FDS Weekly Chat / Check-In

RecentSprinkles5997 · 2021-06-29T13:03:35+00:00

So this week I met someone had a friends birthday party. We hit if off and exchanged numbers . They suggested we go out for dinner at 7 . Day of like an hour before I’m supposed to meet them they say oh actually instead of dinner can we have a walk date at ten pm I’ll bring a bottle of tequila😑. I told them it seems like they don’t value my time so Im going to have to cancel and then I treated myself to dinner . They then blow up my phone call multiple times and text to tell me they “miscommunicated because they have a brain issue “. The bar is truly in hell ladies .

ceramicunicorn · 2021-06-29T06:11:05+00:00

Just wanted to shout out the sub FemaleLevelUpStrategy that currently has a great pinned post about time management. Check it out!

Blackbeakvesta · 2021-06-29T12:03:01+00:00

Something small I have found myself doing through finding FDS this year is my use of emojis in messages. Mainly messages to men but also to anyone who I was particulary concious of being judged or criticised by.

I always added in emojis such 🙈🤦🏻‍♀️🤣to downplay and belitte my own thoughts, opinions and feelings. Essentially giving men permission to make fun of me or making fun of myself first in order to be liked (pickme cool girl) or even to avoid guys saying something hurtful.

This was very true if I thought it was not something mainstream or popular. This year I have found myself pausing before adding in and/or correcting my emojis to ones that genuinely reflect what I feel such as 😎 ❤ or sometimes no longer adding one at all.

I am finding I now pay closer attention if a guy responds with an emoji that makes me feel like he is making fun of my tastes and opinions. I have been thinking twice about whether I should reply and if I do then what my response will be (certainly no longer being a pickme by agreeing with him I am uncool or I am a joke).

Looking back to when I was at college I remember how when I used to express my love about something such as a song or interest in a subject or my desire to start a new hobby/travel somewhere I was totally blindsided when men put it down or made fun of me for it. I know for a fact that I never ended up doing half the things I wanted to after their rude and disrespectful responses. I used to just quit there and then.

So although this is a small everyday thing thing it actually feels very powerful 👑

Dazzling_Grass1727 · 2021-06-29T09:35:02+00:00

Some shower thoughts:

Passive aggression and politeness are two different things. You can be polite and straightforward. Any one who shows passive aggression does not deserve a place in your life and will only waste it.

There is a big difference between someone who plays the victim and someone who is actually a victim asking for help. Someone who plays the victim will only complain, someone who has been victimized will seek help. People who ask the victim what happened and don't help them are assholes.

If you feel uncomfortable, express it. You are not crazy for feeling like you're in danger. It's better to be seen as crazy and left alone than to be with a bunch of people who will.

Not looking back is good but moving forward without knowing what holds you back is worse.

Just because some couples are married doesn't mean they are happy.

CSardothien_1 · 2021-06-29T14:28:44+00:00

Not really FDS related but I am officially an Aunt! My sister and brother in law had their first baby girl early this morning and I honestly can’t wait to spoil the ever living crap out of her! Like this child will want for nothing in our family and I am thankful to this sub for teaching me how to set proper examples of being a HVW to the younger generation. 💕

Gambit12345 · 2021-06-29T16:50:57+00:00

I’d been feeling stagnant at my work lately. My director was suspended due to an investigation into her behavior. My supervisor told me that they’ll either fire her or bring her back, demoted. They asked if I was interested in becoming director, taking her position. (I work in a clinic). I expressed interest and it gives me so much energy to imagine being promoted! It would provide great experience in managing to put on my resume plus a higher paycheck. Fingers crossed!🤞🏽🤞🏽

msromperstomper · 2021-06-29T11:15:34+00:00

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EsotericKnowledge · 2021-06-30T21:02:28+00:00

Why in the actual fuck is nobody who is interested in the stuff that I am (nerdy stuff, queer stuff, goth kid stuff) comfortable with monogamous relationships anymore? LITERALLY NO ONE!

And any time I bring this up, some poly people chime in to let me know that I need to stop whining because they are oppressed for not being the norm and that I actually have an advantage because what I want is "acceptable."

Really? Because the only people I meet who still do "traditional" relationships are people I do not want to be within 500 feet of me.

_queeeen_ · 2021-06-29T16:10:32+00:00

Advice, please! I’ve recently met two men IRL who pique my interest and the signs say it’s mutual (flirtatious, remember personal details I’ve shared with them, initiate conversation, ask questions about me). I cross paths with them weekly.

