Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.

electroloop · 2021-10-27T17:14:30+00:00

Pickme olympics 🤡

wonderstruck-x · 2021-10-27T17:29:38+00:00

Her husband’s girlfriend moved into their damn house with them, and she now has to listen to them multiple nights a week? She’s tormenting herself and writing articles about how miserable she is, yet is still trying to convince herself that she’s just being a cool and accommodating wife? Lady. Recognize your self-worth. Please.

Old-Cantaloupe-5571 · 2021-10-27T17:21:39+00:00

I couldn't finish reading it, when she described her self as ''boring'' and ''ball and chain'', I was so triggered. Her self esteem is zero.

lilyischillin420 · 2021-10-27T17:10:35+00:00

This is honestly so sad to read. I hope she discovers her own self worth and realizes she’s in an incredibly abusive and toxic situation.

apommom · 2021-10-27T17:16:26+00:00

I can’t believe they’re raising a child in that environment

I couldn’t stop myself and read some of her other posts, I really hope that it’s all fiction.

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2021-10-27T17:57:12+00:00

Interesting that Molly is living with them so the author’s husband can have extramarital sex on demand even in quarantine, but author’s other male partners live elsewhere…wonder why 🧐 (/s)

United_Recording_975 · 2021-10-27T17:54:16+00:00

I try to be more empathetic to women, but this is just pathetic in every sense of the word. It's one thing to let your husband cheat on you. It's another to let that girl move in and agree to "trade" him so you both get to fuck him. And it's another thing to write about your sad little situation & try to twist it and make sure everyone that reads thinks you are "winning".

Genuinely pathetic.

Asaharaldsdottir · 2021-10-27T17:43:13+00:00

I read a lot of Chinese literature and this legitimately sounds like it’s lifted from a Chinese novel. She sounds exactly like a wife whose husband has a concubine - because he literally does! How someone chooses this lifestyle is beyond me.

asocialsocialite · 2021-10-27T18:02:05+00:00

There are, indeed, losers in polyamorous relationships.

That loser is always a woman.

People need to get a fucking clue and cut this shit out. The men in polyamorous situations are often not ever prizes, either, so they're fighting for what again?

nolongerhume · 2021-10-27T17:52:03+00:00

Really pathetic. She mentions she has other partners too...but none of them are living with her sooooo what is she getting out of it? Oh right she gets to live with her husband's girlfriend. What a pleasure lol sis probably doesn't even pay rent. I can't.

Throwaways_4_dais · 2021-10-27T17:20:30+00:00

Jfc that’s sad as hell. If you have to try to convince yourself that it’s ok as much as this woman is, it’s not for you. I know it’s not PC to say, but I’ve never understood poly relationships and I think they’re stupid

riseaboveagain · 2021-10-27T19:09:18+00:00

She must have to get up very early every morning to polish her enormous clown shoes

28Improved · 2021-10-27T17:11:03+00:00

"No one is dead, divorced, or even seriously injured. I count that as a win."

What a low bar for a relationship. If that's the happiest I can expect to be in polyamory, no thanks

NiBBasBeCrazy · 2021-10-27T17:19:57+00:00

Good god, what a shitshow…

Thanks OP for posting this. So whenever I feel fucking dumb I can read that article and realize that dumber people exist.

She’s literally being cucked.

Vmchik · 2021-10-27T17:23:56+00:00

This is why that jealousy bullshit they espouse is so stupid. She’s literally being tortured everyday but forced herself to deal with it because polyamory is above jealousy. These people always seem so miserable. I’ve been in happy monogamous relationships with little to no jealousy before. You don’t have to go through this.

Ok_Neighborhood_6971 · 2021-10-27T18:29:06+00:00

"Hey Alexa play the Cool Girl monologue"

BasieSkanks · 2021-10-27T17:51:57+00:00

Here is a link to an article from the same author where she talks about her husband’s side piece moving in: https://medium.com/polyamory-today/my-husbands-girlfriend-moved-in-with-us-during-the-pandemic-could-this-work-36d8bc83c767.

ceramicunicorn · 2021-10-27T18:53:24+00:00

“a base instinct grabs hold of my gut”

“oh i’ll just ignore that 🤡”

The one bright spot is there are actually a few top comments that point out what a mess this is. Don’t bother reading the one that kicks off with I aCtUaLlY dOnT sEe ThIs As SaD! that shows zero empathy for her situation.

aluriaphin · 2021-10-27T17:51:39+00:00

She lives in the same house and he alternates nights with them? Baby that's not polyamory, that's POLYGAMY. You went so far into progressive kinkdom that you ended up square in Latter Day Saints Land 🤣🤣😭😭

Clippeticlop · 2021-10-27T18:33:35+00:00

I don’t even know where to start with this, I feel both desperately sad, bewildered and disgusted reading this. I don’t want to blame women in general, but I just want to shake this person.

