“yOuR wAy ToO qUiCk To JuDgE”

electroloop · 2021-01-11T02:58:12+00:00

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Ikwhatudoboo · 2021-01-11T03:02:39+00:00

He should get “ tricked” into getting a vasectomy

Jinxhourglass · 2021-01-11T02:29:17+00:00

i WaS tRiCkeD

lucid_sunday · 2021-01-11T03:01:42+00:00

“That’s not fair” LMAO. You’re a better woman than me. As soon as someone says they have kids I’m out.

Equipoisonous · 2021-01-11T03:06:41+00:00

"I'm an absent father who resents women."

"DON'T JUDGE ME."

Platipus6 · 2021-01-11T03:07:17+00:00

I MADE A MISTAKE

Sir, children are not "a mistake". You made a human.

Also

Men : why do women stay with shitty men so long?? It's up to you to vet better. You're the common denominator. You're the one picking shitty men.
Also men : you judged me too fast! Let me waste a little bit of your time pls???

Austenma · 2021-01-11T04:09:19+00:00

Calling the ex immature is a big red flag. Anything negative about the ex and mother is not ok.

Splatzy19 · 2021-01-11T02:41:14+00:00

Tricked? You were tricked into not using a condom correctly or making sure your partner had reliable birth control? It's not really a trick if you hear 'the pill' and think 'Hooray! No responsibility or effort from me then!'

daisy_0720 · 2021-01-11T07:16:15+00:00

"The mom is very immature" says the man in his forties that can't be bothered to raise his own kids.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-01-11T03:26:44+00:00

Translation. He's too awful to be around the kids and also too awful to even care. By tricked into it he just means she got pregnant accidentally or that he agreed but says this now. She is the immature one who's now raising both of the children while he fucked off and pretends they don't exist.

Wildestrose1988 · 2021-01-11T06:12:28+00:00

They all claim they were tricked. So sick of this line. Stop cumming inside vaginas then acting surprised when you make a kid. Wtf

AimiHanibal · 2021-01-11T04:38:13+00:00

Why don’t you want a deadbeat dad who knocked up his ex not once, but twice? (But the second time she “tricked” him, let’s not forget that) /s

99power · 2021-01-11T05:36:04+00:00

And why would you stick your dick in an immature woman? Live with your decisions, dude.

HexyHag · 2021-01-11T07:21:57+00:00

There's something chilling about the way he says 'I love him regardless', like he thinks loving his own child is a saintly deed. Though I wonder what kind of love it is to 'not see them very often' because 'they live a little far'.

cupittycakes · 2021-01-11T11:42:18+00:00

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Novemberinthechair · 2021-01-11T09:30:00+00:00

One time a man revealed to me that he had two sons, hastily adding, "I didn't really want them...I was tricked."

Tricked? You piece of shit? Do you get how babies are made? Naw, these guys want to screw without a condom them act shocked when the sperm chases the egg.

Mcccy · 2021-01-11T12:25:53+00:00

40, an absent dad and still doesn't know the difference between "your" and "you're" 🤢

Altowhovian93 · 2021-01-11T04:38:01+00:00

Good on OP for noping out when she saw potential for drama.

Tread carefully when considering dating someone with children. It is okay for that to be something you don’t want to mess with!

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2021-01-11T06:34:02+00:00

This guy is garbage, especially since he hid that he has kids. He reminds me of a random I chatted with on an app, who also tried hiding parts of his lifestyle. He didn’t list his job on the profile, so I asked about it and he said he was a professor but didn’t say where. So of course I asked where and then he tried changing the subject. So I asked again and it ALL CAME OUT. He has a kid in my city, but couldn’t get a job here so works in a different city and flies to see his kid every other weekend. And I said oh wow, I don’t think we’re a match, but good luck to you. And this garbage of a human being had the audacity to ask WHY NOT. Ummmm why the hell do you think?? Unmatched.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-01-11T11:39:54+00:00

"the mom is very immature. She's your age" Ha ha ha. What is he trying to say?

waddamelone · 2021-01-11T12:05:38+00:00

This is the energy we all need to project.

