Just how easily can a girl be put off a guy she found attractive?

insertcredit2 · 2021-12-04T14:15:18+00:00

Very. Getting out of my own way was my biggest challenge in dating.

FlyingKite1234 · 2021-12-04T14:54:04+00:00

Very easily. Not because it’s delicate but it’s because it’s perceived. This is actually an example of looks not being the only thing that matters.

You can be attracted to how someone looks and be turned off by who they are. Men talk and act themselves out of pussy all the time.

Some women are simply willing to put up with shit more than others.

PreparationWorried33 · 2021-12-04T16:47:15+00:00

It varies per woman but it’s tremendously easy.

I have to say I’m guilty of the same behaviors as your friend. If I don’t like something be posted on social media, the scent of his cologne, how he chooses to handle farting/burping etc it can turn me right off even if I was feeling him prior. I don’t know why though.

AquaChip · 2021-12-04T21:46:37+00:00

I got the ick after seeing a guy’s butt crack as he was getting out of the car. So I would say it’s pretty easy.

Commercial-Engineer3 · 2021-12-04T15:40:37+00:00

It's very fragile. There can be one thing they find off putting and they are instantly turned off. I'm sort of the same way as a guy, but I don't think that's typical.

razorfloss · 2021-12-04T15:25:20+00:00

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meme_lords_unite · 2021-12-04T16:51:36+00:00

Depends on the girl. I've met women that would tolerate all types of abuse for an attractive guy. Others who would lose interest after the first red flag. It all depends.

Aclopolipse · 2021-12-04T15:21:07+00:00

Then soon after he posted a real simple, innocent clip on instagram of him jokingly singing along to something in his car, to which my colleague said "I dont think he's good looking any more after that."

Literally me whenever someone I'm into pulls out a cigarette.

Gigamon2014 · 2021-12-04T20:01:08+00:00

Also this question is exactly why me who preach about women only wanting Chad are ridiculous. I was out yesterday and saw a guy I've seen out before. The dudes vibe is just...eh. I've seen him around women and he just seems overly touchy feely to the point of creepy. He will hover around women and just seem really persistent to the point I wondered whether it would male people uncomfortable. Yet I saw him zeroing in on a girl and they left together the same night.

Just as women can easily get the ick, they can easily end up falling or gaining attraction to a dude.

NarniaFox · 2021-12-04T14:39:53+00:00

Heavily depends on a woman.

I guess that the ones who can easily get attracted to a person can lose their attraction as fast as they've developed it. So people who need time to develop any romantic interest might be harder to get put off. But I'm speculating here basing this on my personal experience and the experience of women around me.

Some of my friends and cousins have really easy times with finding a guy they deem romantically/sexually interested, but their attraction is rather fickle and it can get away due to various reasons starting with seeing some small habits that annoy them and ending with some personality traits. From the other hand, I rarely develop any romantic interests, I've ever had this interest less than for 10 people and I'm in my middle 20s now. But if I've found someone attractive for romantic relationships, it takes far more time for me to let them (or the idea of dating them) go.

Notanothrshitthrow · 2021-12-04T15:11:15+00:00

I don't subscribe to the Redpill and am quite progressive when it comes to gender relations, however womens' ability to get the "ick" over the most tiny of incidents is downright psychopathic to me...

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-12-04T14:15:38+00:00

With reddit women I can cockblock myself with 4 letters.

Because women have a wider range of things they look at for attraction compared to men, that also means there's more things they can find unattractive.

CatoftheBanals · 2021-12-04T19:29:16+00:00

Anyone who's a jerk -- rude to the waiter, rude to the cashier, rude to anyone he sees as beneath him -- is an instant turnoff.

audreywildeee · 2021-12-05T00:56:38+00:00

Depends on the woman and the guy, really. Some are put off by motives that are, or seem, shallower than others. Being embarrassed by someone is a motive. Maybe the woman thought that the man singing was embarrassing in public and the fact that he filmed and posted it made her think he doesn't mind embarrassing himself in public and she's more into keeping apparences.