Collated thoughts:

All I hear is ‘Eric’, like her whole world revolves around him and his body and his sexual appetite or whatever. Grim, get some actual healthy hobbies. The lingerie collection thing just made me retch - how is this different from some sort of tradwife, whose only joy in life is pleasing some guy. How is any of this progressive at all.
Grim that this rando’s moved into her house - like not only does she have to share her husband with her, she’s probably cleaning up after her, sharing her bloody cutlery and comforts, all the things she’s bought to make him a lovely household (assuming this man is totally looked after in every way, which isn’t a long stretch of the imagination). This is basically an exercise in self effacement. The level of fawning is sickening.
please tell me I misread and there aren’t children involved in this total farce.

its_suzyq1997 · 2021-10-27T18:12:58+00:00

A sane woman would divorce Eric's ass. Polyamory is a fancy way to say we're cheating on each other.

blessedwiththree · 2021-10-27T18:58:50+00:00

I feel so bad for her and I hope she comes to her senses! She is getting the shit end of the situation. The perks of a committed relationship include the fun, the sex, the emotional and physical intimacy and the stability. These perks go away when the relationship gets opened because they are going to the new partners, not the spouse.

This is a mistress that he gets to have an affair with and this lady is the wife whose purpose is to care for him and the home. What is the point of a relationship if he can't even fulfill your needs? Most men can't even sexually satisfy one woman and the rates of non-working dicks are skyrocketing these days! If your dick doesn't work and I do everything at home, take care of the kids, and bring in income then why would I want or need you 🤣?! Part of me thinks he and the other woman must enjoy mentally torturing the wife, because they don't care about having loud sex. It seems like even the fundamentalist polygamists try to keep boundaries, in order to pretend that the husband isn't switching beds and having sex every night.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-10-27T17:54:47+00:00

And she is assuming her role of an appliance why exactly? It's not clear in her cringy sad essay.

oi_oi_oink · 2021-10-27T19:33:45+00:00

The worst part of this article is "No one is dead, divorced, or even seriously injured. I count that as a win".

I wonder what counts as a loss to her. And I wonder if she realises how low she's setting the bar for herself.

ayaaababe · 2021-10-27T20:48:38+00:00

Are people really that scared to be alone? I would rather never speak to a person again, enjoy my solitude and keep my dignity then be married to a man who’s girlfriend lives with us. Pathetic and sad.

Rebbecky · 2021-10-27T21:12:41+00:00

I’ve recently discovered that my sister is in a poly relationship. Meaning her husband left her, working full time, with their 1 year old son, for 6 weeks to go to another country and spend time with his GF. I have no idea if my sister has another partner but I’d be astonished if she had the time.

Instead I spent 6 weeks helping her look after her son, seeing her exhausted because he wasn’t sleeping through the night because he missed his dad, seeing him scream whenever she left the room because he was so confused by his parents abandonment. I had to facilitate phone calls from BIL where he would call and say “oh we’ve been travelling and having so much fun” and my exhausted sister would reply “I’ve got a major project due at work and son has been up all night”.

I cannot believe this is the feminist idol of my youth- what has she become? A doormat for her piece of shut husband to walk all over. I’m so upset and angry for her that I can barely be in the same room as her shitty husband.

Sage_Planter · 2021-10-27T17:42:56+00:00

Even if you're in a relationship with two men, it's a scam. Years ago, I read an article about a polyamorous woman who had a boyfriend and husband. The whole thing just seemed absolutely exhausting. Having a relationship with one man is enough for me.

