This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.

miaumiaoumicheese · 2021-10-29T23:32:58+00:00

It’s actually not only casual sex, there are men who can create whole long relationship (and even marriage) despite not being attracted to you at all

apommom · 2021-10-29T22:25:36+00:00

Never pursue a man, they’re not picky and don’t even have to like you or find you attractive to have sex

BasieSkanks · 2021-10-29T22:04:35+00:00

These screenshots were taken from a thread where thousands of men admitted to sleeping with women they did not find attractive. The most upvoted comments essentially boiled down to “well, she was willing and available.” This is why part of the reason why casual sex will never be an equitable experience for women. Many women, thanks to social conditioning and our general lack of assholery, go into these casual situations hoping to make it mutually beneficial, which is why men orgasm at a much higher rate in a casual encounter than women. I can’t think of anything less empowering than being seen as a warm, available body for a man to masturbate into. Say no to casual sex with men. If you have urges, get a vibrator - at least you’ll have an orgasm and it won’t look down on you for putting out.

Junior-Lion7893 · 2021-10-29T22:48:14+00:00

Sad but true. Some men will gauge how much effort and money it will take to get you to sleep with them.

Remember that you’re worth more than a free meal, movie date, or a walk in the park!

say10s-exwife · 2021-10-30T06:26:58+00:00

I hate that I had a "hoe phase". The last dude I slept with literally admitted that he only ever saw me as an inanimate object to use. It fucked me up so bad. I still think about it all the time.

Men are fucking sociopaths. It's so important to be careful of who we're intimate with.

arnezuara · 2021-10-29T22:36:19+00:00

It’s disgusting to see how these desperate losers talk so low of themselves, then slut-shame women in the same breath.

This thread shows why women should vet ruthlessly to ensure that the men they date are excited, enthusiastic, and attracted to them — not only for looks, but for her character (be wary of narcissistic idealization).

Vet, vet, vet. Do not give these losers any attention.

electroloop · 2021-10-29T22:48:01+00:00

This infuriates me but I’m not surprised. Men are trash. Casual sex is a scam. This is a sponsored post by Hitachi Magic Wand.

ceramicunicorn · 2021-10-30T00:09:14+00:00

“Ignorance is bliss”? Hell no, pull back the curtain and let them tell on themselves. Men count on ignorance to keep this shit up.

misandryisnotreal · 2021-10-30T01:49:15+00:00

“If the girl isn’t patient enough to allow a subpar bang, then she’s not worth your time anyways.”

🤮🤮🤮

aquietsword · 2021-10-29T23:11:29+00:00

These are the kinds of men that will settle because they are lonely and not that attractive and then some pickme will say yes to the onion ring proposal because she's "low maintenance."

This is also why we don't ask men on dates, they will say yes just because they don't have any other options, not because they like you.

arnezuara · 2021-10-29T22:38:31+00:00

As the mod said, invest in good sex toys. Take yourself out on dates. Make salt baths with bubbles, candles. Drink your fruity, sweet wine. The time spent with yourself should be extremely enjoyable.

Also, get off of OLD. It’s the hookup apps that are infested with LV/NV men. They will degrade and devalue you simply because you swiped right on them.

You’re giving these men validation that they did nothing to deserve.

Edit: spelling

FuckSakez · 2021-10-30T00:40:40+00:00

As FDS wisdom decrees: they tell on themselves!

__kamikaze__ · 2021-10-30T04:04:54+00:00

This is nightmare fuel.

Plus given the fact that some men can fake ENTIRE RELATIONSHIPS, how are we suppose to know if they genuinely love us? I’m baffled at this point 😕

londochig · 2021-10-30T03:25:24+00:00

I admit when Pickmeisha me first found FDS I was skeptical because I thought it was too harsh. But l honestly I didn't know any better. Deprogramming the way I was socialised was so MUCH harder than I thought. I started off with only agreeing with about 75%-80% of the handbook......I wish I took it more seriously earlier. I learned the hard way FDS is right almost 100% of the time. I had do endure so much abuse from men till I learned to redirect my highly empathetic nature towards myself and be completely void of empathy for men. This sub took off my rose tinted glasses and pulled me out of my cognitive dissonance. It's a hard pill to swallow because the truth really hurts. But I know better now.

pickadaisy · 2021-10-29T22:57:02+00:00

Ignorance is NOT bliss.

alpinepunch2021 · 2021-10-30T03:28:52+00:00

I looked up the thread and the running theme seems to be that unattractive guys settle for sleeping with women they aren't attracted to out of desperation. Wouldn't that give women even more of an incentive to consent exclusively to attractive guys, since they'd be less likely to be this desperate?