Tips on how to keep the temperature up on flirting without backsliding into pickme tendencies? Ultimately I would be pleased if they asked me on a date. But in the past I was poor at waiting, and would often take the lead in a relationship. That masculine/pursuing demeanor doesn’t feel true to myself anymore.

On another post, some Queen recommended treating him the same way we’d treat a man we’re not romantically interested in. I want to convey that I’m open to the flirtation but stay in my feminine power about it.

Any other advice?

PalmTreePhilosophy · 2021-06-29T22:29:27+00:00

I am 100% certain that I will never be in a relationship again. I just do not have the desire and I am really happy about it. Even my "celebrity interests" have waned. It has become so apparent that guys (including bad father) manipulated me into feeling like I was nothing without male validation. It's clear that I confused "desire for male validation" with "romantic interest in men". I can still find a man cute but I am not interested in pursuing anything with him. I only wish I woke up at 20 and not 40.

Clean_Birthday8327 · 2021-06-30T01:52:54+00:00

A random topic I can’t stop thinking about for the past 2 months is: Human behavior is sometimes predictable but psychology is a soft science because it’s so difficult to repeat results reliably in a lab. Scrotastic behavior fascinates me because, even internationally, it’s remarkably unchanging and even more so for abusive scrotes. This makes me wonder if there’s a way we could use tech and data collection to stop scrotes before they happen if they are likely to rape or abuse us. My state is facing a budget crisis over funding services for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. I think the shelter model is outdated, expensive, disempowering, and financially unsustainable. If we focus on prevention, we can keep women safe in their own home, at their own job, surrounded by people they already know, and their children don’t have to face the upheaval of going to live at a shelter. If all a woman needs to leave or build an exit strategy that works for her is a safe vehicle and a cellphone, just providing that is going to be less expensive than sheltering her and her children while she builds completely from scratch.

I also hate the idea that once this crime that happens in the shadows finally finds its way to the light, the next thing we tell a woman is “okay go hide again”. I love where I live. I fought for this apartment. They should contain him, not me. I’m not moving even though I know I will be stalked when my ex is released from jail.

I was thinking about an app for first responders or just laypeople that can administer and score known reliable risk assessments that already exist. High risk cases could be identified and moved up the prosecutors priority list. Some college campuses have partnered with a nonprofit called Callisto which is a third party reporting for service for sexual assault. Students give identifiers for the perpetrator and if another student reports the same perpetrator, they’re both notified by an attorney who counsels them on all their options, not just formal charges. 90% of rapists are repeat offenders. I don’t feel smart enough to find it, but there has to be a solution and I think using technology will be the only way to cut costs to keep services for victims sustainable without increasing cost.

What do you ladies think? How would you approach the problem? I wish I was still in college because it would be easier to find people to collaborate with.

File-Own · 2021-06-29T10:21:53+00:00

Any tips on "handling" a covert (I think) narcissist till I go no contact? I currently live close by to my mother, but am moving away in a few months once my contract ends.

She is incredibly tedious, has health problems (which unfortunately mean I have to visit and keep an eye on her regularly, as well as sometimes WFH at her place) and uses them/her woe is me attitude as an excuse to act like a grown toddler. She screams, shouts, and swears over tiny things sometimes, then acts like a kicked puppy five minutes later and as if nothing has happened. She also acts bizarrely and like a 5 year old in a woman's body (I asked her if she would ask my cousin over the phone for a cake recipe, and she started shrieking "Do it yourself! I'm stressed, I don't need more stress!") She is also hellbent on living in misery, she has a tiny poky 1 bedroom flat but my brother who has four kids and a massive "annex" has offered to let her live in his big house for free. Her life is so bad according to her, everyone has been so mean to her, she takes no responsibility.

It is affecting my own mental health despite now being a grown woman who's moving away soon. I missed out on a lot as a kid due to having to "mother" this miserable pick me of a woman who couldn't even keep a job. She definitely has a mental illness although I CBA to figure out what. I'm also very busy/stressed at work right now (she made fun of my anxiety by saying "You've always been too sensitive since you were a kid!) and feel like I am missing out on enjoying life as is, I don't need her constant draining energy and gaslighting. I know I'll be fine when I've moved away/NCed, just do not need this shit till then. Help!

throwaway8437764 · 2021-06-29T08:27:22+00:00

Lately, I find that I've been feeling resentment towards a friend who always seems to have success in her love life. How do I not feel this way? She's my friend and I should be happy for her, but my love life has been absolutely shit for the vast majority of my life, so I'm starting to feel jealousy and resentment.

