"I had sex with 25 men at a party and now I'm pregnant"... but it's the men's fault

Choreboy · 2015-04-13T15:00:21+00:00

I have a hard time believing this actually happened. I think it's a story made up for the advice column, or someone just screwing around.

DIXIE__REKT · 2015-04-13T14:24:14+00:00

she should go through with the pregnancy and then call up Maury Povich, go on the show with all 25 guys and see which one the dad is.

RobbieGee · 2015-04-13T13:12:10+00:00

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acrippledblood · 2015-04-13T12:33:09+00:00

Bonus: Comments talking about how the "filthy pig men" should've known better.

Sabz5150 · 2015-04-13T12:52:37+00:00

Sooooo, She chooses to go to a party. She chooses to get drunk. She chooses to have sex with lots of men ... and your response is 'The men used you'.

You are not holding this woman accountable for her part in her predicament She needs a dose of reality. Hopefully, she won't just pick a random guy and name him father. If he isn't the biological father, he might be stuck paying for a child that isn't his ... just because some drunken bimbo fucked two dozen cocks in one night.

SolidCactus27 · 2015-04-13T12:31:22+00:00

So she let's the guys roll a Royal Rumble on her and it's her fault. If it were reverse and it was 25 chicks and one dude and he got some of them pregnant, it'd still be his fault, though.

... how about don't copy porn and allow 25 guys to bang you without condoms? Either that or don't complain about it.

goatsandbros · 2015-04-13T12:45:47+00:00

Mixed messages here... "angry at the men"... "hopefully you've learned something"... Seems the advice columnist's advice brain is in conflict with her progressive brain.

ThePedanticCynic · 2015-04-13T13:01:29+00:00

After the 7th, maybe 8th guy, this argument just doesn't hold any water.

elebrin · 2015-04-13T14:21:19+00:00

Your letter makes me really sad. I’m sad because you think so little of yourself that you’ve allowed these men to use you.

Am I the only one out there thinking that maybe she used them a little too? I'm not gonna get down on someone for doing what they want, and if she truly wanted to do this, then good on her for getting the chance to live her dream.

a10t2 · 2015-04-13T16:22:34+00:00

Am I the only one considering the probability that you could just show up to a party and everyone there would be down for a 26-way gang bang? You don't go to a housewarming or a St. Paddy's Day party, say "Oh neat, there's porn on, let's act it out!" and then get everyone else to go along with it. This was planned.

EvilPundit · 2015-04-13T19:46:31+00:00

You can write to the columnist with your problems. This was mine:

Dear Colleen, I just read an article about a woman who chose to have sex with 25 men at a party, and got pregnant. The advice column somehow ended up blaming the men, when it was all her decision. Now I'm upset because the columnist obviously has a bias against men. Whet should I do?

nobody2000 · 2015-04-13T14:23:12+00:00

Another example of the mentality that's applauded by feminists that manages to undermine women as well.

By blaming the men, it's like saying "you poor thing, even though you were of sound mind, and no one forced you into this, you're incapable of making decisions for yourself."

Does anyone remember Senator McCarthy and how he demonized everyone for being a communist, pointing fingers at everyone in hollywood, destroying careers, and all that? How long do we have to wait before feminists finally point their finger at the wrong person?

SCROTAL-SACK · 2015-04-13T14:44:00+00:00

"WHY CANT I FIND A DECENT MAN?? :'("

Blutarg · 2015-04-13T15:14:33+00:00

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SilasDG · 2015-04-13T19:51:36+00:00

It also makes me angry that not one guy at the party tried to put a stop to it and considered how you were going to feel the next day.

First let me get this straight. If I agree with someones personal decisions i'm using, controlling, forcing, etc. However if I force someone to make the decisions I think are "good", and make them do what I think they should then that makes me a good guy.

I'm not responsible for someone elses personal decisions, if you can't handle your liquor, don't drink because if drinking causes someone to make negative life choices that's one possible sign of alcoholism. Abusing alcohol has never been a "get out of responsibility free" card.