TrixieFriganza · 2021-10-27T19:45:26+00:00

Ugh one of the pick-me comment, when she feels left out from her partner having sex with someone else she's trying to explain as when you smell food cooking that isn't for you. In what world is sex and imtimasy the same as cooking food? I could never accept feeling left out when my partner is having sex with someone else, do I even have to accept that

Feministtiktok · 2021-10-27T20:29:36+00:00

If you want to make men understand why a three way isn’t a fun idea and he asks you for one, just say “I’m not gay so I don’t want to have sex with women. You know I’m not gay so are you asking to have another man have sex with me and you at the same time?”

Usually the idea of a 3 way with 2 men and 1 woman makes them be like “no way I’d never so gross ew” Like how do you think we feel

philogyny · 2021-10-27T21:17:31+00:00

“I am the one he files joint tax returns with, discusses whether to repair or replace the heat pump, and if we are doing the best we can at parenting.” They have KIDS? Can the kids hear this sex too that’s so loud you have to crank up the tv to drown it out 😬

Spare_Issue7736 · 2021-10-27T17:31:44+00:00

I was friends (thankfully not anymore) with a guy in college who said and even posted on Insta that you “can’t cheat in polyamory” 🙄

kalemasseuse · 2021-10-27T18:32:06+00:00

What in the Sister Wives hell is this...

Thesseli · 2021-10-27T19:09:12+00:00

Sad. I don't see how any woman with a sense of self-worth could do this.

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2021-10-28T00:21:23+00:00

Read this article and reporting back here, slightly nauseated, to say that IMO it's child abuse to have this going on with a kid in the house. Sounds like the girlfriend is up there screeching like a cat in heat while mommy pickme cries in her room and inventories her lingerie collection. And "Eric" probs doesn't even notice the kid since it's not someone he can f*ck.

I'm ready to start a gofund me for this kid to attend private school and regular therapy.

medusas_heiress · 2021-10-27T17:21:16+00:00

no words, just 🤮

herbivorouscarnivore · 2021-10-27T18:41:18+00:00

Admittedly, I only have one friend who is polyamorous. While she’s talked about little feelings of knee-jerk jealousy, she never sounds like this. The writer comes across like she’s afraid her husband won’t think she’s cool anymore or something.

I didn’t read the whole piece, so I wonder if she was poly before meeting him.

bombas- · 2021-10-27T21:03:12+00:00

This was too sad and disgusting to even read the whole way through.

I hope his selfishness catches up with him someday.

VanessaViews · 2021-10-27T21:15:32+00:00

"No one is dead, divorced, or even seriously injured. I count that as a win." Yeah the bar is at the center of the earth it has melted and turned into liquid.

CalliopesSong · 2021-10-27T21:45:55+00:00

I went out on a few (5x) dates with a guy who seemed like he had his life together. Red flag 1: he sends me a series of texts out of nowhere one night whining about how much he likes me but he has no read on how I feel. Felt like a drunk text, honestly. Red flag 2: When I offered to meet up w him to discuss in-person our feelings, he dropped the bomb that he believes that no one person can ever 100% fulfill the needs of his/her partner and since sex is the least important connection to him, that he would value connecting with his partner on an intellectual and emotional level more than on a sexual level. He would just find sexual fulfillment somewhere else. My gut reaction which I didn't even bother editing was, "Nope, that's not for me." and politely told him that I hope he'd get home safe when he tried to passive aggressively tell me he hoped I'd still follow back up with him but he'd understand if I wouldn't. He sent me a few texts afterward that I've ignored. At least I didn't waste too much time and emotional investment before he showed himself.

bizzybumblebee · 2021-10-27T21:05:25+00:00

it gives me the heebie jeebies knowing that i may be unknowingly working with a poly man in my profession

preppykat3 · 2021-10-27T22:51:55+00:00

This is just pathetic and repulsive. I couldn’t bring myself to read it. Is this what women settle for out of desperation and loneliness? Jfc.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-10-27T22:48:43+00:00

Which bedroom does the wife’s side piece sleep in? Oh he doesn’t live with them?! Oh okaaay…sure, you’re polygamous…sure…

MyBFtheCuck · 2021-10-27T17:36:49+00:00

This makes me so sick. There is absolutely zero reason for a guy to have more than one women - most can’t even treat one woman properly, let alone multiple. But, in my opinion, there are real reasons for a woman to have multiple men.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-10-27T23:50:17+00:00

fucking hell that was depressing to read. My brain feels like its been slimed with this women's toxic rationale.

ceta913 · 2021-10-27T20:46:58+00:00

Well that’s embarrassing.