This friend got out of a relatively healthy, long-term relationship with a HVM awhile back (I considered him my friend too, awesome dude). Immediately following that breakup, she rebounded with a friend of ours, so because of that he was already pre-vetted and we knew he was HVM. The rebound ended up lasting and now the two of them are in a long-term relationship. Seems like things always work out for her—she's had back to back relationships with HVMs, meanwhile all of I've gotten in my love life (or lack thereof) are breadcrumbs and men scamming me into bed. I just feel sad and resentful at the fact that I've been alone most of my life and she's literally never had to be (not that being alone is necessarily a bad thing, but let's be honest, it can get lonely at times).

How do I stop feeling this way towards her? Is what I'm feeling normal?

throwRAwhatisthis · 2021-06-30T12:21:44+00:00

Hey y’all, any tips on making vetting less stressful? It is kind of anxiety inducing always knowing that the guy you like may still not be shit.

I’m sort of driving myself crazy thinking about a guy I’m dating. I feel like there’s not red flags and he’s exhibited some HV behaviors and traits. But for some reason I still feel uneasy. I feel like it might be my gut telling me something that my brain doesn’t have the information to process yet. How do I know it’s not overthinking?

chipcrazy · 2021-07-01T23:01:46+00:00

Is FDS getting shadow banned or something? It used to come up on my homepage all the time, and now for the past couple of weeks, I’ve had to actually visit this sub to read content.

No_Mistake_7720 · 2021-06-29T11:38:21+00:00

Got talking to a guy on OLD, which is the best way for me to meet new people at the moment.
He lives in the city that I work in, but I currently live 1,5 hours away from that city.
He suggested meeting up after exchanging a few - fairly well thought out messages - and he suggested either coming down to my town or scheduling something whenever I'm in the city. He suggested 'grabbing a terrace'. 'Grabbing a terrace' is drinks, but not the 'drinking late at night in a dark bar' kinda a drinks (if that makes sense), and it does does include food, though of course, more casually. In nice places, this would be a cheese platter, tapas type food, elaborate salads etc., in less formal places this would be toast or something similar.
I replied with 'yes, dinner in my town would be lovely', FDS style, and he (bemusedly) agreed.
As it turns out, I will now be in his city (where I work) next week, so it would suit me better to meet up there. He suggested Sunday and again, went with the 'let's grab a terrace'.
Some context: where I live culturally, dates really are always drinks, so dinner is quite unusual from a cultural point of view. Personally, I always find a dinner a big time commitment from my own side; service is horrible over here so it would be a several hour ordeal whilst I am not sure yet if he is worth me spending my time on him yet.
I do also want to follow FDS rules, so question! Should I insist on a formal dinner, or would a nice 'terrace' be ok in this context?
I am debating asking him where and what time he is thinking, as the venue and time could provide me with further context as to what 'level' the date will be and if it would be a 'proper' date with informal but 'proper' food and quality drinks, and am not just sitting there drinking headache-inducing cheap-ass wine in an uncomfortable chair.
Thoughts?

NotYourBizThrowAway · 2021-06-30T17:07:09+00:00

I broke up with my ex this week, you can see my previous post history for more info. It’s been 2 days since we broke up and he’s like “living his best life”, posting on social media how he’s gonna be traveling to Vegas and don’t have regrets in life. I know he’s just trying to make me jealous and second guess my decision but it’s so extra and petty.

frontyardwillowtree · 2021-06-29T10:09:36+00:00

I’m reframing the accusatory comment of being “critical”. Hell yes, I’m critical! I’ll think through every aspect of a relationship to be sure it meets my standards and doesn’t push my boundaries. Funny when men and pickmeshas hate on women who are “too critical” but will praise men who are “critical thinkers”. It is the same fucking attribute just with misogyny sprinkled on top.

ShadowRealmDweller · 2021-06-30T02:38:02+00:00

I just had a revelation about dealing with low value people. Low value people, like LVM, tend to act as if they're better than you the moment you treat them as your equal.