Second I may not have even met them before so I've no idea what their tolerance is, or if this is something they may have wanted to do. Crazy thing here: Some girls do want to have sex in fact plenty do, some even want to have drunk group sex, and it's not for me to say "no" just because some may not. I have no right to tell some girl how to live her life just because another girl doesn't want to take personal responsibility for her own choices.

Edit: I'll also note "not one guy at the party".

So no other girl could have put a stop to this? Not one could say "stop" or if people didn't listen call the police? When comments like this are made it's not just sexism towards men, it is against women as well. It's literally making the assumption women can't be responsible or take control. It's incredibly harmful to both genders.

kinyutaka · 2015-04-13T13:27:00+00:00

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Stevemacdev · 2015-04-13T13:19:42+00:00

Its the Mirror its shite just ignore it only plebs read it.

Roshambo_You · 2015-04-13T13:58:24+00:00

Just submitted my own version were I got five women pregnant and I feel ashamed about it. Doubt I'll get a response but will be an interesting comparison if I do.

2015-04-13T17:06:20+00:00

Not once in there does she say it's the men's fault

RayZfox · 2015-04-13T18:15:28+00:00

"How many people did you have sex with last night?"

"About a quarter hundred"

philipito · 2015-04-13T18:19:33+00:00

Like a real life Liane Cartman at the Drunken Barn Dance.

bertreapot · 2015-04-14T03:50:58+00:00

i had a talk with a friend today about a girl he slept with in HS. he said he didn't really like her, but she was crazy about him, and she was a virgin so he figured taking her virginity was worth it. he slept with her once then dumped her.

so for years, he tells me, she was furious at him for using him. just recently (this is maybe 10 years later) they ran into each other and she told him what a jerk he was for doing that.

now, let's take a step back. this was a man and a woman, roughly the same age, who had consensual sex with each other. the girl and society view the man as a jerk for using her. is that really what happened? she wanted to have sex and she did.

i see substantially no difference between my friend's story and this article. the woman had consensual sex with a bunch of men, and of course the advise columnist places the blame on the men, as if somehow they are culpable for having consensual sex with a woman.

this is why men have it so hard when falsely accused of rape or sexual assault. even when society knows the sex is consensual, the man is still somewhat guilty of...something. when the accusation is rape, there is no question about it.

2015-04-13T13:57:02+00:00

It also makes me angry that not one guy at the party tried to put a stop to it and considered how you were going to feel the next day.

You are in control of your own body, you offered yourself to these men regardless of you being drunk or not, this was no one else fault but your own.

Also replying to this comment here About how men are filthy pigs, if that is the case, then the woman that allowed them to have sex with her, to reenact the porn, is filthy as well. It works both ways.

nonnarB · 2015-04-13T21:18:50+00:00

I fail to see how a gang bang is in the realm of good decision making. On either end.

Let me see how many dicks I can get in here tonight. Oooh I'm wanted by and appealing to these men!

My buddy just fucked that chick in front of these other dudes, I hope I'm next!

Sounds like a laundry list of shitty people to me.

HugoWeaver · 2015-04-13T21:20:00+00:00

Another article which pretty much gets summed up as "the men should have protected you". Surely there were other women there. We are not responsible for your stupidity.

scanspeak · 2015-04-13T23:38:38+00:00

Having a few drinks before the orgy gives herself (and everyone else) permission to absolve her (and only her) of any responsibility. This is what many women do, but it strangely it's a tactic that never works for men. Oddly she clearly remembers that there were 25 and that none wore condoms.

Omega_Effect · 2015-04-13T15:03:08+00:00

Video or it didn't happen.

xNOM · 2015-04-13T13:47:10+00:00

Don't know what everyone is bitching about, here. This woman is actually a role model in a certain sense. She did something stupid and is trying to cope with it. If she were an american college student, she would have made some accusation by now. She's a woman. She asked for advice. It's not a defect that she didn't "take it like a man" and then shoot herself later after keeping things bottled up for 30 years.

The advice columnist is also correct in that if anyone there was actually her friend, they should have tried to intervene. If it were a guy doing something regrettable while drunk like vandalizing cars or something I would give the same advice.

