What is the worst thing your ex ever did to you?

Yeyo99999 · 2024-04-03T11:07:23+00:00

My ex fiancé sent my nudes to family members, lied about me forcing her to have an abortion and threatened numerous times to stab me.

Actual_Firefighter10 · 2024-03-19T07:57:14+00:00

Burned her wedding dress and posted it on Facebook, publicly calling me a misogynist. Oh yeah also, she cheated on me

Immediate-History144 · 2024-03-19T03:28:12+00:00

When she kicked me out, my parents were living at their house in the mountains, so I moved back to my childhood home. The heater was broken and it was an hour and a half from work. I commuted three hours a day, while paying for couples counseling out of my own pocket because she didn’t think it was right for us to share the expense, just to get back to a cold house (New England in March) where I had to keep a fire burning in decorative-but-technically-functional fireplace every minute I was home just to stay warm. It took three and half weeks for the heater to be fixed (which honestly I’m not sure why but that’s beside the point).

When I asked her if she understood what I was willing to do to make it work, she said “it’s not like I sent you to Antarctica”.

Not as bad as some of the others on here—I fully recognize that. But man, did it fuckin hurt.

Brilliant-Tomorrow55 · 2024-03-18T14:41:02+00:00

Had me arrested for assault for pushing her hand off my keyboard while taking my timed, final exam for grad school because I told her we could argue later, after I finished.

Waited for me to go pickup the kids from daycare, cook dinner for them, then called the police.

Luckily we had it on video. She dropped charges and tried to apologize, to which I told her, too bad, it's over. And the Navy summarily dismissed the whole thing. She even sent medical records and letters to my CO.

Didn't stop her from dragging the divorce out for 6 years. We're in an appeal now because a judge decided to use the old Florida law on a pending case when the new one was passed.

Been a ride....

guy_n_cognito_tu · 2024-03-18T04:16:13+00:00

She called me out for being an idiot when I was being an idiot. This page has turned into a joke. If she felt the need to record you and that's the worse thing she ever did, Maybe your the problem.

dadplup · 2024-03-18T01:36:43+00:00

She cheated on me at least 2 times possibly more, that was bad, also being accused of child abuse was bad too, trying to take my kid was more than I could handle, but the worse was when she filed a false report with cps claiming I was having sex with our daughter, I was so angry that I wanted to do things to her but my friend and my daughter talked me down, the case was dismissed in 24 hrs but it left me very scared tbh of just how much further she would go, I only spoken to her, well got yelled at twice by her since and both times it gave me an anxiety attack

warwww · 2024-03-17T23:30:01+00:00

Was falsely accused of domestic violence. Was accused of child abused and she attempted to form a narrative of God knows what else by suggesting sick things to their doctor that I won’t even post here.

It’s not the false domestic violence charges that got to me. Adults lie on each other every day but to lie on a kid is a whole new world of mental sickness that I didn’t even know existed. It’s been 1.5 years since she alleged those things and I refuse to even utter a complete sentence to her or look at her. I never imagined ones mind could get so low in an attempt to destroy a relationship between a parent and their children. It is truly evil.

NewDay0110 · 2024-03-17T16:18:01+00:00

Filed false accusations about me in court, claiming that I had such poor mental health that I shouldn't see my child anymore after the divorce. All of her claims were outlandish and easily disproven in court, but going through that process scarred me for life.

And then she prolonged the divorce by challenging the prenup, claiming that she didn't fully understand its implications when she signed it. Also disproven as I had a trail of emails from months earlier showing that we put a lot of work into ironing out the terms of the agreement.

northdakotact · 2024-03-17T15:49:07+00:00

Tried to get cs extended past the 23rd birthday, only for discovery to show both kids hadn't qualified for continued support in years. Both kids had been working full time, and had been part time college students for years. The judge stomped on her. Over $100k in support and college tuition, and I have two college dropouts to show for it.