I was recalling this event a few years ago. My second cousin was in the country for couple of days and he invited me out to dinner with his friend and the friend's wife. I went thinking oh hey maybe I can make some new Asian friends. After some initial chitchat I realized that that wasn't gonna be the case lol. Both of them were binge drinkers. The guy was a conservative gun nut and the girl gave off pick-me vibes the way she was obsessed with Korean guys. But me being a naive bitch back then was friendly to them and didn't let these red flags affect the way I treated them. (Blame it on being raised with the "seeing the best in people", "judge not lest ye be judged" mindset). About half way through, the couple started giving off these disrespectful vibes. The gun nut negged me about using public transportation to go to work, as if I were poor or something (the city I live in is a car city, but I live close enough to the rail that it's not an issue for me). The girl negged me about not drinking. I remember rolling my eyes internally but just saying something like "it works for me".

It's funny because I have long forgotten this encounter but today I just randomly made the connection with the FDS information. (I'm pretty slow on the uptake in terms of social interactions, as in I can intellectually understand that I should not do this or that, but until my brain creates enough neural pathways, the info won't become instinctual). That couple is no doubt low value, literally not on my level, even compared to my former pick-me self back then. But as soon as I treated them as equals, they tried to knock me down a peg.

So just a tip in case anyone else was having issues internalizing the advice about low value people. Being judgy, discriminate as much as appropriate. it will help subconsciously to modulate your interaction towards them and put up a sort of "I don't tolerate that behavior bc it's beneath me" barrier.

afrodeasyak · 2021-07-02T02:22:05+00:00

Feeling sorry for myself tonight because so many of my peers and younger cousins are/have met and married their partners and I'm still struggling to meet a man who is not an utter scrote or just a complete waste of my time. I spent most of my youth and twenties single because I did not want to settle for less and so I focused on family, career, health, etc. And now at 30, although somewhat satisfied with my life, I'm having a Charlotte "where is he!!" moment.

I've written here before about how I'm a big softie and romantic, though that hasn't brought much positive dating/relationship experience and today is just an off day. Idk if I'll meet "him" and I'm lowkey upset and discouraged. Sorry, I just had to let that out of my chest.

deadinsidelol69 · 2021-07-01T18:31:14+00:00

I realized the other day that I have been free from my NVM ex for a year now. I'm incredibly happy, doing great in my career, I'm making new friends, enjoying my hobbies, and have no interest in dating right now. My cousin died 3 weeks ago, and she always told all of us how we needed to just have fun in life, try new things, and know your worth. My goal is to take her words to heart.

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-07-02T01:49:53+00:00

I realized that I don't want to give oral sex anymore (and totally good with not receiving it either). It just feels.. degrading to me. Does anyone else feel similarly?

ArugulaIsAwesome · 2021-07-02T02:00:10+00:00

Every time I see a grown man using a vape I cannot for the life of me not think of an infant sucking on a pacifier…

hydrohydrangeas · 2021-07-03T03:33:32+00:00

Ladies, I just moved into my first big girl apartment (I’ve always lived with my roommates or siblings previously as a student / young professional) and it feels so good to finally have my space to do with as I please. Level up 2k21 is going so far so good.

I’m over the moon!

Hateorade_ · 2021-06-29T16:55:15+00:00

So one of my cousins reached out to me almost a month ago and I suggested we go out to eat. She suggested a coffee date which i was perfectly okay with. When she asked when I was free, I told her that I was free on June 5th. After that, she never responded but is on Instagram going out to places which is cool.

One of my college friends reached out to me randomly a few weeks ago and asked to catch up with me. I gave her my schedule twice, including the days and times that I would be free. She asked if I was free on the weekends but I said no, only during the week. She too didn’t respond to me and is on Instagram going to other places and meeting up with people.

My question is, am I right to feel sus about this? I genuinely think it’s rude for people to not respond to plans being made. It’s one of my pet peeves when people don’t respond to text messages but are on social media. I appreciate consistency and making plans in a timely manner.

Watzoo · 2021-06-30T01:15:00+00:00

A tip on staying anonymous - share one Reddit profile for FDS among you and like-minded friends/neighbors/ roommates.

The resulting info - even if you’re all fairly open - is broad enough that stalking scrotes can’t pinpoint one woman to harass. 😉

_windowblue · 2021-06-29T05:32:31+00:00

I need help finding a particular post as using the search brought no success for me.

This post was titled something along the lines of "the danger of keeping a lvm in your child's life". I believe it had a study included in the body on the detrimental affects.

creamtart_ · 2021-07-01T03:18:24+00:00

Getting a bit frustrated seeing dating related posts on FLUS and women not focusing on the subs purpose, well aware of FDS’ existence but not using it?