2015-04-13T13:18:44+00:00

Cheers to those lads; they got the best deal they could have gotten from her. If you're going to partake in the Russian roulette of bareback it's best to do it with a revolver with a huge barrel.

Madlibsluver · 2015-04-13T14:40:13+00:00

Is she claiming rape? Or is she saying that she was just taken advantage of?

Bovaloe · 2015-04-13T15:33:00+00:00

All those guys made a terrible decision, even after watching a couple dudes nail her, who says to themselves "nah, I don't think a condom is necessary"?

2015-04-13T15:45:08+00:00

Moving to Voat, you should too

pookabot · 2015-04-13T16:14:58+00:00

It also makes me angry that not one guy at the party tried to put a stop to it and considered how you were going to feel the next day.

Ah yes, because women are children and need you to hold their hands and make decisions for them apparently. I agree with most of the rest and this woman needs to seek counseling, but "I can't believe no one tried to stop you"? She's a grown ass woman, not a child, she is responsible for herself and the entirety of men don't just suddenly become responsible for you once you put alcohol into yourself.

2015-04-13T16:27:41+00:00

26 people need Jesus.

Reddit1990 · 2015-04-13T17:02:09+00:00

The biggest issue here is the response to her letter. The guys didn't "use" her any more than she used them. They had sex. Unless shes leaving out some details, this is her fault and she should take responsibility. Yes, women tend to have to be more careful than men for this exact reason. But the reason women need to be more careful is biological it isn't social. Saying the female was used is just passing the bunk.

2015-04-13T17:36:51+00:00

This is sad. For a multitude of reasons. Firstly and foremost, its wrong of that blogger to just go F ALL THOSE MEN ITS SAD THEY DIDNT STOP YOU. From the sound of the letter, it doesn't sound like you objected to doing the deed*25, so why is it the men's fault for participating? They were (odds are) just as drunk. It just sucks that this is where society went to. Good on society for trying to give everyone fairness in terms of judgment, but they way overshot. So screw this blogger. Its not good that this woman decided to imitate the porn, but its not the men's fault if she was a willing participant.

jollygnome123 · 2015-04-13T18:02:43+00:00

Sidenote: a good rule of thumb is that if you're going to sleep with a girl and there's a line, she's probably not the kind of woman you want to be sleeping with. STI's and unplanned fatherhood are not fun.

forzion_no_mouse · 2015-04-13T18:07:05+00:00

Talk about a sausage fest. 25 guys watching porn together? I don't think I've ever watched porn with my friends. Honestly what guy in their right mind would go, "hmm 24 guys just had sex with this girl. I guess I'll have my turn. I don't need a condom. I'm sure everyone here is clean."

doesn't change the fact she chose to do all 25 of them. I'm sure they have an episode of Maury in their future.

RayZfox · 2015-04-13T18:14:03+00:00

Das a lot of jizz.

2015-04-13T18:16:14+00:00

If I had to bet, i'd say one of the later ones is the father: http://www.epjournal.net/wp-content/uploads/ep021223.pdf

Abstract: We examine some of the implications of the possibility that the human penis may have evolved to compete with sperm from other males by displacing rival semen from the cervical end of the vagina prior to ejaculation. [...]

theskepticalidealist · 2015-04-13T18:28:55+00:00

Your letter makes me really sad. I’m sad because you think so little of yourself that you’ve allowed these men to use you.

...

It also makes me angry that not one guy at the party tried to put a stop to it and considered how you were going to feel the next day.

Very traditionalist mindset... The men were meant to not respect her choices and make the decisions for her.

yendorion · 2015-04-13T19:06:18+00:00

At least the reply to her letter did put the onus on her.

2015-04-13T19:19:39+00:00

allowed these men to use you

Always the victim. Not "chose these men to use you"

Winter_of_Discontent · 2015-04-13T19:19:47+00:00

Honestly, I consider this a win for us.

She said she was drinking and decided to have sex with every man at the party. The fact that the columnist didn't spin this in to some Rolling Stones gang rape bullshit shocked me. As soon as she mentioned that she was drinking and consented I thought the columnist was going to correct her.