Some said that if a woman develops crushes easily she would be more likely to be put off easily too. It's not my case. I develop crushes easily but they usually last. My threshold usually is a decision that doesn't fit my morals. But again, to each their own, and it's a hard thing to generalise, really.

That being said if a woman is put off by something early on it's likely healthier than waiting for the relationship to develop and for her to break it off for not liking who he really is.

Ok_Razzmatazz_1751 · 2021-12-04T16:00:08+00:00

Very delicate , Was dating this guy , he introduced me to his mother, and we had dated for over a month , and I remember him asking his mother a question and because she didn't agree with him he literally screeched his voice, and it went up like three or four syllables and I thought to myself oh my God ewww , Ya I broke up with him the day after.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-12-04T15:07:44+00:00

I’ve lost attraction to men for something as basic as their taste in music or something as grave as making homophobic or racist comments.

xcheshirecatxx · 2021-12-04T15:15:09+00:00

It depends what you call easy.

If a man writes really badly or we meet and he's dumb, I'll lose attraction

But I don't mind many things that other some would

For example, I always expect to pay my share

Mustbeaight · 2021-12-04T17:33:29+00:00

Lol so you basically have to be perfect nowadays to get women.

TomorrowsWar · 2021-12-04T14:52:16+00:00

If I don’t know him much, it’s SO easy to get the ick.

But it’s not personal, a guy can look great but then you just see something about him you don’t like and move on. It’s the same as seeing a hot girl and then seeing her picking her boogers

neetykeeno · 2021-12-04T15:27:54+00:00

In the early stages? Very.

wtknight · 2021-12-04T17:28:24+00:00

How "delicate" do you think female attraction towards males is?

It depends upon how desperate she is. Some women need to be in relationships more than others, and the women who need to be in one often have less strict standards, even if some of those women are also branch swingers.

cccccclairee · 2021-12-04T17:31:17+00:00

I’m not that bad, but some indication of his being really conservative, religious, or “women are all blah blah blah” and I’d be done. That’s a sign of incompatibility and I’m not interested in wasting my time.

FabulousFuchsbau · 2021-12-04T19:26:41+00:00

For me anything racist, sexist(misogynistic and misandric), plain disgusting or being rude or mind numbingly delusional is an instant turn off. Animal cruelty is another one.

Oli_love90 · 2021-12-04T21:05:52+00:00

Very easily. If he says/does something that is just weird, mean or I don’t like I’m already almost over whatever crush I had.

luliloo · 2021-12-05T08:23:11+00:00

Yes, extremely. We got abundance mindset. Onto the next one ✌️

Notmuch91 · 2021-12-05T08:34:29+00:00

Oof.. extremely easy, even the good looking ones start to look less good looking.

And the opposite is true for me, a man that is a good speaker and intelligent, witty but respectful starts to become good looking.

That’s why we say looks don’t matter much.

Gigamon2014 · 2021-12-04T14:24:17+00:00

It's something I notice a lot. Tbh whilst I do think, as someone rightly said, that women's attraction to men is more complex and holistic, I also think it's a sign that women increasingly show more entitled behaviours towards men they're attracted to. One thing I feel a lot of women haven't been taught to do is manage behavioural expectations of men they're attracted to. By that I mean, women these days (attractive or otherwise) are no longer told they have to be feminine and demure to be seen as valuable to the opposite sex. Mainstream culture celebrates women who have full ownership and autonomy of their sexuality. Whether its Cardi B/Rihanna/Billie Eilish, long gone are the days where women had to conform to a feminine standard. However men are still expected to conform to masculine expectations of stoicism and limited emotion. I notice this on night outs, I've been accosted numerous times by gay men and women however if I take offense to these slights then I'm said to be part of the problem.

I feel this is why so many attractive men just fuck it off and act like absolute assholes. It tends to be the only thing that works consistently and is respected.

BruddaMSK · 2021-12-04T15:12:32+00:00

Extremely easily.

daddysgotanew · 2021-12-04T15:05:18+00:00

You can’t do anything wrong if you’re attractive enough. She’ll drive 100 miles to come have sex on her period after exchanging 5 messages on Tinder if you’re hot.

