There seems to be this idea going around that women are doing amazingly well, and that “the bar is in hell”, and that men simply need to do better and rise up to the level of women. My argument is that this flat out isn’t true, and that women seem to have far higher standards for men than men simply sucking at life.

Having standards is fine, but for some reason they conveniently ignore that women generally don’t meet any of these standards at all. I’ve seen it here and on social media that women are more pretty than men, doing more work than men, display more “emotional intelligence” than men, that men simply hate women and are misogynistic, that men are abusers and unsafe now, you get the gist of it.

I have looked at many studies and this just doesn’t seem to be true at all.

Young women are twice as likely to be severely obese than men, and still just as obese as men (the source distinguishes severe obesity vs obesity). I really don’t buy that women are just significantly more attractive than men given this.

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db508.htm

We also frequently hear the claim that women display more “emotional intelligence”, and that they have the “mental burden of being their husbands therapist”. All evidence seems to point to the opposite. There’s this conflation between emotional intelligence, that being control and regulation of your emotions, and simply being able to express emotions. No, you are not more emotionally intelligent because you cry more.

Evidence shows that women are MORE emotional than men, and less capable of controlling it.

Women have higher neuroticism levels than men: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3149680/#sec13

They are also much more likely to have a mental illness than men:

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/statistics/men-women-statistics

I’ve also seen evidence to suggest that men are much better at handling another persons emotions than women are. Essentially, women have a tougher time with another persons emotions, especially a man’s, being shown to them. Theres less of an ability to “be a shoulder to cry on”. I haven’t read that study yet though, just heard it from Dr K (famous psychologist on YouTube, furthest thing from a red piller) so I won’t include it, just food for the thought.

Where is this perceived emotional intelligence that women display that men don’t? It appears to me that when women say this, they actually want a man that handles THEIR emotions while not showing their own.

We also hear that “women don’t care about a man’s ability to provide and protect”, and that “traditional roles are over with since women can make their own money now”. This just isn’t true either.

Both men AND women still see it as very important for men to be providers. Around 70% on average say this about men, and only 30% about women. This is in line with a common mantra women have here that “He needs to make at least the same or more than me”. This doesn’t generally exist the other way around.

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/

It’s still also extremely important for men to be willing to protect. I don’t even have a problem with this standard, but it’s bizarre to see some deny it exists. It was listed as a dealbreaker for many women here, far more so than the inverse.

https://www.psypost.org/new-psychology-research-identifies-a-simple-trait-that-has-a-huge-impact-on-attractiveness/

It’s also commonly stated that since women now work, that men need to take on their “fair share” of the household labor. No one ever considered to factor in that men tend to work more hours of paid work than women.

Most relationships have a male that’s the primary or sole breadwinner, around 55%. 31% have men as the primary breadwinner (makes significantly more money than their significant other), and 23% sole breadwinner (makes all of the money in the household). If we add the hours up and include paid work, housework, and childcare, primary breadwinners do about 3 more hours of work, and sole breadwinners about 15. This is the majority of relationships where men do more hours.

The inverse is true for female breadwinner relationships, but that constitutes only 16% of relationships, and only 6% of those are sole breadwinners which do substantially more hours.

Even in “egalitarian” relationships, about 30%, men still make more money, and women only do 1 more hour of work per week on average. It’s not clear in the study that male centered work like outdoor work (cutting grass for example) is included either.

It’s also said that men are misogynistic nowadays, and that they just hate women. This isn’t true. A recent poll came out that showed about 72% of men held a positive view of women, compared to 35% of young women.

Abuse is commonly brought up here too. I’ll remind you that most domestic violence is reciprocal, meaning both parties abuse each other. In non reciprocal DV situations, the women was the sole abuser 70% of the time. Thats right, the common trope of a battered wife beaten by her husband is actually completely inverted.

Id have a better conclusion, but this is long enough as is and I’ll let the facts speak for themselves here.