Do you ever get approached sexually?

noNooodleArms · 2020-06-25T14:10:31+00:00

Only by other men.

Barely-moral · 2020-06-25T13:48:52+00:00

Do you ever get approached sexually?

By strangers? No.

If I am approached by a stranger it is with intentions to get more out of me than just sex.

By miss moral? Yes. She is the one with the higher sex drive.

were any of you ever in a position where you were the one being pursued instead of the pursuer?

Rarely.

Is this just a cope? And all men really are up for sex at all times?

Most men are. Some men aren't.

If so, than why can't males maintain long-term sex better?

I don't understand the question. Pleas re-phrase.

BumblingBeta · 2020-06-25T13:56:50+00:00

No it's never happened and it never will happen. Even though I put effort in the gym and wear decent clothes as much as possible, women have never pursued me in any sort of sexual way.

I imagine this is the case for most males. Women won't go out of their way to make a move sexually unless they're very drunk or the man is very hot.

mindsanitizer · 2020-06-25T15:12:46+00:00

Women approaching sexually is WAY more subtle. Like they engineer a situation where it is just you and them drinking, then they bump into you "accidently" several times while you are walking next to each other (kino basically). They still need you to make the first explicit move.

churnthrowaway123456 · 2020-06-25T15:55:40+00:00

Yeah, every time I watch a pirated TV show/movie, there's pop-ups from local singles who want to fuck me

reluctantly_red · 2020-06-25T15:23:30+00:00

Back in the 90s I was at a convention in Seattle and a woman gave me the key to her hotel room. Does that count?

JesterMcGavin · 2020-06-25T15:45:06+00:00

Not once in 35 years.

beigesun · 2020-06-25T14:28:04+00:00

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wtknight · 2020-06-25T15:04:33+00:00

No, I've never been approached for sex by a woman. Even the women who I've been in relationships with or married to have never approached me for sex, although they've usually been willing when I've approached them. I just don't attract that kind of woman and I don't get into relationships with that kind of woman.

Karmanger · 2020-06-25T14:17:57+00:00

Have I been approached sexually?

Twice, Both were by the sisters of my male friends. I turned them down because it would complicate my friendships with the guys.

Is this just a cope? And all men really are up for sex at all times?

Thirsty men, are up for sex at all times because they haven't had sex if at all/ever in a really long time. In general men are receptive to sex from attractive partners most of the time.

than why can't males maintain long-term sex better?

You are going to have to explain your experience with this one not enough information to go on. I have no Idea how other men are in LTR, that would be a question for women/gay men since they sleep with men.

TheBookOfSeil · 2020-06-25T17:15:44+00:00

No. Women don’t really approach, remember?

akihonj · 2020-06-25T14:15:36+00:00

Not sure about that, a better question would be have you been sexually assaulted. Yes

I've had my balls grabbed by a woman on a train, that one has happened a few times.

I've had my arse grabbed by a woman in a bar, again a few times.

I've had a woman open her legs and actually say buy me a drink and you can have this, pointing to her vagina. She was about ten years older than me at the time.

I've had a woman say to me in a meeting room, what if nobody turned up to the meeting and I drop my underwear would what would you do.

Of course the groping was just laughed off and the buy me a drink.

The meeting one, I just stood up and walked out and refused to go back in, spoke to my manager about why, she laughed and said oh she does that.

Cobra_x30 · 2020-06-25T14:25:35+00:00

Another gaylordfag post... talks like a man... claims to be a woman.

No, women don't approach me on the street for sex. In case you have never been with a woman they tend to be reactive in their sexuality. I've had first date sex plenty of times and I've gotten a woman's number started texting her and the conversation goes sexual very fast.

If you want women to just try to jump your bones for just walking around... you need to get them high on something. Cocaine and extasy is a popular combination for this.

TheKarmicWoosh2 · 2020-06-25T13:41:39+00:00

I used to in college when I was incredibly jacked and on a popular club sports team. Game was on EZ mode recruit difficulty. I was also a giant retard with absolutely no game so it certainly wasn't my smooth speaking abilities. Chicks just liked the idea of seeing me naked, I had a cool group of friends and was fairly popular. Crazy shit happens at parties.

Now? Nope. Dont have the body or looks I used to. I am much wiser and a way better conversationalist, just takes a lot more effort on my part and I mostly have to approach first and put my best foot forward.

dylang92 · 2020-06-25T14:57:20+00:00

Never. Like I can’t think of a moment I’ve been approached sexually my entire life. I’m short and average looking, so it doesn’t shock me in the slightest.

beto_747 · 2020-06-25T17:38:30+00:00

I’ve been approached by other men, but never by a woman for sex. I mean why would they, they know we will approach them.

eboy4hire · 2020-06-25T18:12:08+00:00

Nope never.

poison-fang-blade · 2020-06-25T19:00:53+00:00

Never.

beigesun · 2020-06-25T19:35:19+00:00

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Pastelitomaracucho · 2020-06-25T14:09:15+00:00

> It makes me wonder, were any of you ever in a position where you were the one being pursued instead of the pursuer?