If you’re just “cute” to her yea you’re gonna have a rough ride, walking on eggshells to try to bang and most likely still getting rejected in the end.

TheJim66 · 2021-12-04T14:19:09+00:00

It's generally easy but it's actually one of the few things where there is variance among women.

Salt_Mathematician24 · 2021-12-04T15:17:34+00:00

Depends how long she has found him attractive for. The less time she has, the easier it is to put her off.

Ex. Sees hot guy in the store, hot guy catcalls her then farts loud enough to set the security alarms off. She no longer finds him attractive.

2nd ex. Hot guy she has had a crush on for weeks does the same thing. Probably finds it cute.

bruh_what_the_f · 2021-12-04T14:29:06+00:00

Depending on his attractiveness and her age, how long does it take to get an Instagram notification?

fabezz · 2021-12-04T22:12:49+00:00

It depends what their ideal is. For some they really want a masculine guy, so anything that pops that perception will ruin her image of him. Others want a guy who's carefree and chill, maybe an artistic hipster, or a vegan hippie.

For me it's maturity. Anything that makes a guy seem immature or childish will ruin him for me. For example, you're into a guy, then you find out he has literally no hobbies or interests outside of video games, or he whines about eating vegetables, or he loses his temper over something minor. It could even be smaller things but I can't think of them right now.

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-12-04T15:14:37+00:00

It's a veritable tight rope a guy walks. Everything from his voice, what he drives, to the way he smells (and no I am not even talking about BO).

Perhaps it is for the best that men strive for female attention and fail

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-12-04T14:22:53+00:00

Depends on how attractive he is. If he's really attractive, he can get away with being Republican and pro-life. If he's not that attractive, he has to be more similar to her in views and lifestyle.

AtomicMGTOW · 2021-12-04T16:50:41+00:00

Well we all know the women are "emotional thinkers' if you can call it that. And of course they either have a bunch of options or simply believe they have a lot of options. And I find that most women are looking for what's wrong instead of what's right. They decide this based on their disgust response which dries up a vagina real quick. And in today's cancel culture there really is no such thing as giving someone a chance anymore not that this guy needs "another chance".

And I think that women in general are impulsive. Quick to eliminate for even the most ridiculous shallow 'reasons'.

I also think it makes them feel more powerful to reject first. It's like they think if they reject him first that'll make him chase them and give them leverage. It's so ridiculous.

DeJuanBallard · 2021-12-04T16:43:38+00:00

Literally just wearing the wrong belt color with your shoes.

Girls only need 1 little thing to justify putting you on their "no go" list , it makes them feel better about not getting what they want. They can always say "there just aren't enough guys who..." (fill in the blank with whatever thing she is prioritizing at that second)

It's funny because a lot of the time they do this just to chose wrong in the end anyway. 😅

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2021-12-04T16:37:59+00:00

Really easy, depending on the time knowing him or spent together. Things as simple as music taste or breathing weird can give the ick

Liberal_On_Guns · 2021-12-04T17:53:13+00:00

Very easily. Females tend toward disqualification, men toward the reverse.

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-12-04T18:54:02+00:00

It's not a matter of being delicate. For me, attraction is all or nothing. Once you do something to lose it, you aren't getting it back.

ThisTimeForRealYo · 2021-12-04T16:52:15+00:00

Not a woman you want to date if they’re like That

cupcakegensis · 2021-12-04T15:51:56+00:00

Attractiveness is finally in its early stages. A blooming crush can be swayed or dismiss by the smallest of things. A deep desire can outlast the largest of storms though.

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ruboyuri · 2021-12-04T17:34:37+00:00

In vino veritas, and not in a good way

Im_The_Daiquiri_Man · 2021-12-04T18:31:46+00:00

It’s very easy to turn a yes into a no, and very difficult to turn a no into a yes.

