they still fit, buying diapers for the baby, buying formula for the baby when she was taking bottles, knowing what milestones she should be hitting, & then for our school aged daughter keeping up to date with when school events are, what they’re learning/what she needs, getting her uniform ready, etc). Our sex life is good- I’d say it’s about 2-3 times a week on average though sometimes more. I’m always supporting him, supporting his hobbies, etc. as for my own, I do have some & we often “parallel play” like he’ll game & I’ll read or watch my trash tv.
He is medically retired from his job because of a disability, but even though he’s home I still take care of all that stuff. Usually I work, but I’m a SAHM right now because we can’t afford daycare for our baby. I try not to nag because my mom nagged me a lot growing up & I understand how frustrating it can be but sometimes it’s unavoidable if something isn’t getting done- there’s only so many ways I can ask before I have to start doing what he’d classify as “nagging.” But I think my husband is pretty lucky!
As far as what else I bring to the table instead of what I DO for him or do to make his life easier, I’m smart, I have a masters, & am always trying to learn. I’m a good cook, I think I’m pretty funny (thanks, Trauma! Haha), I’m very patient, & I’m kind. I’m naturally a nurturing person. I’m an ECE for a living & so I think I’m creative (have to come up with lesson plans & art & crafts & things!)

mumblebumblegrumble · 2026-07-05T16:33:07+00:00

I don't offer things to men. From what I've seen, women that do that just get used up for what they offer and then get discarded for a woman that just had to be hot enough.

Sxnflower15 · 2026-07-03T21:27:40+00:00

I don’t bring anything but vibes to be honest

Plenty-Practice-6399 · 2026-07-08T17:04:40+00:00

How about some decent grammar?

What do you have to offer?

Comments

They wont tell guys most will never be hot enough to be dipshits without being alone or around other dipshits.

Most of you are not hot nor rich enough for people to tolerate a nasty attitude from you.

The manosphere is filled with guys who have NONE of the traits you listed except confidence.

So personality is the most important thing for most men to work on.

Still not an incel.

Most of you will never be Chad.

Most of you dont have the looks nor money for people to tolerate you being insufferable.

Most of you dont have the looks nor money for people to tolerate you being insufferable.

Most men are not hot enough for that not to matter.

Most of you are NOT hot enough for pretty privilege.

Wife.

Still not an incel.

Most of you will never be exceptions.

I AM THE FUCKING TABLE

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