Yep. Several times. Most of them in a more suggestive way, few in a very direct way. I haven't "pursued" a woman for sex in years. I only make a move when I am 100% certain I have a clear shot.

And no, we are not up to sex the whole time. We might be up to sex with some 10/10 bombshell out of some porno movie situation (and who wouldn't) but that's rearely the case.

maplehobo · 2020-06-25T14:24:03+00:00

Like a straight up 'yo, let's fuck'? No, never

Esoteric-Wanderlust · 2020-06-25T16:07:04+00:00

Yeah, but mostly by dudes. I've had women approach me, but in my experience it's been a rarity. More common though is the way women may make themselves more available for me approach. Usually interactions like that happen in my gym, where there's a regular crowd that builds a sense of familiarity. There's a good bit of nuance there.

Been catcalled a few times by both genders. Nothing vulgar, which I'd take issue with, more a statement about my appearance or attraction.

cloudydays84 · 2020-06-25T16:20:06+00:00

My current fwb is the on that approached me for sex.

Is this just a cope?

Idk, maybe, not really my place to say.

And all men really are up for sex at all times?

No

If so, than why can't males maintain long-term sex better?

Those two things aren't mutually inclusive, just because someone wants to have sex all the time doesn't mean they have the want or ability to maintain long term sex.

CentralAdmin · 2020-06-25T16:22:23+00:00

It makes me wonder, were any of you ever in a position where you were the one being pursued instead of the pursuer?

Maybe like once or twice when I was too young or naive to understand what the women wanted. But broadly speaking the onus is on men to pursue. There are exceptionally attractive men who have women chasing them but they still leave room for him to make the first move or make it real easy for him to approach.

Or maybe I don't want to believe it because I enjoy if my partner actually thinks that he has vaule of some kind and that means it's worth something when he gives his dick away. Is this just a cope?

Thing is, even trans men are surprised by the change in their sexuality. They're a lot more open to casual sex and some are like "I get it now. I thought I knew what sexual frustration was before..." Testosterone reminds you of your sexuality. Men take risks to have sex. Gay men suck strangers in parks. Men spend money and time trying to get women to sleep with them. Men spend money on prostitutes and are the primary consumers of porn. Sex is something men just desire more.

You're seeing it solely from your perspective, so let me see if I can relate. Have you ever been incredibly emotional just before your periods such that you find it difficult to regulate or control your mood? Did you ever want to cry randomly or scream? Were you maybe a little grumpy, impatient or snapping back when responding? Or maybe you were super clingy or needed emotional comfort?

Try to imagine the hormones responsible for that always bubbling under the surface. Every time you see a cute animal or a sad movie you have a reaction whether you want to or not. But society has placed strict rules on you about how you behave. You cannot be too emotional around men because it may make them uncomfortable. Men with pets don't want you staring because they know you're creepily dreaming of cuddling them. Crying during a sad movie is seen as gross and only deviants 'enjoy' those movies anyway because they 'arouse' emotions that men sometimes find unattractive.

Thing is, you were born that way. You just have to hide it well enough until you can express yourself with someone who likes you. But even then, you still can't unleash it all lest you scare them away. You'll probably never meet a man who will be your emotional equal and you may enter a relationship where you get duty emotional sharing sessions which will never be that satisfying. So you have to be content dealing with it alone or hope there's an open minded man out there somewhere.

It's a silly analogy that is sometimes accurate, but maybe it can give you a better understanding. Even Norah Vincent, who lived undercover as a man for 18 months, said sex for men is more of an urge. It really is. It's a feeling at the core of our being. When we get it, it's like winning at sports. It's a personal victory mixed with self esteem boosts because a woman finds you worthy.

Women don't see men's desire to have a lot of sex as men valuing it. But rather, men value it so much they want it a lot and they're willing to take risks for it. They get catfished and will even pay women to have it. Giving the dick isn't where the value lies, but rather in receiving the pussy.

And all men really are up for sex at all times?

Most men are up for sex at most times. Including casual sex.

If so, than why can't males maintain long-term sex better?

What does this mean? Long term partners? Or having longer sex sessions?

2020-06-25T17:19:43+00:00

I had women occasionally just proposition sex when I was in my early 20s. I was single at the time and very physically fit, so maybe I was just sending out the right signals.

I was technically open to the idea but there was always some reason at the time to turn down the truly out of the blue propositions. 1 girl was practically sphere shaped, 1 was super drunk and seemed kindof crazy, 1 was engaged. Stuff like that.

Saying no may have just been a gut reaction to getting blindsided by something so unexpected though.

and like other people are saying I got propositioned by gay guys about as often.

phalanxbg · 2020-06-25T19:43:32+00:00

Mid twenties, had 4 cases where that happened but it was luck. Women don't chase me nowadays, especially for sex. I'm just not the type of man they want for sex or for relationships.

Workaholiconew · 2020-06-25T22:00:39+00:00

Do you ever get approached sexually?

By strange women? No. Maybe one or two drunken woman but that is it.

By strange gay men? All the time.

By FWB/GF/etc? Rarely, I think once or twice per year. Women rarely if ever start anything, and if they do, they go out of their way to not show for some reason.

were any of you ever in a position where you were the one being pursued instead of the pursuer?

