If you’re not “hot”, of course. I’ll give you an example from my dead bedroom. We’ve been together almost 3 years now, and, in this time, she’s NEVER said yes to any of my advances, ever. She claims it’s because of her lower sex drive, However, things change dramatically when other women are in the picture. Whenever I mention a work colleague or a random girl at the gym, she becomes more affectionate and sexual towards me. Once, we went out with her visiting female friend and that female friend was very engaged in a conversation with me and seemed to like me too. That same night, my then girlfriend now wife almost jumped at me ripping my clothes off. Basically, it’s what attractive people and people with status already have - the abundance of options, which makes them even more attractive. So if you’re unattractive but somehow you partner sees that you still have a lot of options, it makes them reassess your attractiveness level. In conclusion, get out of the house and try to do as many productive activities with other people as possible in your free time, and even if you don’t solve your dead bedroom at least you’ll have learnt something new and potentially found a person who’s more into you. However, this can never stop, ever. Even if you’re attractive, you still have to it from time to time, but as an unattractive person, you have to keep doing it at least 2-3 times a week to maintain some balance and desire from your partner.