When people ask me why I suddenly only date younger guys

londochig · 2021-10-01T21:41:17+00:00

I'm currently in my 20s. My ex narc was 40 years old and the most emotionally immature and irresponsible man I've ever met. Before that in my pick me days I dated men of varying age ranges. The older ones (40+) were more perverted, vile and immature than men in their 20s. Also 22 year olds were much better in bed than 40 year old men. And Men 35 up have been the absolute worst in bed and most selfish in bed. It blew my mind. I bought into the misconception that older men are better in bed and more mature. It's the opposite. They just become more vile scrotes than they were in their 20s.

Aocwannabe · 2021-10-01T20:08:27+00:00

I’m with you. “Older men are more mature.” Issa scam. Up there with 50/50 and “casual” sex.

cakewalkofshame · 2021-10-01T19:33:12+00:00

Oh wow this just gave me a realization. 35-year-old men think it's ok to date 17-year-old girls just because they have not mentally grown at all since that age.

darkhorse8419 · 2021-10-02T01:56:07+00:00

It’s weird but I’m 37 and the men in their twenties are so much nicer and respectful. I don’t even care if it’s fake, it’s like they have something to prove.

throwaway-fds · 2021-10-01T19:04:48+00:00

How old are you and what age range are you aiming for now?

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2021-10-01T23:18:07+00:00

My mom who is 49 (she is married) told me men's bullshit don't stop with age. My stepdad join the conversation and says no it doesn't daughter. So let me tell you what 25 or 55 men are full of shit, as a older HVM he will surely tell you it's true.

windowseat4life · 2021-10-02T01:10:36+00:00

I agree 100% Also, younger men tend to be more open-minded to learning new cultures (not racist), want to travel (not stay living in the same small boring town), try new activities..... LIVE LIFE.

Older men are washed up, close-minded, stuck in their boring routine, didn't take care of themselves physically, misogynistic, etc etc. The list can go on forever.

And yes, if I would have to deal with the BS either way then I'm 100% going with the younger man who looks better & has more stamina ;)

TheHayleStorm204 · 2021-10-01T22:00:54+00:00

I’m 30. My bf of a year is 27. He’s far more mature than my ex who was 38 and he’s better looking. Age doesn’t mean shit when it comes to maturity. I prefer my younger man who is both pretty and eager to please, thank you very much.

Edit: misspelled a word

katiekat0214 · 2021-10-01T19:28:27+00:00

Recovering older man fancier here, but these days, since I'm an older woman, just no, never again. I've never dated anyone younger, so this would be new territory for me. But yeah, I agree, looks are a plus, as is wanting to impress me, looking up to me for my wisdom and maturity. Sounds awesome. Now to find a date! HA!

lansburysoda · 2021-10-01T19:07:44+00:00

If I’m statistically likely to be the breadwinner then I don’t need to compromise when it comes to anything 🤷‍♀️ most men certainly don’t

Pryras · 2021-10-01T19:07:51+00:00

I tried dating a neurosurgeon but I was so off put by how immature he was. You’d think a man in his late 30s wouldn’t text like a teenager but oh lord you’d be wrong lmao.

povofme · 2021-10-02T01:10:39+00:00

I’ve always liked guys my age or younger, I don’t get the old man craze. Younger guys are way more cute and they don’t try to manipulate you as much, old guys have practice manipulating women lol. Just depends on the individual though.

dembar126 · 2021-10-01T20:14:24+00:00

I dated a younger man (21 year old) and whilst it didn't work out long term, at least I never had to worry about him not being able to get it up.

The last guy I attempted to date was an older guy (31) and the difference in emotional maturity was negligible, but the difference in dick function.. astronomical. An extra decade of porn use did him no favors.

I dunno, if 99% of men are low value anyway I'd rather at least have functional penis and something nice to look at.

catlady4u · 2021-10-01T19:29:44+00:00

I'm in my 50s and the dating pool in my age range is so disappointing. I'd date someone younger, but not too much younger.

WorkaholicParty · 2021-10-01T18:56:42+00:00

I dated two guys who were both a bit youger than me (I'm in my 20s) and what I can say is they often try to act more mature as well, it's cute 😂

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-10-02T00:08:10+00:00

This thread is so awesome. Seeing the FDS community flutter in delight is my jam

PinkBlair99 · 2021-10-02T02:29:24+00:00

I’m 42 and I agree. I’m consistently attracted to guys who seem maybe a little younger than me, and they turn out to be 28. Oh, well.

MissouriBlue · 2021-10-01T22:21:39+00:00

I’ve pretty consistently dated a decade younger than me. Since I was 30, I’ve only had one guy older than me and he was only +5.

Now at 55, I’m eyeballing the 40-year olds. LOL!

I like them trim and healthy, so that really has reduced the selection pool for the 40-year old men. 😒

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-10-02T00:04:24+00:00

Praise the lawd for sweet, well raised handsome young men.

If I need male company - this is the only demographic I dip into.

Before anyone gets into my private realm - they are vetted.

