Apparently it's controversial enough so let's make a post about it.

Sexual fidelity to your partner and sexual satisfaction from your partner should be considered a zero sum game. Women and blue pillers will defend the idea that cheating is always worse than deadbedrooms, yet it's a serious mistake for men to not consider it to be of the same gravity, and especially to be potentially a direct answer to it.

It's not necessarily meaning that men should cheat the second they're not getting their fill of sex. But at the very least they should consider their boundaries differently. There's no relationship without sex, and they might find ways to downgrade their relations in a way that is mutually beneficial all in all. And their overall attitude regarding sex and fidelity might apply a stronger passive dread onto their partner.

If marriage has fidelity as a marital duty, then if it doesn't have sex as a marital duty it's a net scam to men and to people with higher libido. Your only source of sexual intimacy is held by someone who has no duty to at least try to satisfy you.

As a general rule, you have two ways to react to mediocrity or lack of value: Break relationship or downgrade your value in reaction. Some will have moral hangups about downgrading, but at the very least you should be doing one of the two. If you're stuck doing nothing in the name of ethics or moral, you're just being a doormat. Besides, you never know the limits they're willing to accept, or how more invested in you they can grow, if you affirm your boundaries passively without immediately breaking the relationship.

And it works exactly the same for any other kind of relationship and any kind of value.