SecretDoctor8121 · 2024-03-17T06:46:39+00:00

Beat me whit fists while holding our kid....took my house and everything else inside and made me homeless and broke(mental abuse is the worst). Actually made myself this way Because I trusted someone once again and she shown me why I shouldn't do the same thing ever again.

lilman_69 · 2024-03-17T06:39:16+00:00

Cheated on me with my best friend, then begged me to stay with her claiming it was the biggest mistake of her life and it meant nothing to her as she was at a low point in her life. And then years later, we separate and a week or so after me moving out she is contacting him trying to get back in his bed. And the worst thing is that she doesn't see anything wrong with this and just calls me the liar while she is Ms innocent.

sofiamonamour · 2024-03-17T06:01:53+00:00

He pretended we would still be friends, only to block me on all channels in the airport taxi, and stealing all my tax money so I went into debt and had to move to another country, quit my writing career, and going into customer support. I still don't know why he did it, he is rich, and remarried into super rich.

TheLawOfDuh · 2024-03-17T02:40:22+00:00

Suddenly split from my wife one night after discovering odd things/warnings on various bills…. Apparently she hid a lot to attempt having a normal relationship but like a recovering alcoholic who does best avoiding triggers, she fell back into familiar “bad” ways. Worst that she did to me I guess is not being truthful in the beginning causing us, the kids & both families a lot of unnecessary griefHeck, forget me, her school aged children (from her 1st marriage) all had to deal with the fallout/embarrassment & I think that’s the biggest crime. She’s somehow getting by since (apx 10yrs now) constantly moving, taking different jobs, living with a revolving door of men. Her kids are trying to bravely move on but I know each (3) suffer in their own way :(

47omek · 2024-03-17T00:30:03+00:00

Less than two months after my mother had died, who had passed only a few weeks after my father - she's got her face an inch from mine screaming "I hope you fucking die!" in one of her usual unhinged fits of rage. At that point I knew she was just an irredeemably horrible person that I needed to get away from.

trashlymctrashface · 2024-03-16T23:49:04+00:00

She cheated on me and got pregnant. Then she said the baby was mine, but she was getting an abortion as I wasn’t “emotionally available” to be a father.

Xeppen · 2024-03-16T23:35:52+00:00

3 months affair after we been 18 years together and three kids, moved AP in to our house week after we told kids of divorce and actively encouraging them to see him as their new father and doing all of the things we did as a family couple of months before that.. oh and yeah reported me to the CPS, fabricated evidence and now I am fighting to see my kids and they cry because they want to spend more time with me.. so yeah.. that..

papafaraway · 2024-03-16T23:14:22+00:00

She attacked me twice with a hammer. The last time was 3 days before our divorce papers were signed. Apparently she wanted me to retaliate, but i simply defended myself. But worse than that was her lying about bringing the kids back home every other semester. I was stupid enough to believe she would let me have them home, but she tricked me into divorcing with her lawyer in her boyfriend’s stare, 1400 miles away. She poisoned our kids so they never returned or obeyed court ordered visitation. Now she has a warrant for her arrest and I haven’t seen our 21 year old daughter in almost 6 years.

jimsmythee · 2024-03-16T22:56:47+00:00

I was putting my 2 year old daughter to bed. I had put her pull-up on her, and I was blowing raspberries on her tummy and she was laughing.

She accused me of doing “bad” things to her, and that I shouldn’t be left alone with the kids.

Theedon · 2024-03-16T22:53:37+00:00

Didn't end the marriage when she knew it was over but held this "separation" thing over me. She then went off and acted like a 21 year old.

Gockdaw · 2024-03-16T20:39:07+00:00

Punches my kids.

She's that nasty that she used to punch me when I was asleep.

What disgusts me is that social services are fully aware that she has hit my kids several times but they prefer to leave them with her.

sec1993 · 2024-03-16T20:03:18+00:00

My first wife took her own life in 2001, when we were very young. Needless to say, she had a very traumatic childhood that no amount of therapy or antidepressants could conquer, unfortunately. Fast forward 20 years and one mediation report later, my ex claimed that my abuse is what caused my first wife to take her own life and that she is being subjected to the same abuse. When it was really bad, my first wife admitted herself to the hospital for a hold to get help, and it worked for a while. My ex said she did the same and was hospitalized because of the abuse I was putting her through. There are no hospital records of her stay, and I have no recollection of her being gone 72 hours, nothing. My ex turned a tragic event in my life into a weapon and tried to use someone I loved dearly and could no longer speak for themselves against me. She also said I raped her in a separate declaration and filed that with the court. It amazes me that I ever felt love for the monster she truly is and how fucking blind I was.