Yes - there are sweet, gorgeous introverted men with good manners and beautiful cocks out there.

Further as an older woman <early forties> I have noticed younger men literally trip over themselves around me if I know how to cast the right spell.

As a woman - we can turn our powers on and off - at our discretion.

We can literally have anything we want - whenever we want*.

*and this is why scrotes are mad

miwamus · 2021-10-01T19:02:55+00:00

I came to the same realization after I went on a date with a 55 year old man. It was like going on a date with a 25 year old man. Now I date around my own age and down. I did before, too. It just solidified it. Actually, it solidified that it's about character and I want great character AND LOOKS.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-10-02T09:11:41+00:00

There’s a “cougars and cubs” subreddit that I enjoy a lot and you’ll all be pleased to know that there’s far far more younger men who want older women than older women who want younger men on that sub.

I’m a huge fan of choosing your audience as a woman. Go where you’ll be worshipped and not where you’ll be nitpicked and treated like crap.

FreeProgress499 · 2021-10-02T00:14:17+00:00

I’ve always dated younger, but only by 3-5 years. I just found more in common and better connections with younger men. Older guys don’t have as much energy as I do and, to be honest, they’re generally pretty boring, just wanting to sit around all day, while I’d rather be out hiking and exploring.

The guy I’m currently dating is 38 and I’m 47. I found this site right around the same time we started dating and he’s ticking way more boxes than anyone I’ve dated previously.

I was a bit nervous about the age difference at first, but quickly realized that if the genders were reversed, no one would even bat an eye. Then I found this site and it reinforced my “why not go for it” thinking! Welcome to 2021, indeed!

TriggeredQuilt · 2021-10-02T02:14:46+00:00

My partner is 3 years younger than me, more mature, attentive, caring and takes genuine interest in my interests. What’s important to me is also important to him. So many green flags! Hand down the best person I have ever been with.

apple_cores · 2021-10-01T21:46:27+00:00

I’ve dated older and younger and both sides have the same amount of fuck boys and foolishness. Some of my friends refuse to date a man the same age as them, let alone younger, because they believe the younger men are immature and not in the same life stage as them. They aren’t wrong - but some of their older boyfriends are just as bad if not worse than the younger men. But I agree, same life stage and goals is important.

Of course, I don’t blame women in their 20s not wanting to date younger or much younger. I currently date in the 4-5 years younger/older than me age range and I’m in my 30s.

Painfulmenstruation · 2021-10-01T18:26:29+00:00

Tell me more.

randomgirl34861 · 2021-10-02T03:46:38+00:00

I feel like most younger men are at least pretending to be mature. Most single order men have totally embraced the fact that they are man babies 🤢 I’d love a cute bald baby… but not like that

WestAtmosphere · 2021-10-02T03:44:31+00:00

Tbh now that I think about it a lot of the women in my extended family have married men younger than them.

PixiesGem · 2021-10-01T20:40:18+00:00

I am 42. My boyfriend is 29. People don't know we have an age difference. Younger guys tend to try so much harder. Maybe they know we are older and won't put up with normal male bs.

trupru · 2021-10-01T23:24:04+00:00

The older they are, the more practice they’ve had at being scrotes!

preppykat3 · 2021-10-01T18:54:39+00:00

Love seeing this. I just wish they made more 😒

ironglaciers · 2021-10-01T20:49:34+00:00

I have only truly had relationships with older men (2 years and 8 years apart from me) and now I am ready to find that in younger men. As long as they are at least out of college I am down. (I'm 33.)

Novemberinthechair · 2021-10-01T22:27:37+00:00

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EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-10-02T03:02:37+00:00

I was Literally saying this exactly just the other day! Ive dated older / younger and same age- and honestly the younger ones have been more progressive, older guys (late 30s 40s) have more cultural misogyny ingrained and are possibly more porn and video game addicted because they have owned every single game console that has ever existed and have been the worst effected by graphic pornography at early development, seeing as they were there at the dawn of the internet when it was the wild west and parents had zero idea what there 10 yos we're watching. Its honestly like a broken and useless generation of men. To be clear the youngest ive dated is 7 years below my age (they were 25), and even then I got SO much "joking" about being a "Cougar". It never stops either I have been categorised as "into the young ones" etc Also though most men are garbage and even younger men fetishise older women as some kind of novelty or achievement to bang. But yes men in there 20s are way hotter/ fitter/ have hair/ nice teeth. And by the time they are 30s they are balding/ beer gut/ stained teeth, bad taste in fashion, entitlement is higher than ever.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-10-01T23:04:26+00:00

If I had to choose 5 years older or younger guy, I'd go for younger.

notallowed2havepizza · 2021-10-02T06:31:45+00:00

It’s true younger men aren’t any less mature than older men. I’ve enjoyed my experiences with dating younger men. It didn’t even feel like they were younger than me. It felt like they were my equal. Go ahead and date them, ladies!

Astral_weaver · 2021-10-02T14:34:31+00:00

At last someone said it the way it is.

