As a man are low body counts attractive to you?

recyclablebanthas · 2021-07-17T03:15:14+00:00

What’s a body count that would make you say “yeah no” or would make you less likely to take a woman seriously?

What you posted is the equivalent of an opinion poll.

There's no answer that applies to all men.

100BlackKids · 2021-06-25T13:05:45+00:00

Gonna be honest, I thought you meant how many people you murdered

Sino-9 · 2021-06-25T08:37:48+00:00

I personally don’t care how high the count is. What I do care though, is how that count got that high. If it were done while she were in her “hoe phase” when single, so be it. But if it were sinisterly racked up, big no for me.

I know gorgeous women who have body counts > 20. Great, but some of them cheated with multiple men in their relationships. So for me it’s not about the number, but their moral standards. I have trust issues because of these women lmao

GotThaAcid5tab · 2021-06-25T12:37:13+00:00

I prefer a low number personally

its_whot_it_is · 2021-06-25T09:26:41+00:00

Assuming you are a woman, and you're asking because you're self conscious about sharing your number if the question ever comes up.

you wouldn't be asking this question if you're over 30
you're asking this question because you're worried that you may come across as a slut
you found a partner that you believe is the one, but you've tasted flavors, and the guy you're with hasn't and that makes him feel inadequate.
a) if that is the type of guy you like, it's really important to understand that you will be pulling the weight to make him feel secure. What I mean by that is it will be your daily routine to give him validation.

Now ask yourself what is it that you want. And reflect on what your opinion means to you rather than some others. Coming from a guy, over 30, a woman's body count isn't my biggest concern, it's her honesty and genuineness. If I think I won your heart, and you turn out to be one of those who goes for the easiest win, then you're not a woman for me no matter what your body count is, whether its high or low.

Sunlitstream264 · 2021-06-25T06:33:00+00:00

Personally I save for marriage and I’d appreciate a partner that does the same but a low body count is also attractive since each partner was likely someone they were in a relationship and that’s a good sign for me

djalekks · 2021-06-25T11:34:53+00:00

There's no lower or upper limit, if I'm hooked I'm hooked

Crowcorrector · 2021-06-25T08:16:30+00:00

High body counts for dating = irrelevant

High body counts for a serious relationship = unattractive

sthlmdoe-Z · 2021-06-25T13:19:14+00:00

Shadow__Account · 2021-06-25T08:03:18+00:00

The more experienced I get the more I appreciate a woman that’s in touch with her sexuality and knows what she wants and is very sexual and those usually have a higher body count, when I was young I was feeling that whole insecure comparing myself to other guys thing with women so a high body count made me uncomfortable because more material to compare me with I guess, now I don’t care as much what someone would think of me and I care more about my own experience so I think a higher body count could be positive to me, obviously not if a women has some emotional Problems and is sleeping with everybody for validation or whatever.

ILLstatic23 · 2021-06-25T13:29:15+00:00

As a man :

Causal partner = prefer a higher body count.

LTR = prefer low to medium body count.

I’ve slept with many woman, and from experience the ladies who are more casual in their promiscuity are not ones I’d choose to marry.

Fun girls though.

bully_goobers · 2021-06-25T08:47:08+00:00

Double digits are pretty unattractive to me. Edit: just to clarify, I'd still bang a girl who had a lot of sex partners, a relationship is the part that becomes an unattractive option to me

Alex123_UK · 2021-06-25T11:10:25+00:00

Women lie about their body count because they know they are judged for having a high count. Take anything they tell you with a pinch of salt.

timbabwe3 · 2021-06-25T05:35:04+00:00

Too high says to me that they have the "I can get anybody I want" mentality. Meaning if they're not willing to put in any effort (dating/relationship) then Im not going to waste my time even looking at them.

Me personally I prefer to do alot with one or few people vs do little with alot of people

And for others numbers don't matter

Shut-the-fuck-up- · 2021-06-25T11:13:53+00:00

Guy here (27) My body count is 15.