The excuse for nog seeing your own BLOOD “they live a little far”. I bet it’s not even far. And he won’t put in the effort. Why would he put effort into women then? Since he doesn’t even do it for people with his dna. The true definition of a SKRRROTE.

How old is this manchild and what is “around your age”? I bet he’s a pedo or groomer as wel.

How can he be tricked into having kids? If he didn’t want them he should’ve taken the right precautions but of course he didn’t because “muh dick. wet muh dick”.

Things like this honestly make me not even want to start trying to date when covid is over. I’m SO over trying to do my best to find someone half normal. I’m just nog going to do it.

Summoning-Freaks · 2021-01-11T03:38:41+00:00

Random Q, but he has two boys with one of WHO? Ex wives?

UshiiMoe · 2021-01-11T07:55:21+00:00

He’s like “wait slow down so I have a chance to emotionally manipulate you 🥴”

climbergal928 · 2021-01-11T09:13:57+00:00

I am 100% the same way.

Im especially sick of these guys that recently had children and are already divorced and dating. They usually say they were tricked into having them which tells me they weren't an active participation in birth control and left it up to the woman. Plus they usually say she changed after having kids. Um ya it's a huge physical and mental change.

RabidWench · 2021-01-11T13:29:38+00:00

[You're] way too quick to judge

Sir, I judged on the merits you presented. It can hardly be my fault there none that are redeeming.

balladwilds · 2021-01-11T11:46:07+00:00

the amount of red flags... hope you blocked his ass right after ! men with kids is a direct no

S_pline · 2021-01-11T12:33:13+00:00

honestly, Saying that she's immature and you're the same age is implying that you are mature at the same age. Classic negging - tricking you into thinking 'you're special'. If a compliment comes at the expense of an ex girlfriend of his, chances are that man's not a keeper.

tatipie17 · 2021-01-11T05:14:41+00:00

What is “a little far”?!!?!?!?

fulltwistinglayout · 2021-01-11T15:33:16+00:00

This is the chidfree woman's nightmare. I would date a good father before I date a deadbeat. ffs.

Wchijafm · 2021-01-11T14:04:55+00:00

"Way to quick" you have to really dig down into my character to find the good bits. Lol

I'm a mom a father who has no active role in his children's lives is a straight no go for me. Childfree women should also count this a no go. Sure you both dont want kids but he has shirked one of the biggest responsibilities that has appeared in his life and that tells you exactly who he is. The only exception is if the child was fully adopted. Not ignored until the mom found a husband who adopted but fully adopted from the beginning.

f_alt04 · 2021-01-11T08:04:54+00:00

love when they make it so damn obvious they’re trash 😂

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2021-01-11T03:21:19+00:00

Baby daddy drama

Pengtingcalledme · 2021-01-11T02:30:36+00:00

Lols

Half_Halt · 2021-01-11T03:44:39+00:00

Dare I ask what the "with one of them" part meant? More than one ex wife?

HumanAdhesiveness360 · 2021-01-11T05:01:04+00:00

I know plenty of women who don't judge based on scrotes parental role. Thank you for calling him out

iggypooop · 2021-01-11T10:45:20+00:00

No offence but it pisses me off when I see women answering politely these assholes. The conversation should have stoped at "the mom is very immature". You don't owe him an explanation, or a warning, or an advice .

entpgirl415 · 2021-01-11T13:33:59+00:00

Wow idk if this was actually your messages, but I wish I had the balls to be like this! For some reason I just ghost people instead of flat out telling them things like this, but I feel like I should work on that 😅

ijustwannabefree- · 2021-01-11T15:19:44+00:00

What a clown, now trying to push the blame on you 😂

queen-wannabe · 2021-01-11T19:53:47+00:00

Can we please stop indirectly giving men tips to not say stupid stuff? If they start to learn what not to say, they’ll be effective in hiding their red flags. Meaning we’ll be wasting our time vetting a lvm in a hvm’s disguise.