I'm done with dating men older than me. I only date younger men, and I will die on this rock. Why bother putting up with musty scrotes when I'm 30 and I still look like I'm in my early 20's?

Vermicellipickle · 2021-10-01T21:02:17+00:00

I've dated younger and older and observed a difference. Some don't want to mature, learn about themselves or others and they'll be the same throughout their lives, sure. But finding an emotionally intelligent man under 30? Slim chance.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-10-02T00:05:48+00:00

I've dated older and younger...there is no general rule. Both can be mature or immature. It's down to the individual. Both can be broke or wealthy. Both can be scrotes or HV. Beware older men if you're under 30 or naive. An older man has to be super high value for me to consider him, as I dont want to be a carer late in life (he'd need to pay for that himself).

There is no simple rule other than vet, vet, vet.

xfelugirlx · 2021-10-02T02:56:17+00:00

I used to think that they were more mature so i always went 2-10 years older and it’s truth, my last ex was 2 years older than me and is the worst narc clown ever, so inmature. Now i will go my age

FUBARfromLSA · 2021-10-02T10:55:35+00:00

Yup. Signed a 57 year old woman.

Ok_Passenger_5717 · 2021-10-02T12:22:36+00:00

Yeah, also young twenty something guys can get it up many times. Why be with some one who thinks one time per week is fine and plenty?

oneheadlight312 · 2021-10-01T21:47:49+00:00

I like 80s pop culture and stuff If I date younger guys its hard to relate to them. Plus quite a few of them think we should go Dutch on dates, or split bills if we ever got serious and lived together, etc. They also often think us middle aged women will jump at the chance to be their bang maids and moms because they think women hit a wall at a certain age. Byye. At any age range you're just gonna have a hard time. I like older men about 5-10 years older and they're mostly emotionally stunted idiots too. Pick your poison i guess. Lol

miaumiaoumicheese · 2021-10-01T19:07:10+00:00

Once I dated a guy and I can’t even tell how old was he cause I might get banned but this is something I will remember as surprisingly good experience (despite I didn’t wanted this relation to last) because he was so respectful that I haven’t experienced before, it showed me that being well behaved decent human being is just something you are or not so being with someone older who still has the “little kid learning how to be a normal human” mindset is a nonsense

LR_today · 2021-10-01T19:43:27+00:00

I like younger guys but under 35 they are all stupid fuckbois that grew up 100% in hookup culture with no intention of ever committing. I have yet to talk to someone under 35 who isn't completely focused on his dick and a complete waste of oxygen.

2021-10-02T08:04:06+00:00

Also, sperm is very cheap and easy to get, nowhere near as precious as an egg and 9 months of pregnancy, so if you want kids might as well get sperm before it starts to deteriorate. 18-30 is an ideal age for that. They won't even let men over the age of 34 donate sperm.

galian84 · 2021-10-03T17:13:16+00:00

I’m 37 and I 100% agree with you 🥰

I had two exes who were younger by -1 and -5, and older with +4 and +19 🤢I also dabbled with OLD and went on dates with men both younger and older. I used to only date older and never understood when my mom kept saying “the younger the better, as long as they’re legal! They’ll treat you better”

I really saw no difference in maturity levels. At least the younger ones made more of an effort to impress me, AND they were better looking. Mostly in shape and still had all their hair. The older ones were more likely to be bitter, aged fuckbois who have had more practice manipulating and using women.

So yeah, since 99% of men are N/LVM scrotes, I’d rather go for younger ones who have better looks, stamina, and (mostly) working dicks. Even more so now that I’m not currently looking to be in a relationship.

normabelka2 · 2021-10-04T20:06:02+00:00

Younger guys have more stamina. I tell this to everyone without any shame

Defiant-Wonder-4480 · 2022-08-29T16:33:37+00:00

Young men are broke though, and it's super rare to find a younger man in his 20s who wants a serious relationship with an older women, most of them just want a ONS to fulfil their porn fantasy and then move on.

her-vagesty · 2021-10-02T07:26:49+00:00

I'll only date 1 year younger or 5 years older. I have zero interest in anyone too young, as they look like children to me, or anyone older as they just look like dirty old men.

skyfullofstars89 · 2021-10-04T07:37:50+00:00

I started my first job waitressing at my local pub (in England). I had turned sixteen a few months before. A few other girls who worked with my were still fifteen.

The worst sexual harassment we got was from the regulars in their 40s+. Married with kids too. The things they said to us made my hair curl, they were utterly revolting. Mostly revolving around the age of consent being sixteen.

They would slag off their wives, perve over teenaged girls, and I saw a few of them out clubbing every weekend. Just sad.

The younger lads who were in their 20s were no problem, they treated us with more respect, and never made me feel uncomfortable or threatened.

OP, is right. They are childish and immature at all ages, so at least give yourself something pretty to look at.

Title	When people ask me why I suddenly only date younger guys
Author	casuallyuninterested
Upvotes	1192
Comments	119
Date	October 1, 2021 6:23 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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