I pursue almost everything, it is rare when I am pursued back. But I think there were 5 times where I was pursued and I didn't pursue them. (I have low standards but I still have some)

And all men really are up for sex at all times?

Almost all men are up to sex at any time and almost any circumstance. Obviously there are asexuals, the senile, the bored and men with health problems. But it is almost certain all men are.

If so, than why can't males maintain long-term sex better?

I think you mean why we don't maintain sexual interest in long term relationships?

We are open to sex at any time and every time because we are starving. When we say sex is a need, we mean it. This sexual need is just barelly smaller than the need for sustenance or hydration.

To add.

Because of this starvation we accept things we wouldn't accept otherwise, which we end up regretting when finally satiated. Some call it "Cumming to your senses".
Because of this starvation we cannot focus in other interests in our lives, like a hobbies/dreams, which when we are satiated we can finally focus in something else. Or just relax for a change.

By rule, we are ALWAYS ready to sex. But we are not by choice. It is because our default is not having enough of it in the first place.

2LitreBugattiBieber · 2020-06-26T11:45:45+00:00

Yeah, nearly everytime I go to a club like 3+ women will straight ask for my number or ask their friends to get my number. When I used to go out girls would straight up kiss me or ask to kiss me.

One time when I was younger like 20 this old lady in her 40s was like grabbing my balls. Happened multiple times with multiple women.

I’m not that great looking but I guess I’m tall so..

WilliamWyattD · 2020-06-25T14:24:12+00:00

Men have a stronger sexual desire with less discrimination than women, on average. This does not translate into any many being ready to have sex with any women at the drop of a hat.

People are still people. Individual personalities and context matter. A lot.

Still, it is a lot easier to engineer a situation where a man of any level of attractiveness would agree to meaningless sex with a woman of almost any degree of attractiveness than it is to engineer the reverse.

TechnicalMight0 · 2020-06-25T14:31:25+00:00

It has happened a couple of times, yes.

But no, I'm not always up for sex: I can be tired or have some meeting I have to go to, and I won't have sex if I don't find her at least somewhat attractive, or if I she gives off bad vibes (the kind that make you think you're gonna get robbed by her cousins if you go to her place), or if she's dating someone who didn't agree to an open relationship (especially if I've met the guy). I think very few men are always up for sex, it's a sexist stereotype, sure some men on PPD repeat it but they mean it as hyperbole to illustrate how much thirstier men are compared to women.

Cloverfield1996 · 2020-06-25T16:03:56+00:00

As a woman if I approached a guy in a social setting and asked for sex 90% of them would say yes with no other conversation necessary. So it's not exciting.

If I then webt through with it the likelihood of me cumming is low as men tend to like the same things (rub shaft up and down with any body part) but women like different things and their "shaft equivalent" isn't as obvious so my pleasure is not likely.

On top of that I have put myself into a situation where I am alone with a stranger who is physically stronger than me. Considering how many times I've been assaulted in public and private by men it is fairly likely my consent means nothing and even if I am not enjoying the situation he will continue until he feels satisfied.

Approaching strangers for sex as a women is high risk, low reward and boring. Just my opinion of why it doesn't happen.

gaylordfag8 · 2020-06-25T14:21:11+00:00

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Christian_Kong · 2020-06-25T15:15:20+00:00

Occasionally women will chat me up at bars, latch on to me for the night and hook up later that night. I dont know if sex was on the table out of the gate though. I get gay guys chatting me up and fairly quickly turning the topic to sex much more often though.

dandevil98 · 2020-06-25T19:17:13+00:00

When you talk about being approached as a man, I'm and Indian guy and gender roles are still pretty 20th century here. A girl is considered indecent if she wears clothes that expose her thighs or her cleavage. Parents stil feel that sending your child to a same sex school is better than a co-ed school(where both boys and girls attend) because they won't involve themselves in anything intimate with the other gender until they're in college. We also have a lot of same sex colleges too. So basically in a country, where boys and girls are seen as 'boys' and 'girls' before they're seen as 'humans', the societal pressure has literally prevented women from talking openly about their desires. And if a woman does that, all other men start thinking "she's telling me about it that means she's asking for it"

Well most girls don't even ask guys out. In case a girl likes a guy, she will act super friendly and act very helpful, and give hints. If the guy doesn't get the hints, she'll keep trying to somehow indirectly make it known but will never confess her feelings to the guy. In vrey rare occasions have I seen girls confessing to guys or asking them out. So, here in India, getting approached for SEX is totally out of the question.

P. S. : please don't ask me about Indian men and desperation and perversion. That's like a total topic in itself.

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-Siptah · 2020-06-25T14:08:35+00:00

Only with my most recent ex while in a LTR with her. There were some occasions where I genuinely wasn’t in the mood so I turned her down a handful of times. She didn’t like that of course. That’s the only time I can recall being approached sexually. I’m not counting sexting or anything that’s not in person either.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2020-06-25T15:06:51+00:00

Yes, but the leading off with sex offers tend to be lesser attractive to me women, that I don't really want to sleep with anyway. Or would sleep with, just don't want to risk the drama of turning her down for a relationship afterwards.