I'm currently dating a virgin (27F).

It is irrelevant to me. I want to settle down and she is everything I want in a partner. We are great together and show no signs of stopping. We both want the same things in life and yeah, it's great.

So it's totally up the individual in my opinion.

Neat_Current7411 · 2021-06-25T13:47:59+00:00

I am a virgin and I would like to have a virgin gf/wife

Reverse_xd_ontwitch · 2021-06-25T09:18:26+00:00

My POV (a 20yo straight guy)

A yeah no body count for me would be over 10 if im looking for a relationship (so girls from 18 to 20). It's also a personall red flag for me since i've been in 3 really short relationships with girls with high body counts and it always ended up with me getting either ghosted or cheated on.

If you have a low body count i wont view you in any different way. I guess some people also like low body counts since it shows that you aren't having sex with anyone that gives you the chance. Basically showing maturity

Preoximerianas · 2021-06-25T11:59:19+00:00

Honestly, I don’t care if the girl has a high body count if all the relationship amounts to is something very casual. But for a long term relationship I would prefer if the girl had a low body count.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2021-06-25T07:15:26+00:00

If a woman sleeps around with a lot of men. Men become easily replaceable by her. If I invest in her wife her at some point she's going to get that itch to have sex with another man. Be it cheating or breaking up doesn't really matter. So... that's a risk if I just made kids with her and she gets this itch. That means that she'll break up the family we're creating and I'm at the mercy of the law in how much resources a reroute towards her.

While a woman who has very low notch count is more likely to be very loyal and more suitable for anything long term.

Here's an article about the research done in this field. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability

Ierax29 · 2021-06-25T09:08:46+00:00

I probably shouldn't say it but fuck it, we're on the internet.

A low body count would be quite a plus for a LTR (probably she has had other long relationship or at least she's relationship-focused)

A high body count would kinda make me reconsider a LTR but she'd probably make for a good ONS/FBW (less likely to play games)

LolaBijou · 2021-06-25T12:06:11+00:00

Couldn’t care less unless keep adding numbers while in a relationship.

-Twyptophan- · 2021-06-25T20:14:56+00:00

As long as there's no STD, I'd prefer higher because I'd want someone with experience.

Obviously, if the higher number is due to cheating on many monogamous partners, then I wouldn't want to date them. But I think it's a dumb double standard that guys can have lots of partners and be cool whereas it's bad for women to have a lot. There's no objective basis behind it

2021-06-25T15:47:08+00:00

Well I generally like it when not many people are killed so there aren’t many bodies to count. It just screws up my day when the body count is high. And who can stand the smell?

NOSjoker21 · 2021-06-25T06:00:46+00:00

Absolutely not.

As long as you're healthy, I'd prefer a girl who knows what she's doing.

shitepool666 · 2021-06-25T10:57:33+00:00

When I was a younger man, in my late teens and very early 20s, I had little experience with women; I was a virgin and dealt with a lot of social anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. So I started partying a lot and trying to have sex with a lot of women. Within 2 years my body count went from 1 to like 30+.

My mentality was, “well if these women will have sax with me I must not be a loser after all, right?” Wrong. I was seeking out sex for validation. I thought it would make me feel whole and I thought people would like me more if I had a lot of sex. Of course this was terribly wrong and I realize that now that I’m older.

But the same thing often happens to women. They’re young, they’re stupid, and they want validation. They feel depressed and insecure so they have sex with guys thinking that the guys will love them or that they’ll feel better about themselves if they’re wanted.

I don’t really believe body count is an important number. We’re all human and we all have issues in one way or another. What matters is how the person is when you meet them, not what they’ve done before you.

I don’t look at a high body count as a turn off, specifically because I have one and I know that shit isn’t always sweet and gravy. I don’t think it’s right to judge people in this case.

