Maybe even more likely.

And I don't mean no kissing until marriage, but not trying to jump her bones on the 1st or 2nd date, and talking in more of a conversational rather than amorous tone.

Anecdotally I've had several women tell me they thought I wasn't really into them after a first date because I wasn't aggressively sexual and trying to go all the way with them, even if I made sure to hold eye contact, touch them, ask them genuine questions etc. It's pretty wild and I have to wonder what the fuck they have become conditioned to expecting.

Even the ones who seem really wholesome and say they're looking for a longterm thing with no casual hookups.

I hate the thought of making a lady uncomfortable, just going along with my advances because she feels like she has to or its safer that way, I want someone who clearly demonstrates that they want me - but since a lot of women are relatively reserved (or feel like that's more socially acceptable), it's often up to me to do the escalating... but as much as I want to take it slow and steady, it seems I'm even more likely to end up not only negating any potential sexual relationship but even a longterm romantic one.

I still cringe and ridicule the guys who spam women with vulgar sexual messages, try to turn everything sexual, send dick pics unsolicited, get too touchy, overstep boundaries, use the implication, and so on... and I'll stick to my slower style because that's just my nature but I can understand more why some feel the need to do this shit as an over compensatory measure. (Also of course to separate the DTF from the LTR if they're looking for a NSA ONS)

It's fucking bizarre to me that the friendzone is such a real thing... surely if you find a guy physically attractive, and he seems like a trustworthy and genuine person, you should feel more sexual desire toward him not less. But that's just not the way it seems to go.

It honestly seems that the more effective strategy is to establish a sexual relationship first then build more of a friendship.

Of course all women are different and I've met some who really do prefer to move slow and establish trust and rapport first, but there's something to be said here. I think more prefer to move quickly than let on.

How does this line up with your experiences?