ZestycloseAardvark2 · 2020-06-25T15:46:28+00:00

It's happened a few times to me.

Kyogan · 2020-06-25T16:01:31+00:00

Was approached twice. I rejected them because they are both assholes, and they both called me gay and other names.

Jip_Jaap_Stam · 2020-06-25T16:43:39+00:00

I've had women make it clear they're up for it by asking me back to their place. But apart from when I was dragged into a pub cellar (I worked there) by a girl of questionable morals who was obsessed with me at an after work party, I've never had one explicitly say "let's shag now".

erottawa · 2020-06-25T17:27:55+00:00

I've had women come on strongly at parties and in bars and stuff, even pushing their boobs into my arm as we're talking. But rarely are they so forward as to ask you to have sex, just like that.

RedPill_is_a_cult · 2020-06-25T19:40:51+00:00

Cos whenever I see that statement about the milk, I always think about a man's pp milk.

r/BrandNewSentence ?

Well, as for the question, it counts if we're already married, right? My wife has a pretty high sex drive, I'd say the approach is around 50/50.

anon_likes_tendies · 2020-06-25T20:08:00+00:00

Nope. Thank goodness.

Cyrrow · 2020-06-25T20:33:20+00:00

highschool girl grabbed my ass when I was in middleschool.

That was the only time it ever happened.

Global_MGTOW · 2020-06-25T20:39:55+00:00

I've been hit on by both men and women. I was asked by this cute girl to give her a ride, barely knew her, only knew her fast name and the fact that we both attended the same campus club. So she ask me for a ride which is like 20 minutes away at most with traffic, half way there we start talking about sex and she wants to go to my place. Go back to my place, have sex and then drop her off, become FWB since. These situations are rare, even rarer for most men to take women up on that offer.

Most (key word here) of the guys I've talked to aren't really down for casual sex, they're more interested in being in a relationship first. I've talked to some guys who have been propositioned for sex out of the blue and just froze on the spot.

I'm not like most guys when it comes to this. There's been times where I've asked a girl out and 30 minutes later I'm balls deep inside of her. I don't expect every girl to put out immediately or anything but if there's two girls interested in me and one wants to wait, while the other likes me so much that she wants to jump my bones, it's a no brainer.

SkookumTree · 2020-06-25T20:52:00+00:00

I used to in junior high; if you count girls trying to grind on me in high school, yeah. Not anymore.

CaptDeadlift · 2020-06-25T20:52:07+00:00

No due to 2 reasons.

I don't go out much as I don't find it entertaining , unless drugs are involved, and never feel the need to as socialising at the gym is enough for me as a rather introverted guy.

Second reason being that women don't roll like that.

AntMan3298 · 2020-06-25T20:59:42+00:00

Stop. This whole point is moot because the fundamental dynamics of dating between men and women make this statement an apples and oranges comparison.

smolboi69420-57 · 2020-06-25T21:34:17+00:00

I mean idk if this counts but a few girls have hit me up for Netflix n chill

goneaway2thewind · 2020-06-25T21:42:35+00:00

By women yes, it's actually pretty funny to me when it happens. Women are less forward but you can definitely get the vibe that they want you to shut up and fuck them. Approaching with women seems more like an active seduction.

But I understand what guys mean though when they feel a sense of "missing out" from their partners sexual deviancy stage. He's sacrificing all his options and some resources to be with one woman who he finds so attractive he's willing. So when a man feels denied of access to that pleasurable side of the one he loves it feels demeaning. Because a woman not having exciting sex with her man is almost like directly telling him "I'm not attracted to you enough to show you this side of me"

A lot of guys will say not being with a woman like this is best stemming from some red pill principals but at the end of the day it plain feels emasculating in a relationship. It's one of the worst feelings for a guy.

HODL_monk · 2020-06-25T22:01:49+00:00

Ugh, you are misinterpreting the cow reference. Its not literally the milk a woman can sometimes make, the reference means - Why marry a woman who you can have sex with, without commitment. So in the analogy, Buying the cow is the full relationship commitment, and the milk is the sex. This expression was once used commonly to shame a woman into not having sex until marriage. Its rarely used anymore, because no fault divorce made a mockery of the commitment part of marriage, turning the once special and meaningful act into an expensive party, followed by 'asset rape' of the man. (yes, it can sometimes lead to asset rape of a rich woman, but 9 out of 10 times its the man) For a while, having 2, 3 or even more marriages was common. Sometimes referred to as 'serial monogamy', see Donald Trump, but there are many others who did this, men and women. After a while, it became obvious to all the 'woke' (RP) men that marriage as it once was no longer existed, and the current no-commitment commitment of marriage was a cruel joke, that could ruin your life as easily as complete it, but the ruin part came much faster, and you could never be sure it wasn't right around the corner. That has led to the much worse situation where few people get married, and shacking up is the new normal.

For the record, not all men are open for sex all the time, the problem is that SOME men are definitely open for sex all the time, so its harder for a woman to be nice to a stranger, because he could come on real strong if there were any hint of availability for sex.