Guys go around saying they’d never date a slut or a girl who used to party and fuck a lot of other men, but those same dudes would probably delight in sleeping around with more beautiful women if they could, or don’t really have much experience with women in general.

There is so much more to determine wether or not somebody is a trustworthy and suitable partner.

Ilovethaiicedtea · 2021-06-25T07:05:07+00:00

Double digits = ain't it for me

dragon_loyalty · 2021-06-25T05:27:46+00:00

I couldn't care less

WindJammer27 · 2021-06-25T10:20:56+00:00

For me the higher the better. I'd even be down with triple digits.

I have a high partner count myself, so I can't be judgmental against any women who also have a high count.

More than that though, I married a woman who had a low count and was inexperienced overall. We had a lot of sex at the time so I thought that was fine. But as we got older, had kids, and life got more hectic, her priorities shifted and sex went way down on her list. Probably at the bottom. It wasn't a matter of seducing her or putting her in the mood or whatever, she just didn't care about sex. The 30 minutes she might spend having sex would be better spent browsing Twitter. By the time we separated we hadn't had sex in years.

With the women I've met who had high partner counts, it usually indicated a higher than average libido, an interest in kink, or a level of comfort with her own sexuality that she was able to have sex with a lot of men and not care about the partner count number.

Of course none of this is set in stone. I'm sure there are women with low partner counts who have sky high libidos, and women with high partner counts who would end up stone cold in the bedroom. I'm just saying I'd never count a woman out no matter how high her number is, and based on my experiences, it's the ones with the higher number who have a better chance of making for a long-lasting satisfying sex partner.

UniqueAway · 2021-06-25T12:18:18+00:00

I think different than everyone because I feel like if the girl was in love with a single guy only for example then that is worse because she loved someone for years, I would be jealous like that would make my love less meaningful. You know there was a single guy but a powerful love so it all feels meaningless because she kissed another guy and felt same before. On the other hand, if she had flings with multiple guys when she was young because of attraction then that's better because there wasn't such a strong connection like we have now. What do you all think?

ThatGuy_Nick9 · 2021-06-25T18:28:27+00:00

I just care whether she is mentally ready to focus on me and has a decent portfolio of decent lays in her past. I’m not wasting time with someone who was giving theirselves to sleezy people or someone who is just fucking me to piss their ex off

appbummer · 2021-06-25T10:19:37+00:00

29M I actually prefer a girl with a higher body count. It proves to me that she’s confident with and in tune with her body, sex will probably be much better and she’s more open minded, and it shows that she doesn’t care about social conditioned Disney princes expectation. She’s probably more easy going and down to earth and understands that sex is just that, sex, and that it’s natural and that it’s not a big deal to have a lot of it and in fact, having lots of it is healthy for you.

RegretsNothing1 · 2021-06-25T12:19:46+00:00

I've dated both types. One that had maybe 3 partners, and others with 30 plus.

The ones with lower partners were significantly more grounded and less toxic.

It's a known fact for both genders that there is an emotional price to pay when you sleep around a lot. I stopped sleeping around before It got worse for me. But I already have mental issues.

For those that disagree likely don't fuck a lot.

xxshidoshi · 2021-06-25T10:11:16+00:00

To the guys saying less then double digits, how many have you slept with? And if you slept with say 30 women in your whole lifetime before settling down, and she had 23 would that still be a red flag for you?

Just genuinely curious on answers.

JaikishanB · 2021-06-25T11:22:11+00:00

Doesn’t matter because no girl’s gonna reveal her exact body count (maybe because of the fear of getting judged or being called a sket).

Revolutionary_Wind_8 · 2021-06-25T15:02:40+00:00

Yeah. Definitely.