Calixtinus · 2024-03-16T19:05:09+00:00

Cheated on me for 7 of the 8 years we were together. Then refused to apologize for everything, or admit to anything once I caught her.

pmussoni · 2024-03-16T18:46:53+00:00

moved my 10 month son old from NC to Calif. I filed a custody case, lost, paid both legal bills, flew to calif about 1x/month for 14 yrs, moved to Calif for 3 yrs, flew him to NC in the summers. pretty much cost me most of a $1mm He is 28 now and doing great, we have a great r-ship, talk almost every day.... She tried the same with husband #2 got him for more than me. Then she had 2 colossal strokes at 48 yrs old, permanently living in rehab/assisted living at 60 urs old. The daughter from that marriage wants noting to do with her. Life goes on.

FlyingSaucer51 · 2024-03-16T18:39:38+00:00

She stopped communicating. She destroyed us.

Harry_0993 · 2024-03-16T18:03:13+00:00

I get the feeling so many red flags were ignored and rose tinted glasses were stuck to the heads of everyone commenting here. I don't want to sound like an asshole but these stories are horrifying. Jesus Christ man I hope you fellas are extra careful with choosing your next partners.

Liquidprintz · 2024-03-16T18:02:13+00:00

Bragged to me about her cheating and anal sex… fuckin bitch I hate her

Ok_Perception_1836 · 2024-03-16T17:44:53+00:00

The cheating. It hurt me more than anything I've ever felt in my life to lie in bed at night knowing she was with him. I can't believe I'm even here today. I came so close to ending it all. All that stopped me was knowing she wanted me to.

4rdfun · 2024-03-16T17:12:31+00:00

My wife would get physical with me, I never hit her, but I would push her off of me. During the divorce, she accuse me of being an abusive alcoholic.

bk2747 · 2024-03-16T16:58:11+00:00

Used our child as a weapon

GravityIsForRookies · 2024-03-16T16:29:04+00:00

During the marriage… nothing but divorce me. Literally, nothing.

During the divorce she told me that I “fucked up and lost my wife”

More recently 1.5+ years divorced… she has told me that she hates me and that I’m a horrible person.

Most recently… start of this week… my kids are on spring break. Based on the divorce decree they are mine this entire spring break. She asked if we could split the time. I agreed on 2 conditions… 1. She split with me next year and 2. She not take her boyfriend with the kids on their mini vacation (note: I know some of you don’t think the kids being around an exes new partner is a problem, I do… let’s leave it at that). She promised me she wouldn’t have him on the vacation with them. 10 minutes after I got the kids back my daughter told me he’d been with them the entire time. I called the ex on it. She admitted her fault but said there were extenuating circumstances. Doesn’t change the fact that she lied and asked our kids to lie. I’ve told her there will be no more trading of days or special considerations granted.

Robo_umpire · 2024-03-16T16:17:12+00:00

Lie and then lie and then she would lie and after all that she would lie some more. Her reasons you might ask? She didn’t want to argue and was selfish.

LisanAlGaib_MD · 2024-03-16T16:02:53+00:00

Had me locked up on false DV charges despite having alibis and credit card receipts for where I was at the time. Couldn’t find a lawyer in MD who would touch that on my behalf.

Judge would hear none of it during the hearing. I’ll never forget until the day I die: “Mr. [my last name], she is a woman and this is the state of Maryland. She is owed.”

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-03-16T15:47:07+00:00

Tried to get the arbitrator to get me to work more hours for her to get more alimony! What a crock! Glad he didn't bite on it.

wisstinks4 · 2024-03-16T15:22:37+00:00

OP, no question this move by your ex is low, evil and vile. Any spouse who weaponizes their children against the other spouse has become a negative narcissist persona.

Glad to hear you dumped her and got away. I hope and trust your relationship with your children is doing better and they know and love you as solid father figure. I also hope you’ve gone gray rock, done the 180 and no contact with your ex to prove to her that she’s fired, not worth your time and energy.

People that fall down this dark hole, think they’re going to punish their spouse for whatever reason are not in their right mind. she may have mental health issues. She needs help. Wishing you well as you celebrate your one year away from a terrible spouse. Be safe.