I'm sure for couples in relationships, the woman will approach for sex, because its a known and safe thing, that they could normally expect, You hint at this, but lets be honest, its the stranger approach that is interesting one, and way less likely. In my entire life I have been approached exactly one time for sex by a woman who was a stranger, and I am not young. It was not a subtle approach, and there was no small talk, not even 'what is your name ?' And you know what ? I refused, because that kind of thing is creepy as fSk, even for a man. The woman was reasonably attractive, but its SO unnatural for anyone to just want sex and nothing else that it makes you think its either a joke or a scam of some kind. I'm sure women feel different about it, since its more common for them, but its REALLY off-putting, at least for me. Also to echo others, I have been approached a handful of times for only sex by gay men. I used to think I was giving off 'gay vibes', but after reading the other posts, I have come to realize that lots of strait men get approached by gay men all the time, which is probably why this scenario comes up in pop culture occasionally.

warsie · 2020-06-25T22:05:50+00:00

Actually women have done that before to me.

GunBullety · 2020-06-25T22:17:40+00:00

Basically most normal guys are always down to smash. At least their standards for a genuine no-strings attached spontaneous plough are much much lower than they would be for a date or a relationship. If they always get lots and lots of sex with very attractive girls they might be more compelled to say no, but if they have a lot of testosterone even then they might feel like "meh, why not?" like Arnold Schwarzenegger and his dumpy maid.

Now separate to that a man can potentially get sick and tired of sex with the same person, even if that person is very attractive. There's no ass like new ass.

When you understand the biology of the male trying to get his seed out there to get his genetic legacy going through as many different avenues as possible for maximum odds of success over the generations to come, his behaviour and urges are very easy to understand and very predictable.

The eternal struggle, or arms race, is with women trying to lock men down to ensure her few chances at raising offspring are as successful as possible by having the child supported (in every way - financial, emotional, security, etc) through it's juvenile stage into adulthood by the father, so it in turn has optimal chances for breeding success.

As a result the human woman has become very crafty and manipulative when it comes to locking a man down, and the man in turn is potentially quite the cunning and crafty "player".

The "partnership" more often devolves into a competition or a sport, of sorts.

As far as men being approached for sex ... famous guys definitely are pursued aggressively for sex by women in just the same way young attractive women are pursued by men. Even "local famous" can have results like this. The last time I was blatantly pursued for sex was in highschool where I had a bit of a name for myself around town as a good skateboarder and known bad boy. Even that bullshit little micro-status was something for girls to cling onto. As an actual adult I'm just a random civilian ... yeah, no aggressive pursuit from the ladies for sex. They might subtly express some kind of openness to being pursued, that's kind of the best you can hope for unless you're ridiculously good looking, ridiculously rich or some kind of celebrity or known person with some kind of status.

I think most guys, if they were aggressively pursued for sex, would be very happy about it even if the girl was below their usual standard. Especially if they were a guy who never gets approached for sex normally.

Ekaj_B · 2020-06-25T22:19:04+00:00

When I worked at a pub, several gay guys and two of the women who worked there offered to fuck / blow me. I didn’t find them attractive (and I’m straight) so wasn’t interested.

Never been approached sexually by a woman I find attractive. Which was depressing because I was at uni for 5 years and it was 60% women.

saladfingers4141 · 2020-06-25T22:24:39+00:00

I’ve been approached sexually a fair few times although it gets rarer the older you get and the less you hang out at night clubs, back packer bars, hostels and other similar places where everybody is fucking each other.

I’d be open to sex most times I’ve been approached, although only if I found the girl attractive. I hate the idea on this sub that men don’t have standards and would fuck anything if the opportunity came up, it’s just not even close to be being true in my experience.

Alperarslan1999 · 2020-06-25T23:20:26+00:00

No I am a virgin ( not by choice and I am not a hatefull incel)

daddysgotanew · 2020-06-25T23:21:30+00:00

Inside a bar when the chick is twice the legal limit to drive and looking for attention? Yea.

In everyday, sober situations? No. Women don’t do that shit. Men are the actors, women get acted upon. It’s that simple

Markvan_throaway · 2020-06-25T23:22:12+00:00

Yeah. If you are decent looking and workout, women will take notice

Sid_Insidious · 2020-06-26T04:38:43+00:00

Once. And I would not have slept with her if I was on fire and she was a barrel of water.

Magicus1 · 2020-06-26T05:11:11+00:00

Rarely.

When I was in Uni, girls used to show me their nudes, tell me about their pierced nips, or show me pr0n, and that’s usually how I knew they wanted to have sex.

Rarely do they act out.

Now, as for men being up for sex all the time: No, believe it or not, not all of them.

Some, I’ve noticed, are dedicated Christian men. Virgins by choice. They’re a tiny subset, but they exist.

I’ve recently met relationship men, guys who only have sex in relationships. Weird, I know!

Finally, I know that the average guy is DTF at any time, but the reality is that most of us would like something steady most of the time.

While younger men might crave the experience of multiple partners to sample the platter, so to speak, the average guy wants steady sex. Whether that’s relationship sex or FWB sex is irrelevant.