EndMassive3398 · 2021-10-27T17:52:53+00:00

That’s insane and really sad. I don’t understand how she or anyone can think that is ok. Don’t want to understand.

In the past when women literally didn’t have a choice but to be one of many women for a man. Ok, no choice.

But you have a choice.

For me, the bar is I deserve to be fully loved by one man and I don’t “share” him with anyone else. Nothing else makes sense to me.

YesPleaseMadam · 2021-10-28T02:02:34+00:00

at this point the wife is “the other woman”. smh.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-10-28T04:31:23+00:00

No post on poly is complete without the Chris Flemming video. https://youtu.be/DTsdKycVZZ4

For real, the photo illustration for the article shows some idealized couple fucking instead of what are probably the musty-haired maggots in the real story.

daisy_0720 · 2021-10-28T07:54:27+00:00

When the venn diagram for sex pozzi liberalism and Sharia law is a full circle.

cries_in_rainbow · 2021-10-27T23:53:48+00:00

That is so sad. Poor woman!

Bbqchilifries · 2021-10-28T07:17:12+00:00

I honestly decided it was a scam after my loosely described friend got a divorce at 23 and moved in with a dude 15 years her senior who had a wife with a 12yo kid.

At first it was all kinky dory, we share each other, have fun. Then she admitted and laughed about the 12yo walking in on them having sex in the middle of the day. There was dozens of other huge red flags and it was all just plain gross. That kid is probably hopefully in therapy at this point.

A year in, the wife moves out with the kid and my "friend" gets married to the dude and gets pregnant with his kid. It was honestly the messiest shit show just from what she was describing.

My ex had a crapsack friend who had two kids and was also all about the polyamory except he was 28 having sex with a 17yo with a very difficult history of sexual abuse that made her very suicidal. Now 6 years later he "apparently" claims to regret taking advantage.

It's all gross, messy, demeaning. No one can convince me otherwise.

The_Cat_Empress · 2021-10-28T04:32:38+00:00

I will never cease to be bothered by the fact these poly relationships seem to lean more towards the man cheating on the wife. Imagine if she get so fed up, got a shred of dignity and left his ass. Better yet, have some fun beforehand and have another man give her the best sex ever. Let him get a taste of his own hubris. Don’t know many poly relationships but if any queens see one where the woman in the relationship has multiple guys, let me know.

champagnebjs · 2021-10-28T06:04:21+00:00

Wtf did I just read?!?!?!?

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-10-28T05:06:08+00:00

She's the original cuckold.

BrightIdeaGenerator · 2021-10-28T02:51:34+00:00

I could only get halfway through that. Painful.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-10-28T10:24:17+00:00

Good God. That was one of the most pathetic things I've ever read. I am ebarrassed for that woman and horrified they're raising children I'm that environment.

BigDebbie4ever · 2021-10-29T06:29:10+00:00

Dumbest shit ever

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-10-28T09:52:04+00:00

I really feel for poor innoccent Polynesian people. They get filthy DMs if they use the word Poly to describe themselves.

PicoPicoMio · 2021-10-28T18:01:59+00:00

Baby, you’re getting played. RIP to your self esteem.

Cel_Gabe · 2021-10-28T20:30:23+00:00

So why didn't she find a boyfriend to move in as well?

Chile please....🙄😑

Fun_Sherbet · 2021-10-29T05:20:41+00:00

I just started reading and this is straight up self destructive. "but mostly, I have to say, it’s working pretty well. No one is dead, divorced, or even seriously injured. I count that as a win."

No one's dead or divorced or nearly dead, go kween!!! /s

purple_pansy88 · 2021-10-28T10:35:32+00:00

This is beyond disgusting. I would march into the room with a super soaker full of ketchup and launch it at them when 'Molly' was in the middle of faking it.

RealRealGood · 2021-10-29T17:53:35+00:00

Sometimes there are tears and sharp words, but mostly, I have to say, it’s working pretty well. No one is dead, divorced, or even seriously injured. I count that as a win.

This is the saddest line to me. You shouldn't have to settle for "not dead or divorced" in your relationship. This is not a win.

beachcarbon · 2021-10-30T19:59:49+00:00

Does she really think she is winning ?

She sounds so sad. The mistress of her husband live under her roof.

Girl, it's time to wake up !

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