If a woman believes, widely speaking, "this" about men, and dates a man, and lives together with him, how the Hell does she not think "why am I allowing this?" every time he is within a touch distance?

I mean widely "this", not just "the bear thing".

How is it NOT constantly on your mind that you should probably not allow these people put parts of themselves in you?

Before I get three hundred "Well it's not ALL men..." responses,

There are women who believe that in all societies, throughout all history, across entire world, without a single significant exception, without ever contacting or conspiring with each other or any common source, men and not women, men and NEVER women, made a choice to structure family and wider communal order around oppressing and subjugating the opposite sex and artificially holding them in subservient lesser role, by means of violence and terror if necessary.

There are women who believe that it's not emergence of private property, or Abrahamic religions, or legacy of Roman conquests, but a species-wide and (pre)history-long human universal.

We're talking an equivalent to parallel universe where all murders ever were committed by people with a birthmark on their left cheek. Not 90%, not 95%, not 99%. Every single one, throughout all of recorded history. In such a parallel universe, sincerely believing that "the marked" are JUST like everyone else, would be an act of voluntary delusion.

I am talking specifically about these women, and taking into consideration that as women LOVE to repeat, dating is not a right. A woman is not oppressing or discriminating against anyone by choosing not to date men.

I have read what feminist thinkers wrote about it, and it usually boils down to "blahblahblah hamster-hamster". Kinda what Andrew Tate type would have said if you asked "Why do you hate women?", and he'd start with "I don't, I just...".