Spikempv · 2021-06-25T10:02:56+00:00

Just being real, I find it hard to picture settling down with a girl with a high body count…if I found out that my girlfriend had a wild sexual past it would break my heart and make me feel sick

Shrodi13 · 2021-06-25T12:05:49+00:00

I have kinda a weird view point on this, but here it goes. A huge body count turns me off not because of the amount of men, but the kind of person this potential partner could be. Lets say I meet someone, who is my age (25) and has slept with 200 people. Let's assume she is sexually active since 15. That amounts to (on average) 20 partners a year. The fuck are you doing with your life ??? Don't you have school, work , a hobby, training etc to do ?Is it really only sex for you? I adore sex , I can't live without it but come on, changing two partners a month every month sounds incredibly draining.
Otherwise, if it isn't such an extreme case like the one mentioned above , I really don't care about the body count. For reference: my current gf has had 3 times more partners than me (I am in the single digit area) and I simply adore her. She fucks like a goddess and I know that comes only with experience. My previous gf was a virgin and left me scared for life due to her numerous issues. She also hooked up with the guy she was chatting with , shortly before we broke up. Having a virgin gf doesn't necessarily mean she won't cheat.

Edit: I have the same opinion about men with enormous body counts, I don't consider it healthy and I definitely don't consider them 'legends' . A very close friend of mine used to be a Hugh Heffner level fuck boy and he ruined his internship at a bank because of that ( fucked and almost got a female colleague pregnant , she returned the favor by making his stay there very unpleasant) and had immense issues with women due to the fact he couldn't be loyal to one. I talked with him a lot and he abandoned that self-destructive behavior.

Alpha-Charlie-Romeo · 2021-06-25T09:38:05+00:00

It doesn't phase me at all. However I've noticed a trend that women who have lower body counts tend to have a lot more respect from themselves and get more respect from me.

This isn't directly caused by their body count, but their attitude and personality. Like I've met women with high body counts that have had a lot of self-respect and visa versa. It's just a trend that people with lower body counts happen to have traits that make me respect them more.

What I deem as having respect for themselves and me is all about how they carry themselves. Do they look after their health? Do they have standards? Are their standards materialistic or shallow? Are they easily led by emotions? That kind of thing.

Ultimately though, the body count itself doesn't matter. I don't care about it at all. It's something that just isn't important to me. As long as I'm physically attracted to her and I deem her to not be a complete imbecile, then the only thing that can screw it up is mine or her actions after that point. Not what happened before we met.

SithLordJediMaster · 2021-06-25T13:30:02+00:00

Yes

having no body count is the most attractive to me

ViberArmani · 2021-06-25T14:17:10+00:00

if a girl or woman has a high body count she will be less attractive and of less value in my view. besides the possibility of the thang being loose/not as enjoyable and I don't wanna be the guy to eat what other man have spit out, wife you up.

I am also looking at it like so many guys ran through you and they didn't want anything long term with you so you might have some issues which I don't wanna deal with. there is also diseases.

if you had been opening your legs to anybody that shit isn't attractive. it doesn't matter if it was a hoe phase. a hose phase is not really an excuse; every person has a responsibility to respect their body. I also see it as that you have no self control or you are not in control of your own body and you just let anybody play with it.

I am just not going to be the +20th or +100th guy in your list and actually be happy about it. also I just don't trust women with high body numbers...chances are you miss that lifestyle.

I want a woman with a body count that is as low as possible. if I am lucky 0/zero but anything between 1 and 5 is acceptable. I also value personality so you should have that too.

also ladies, DO NOT LIE about your body counts - don't trick men into thinking you were a "good girl" because if they find out you were the opposite, it is over. We men value and appreciate honesty, even though we might leave afterwards. there are still men who will accept you with your high body counts like some of the men with the top comments.

I know some of you will be mad at my comment. this is just my opinion so don't take it personal ladies.