Being sexually approached, as a man, is also about a few factors:

1) Looks - An attractive man who is physically fit will obviously attract more invites than an older, balding, morbidly obese man.

2) Availability- Sometimes, you’re just there at the bar or at a party and a girl looks over, sees you’re alone and kinda cute, and says: “Well, fuck it. He’s cute.”

3) Opportunity- If you’re at a hotel bar, it’s easy to just go upstairs for a romp. Vacation sex is easy because everyone is relaxed and not in a rush. It happens.

Hope this helps!

Jimmy-Turnchapel · 2020-06-26T14:43:30+00:00

Only when I’ve been in relationships which says a lot about female sexuality I’ve always thought.

Throughawayman80808 · 2020-06-26T17:35:17+00:00

No??? What answer were you expecting.

von19 · 2020-06-27T04:18:22+00:00

Yes, I've had this happen a few times. Its great.

GroundSloth123 · 2020-06-27T13:14:43+00:00

On dating apps definitely. I think people in real life are too scared to do that.

Tardisand · 2020-06-27T15:02:24+00:00

Do you ever get approached sexually?

I mean SEX specifically.

before this being a personal question, you have to consider women's behavior. women are indirect. i'm being generous to say 3% would be straightforward about sex. even then 99.5% of women would want to establish a connection before getting physical. the overlap is .5% of women that would approach sober in person for sex specifically before knowing what the person is about. if this happens to anyone, it's a very unique situation.

intoxicated and online dating have different statistics.

PapaPinyun · 2020-06-27T19:54:46+00:00

Hm last week in response to a question about an open bar i was told "my ass is open" and the next day a dollar tree lady said she was "eager to satisfy, whenever (i) call" if that counts. It wasn't a straight "please give me that dick" but basically is how i took it

InfidelCastro11 · 2020-06-28T05:17:37+00:00

Early 20s, "approached" maybe 2-3 times. They all had a malicious undertone and did not make sense, don't think I've ever been approached honestly. Always was the guy you can have an entire class with and still not know his name

Solo_Monarch · 2020-06-29T21:22:54+00:00

Nope, thankfully it has never happened.

ProperUgly · 2020-07-01T14:35:19+00:00

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ghoulish-thermometer · 2020-07-01T17:30:01+00:00

Mostly by dudes but sometimes girls will lay it on pretty thick. Doesn’t matter though I’d never betray my lady by even entertaining these thots.

XtoDoubt · 2020-06-25T13:56:26+00:00

As in, a woman has tried to fuck me and been the one pushing the issue? Yes. This is my daily life with my ltr.

Random women? Well, I've had women hit on me first and later we fucked, but in those instances I would say we both were pushing it. This hasn't happened often, though.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2020-06-25T16:04:12+00:00

Lots of girls gave me too many obvious signals, but stright, cold aproach only twice in my life. And I am well above average in the looks department.

The first was a girl that aproached me while I was backstage (I used to play the leading guitar in a very popular hard rock-metal band in our city). She said I was really beautiful, she had felt in love with me "and my music" (yeah, right) and she asked me if I wanted to be her boyfriend. I said I wasn't looking for a girlfriend at that moment and she then said "well, whatever you want then I'm down for it". I kissed her right there and we were doing the dids like 45 minutes latter. Easy laid in my life. Also she was hot. That power dinamic traduced in an expectacular way into the bedroom, I must say.

The second girl aproached me very agressively on social media, added me to her friends group, liked all my photos in like half an hour, initiated the first conversation, provided my with her number, then called me and asked me for a first date... And picked me up and insisted on splitting the bill.

She's now my fiance.

Just to be clear, I'm still good looking, but I think I will never be able to pull another girl like I did when I was in my rocker years. This girl was like infatuated with my image, she loved my tattoos, my long hair and beard, and yes, she loved how good I was at playing guitar. Our relationship didn't work for unrelated issues, but I think I shacked this girl really hard and from all angles, and that's why she played really hard to get me. Kind of ehmm "alpha widowed" her too. She never got over me, she told me that many years after.

bann2787 · 2020-06-25T16:30:30+00:00

Only once, in my early 20s at some random party. The girl was a super turbo slut and started rubbing my inner thigh, asking if I wanted to join her in the bathroom. My friends didnt let me do her that night, but the next day we met up and did it. We talked after and she explained she was like this because she got dumped recently. I was guy 14 or something for her.

I'm so lucky I didnt get anything out of that, but I was super stupid back then with pretty much no experience. Live and learn, has never happened since.

VoteLobster · 2020-06-25T13:58:31+00:00

By women? Got an offer outright once from somebody I knew.

By men? One messaged me outright one day and asked if I was gay and interested in "trying things." I was acquainted with him but didn't know him well. Many other gay men have been a little more subtle, but I appreciated the directness with this one. Makes me wonder why I get approached by gay men more often, lol (which isn't really a surprise because men generally do the approaching and are more direct about it).

methylotroph · 2020-06-25T14:37:13+00:00

I have never been ask directly by a women "lets have sex" or anything like that no, instead they just start rubbing against me, play footsy under the table, after giving such physical signs they wait for me to ask them out on a date and then we screw after dinner or a movie. I should point out these happens in work setting, or at parties, never had such a thing happen out on the street.