Serious_Papaya8615 · 2021-10-29T22:50:35+00:00

This is disturbing. This is why it’s important that we don’t turn a blind eye to what they say when they think women aren’t reading. Knowing how they think can help us protect ourselves.

FDS_anonymus · 2021-10-29T23:37:42+00:00

I threw up in my mouth a little, I just checked it out. No surprise, a lot even admit that they enjoyed taking advantage of the "ugly" woman's self esteem and that they did enjoy the sex.

The worst thing is the backpedaling once women comment that they'll never have (casual) sex again, suddenly it's all about ~ personality ~, how they don't take advantage of women in casual relationships and ~ how serious relationships are so DiFFerENT ~.

The second they realize that women are rightfully mortified after reading this thread, they trip over themselves to prove they're not garbage lol.

ello-motto · 2021-10-29T23:09:25+00:00

That thread reads of a generation of boys raised on a high sugar fructose corn syrup diet (women in porn), then getting mad that they can't taste anything in healthy nutritious food (women who are within their league and looks level).

iamsojellyofu · 2021-10-30T05:53:56+00:00

This is why a man wanting to fuck me is not a compliment.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-10-29T23:29:09+00:00

Do not feel sorry for these men. They won't even go outside and discover women aren't just projections in their head or fully realized human beings separate from porn. Let them get robots. The gene pool will do fine without them.

PicoPicoMio · 2021-10-30T05:27:49+00:00

If I have learnt anything about men, it’s that they will do anything to get off. Even if they hate themselves afterwards or don’t even enjoy the experience while its happening.

Astral_weaver · 2021-10-30T06:45:08+00:00

If his eyes don't constantly sparkle with love and admiration when he sees you, he is not the one. It's been a while since I decided to never again "give a chance" to anyone who is half-assing. I'm a decent human being and I deserve the best.

pukubr · 2021-10-29T23:48:33+00:00

Ugh thank you for sharing this 🤢 It just helped me realize how small that feeling of missing out on sex is, compared to the huge overwhelming negative of loss of self respect if I rushed into things with a guy.

I feel bad for the non-FDS woman just realizing now that men are the liars. Never base your self worth on what men say, because they will say contradictory things just to get in your pants. Ugly? He'll say you're beautiful to him. Beautiful? He'll neg you to get you insecure. A prude? He will call you that to get you to sleep with him because "prude is a bad thing just because (men disapprove of it?!)" A Slut? He will call you that to get you to sleep with him because "well you're already sleeping with everybody else" Self esteem comes from yourself, and maybe your sisters, but never from men.

halebaIe · 2021-10-30T00:23:05+00:00

You would think they would be grateful if a woman sleeps with them but instead they shame her and want sympathy for being so desperate. The thread proves why they shouldn’t be around vulnerable ppl.

StarbornDancing · 2021-10-30T05:37:33+00:00

As usual when guys are talking about self respect they're projecting their own lack of it.

BasieSkanks · 2021-10-30T07:04:54+00:00

This post proves that post nut clarity is a lie. Men know who they are attracted to from the jump, but most will sleep with anyone (or anything) out of sheer desperation. When you sleep with someone out of desperation and not out of genuine desire, of course you will feel like shit aferwards. That’s a no brainer.

oceanbreeze88 · 2021-10-30T01:10:05+00:00

I personally decided I won’t sleep with a guy until I’m married (or if I ever am). I have slept with guys before but I’m not giving it up unless it’s “real” again. I told this to a date (during pandemic when I was vulnerable and lonely and confused btw) just to be up front. I had a little too much to drink and he totally took advantage of me and he pushed more drinks on me, we made out, my top off. Fortunately no sex. This guy is below me, I feel so bad to have given even what I did to a pig like him. Moral of the story, STAY ON YOUR GUARD ALWAYS. and maybe skip ALL drinks while dating! One slip and you can be taken advantage of!