Ancient-Cucumber · 2021-01-11T08:39:05+00:00

Looks just ripe for FDS post! Would have been great if you asked a couple more questions, just to see how pathetic this scrote would have gotten, such as how was he tricked into having the second kid, and why is he interested in you if his ex has your age and considers her immature?

TheSuspiciousChard · 2021-01-11T11:34:04+00:00

And that’s not how you spell YOU’RE

Wanna hit him in the head with a pan

coconutmilk99 · 2021-01-11T12:48:02+00:00

>the mom is very immature, she's your age actually

Bold way to say he doesn't take any personal responsibility, doesn't value the role of a mother, recognise the struggle of pregnancy, birth and bringing up children alone, only goes for women he thinks are young and stupid enough to put up with his shit, and probably takes his dirty laundry to his mother's house for her to wash and iron it.

Meadow97 · 2021-01-11T13:18:57+00:00

Lol. Swine.

button-up · 2021-01-11T17:45:46+00:00

Immature = naive enough to fall for his lies then mad when he didn’t follow through.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-01-11T06:57:35+00:00

You're.

furiouswomen · 2021-01-11T11:32:04+00:00

You're* 😂

awkchihuahua · 2021-01-11T17:54:00+00:00

Bullet dodged. He can't spell *you're.

light_workerx3 · 2021-01-11T18:30:06+00:00

The funny part is , he's probably the one who is Immature 🤣😆

akashyaboa · 2021-01-11T18:52:55+00:00

She's immature but he's the one who abandoned his kids. So this is how you show you are mature? By making kids all over the country then ditching them.. Who knew

CatsOnTheLaptopAgain · 2021-01-11T19:57:12+00:00

There's dodging a bullet, and then there's dodging this nuclear missile.

terrn1981 · 2021-01-11T21:26:34+00:00

Sure. It's always HER fault isn't it? What a loser.

Kimpractical · 2021-01-11T21:37:03+00:00

Dudes out here have sex with anything that walks, and then get upset and angry at the woman when she ends up having his kids and turns him into a shit father because he refuses to take responsibility. Keep your dick in your pants and you won’t have a problem

warinmymind94 · 2021-01-12T00:39:28+00:00

Translation: "I'm a deadbeat dad. I slept with her and procreated again after I pressured her into sex but im gonna gaslight her and say she tricked ME. im the victim here!"

So many red flags here. I would have been tempted to block him after he said he had 2 kids he doesn't see but honestly this is the one case where im actually glad you called him out on being a deadbeat dad.

🚩🚩He has time to message other women to try to date but he can't make any time for his kids?

🚩That mom is only "immature" because she's probably overwhelmed and so beyond upset that he ditched her and won't even swing by to take the kids for the weekends. So she snapping at him.

Did you see hes already negging you? She's your age was implying you're just as "immature" as the baby momma because you happen to be the same age. 🚩🚩🚩

🚩he made excuses they are too far but I bet he'll drive up to 3 hours away for an easy hookup

🚩the you're way too quick to judge is a gaslighting thing. Hes a deadbeat dad and there is NO excuse. Rather than realizing he is the problem he gotta twist it around and try to blame you.

Lazy-Design1979 · 2021-01-12T16:17:30+00:00

Y'know, if I had a dime for every man who was "tricked into" having kids, I'd be retired on a yacht in the Mediterranean by now. Love the bonus backhanded "yeah, she's really immature and is your age." Nice!

Title	“yOuR wAy ToO qUiCk To JuDgE”
Author	electroloop
Upvotes	787
Comments	131
Date	January 11, 2021 2:27 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/kut4az/your_way_too_quick_to_judge/
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