SaBahRub · 2021-12-04T18:33:47+00:00

People of all genders can be dumb and unreasonable; film at 11

But generally, women bore men and men disgust women. Because sex

LORD-THUNDERCUNT · 2021-12-04T19:05:38+00:00

Anxiety is the ultimate pussy drier

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-12-04T19:48:37+00:00

Luckily for men pussy is so abundant that they never have to worry about it.

ogsimpology · 2021-12-04T20:42:51+00:00

Initially? Something drastic.

After some time you know the person, their general thoughts and personality can kill that initial attraction.

anonymousUser1SHIFT · 2021-12-04T20:53:27+00:00

I will add my 2 sense here.

I think the "ick" comes from what is expected. I find women build a persona of the person that they are interested in and the moment that that person doesn't match the positive persona it takes her out of it.

BacanaHeaven · 2021-12-04T22:05:04+00:00

Depends on the girl, doesn't it? Age, personality, and cultural background all play a role.

goatismycopilot · 2021-12-04T22:58:08+00:00

I can get icked out very easily no matter what the hotness level is. Men generally cockblock themselves. Once I know sets it I have a hard time rolling it back.

Unpleasant_Life · 2021-12-04T23:06:52+00:00

If a woman sees a very attractive man and "falls in love at first sight" she isn't actually falling in love for his appearance, she's "falling in love" for the idealized verion of him she has made up in her mind. When a woman sees an attractive man she automatically makes up and idealized version of him in her mind. Smooth-talking, kind, intelligent, confident, funny, passionate, helpful attractive Chad ThunderCock is the one they fall in love with, not Chad himself.

Zerofication · 2021-12-04T23:46:07+00:00

You're trying to find a pattern in random data, women feel turned off for reasons that have nothing to do with men, and men shouldn't bother analyzing this because a. they can still control the end outcomes, b. if they can't, then it's not something they can fix anyway.

IcarusKiki · 2021-12-05T00:41:10+00:00

instantly - its called the “ick”

Laytheblameonluck · 2021-12-05T04:11:45+00:00

Women who gush over men like that are usually immature.

TheMorningJoe · 2021-12-05T07:51:22+00:00

Very easily. People often project a certain image on someone before actually getting to know them.

“Reality is often disappointing.”

TEREKIKI · 2021-12-05T11:36:08+00:00

Bad odor or acting like a dork are big no nos

rurunoa · 2021-12-05T13:27:04+00:00

depends on how deep the attraction goes. many girls who are in it too deep will find everything he does endearing, even tho they would hate it otherwise. if the attraction in the first place was very superficial and surface-level, she can be easily put off by something that isn’t very deep. if her attraction is strong enough and deep, most things he does will become hot, cute or at least tolerable

oftentimes this kind of attraction takes some time to form no matter how attractive you are. so most womens attraction will be delicate at first but grows stronger over time (that is if you prove her right about her attraction)

Virtual-Jackfruit243 · 2021-12-06T09:33:18+00:00

Just like that. I could talk to a guy I find attractive for a few days but the second he does or says something stupid. Block. Delete..

Oh, I do the same thing for cHaDs too.lol

MrPottems · 2021-12-06T11:05:50+00:00

Do women get the ick if they find out the guy has a small pp?

xFallacyx69 · 2021-12-06T18:49:44+00:00

If she’s truly attracted to you, none of that shallow shit will matter. The only thing that turns off a chick that is genuinely attracted to you would be moral failures on your part.

chilumibrainrot · 2021-12-09T00:04:40+00:00

as a woman, i dont have a ton of "immediate turn offs." being rude and disrespectful to others, making degrading comments about other women, constantly talking about their ex, and having more conservative political beliefs are some.

HOLYREGIME · 2021-12-04T20:21:15+00:00

If she finds you attractive, you can pretty much say anything to the bitch. Some people stress about what to say or text a girl. It’s pointless.

You can petty much speak gibberish and she’ll nod her head and suck a guy off. Or she’ll laugh at anything you say and spread her legs wide.

sypherprince · 2021-12-05T02:41:40+00:00

All I have to do is just talk about my nerdy interests. Oops, I'm not the fuckboy you wanted me to be.

Title	Just how easily can a girl be put off a guy she found attractive?
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