Comfortable-Angle660 · 2024-03-16T15:02:41+00:00

My dad was dying in the hospital, literally, and she “had to do her hair.” He died two minutes before we got there.

Emotional, mental, and financial abuse, spent all my retirement fund via her running up debt.

Her cheating was just my moral escape route, but her abuse was what destroyed my inner person.

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2024-03-16T14:49:57+00:00

Called the police and told them she "had a restraining order against me and I was trying to kill her". Both lies. I was sitting on the couch watching youtube at the time. Cop cars drive up on my lawn and storm my house and drag me out. Guns drawn, dogs, the whole nine yards. I didn't know what the fuck was happening. Scariest night of my life.

Friendly-Maximum9412 · 2024-03-16T14:28:34+00:00

My father died, and I took it really hard. Got drunk late one night and broke down/balled my eyes out. She recorded it on her phone.

Strict_Magician_2796 · 2024-03-16T14:23:47+00:00

Used me to buy her fake tits, said they would improve things in the bedroom. Told me a month later she wanted a divorce, turns out she was having an affair and now her AP gets to enjoy them.

SouthParkTimmy · 2024-03-16T14:16:23+00:00

Told the kids to call the police if I came home after discovering she was having an emotional affair. Ask anybody who has met me in my life, they know I would never harm a fly.

myrstica · 2024-03-16T14:09:33+00:00

Before marriage: pressuring me into marrying her

During our marriage: - inviting her best friend/old flame along on the first week of our honeymoon and treating me like a third wheel, after spending the last half of our wedding night with him in a sauna. - Yelling at/bullying me for the symptoms of undiagnosed adhd, pressuring me to get diagnosed, and then being ableist, and telling me I should have learned how to cope with the symptoms by now. - Putting off my goals/dreams while I fully supported and funded the pursuit of hers.

During/after the divorce: - Pressuring/coercing me into agreeing to her terms for the separation agreement (also my fault for not refusing to sign until I'd had time to consider it or get a lawyer). - Constant threats to take to me to court if I'm resistant to any of her requests. Also when I needed to go to my Uncle's funeral, because she was sure I was 'trying to get away with something' because I'd be out of town kn a day I normally spend the evening with the kids. - almost immediately finding a boyfriend and asking my help to go on dates while telling me how much better he is than me - filing a police report against me because I accidentally bumped into her shoulder with mine during an argument - reporting me to CPS for behavior that, while not great parenting, wasn't abusive.

captainchippsixx · 2024-03-16T14:08:07+00:00

Tough decision. She had an affair early on. She financially hamstrung us the entire time, I think she was fired 3 times from jobs as well. There is so much shit to unpack with everything, losing your identity to make wife happy, the shitty bedroom….

We were on the brink of divorce. I was unsure, totally in the middle. I was unhappy for many years but we have kids. So I looked at her phone to get a glimpse into what she was feeling, give me nudge one way or another.

Texts to her friends joking about having me sleep in my car and that I didn’t love my dad. My dad had a stroke and I was stressed out managing possible divorce, sole provider for work, and planning emergency trip to fly accross the country to my dad and make the medical decisions for him. (Dad had already set it up In case that happened. That was it for me.

Mangrove43 · 2024-03-16T13:37:51+00:00

Alienated my teenage children and violates shared custody

malsell · 2024-03-16T13:32:16+00:00

When I moved in with her (she owned her house, or the bank did and she was paying a mortgage and I was renting) I opened my finances to her and she knew about my retirement account from my previous job (I quit my job to move where she lived and took another position). At first I took over finances and would pay all bills immediately, this was an issue for her because it limited her spending ability at times. So I let her take over the finances. 6 years into our relationship, I never checked in on the bills, I get my first bit of paperwork on my old retirement account and the payouts. I had to use the first $60k payout to pull the house out of foreclosure. Over the next few years I made the mistake of just leaving the house in her name while making large payments every year. Paid off the house 3 years ago. 2 years ago was the last payment out of that account. Last year, when she read the confirmation that the account was paid out and no more funds were coming was the same day she asked for a divorce

Awakeningof17 · 2024-03-16T13:27:38+00:00

I created a word document with all the nasty things she did and said to me during our time together, during the split and after the divorce. I used to read it from time to time, to serve as a reminder of female nature and how fortunate I was to have escaped prison. The one thing that always stood out for me was when she threatened me with "another man will raise your children".