Just needed a vent 😅

Enough-Introduction · 2021-07-03T14:44:31+00:00

Anyone else feel like the number of posts with screenshots from other subreddits is on the rise again? I‘m so tired of seeing them, I scroll past them but they still act as a constant reminder that many men are LV which I really don‘t need more of. This has been an ongoing discussion since FDS started and I understand why they are posted and allowed, but I just needed to share somewhere that I‘m so annoyed by them. Tbh I think posting them is LV behavior. We all know LVM exist, why go out into the hellhole that is reddit, screenshot the trash you knew you would find, and then act all outraged about it on FDS? It‘s just wasted energy for all parties involved

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-07-01T22:05:03+00:00

I am reading White Fragility by Robin Diangelo (about one third of the way through) and it's striking how so much of what she says about racism can be applied to sexism. She talks about how the vast vast majority of people in power, including media and entertainment, are white men. She talks about the entitlement and defensive tactics behind privilege. Very good book.

farevvell · 2021-07-01T15:48:06+00:00

I'm looking for a post to send a friend specifically about (not) telling a man you like him first. Any recs/links?

warinmymind94 · 2021-07-03T06:19:34+00:00

got a call from my uncle and it was funny because I had it on speaker and my roommate got to hear the last half of it. my uncle called to "check up on me" I was thinking wow this is so nice, I feel so loved and cared about, and then I noticed the call turned into him bragging about his own job, traveling, and what his kids (my cousins) were accomplishing. mind you, the entire phone call, I was humble and didn't really get into detail about my life, I didn't flex.

the highlights were "still unemployed and doing your little business?" and him going on bragging how my cousins all moved out and are getting apartments and got free furniture from the curb as being "so proud and they're saving so much money". my "little business" is an LLC now that has been bringing in a full time paycheck and showing growth. by apartment he meant college Dorm for his one kid and I was like "oh a dorm on campus? yeah I had that same thing at my college too! she will love it, most kids do." and I dismissed him. then he went on flexing about how "big and wonderful" his other kid's apartment was. I asked him what area it was and noticed he was dodging, pretending not to hear me, and kept changing the subject. so I pushed. his kid is living in a ghetto neighborhood in the back of a store building! they dont even have actual parking. there's shootings and robberies all the time and that area is infamous. my uncle shut up so fast and started getting embarrassed. "well I hope (my cousin) can find a house soon. I love my house here, I have x bedrooms, garage, and a yard and..." I said and my uncle was like "oh I have to go".

my roomate asked me about what my uncle's deal was and why the whole time she heard the call he was just flexing and flexing the whole time. I'm proud of myself for handling my uncle better this time and also so glad I have moved away. he would do this stuff and neg my mom before and he used to do it to me, praising his own unemployed son when I was working and hustling hard and still got trash talked. I have no idea why mu uncle is a jerk, but I am glad I see it and know how to better handle him. distance is the best I can do with him

side note: got harassed by THREE different men this week. two slid in my DMs and another tried approaching me as I was walking back from the bathroom at a restaurant. he was a fat baldie with a beard that hadn't been groomed. he was in a t shirt that looked like it was from 5 below and ill fitting jeans. I was dressed up nice. dude literally stood straight up, puffed out his chest, and grabbed his drink and cat called me, "hey hot stuff, you should come join me and my friends over here. I'll buying". I didn't have my mask on and literally made a face of disgust, didn't say a word and kept walking. he looked absolutely dumbfounded I actually bust out chucking when I got outside. let me add this was a restaurant, not a bar. and dude needs to look in the mirror at himself too

Dazzling_Grass1727 · 2021-07-03T00:56:10+00:00

Be wary of female friends who ask you to meet another friend, boy or girl with no context. Usually it's to get more gossip or to pimp you out to a guy and get more gossip.

A true friend who wants you to have loving relationships will ask you beforehand and tell you why it would be a good idea to meet this person.

Something I found common in my friendships.

PengBa · 2021-06-29T13:57:51+00:00

After discovering FDS last year I have been following the guideline to a t, I havent slept with anyone in a year as well. I recently realized I swing both ways and really want to hookup with women (absolutely not with men). I downloaded a dating app for the first time ever and swiped right on every attractive women out there LOL. I matched with 5 women, and already made dates with 2. They clearly know it's just going to be hookups, I was super excited at first but now I'm having a lot of paranoia.

These women are already married/dating other men (they're not looking for a unicorn) because they're poly/open relationship and it just occured to me they probably have had sex with other men/women, maybe a lot. I'm worried about possibly catching STIs/STDs from them, even though I heard the chances are lower for women to women. Then I thought about what the FDS community would think and I realized it's pretty unwise for me to randomly hook up with total strangers that could easily lie about their STI/STD status when it's clear they sleep with multiple people. I feel like I already know what y'alls answer is "dont do it!"