I have had women do this that I was not interested in or thought would be inappropriate in our business setting to have relationships with, I ignored their behavior and they got the message or thought I was gay or something, who knows.

Yes, if the roles were reverses I would be up for sexual assault charges touching women the way they have touch me, without asking, as a come on, but the world is neither fair nor nice.

Majorian420 · 2020-06-25T16:45:36+00:00

Ive been approached by women in bars and clubs, usually I get asked what Im doing after as the pickup line but I mostly turned them down.

jkonrad · 2020-06-25T17:07:50+00:00

I’ve been soberly propositioned for threesomes or whatever a few times, but most overt sexual attention from women occurs when they’re high on something. Really strong IOIs are more their style, which is all a normal guy needs...

vainpauper · 2020-06-25T17:09:42+00:00

I am not a man. But my friends are. And they are handyman. And they get a lot of invites of lonely women for sex.

They are now 30-40 and the women older. I believe them they get groped; because they complain. If it would be a hot porn fantasy they would not complain. I only hear the "eeeeew grosssss could have been me mom"stories.

Long story short; yes. Women can be anything today. Like having sexual urges.

Silverfox17421 · 2020-06-25T17:45:25+00:00

Of course I've had women after me countless times.

Most women do not walk up to you in meatspace and openly proposition you just like that. I've been approached by women countless times in Meatspace and especially on the Net, where it is ubiquitous, and there they can be quite forward and cut to the chase very fast. But in Meatspace, women's approaches are typically rather cryptic and sly, and they almost never just walk up to you and ask you for sex.

I remember I was at a party of my cousin's involving her graduation from a psychology program at a university. A friend of hers looked at me towards the end of the party and lifted up her dress. She was wearing sheer hose underneath so you could see her pussy. Does that count?

When I was student teaching, I had a lesbian master teacher who really hated men. She was really ugly too. I was joking with the kids about being a gigolo for laughs. As we were walking away one day in the hall, she whipped out a $20 bill and asked, "How bout $20? Does that sound like enough?" So this women actually offered me money to fuck her! I blew her off because sex with my master teacher didn't seem like a good idea.

The only times I can think of when females openly came right up to me and asked me to fuck them involved very young girls, so young that if I acted on it, I could commit the crime of child molestation. One was a pretty little 11 year old girl who decided to be my "helper" at a job I had at an elementary school. I saw her later in the park when she was 12, and she was going through puberty. She flat out asked me to have sex with her right to my face. I laughed it off and of course I didn't do it!

The other time I was teaching junior high and the class started yelling that a beautiful 13 year old girl in the class wanted to have sex with me. They said she wanted to meet me in the park after school and have sex with me. I thought it was funny so I walked over to her and asked her if it was true. She nodded her head very fast. I laughed and walked back to my desk. Of course I didn't take her up on it!

Women are just not crude enough to openly proposition you like that. It does happen a lot when jailbait (JB) teenage girls flat out ask men to have sex with them. I've heard of other cases besides mine. These girls do this because they are very unsophisticated sexually and don't know proper techniques a woman is supposed to use to flirt with a man. These girls are also very unsophisticated and awkward at flirting.

I've dated hundreds of females in life, and those are the only four times I got openly propositioned.

GYN-k4H-Q3z-75B · 2020-06-25T18:42:38+00:00

Straight man here. Gay bois approach me like that sometimes. I literally had a guy I have never met ask me if he could suck my dick at a club (it wasn't a gay club). My response: "No, thank you". It wasn't the first time something like this happened. I can appreciate it and take it as a compliment as long as they take leave after that. Don't keep asking, it's annoying.

Women approach me kind of often but never so openly. Most of those cold approaches are cute. Sometimes it's groups of girls, so maybe it's a test for them? Asking for my number (tends to be the younger ones), trying to start a conversation, by saying something funny or straight up inviting me to a home party on a national holiday without even asking my name.

When it comes to sex, I had women give me unmistakable signals once I knew them well, but it was my job to act on it. Only in well established relationships would I be "dragged to the bedroom".

beigesun · 2020-06-25T19:14:08+00:00

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Monoped_ · 2020-06-25T20:23:30+00:00

I had a stalker at a job I worked at. She was very forward and graphic about what she wanted and so out in the open about it with other coworkers. She didn’t care. Any guy would have been fired. I let it go until I heard she was telling people we were fucking (we were not), and then finally got HR involved. I had let her get away with too much. She grabbed my cell (flip phone at the time) and called herself so she had my number, and then started calling me. She found out where I live and drove by. It was creepy as hell.

HR’s solution? Move her to a desk across the building. She stopped for a long time but was starting again when I left for a better job.

Im a little high up at my current job, and it’s happened twice here, but not to such a severe degree. I think they were both just trying to “fuck the boss.” .. No thanks.

It’s never happened outside of work. Ive been approached, but never directly or immediately putting sex on offer.