Smeat_Jenkins · 2024-03-16T13:15:36+00:00

After 18 years of marriage, facing her decision to divorce me, I asked her to give me a chance to prove I could be the awesome husband I used to be.

She looked me dead in the eyes and said "you were never a good husband."

When I asked why she married me if I was so awful, she said "my childhood trauma taught me to just accept whatever shit I got stuck with."

OncomingSlayerStorm · 2024-03-16T13:08:57+00:00

Got married to a guy she met a month prior, who lived in Hawaii, and then petitioned the court to relocate the kids to Hawaii. And won. I live in PA.

rsmiley77 · 2024-03-16T13:08:19+00:00

I mean there's so much to choose from... It could be the time she filed a PFA order for my daughter.... It could be the time I walked into my house and she was lying in bed with the person she would leave me for in it..... and also needlessly running up both of our attorney bills for less money than I was asking....

I guess for shock value it would be when she dropped me off for my vasectomy and then proceeded to go on a date while I was in and coming out of surgery. She'd file for divorce about five weeks later. Not that I am going to have any more kids but I am certainly not now.

I_got_BAnaNaS · 2024-03-16T12:33:27+00:00

I agree with you. Trying to get you indicated for child abuse is worse than cheating.

My wife accidentally injured our toddler during an argument. She then called the police and told them that I did it in hopes of getting me arrested.

It may not be the worst thing she’s done to me, but definitely top 5.

Simple-Captain3421 · 2024-03-16T12:25:46+00:00

My brother had just passed away. Tears would roll out thinking of the good times my brother and I spent growing up. It's called grieving.

Ex tells me- "pull your pants up and be a man." Few months down, she filed for divorce.

Classic-Ad8157 · 2024-03-16T12:13:15+00:00

What she’s doing right now, everything she does on a daily basis is the worst

rb5775 · 2024-03-16T11:44:19+00:00

Well, my ex once threw a stereo speaker at me. (A big one.) Don't miss the anger.

justgotnewglasses · 2024-03-16T11:28:34+00:00

Not the worst thing she did during the marriage or the divorce, but when she came over to get some of her stuff. I left some framed prints out for her to take or to leave. She took the family portrait and left it outside next to the wheelie bin. That was pretty fucking cold.

Huge_Variety4680 · 2024-03-16T11:26:39+00:00

We had 50/50 custody with alternating weeks. During Covid I had the chance to move 2 hours away only for the summer to learn a new business. I agreed to be responsible for pickup and drop off until I returned. She acted excited for me.

I moved on Wednesday and two days later was served papers first custody dispute . She had enrolled our daughter in a new school that would require in person attendance instead of zoom classes.

I spent the next year fighting in court . On my custodial weeks I had to rent a hotel room so I could take my daughter to school. I lost the business opportunity and went $60k in debt trying not to lose her.

In the end we had 60/40 custody and I had to pay an extra $300 a month in support.

It’ll take my ex 20 years to break even on the fees she accumulated trying to take my custodial week from me.

bobbyricigliano551 · 2024-03-16T10:57:20+00:00

Told me during an argument that I should kill myself

Genghishahn44 · 2024-03-16T10:43:15+00:00

Went through my Facebook Instagram and phone camera and deleted every picture of my daughter

src670 · 2024-03-16T10:37:27+00:00

Letting house get foreclosed upon during separtation wiyh me forced to give her 80% of my income, letting 265k in equity be stripped away...that kinda sucked.

Dsajames · 2024-03-16T10:16:44+00:00

Was hospitalized the night of my father’s funeral. It caused me to be paralyzed from the waist down for several hours.

I was pulled from the car into a wheelchair at the hospital, checked out, and admitted. As in, this was legit.

Wife says to me - “A real man would get up and walk out of here. You’re not a real man. I’m divorcing you.”

Title	What is the worst thing your ex ever did to you?
Author	Is0prene
Upvotes	59
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Date	March 16, 2024 10:04 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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