Not great, but way better than I thought it'd be. I count it as a win.

tragedyfish · 2015-04-13T19:30:36+00:00

Must have been a drunken barn dance.

slideforlife · 2015-04-14T01:07:30+00:00

doesn't everyone know that having sex just because it feels good is VERY, VERY WRONG. SHAME ON YOU, right?

2015-04-14T02:46:51+00:00

She's someone's future wife - and she'll conveniently forget to tell her future husband about the time she gangbanged 25 guys raw.

pmmeurpics · 2015-04-13T18:41:31+00:00

Sounds like a whoreable situation...

Vanriel · 2015-04-13T14:02:42+00:00

What an complete and utter IDIOT.

It amazes me still that she refuses to take responsibility for her own actions. Nobody forced her to do it. grow up

Mr_Pie_Eater · 2015-04-13T17:02:40+00:00

I don't know about you guys, but I respect my dick more than to shove it in a dirty whore like this.

2015-04-13T21:00:12+00:00

"Your letter makes me really sad. I’m sad because you think so little of yourself that you’ve allowed these men to use you."

Sounds to me like she had a blast - but wasn't smart enough to at least be on the pill or take the morning after pill. This is the men's fault because why?

williamwilbercork · 2015-04-13T21:11:12+00:00

Lolwhat? The article is completely different than your title, you sensationalist fuck

AnarchyFive · 2015-04-13T15:46:28+00:00

Comments aside, the article doesn't blame the men. The closest it gets is "I’m sad because you think so little of yourself that you’ve allowed these men to use you." The blame is on her. Did anyone read it?

ThePedanticCynic · 2015-04-13T14:39:53+00:00

I'd like to go a single day on reddit without being enraged. I think that's only going to happen if i stop giving a fuck and unsub from everything but... r/funny?

2015-04-13T14:59:26+00:00

I feel almost pity for the poor bastard that got her pregnant, although he now knows he has some mighty sperm.

SSrqu · 2015-04-13T16:11:37+00:00

To be honest having unprotected sex could be the men's fault but they're all so stupid it's grayed out by 25 men in one night.

2015-04-13T16:20:55+00:00

Sounds like the asker was more or less accepting responsibility. Colleen then proceeds to tell her that she was used.

Interesting since it would seem to me that it was the asker who was, in fact, doing the using.

2015-04-13T16:21:52+00:00

Isn't abortion illegal in Ireland?

Kestyr · 2015-04-13T16:28:08+00:00

That's the story line for the Czech gang bang series

Eunoic · 2015-04-13T16:32:30+00:00

Well, if they were drinking too I can see how this would be an issue. But if they were sober and she was drinking then it's not legal consent even if she made the first move.

That brings up the issue if they were both drunk - the man would get blamed anyway, even though he couldn't consent either. Fucking sexist.

iamrade4ever · 2015-04-13T16:38:26+00:00

I go to the wrong fucking parties...

Bearded_Deity · 2015-04-13T16:40:23+00:00

Of course, its appalling that none of the MEN tried to stop this.....because I'm sure she was the ONLY female there....and of course...its no OTHER females responsibility to help you have common sense....just the mens.....

fucking retarded ass logic....

I mean, this chick sounds nasty, and I wouldnt have fucked her with a 10 foot pole. But theres no accounting for taste....and if you let a bunch of guys gang bang you....you're the only one responsible for those actions....NO one else.

ATGGTCGATAATGAATCTTC · 2015-04-13T16:41:18+00:00

HAH!! caption pic is a ginger.. soooo true!

foxyramirez · 2015-04-13T16:52:30+00:00

Maury international anybody? You know you'd watch it, especially if Judy is coming up just after.

double-happiness · 2015-04-13T17:04:11+00:00

It also makes me angry that not one guy at the party tried to put a stop to it and considered how you were going to feel the next day.

I say chaps! It'd be awfully sporting if you'd lay off rogering that randy filly, what!