UnitedHoney · 2021-10-29T22:18:01+00:00

Truly disgusting

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-10-29T23:24:30+00:00

everything felt like a boob

Ugh 🙄🙄🙄

spoonxxm · 2021-10-30T02:52:20+00:00

I genuinely don’t understand why any (straight) woman buys into the whole hookup culture. Like even as a teenage pick me, I would’ve never let a male even kiss me before we were in a relationship for at least a few months. Like I genuinely can’t get it into my head. There’s nothing to gain and so much to lose…

kesharest · 2021-10-29T23:18:34+00:00

So takeaway they get after reading all this is - Ignorance is bliss? Should have stopped myself from reading it? And not sleeping with men casually? ......... ...... .... Shaking my head. Lowkey glad no one posted this conclusion there otherwise men would stop telling on themselves. Sigh.

redvelvetpudding · 2021-10-29T23:18:11+00:00

Dicks are too cheap and abundant.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2021-10-30T00:13:29+00:00

🤮🤮🤮

wHAtisLife59 · 2021-10-29T23:38:07+00:00

I’m glad I never had any one night stand.

calaverarosacorazon · 2021-10-30T06:42:37+00:00

And then they are angry at women for having a safe space like FDS where women can share this knowledge to other women to keep them from experiencing unfairness like this. I wish FDS existed when I was younger. If only i knew all these things then, i would have kept my self safe from assholes. But this is the very reason why FDS exists, in a way, sharing and helping other women with making wised decisions based on all the women’s bad experiences is like forgiveness for myself for years of being a pickme.

scorchedsouI · 2021-10-30T07:18:32+00:00

This is somewhat irrelevant but the internet showed me just how terribly unfunny and boring male humour is. Due to lack of exposure I was convinced of the "men are funny" myth, how disappointing. It's like repetitive dialogue in a video game. They can't come up with something original and clever to save their lives.

kerean1997 · 2021-10-30T08:38:36+00:00

This is the time I'm happy being ace. I'd never give anyone casual sex or regular sex lol. And I'm perfectly content being a single woman working on a career, living with my sister.

littleteacup77 · 2021-10-30T04:34:03+00:00

Stuff like this makes it veryyy clear why we should never pursue men. Even if they say yes, we still lose in the end.

hexriot2001 · 2021-10-30T01:32:27+00:00

I'm not surprised, they will stick it in anything.

BetterThanIWas10 · 2021-10-30T12:26:47+00:00

American Pie taught us that no matter how picky a guy will claim he is, he will literally stick his dick in food. Such men don't see women as barely a step above that.

shutup201 · 2021-10-30T16:23:50+00:00

Insecure ugly men are the damn worst.

Glo-Up_Loading · 2021-10-30T01:15:46+00:00

Again I will say being fat is the worst. 😩

lonice47 · 2021-10-30T02:48:58+00:00

This is such a helpful post. I am working on my sobriety from sex/relationship addiction and sometimes I forget how horrible I’d feel after an encounter with a man. But seeing the harsh reality of casual hook ups makes me want to avoid them even more. Hooray for abstinence lol

windymaze · 2021-10-30T08:24:33+00:00

This is why i personally believe that you should just wait as long as possible to sleep with him, and just observe, observe the things they do and say, it's actually fascinating and entertaining to watch, the ones who are here just to get u to sleep with them turn ugly real quick when they don't get what they want they get resentful and humiliate themselves, and then you can just leave and block once you learn all you need to know.

Muffcakelord · 2021-10-30T12:22:58+00:00

"Been given pity fucks"

I'm so excited for the mental gymnastics behind that one

iwetmyplantseveryday · 2021-10-30T03:00:56+00:00

Its no secret men will stick thier dicks in a mayonnaise jar and get off they are truly the less evolved gender

Shehulks1 · 2021-10-30T12:43:22+00:00

What I love about all the comments, is the acceptance and consoling we have for each other as women. The majority of us has been victim to this very thing and everyone is so loving, accepting, and bring each other up... I can't tell you how this made my day ❤️!!

I would like to send a virtual hug to each and everyone of you lovely ladies... 🤗🤗🤗🤗

smollulufairy · 2021-10-30T04:02:36+00:00

wow... men are absolute pigs! makes me wonder why im even attracted to them LOL

annrike1 · 2021-10-30T12:01:30+00:00

The thing is, the men were ugly themself, because women already settle for ugly men. They just weren't attracted to the women and watch porn to masturbate. Always date men who are 100 % attractive, so you know this won't happen.

SiriusMS · 2021-10-30T01:46:08+00:00

The fuck...

Accomplished_Rope975 · 2021-11-01T05:27:34+00:00

What is a spank bank?

In every fwb situation, I always felt like used trash afterwards. I didn’t get to orgasm and the men treat you like a c*m rag after. It took the help of this community and developing some self esteem to not let men use me like that. Now, I enjoy working on me and staying celibate.

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Title	This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.
Author	BasieSkanks
Upvotes	859
Comments	140
Date	October 29, 2021 10:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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"Been given pity fucks"