LOL the question is I already scheduled dates with them, I feel so bad for cancelling them I dont want them to think they're unattractive or something. Should I just unmatch them or block them? At this point I just feel like deleting my entire account. I'm also in another state temporarily for work so I'll be outta here in a month, theres no chance I could ever bump into them organically.

eveloe · 2021-06-30T09:15:03+00:00

Is anyone verifying the discord applications right now?

parieta1 · 2021-07-04T22:43:14+00:00

I was briefly interested in this guy who presents as HV, but upon checking his Instagram I found that he liked several pictures of women in bikinis. Not "IG baddies/influencers," but women he had mutuals with. My interest immediately waned. I just find it so ridiculous that these guys spend all their time "liking" more provocative pictures and expecting IRL women to look like the facetuned/photoshopped images they scroll through daily. Like, I know you're single and she's pretty, but do you not have anything better to do with your time?

Honestly, I find a lot of guys' online behavior laughable. And it seems like everyone in my generation has some social media or other, either public or hidden, so ... *sigh* my future husband will most likely be the outdoorsy/project-oriented, absolutely-no-social-media type. I just don't see them changing their behavior once they get into relationships... if anything, it probably amps up more bc of the "grass is greener" phenomenon. Eye roll.

klops_fighter · 2021-07-05T13:02:47+00:00

I wanted to thank you guys for something dating unrelated... Since I started reading this sub my apartment is so much cleaner.

I struggled with cleaning and tidying when I didn't have anyone coming over a lot. However now I love making the space nice for myself, because I deserve a nice comfy apartment ☺️

numbers213 · 2021-06-29T12:17:32+00:00

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throwmeupandacross · 2021-07-02T17:35:47+00:00

Ex has been posting a lot more on social media about going out with his friends - it's a little hard to see because I'm not doing as well as him. It was a mutual break-up because we didn't see our futures realistically coinciding.

Logically I know I'll be alright - I've gotten over breakups and fallen in love again before, so I'm sure I'll be fine, but this period just sucks.

BusinessTwistofLime · 2021-07-03T00:46:14+00:00

Rant - family is using the pool in my apartment complex and the "Dad" (I'm assuming?) keeps referring to his daughter as "Momma" everytime he speaks to her. Like this little girl hasn't even had to go through puberty and she's being reduced to her reproductive abilities rather than her name. WTF? Like why even bother giving her a name at that point?

Dazzling_Grass1727 · 2021-07-04T01:38:41+00:00

What are you opinions on Amber Heard?

I really hate this women because it's women like her who make getting support for real DV victims hard. And she still has her job.

chiffoncakemilktea · 2021-07-03T17:37:04+00:00

Hi sisters!

I am a Muslim woman with a past (Im not a virgin and had 1 NVM ex). However after the relationship when I started dating Muslim men (my faith is super important to me) and I have told them about my past pre FDS, they always ask about sexual stuff or when we can have sex. This has just been off the Muslim dating apps (Muzmatch and Salaams).

I know this sounds bad but to protect myself should I lie and say I am a virgin and waiting till marriage so I can vet them when I start dating Muslim men again.

Further note: I am convenyionally very attractive with a slim body so I dont have a problem with attracting men. But i am going to only date irl now

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-07-04T19:25:18+00:00

Posting with a new account, but I've been fairly active here, just didn't have my flair yet. Anyway! Had to change my account because I just broke up with my ex who apparently was a SCROTE! Knew this man for a year and the mask just slipped enough for me to see how crazy he actually is. There were signs, and I was constantly vetting for patterns and saw enough that I knew there was a problem and was working on ending it.

Broke it off. He immediately came to my house and dropped off stuff I left. I blocked him everywhere and he messaged me THROUGH ETSY to tell me he came by again to drop off a letter. Then my BFF messaged me saying he contacted her through Instagram and sent her paragraphs of crap! I told him to stop contacting me and my friends and don't come to my house. I hope this is the end 😥 I had just introduced him to my kid, and I feel so betrayed.

Just needed to get this out 😥 thanks for reading ❤️

creamtart_ · 2021-07-05T03:41:56+00:00

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Title	FDS Weekly Chat / Check-In
Author	Unlikely-Marzipan
Upvotes	69
Comments	147
Date	June 29, 2021 5:10 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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