What does Coleen think this is, the 1940s? Fuck off.

meobeus · 2015-04-13T17:20:18+00:00

You can fuck 25 guys in one night. Slather their baby batter all around and inside you. But an abortion is out of the question?

thedude122487 · 2015-04-13T17:42:22+00:00

I’m sad because you think so little of yourself that you’ve allowed these men to use you.

What an unfounded assumption. What if none of those men were using her? Of course, it would be outrageous to say that she was using them.

konoplya · 2015-04-13T17:44:07+00:00

I don't see anything wrong with a gangbang, why does it have to be that she was used? if she was raped that's another story but she wasn't. also, I think it's a troll.

faithle55 · 2015-04-13T18:05:00+00:00

If she can do 25 men in a single night, she has a lucrative bloody career in porn ahead of her.

Oh, except - only if she has the looks.

Darktidemage · 2015-04-13T18:10:44+00:00

You can't read for shit.

2015-04-13T18:14:39+00:00

It's everyone's fault, because literally, how fucking retarded do you have to be to be, say, guy #20 and not to wear a condom. Or guy #1 for that matter. "Hey, this chick is down for an unprotected gang bang, I'm sure she's been responsible with her sexual behavior and birth control, who needs protection?"

GroundhogExpert · 2015-04-13T18:38:46+00:00

It also makes me angry that not one guy at the party tried to put a stop to it and considered how you were going to feel the next day.

LOL! What? Sounds like everyone was having fun, she made no effort to hide the fact that she was an active participant. But it's somehow everyone else's responsibility to protect this poor little angel from her own decisions because it might make her feel bad later? What a crock of utter shit. The world is covered in bubble wrap, use your discretion.

howescj82 · 2015-04-13T18:42:31+00:00

I actually read this and the only negative comments are about how the author feels the girl was used and about how nobody at the party tried to stop the orgy out of thought for how she'd feel the next day.

No declaration of rape. Just a woman ashamed of her actions and a response suggesting she was used and it was wrong of no one at the party putting a stop to a drunken bareback orgy.

With that many people, there should have been at least one person who drunk or not thought that it was kind of a bad decision given the probability of pregnancy and/or STIs.

As for the used part, of course she was. She was used as a willing participant in a very dumb act. I personally don't "spend time" with one night stands and its mutual I'm sure.

2015-04-13T19:04:52+00:00

She banged 25 guys???? 25?!?!?

The greek alphabet only has 24 letters. So she banged her way from Alpha to Omega....and then one more.

brisingfreyja · 2015-04-13T22:10:15+00:00

Link is impossible to see on mobile. At least 4 popups in less than 2 seconds and the page hadn't even loaded yet.

2015-04-13T22:51:48+00:00

you think so little of yourself that you’ve allowed these men to use you.

WHAT

8088XT8BIT · 2015-04-13T23:20:37+00:00

I was drinking, horny, fertile and there was porn on the TV. I got off on it and wanted to have sex with those guys, so I did. I got pregnant .. It was my fault. End of story!

lol .. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkrrgBTbT-g

uberrogo · 2015-04-13T23:48:13+00:00

Why should the guy stop and think about how she is going to feel the next day - when she doesn't do it?

PerniciousOne · 2015-04-14T01:20:02+00:00

At least she did not decide to charge them all with gang raping her.

hanselngretel · 2015-04-14T01:47:59+00:00

I think it's fair to say that the girl in the story is crazy for sleeping with that many people in one night. However it is also fair to say that if she was really as drunk as she claimed she was then maybe the guys should have stayed clear of her.

2015-04-14T01:56:28+00:00

Curious, did nobody read the advice that was given back to her? It seemed rather reasonable. For the most part, the columnist was saying she should have known better with one little blurb about how the guys should have known better too.

goshy900 · 2015-04-14T02:14:55+00:00

This sounds a lot like my sister's "i hooked up with 5 guys in 3 days, but its their fault I have mono" speech.