HoopersHoop · 2020-06-25T20:26:04+00:00

Ive been approached by girls because they wanted either to hook up or be in LTR. I’m too shy to approach girls so I’m glad I get approached. Idk if they ever had the intentions only for sex but Ik some approached to hook up

ItsOverBoyosLDAR · 2020-06-25T16:24:53+00:00

Only Chads and guys with model tier facial aesthetics do.

GhostTheEternal · 2020-06-25T13:53:37+00:00

I've been straight up asked for sex only once in my life by a stranger. The girl was about 10 years younger than me and on the higher end of attractiveness in the league I bat in.

I turned her down because the approach was much too forward for me. I question the character of any woman who who wants to fuck without even knowing the guy's name first.

Edit: Looks like people have absolutely no respect for the 'do not downvote' rule here...

Matt_Door · 2020-06-25T14:07:13+00:00

Yes, once from someone I was not in an existing relationship with. My wife rarely initiates sex, but has and does.

lonefroggyfrog · 2020-06-25T14:12:48+00:00

Before being a loser, yes several times.

MrBiggs- · 2020-06-25T14:16:42+00:00

Approached as in hit on no. Average guys under 6ft are not getting approached unless it’s known they are well off financially or have celeb like status in my experience. Never seen it.

SwaySh0t · 2020-06-25T14:24:12+00:00

4 separate occasions I can think of. One was complete stranger(slept with her) , 2 of the four I knew through school(slept with one). And 1 was someone I knew of but had never had any previous interactions with (didn’t sleep with her)

It’s always flattering but sometime the delivery can be off putting. Asking me directly if i want to fuck is odd especially if there isint any other previous context. Most guys woulndt trust it, it’s wiser to think of it as a shit test. The other girls I fucked were more subtle about it or they escalated physically.

usa_foot_print · 2020-06-25T14:31:01+00:00

Yes I have on multiple occasions. A woman even tried raping me at one point.

flyinghorse1 · 2020-06-25T14:50:32+00:00

As a man i've only had sexual offers on dating apps. I get women adding me on facebook and trying to chat but thats more innocent and less sexual.

2020-06-25T14:56:47+00:00

As a swinger, very commonly, but usually by women I'm not that interested in (not always), just like real life dating, you gotta approach at least a little.

Outside of swinging, almost never but I don't put myself in places where it could happen. Its amusing to me watching the 35+ demographic bars and the cheating/flirting going on. I don't play in that field.

HelloDearWorld223 · 2020-06-25T15:00:49+00:00

It has happened to me multiple times yes

SeemedGood · 2020-06-25T15:06:07+00:00

Yes, with the frequency depending on how much I go out.

When I go out, it’s usually to meet up with friends at local bars in one of two small resort towns and one very small “city.” Occasionally I meet friends at small parties. I never go to “clubs.”

I get sexually suggestively approached (moderate to heavy flirtation without a direct suggestion for sex) by a woman on about 25% of my outings, and outright sexually approached (direct verbal or physical solitictation for sex) by a woman on about 5% of my outings, inclusive of overlap where the first type of approach eventually becomes the second. It happens frequently enough such that the bartenders at the bars I frequent the most tease me about it.

I’ve had women kiss me, ask to kiss me, place my hands on their breasts or thighs, rub my chest, thighs, or genitals, ask me to come home with them, ask me to take them home, or ask to go someplace private with them (but interestingly, never to bathrooms and only once to a car).

The women doing so are pretty much evenly split between those whom I’ve never seen before, those whom I’ve seen around but have never met, those whom I’ve met once but with whom I have not socially interacted, and those who are in my broader social group. I am married and probably a third of the women making the approaches know so before approaching.

My wife and I have an active sex life and she initiates about half the time.

ivy176 · 2020-06-25T15:08:51+00:00

I've never been approached for sex and I'm not approached for dates either. I'm usually dressed in my man's tshirts and sweaters (so baggy tops) and sports leggings with stained slip on sneakers and my hair all scruffy. Like messy bun but not styled and not cute. I'm bringing back the Derelicte line.

I'm either with my fiance at home, on a walk ir getting food.. or I'm driving to work or at work. I work in a small team and we all look like scruffy hobos. I have 2 women friends at work and they're both gorgeous but ngl, they are on a similar hobo level to me, but their shoes are nike.

Not many people want to wear nice clothes to go to work if they'll get spat on and be wiping poop. Also I'm 30 lbs overweight and not all in my butt and boobs.. and I give off major "leave me alone" vibes in general. So I have no guys chasing after me in the supermarket or following me in my car to ask me out lol. Thank goodness.

I mean, I get approached for sex by my fiance and I approach him lol.

therobincrow · 2020-06-25T15:17:09+00:00

Well yeah lol women are sexual creatures too

SocietalEngineering · 2020-06-25T16:06:22+00:00

No, never - except by men, as someone else said.

Most women show absolute disinterest in me right up until the point that I have sex with them.

It’s generally only after sex the first time that they openly show interest.

Maximedius · 2020-06-25T16:35:40+00:00

By big booty chicks in college, three times total.

LotBuilder · 2020-06-25T18:45:37+00:00

Yes, regularly but usually not by the women I prefer.

wtknight · 2020-06-25T14:08:26+00:00

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