"it will happen when you stop looking"

translation: I get approached at clubs, in college, even grocery stores and gas stations, confessed by every other guy friend I ever made and get weekly matches online. I never sought out relationships, they just happened when I wasn't looking.

"stop bothering women going about their day, join a hobby and meet women there"

translation: you aren't nearly hot enough to be roaming around with lust in your heart, all your relationships should be a coincidental side note of wholesome platonic interactions with women without a romantic intent or goal in mind.

"but don't join hobbies with the intent of meeting women either"

translation: women actually hate it when a guy they trust eventually tries to ask them out because it makes it look he was learning pottery with the intent of getting in our pants, so make sure your romantic intent is somehow well known from the get-go.

repeat.