One of the more common talking points I see here is that women have “unrealistically high standards.”

Standards aren’t too high or unrealistic if one can consistently attract people they seek.

Even if they have a hard time doing so, if someone is happier remaining single than settling for less, I don’t see a problem. Staying single isn’t a loss or punishment, it’s a valid choice. If you’re content with that trade-off, then your standards aren’t harming anyone.

This principle applies equally to men and women.

I also often hear men argue that they have “lower standards” (which I’m skeptical about lol) because they’re willing to date women they consider less attractive. But if those women don’t want them either, then what exactly does having lower standards accomplish? Attraction is mutual. Lowering your threshold doesn’t obligate someone else to reciprocate.

The other assumption I find questionable is the idea of looksmatching . “I’m a 6 and she’s a 4 but she still won’t swipe right on me” But who decided those numbers were objective? Unless someone is on either end of the spectrum, attractiveness is highly subjective. So on what basis are people so confident that their self-rating or their rating of others is correct?

Ultimately the dating market sorts itself out. Pursue whoever you want. If you succeed, great. If you don’t, either improve what you bring to the table, adjust your expectations or accept being single. All are valid choices. There isn’t a point blaming problems on “too high standards”

This is from a woman’s perspective and I’m sure there are considerations I’ve overlooked. Open to differing views