UglierThanMoe · 2015-04-14T03:35:22+00:00

"I'm a woman. I don't know what I'm doing, nor can I be arsed to think about the consequences. But it's not my fault because I'm a woman! Punish the evil men who only did what I wanted them to do! It's their fault!"

klingma · 2015-04-14T05:04:53+00:00

And guy number 26 is still forever alone.

arkindal · 2015-04-14T05:12:47+00:00

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OfficerDarrenWilson · 2015-04-14T07:05:01+00:00

http://images.tvfanatic.com/iu/t_large_l/v1371142061/cartmans-mom-is-a-dirty-slut-picture.png

Books_Lore · 2015-04-14T17:52:28+00:00

And don't you think them being able to get away with this, and the blaming of men, is in result of our current system? If it were more egalitarian with no double-standards, it would be different.

dhottawa · 2015-04-14T18:57:41+00:00

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dallasdarling · 2015-04-13T15:56:17+00:00

The girl didn't blame her partners, and neither did the advice columnist. It's not blaming the men to suggest that they were all acting poorly, which all 26 of these people were doing.

KingMong · 2015-04-13T15:56:17+00:00

She slept with more people are one party than most people ever will,

I bet she has trouble getting any man to stay after they find out shit like this, actually she's clearly crazy, so they weren't staying anyway

SqishyRina · 2015-04-13T18:53:20+00:00

Wait, as far as I'm aware, there doesn't appear to be any mention of alcohol at all from the girl submitting the question, yet they seem to have assumed by default that these men were taking advantage of an innocent drunk girl. I'm not denying that there was any alcohol involved, but there isn't any indication that the girl was drinking excessively if at all.

Even then, this girl seems to completely acknowledge the fact that she's responsible for her actions, yet the blame is still placed on the men she chose to have sex with. I don't even see how it would occur to anyone to "consider how you were going to feel the next day" if you've consented to have sex with them.

ShitLordXurious · 2015-04-13T20:29:36+00:00

Should be reposted to r/nottheonion

petemate · 2015-04-13T22:18:48+00:00

What kind of bullshit is this? This Coleen is shocked that no one helped her, that is all. In the same way that she would be shocked if someone got beat up in front of 25 people, and none of those people did anything to stop the beating. She is disgusted with the guys at the party. She doesn't blame men. You look waay to hard for anything that could even remotely be considered misogyny.

spursmad · 2015-04-13T13:20:41+00:00

Seems like a bit of witch hunt here. Her first statement issued is that did something stupid. Acknowledging her role. And you know what, the advice is right. Not a single guy put an end to it. And that is screwed up for one of two reasons. First, this is getting in some dangerous territory where claims can be made about rape. And two, have some fucking humanity and realize this situation is screwed up.

This is the kind of post that boils my blood on this thread. Needless mocking of a female. There are tons of other, and more important, issues that we can discuss.

2015-04-14T02:30:04+00:00

literally nowhere does it suggest its the men's fault. are you guys just that angry at women?

namelessshameless · 2015-04-13T15:19:08+00:00

They're all probably some of the father.

StrikingEarth · 2015-04-13T15:51:30+00:00

I just read a story about 26 very stupid people who should go get checked for STD's.

Nobody was raped, there was no right or wrong, everybody is just stupid. That is all there should have been taken out of this.

Account1999 · 2015-04-13T18:51:46+00:00

I wonder what her advice would be if it was a gay guy that had sex with 25 men at a party and now he's HIV positive?

Graceful_Ballsack · 2015-04-13T19:18:14+00:00

I hope every single one of them nutted inside her.

2015-04-13T19:48:25+00:00

must have been some Japanese porn that she was re-creating.

joshw220 · 2015-04-13T22:48:28+00:00

I got a fantastic idea! Make all of them pay child support! That aut to show them.

ThePigmanAgain · 2015-04-13T22:59:02+00:00

She was "very drunk." People who are very drunk cannot give consent. Hence the men, except the ones who were very drunk themselves, raped her. Not a popular opinion in this place, but the truth. If you truly think otherwise, feel free to get really drunk and then sign your house over to the nearest hobo.

sillymod · 2015-04-13T17:21:13+00:00

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NucIearChrist · 2015-04-14T12:57:59+00:00

That baby will surely be black.. just wait and see

Title	"I had sex with 25 men at a party and now I'm pregnant"... but it's the men's fault
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Date	April 13, 2015 12:25 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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