Western-Bite1759 · 2021-06-25T16:13:24+00:00

Low body count is attractive imo. It means she is selective.

prncssbbygrl · 2021-06-25T19:51:53+00:00

I think "body count" is a really toxic and immature concept. Like do we all need to start tallying up our sexual partners to prove to our S.O. that we aren't sluts? Or maybe we can just sleep with whoever we want and if someone judges us for it we tell them to take a hike.... I think I will exist in the latter category.

toiletpaperaddict · 2021-06-25T09:29:39+00:00

I have a body count of <5 so if she tells me she has 10 or more it's kind of a turnoff - I can't help it.

btrpb · 2021-06-25T09:15:43+00:00

I would never LTR a woman above 8. No issues with FWB etc.

CountryJeff · 2021-06-25T11:32:08+00:00

If she had more sexpartners than she is years old, I find that a turnoff.

2021-06-25T08:35:38+00:00

If it's an FWB, I couldn't care less but for serious long term relationships I would prefer upto 10, above 30 is a dealbreaker

DonSpiro92 · 2021-06-25T09:38:20+00:00

Maybe not the body count it's self is important but how you choose your partners.

sixeco · 2021-06-25T15:28:11+00:00

A high one is intimidating

But I think in general it depends on your body count as well in relation

Mob_Rules1994 · 2021-06-25T16:19:22+00:00

Grain of salt. Everyone has an opportunity to fudge on the numbers

ThatKipplaufFanatic · 2021-06-25T16:50:56+00:00

To me they are.

ElfLordYTReal · 2021-06-25T17:44:12+00:00

Yeah they are. I dont want a girl who can dump me in a river and not get caught.

Geodude07 · 2021-06-25T18:54:55+00:00

As an honest answer, and not one that I want to hide or try to appease people with.

It's unattractive if you have a huge count for anything serious. For casual fun? Then a high count means you like that and know what you're doing.

For serious relationships it shows you don't really naturally like commitment. I wouldn't feel safe with a total virgin either, as they might get wild because they never experimented.

To me it's about sensible risks. A woman who likes to sleep around feels like she might only be into me after her huge count because she wants to settle down. Which makes me the guy she 'settles for'. Which I hate as a concept.

Does that mean I think sex is bad? Nope. I think they got the count is important. Of course there is a point where the count just sort of shows what they value.

stiffunderstanding · 2021-06-25T19:53:36+00:00

I think most men expect most women to not be truthful about the total number. Additionally, if the man likes any one pornstar then he should not care

rSCDE · 2021-06-25T20:38:38+00:00

For me personaly i don´t give a f*ck.

Everyone can have as much intimacy as they want.

The only thing that matters is if a person cheated or hurt someone intended with his or her intimacy how every that looks like.

tropius5 · 2021-06-25T20:55:33+00:00

My last girl had over 100, I didn't judge based on body counts, people can get into a funk and downward spiral, what's important is who you are today.

russianwidow18 · 2021-06-26T00:34:04+00:00

In all honesty. Yes! I am a woman with a body count of 2 (one man, one woman) I tend to like men with lower body counts. Too high of a body count makes me think they may have a sex addiction, will cheat or has an STD/STI

KingJoia · 2021-06-26T03:46:53+00:00

I prefer a low body count. I can be a sign that she takes relationships seriously

RivalWec · 2021-06-26T07:39:52+00:00

Truth pill.

Every dude is different. Some care, some don’t. But if you ride the dick carousel too long, you’ll be in your 30s wondering why there aren’t any good men. You’ll probably then google it and find tons of blogs from other women in the same situation claiming to be so happy. So happy they have to write about how they totally aren’t sad and depressed about all the men they want going after younger attractive women.

great_account · 2021-06-25T09:34:47+00:00

I think higher body counts are more attractive for casual sex. Lower body counts are more attractive for long term relationships.

However, everyone lies about their body count and I wouldn't take anyone at their word with regards to body count.

pokemonpokemonmario · 2021-06-25T10:28:06+00:00

Rather a high number than a low one as I prefer an experienced partner but an excessive number at a young age like say she's 20 and has slept with 500 different people then yeah that's a red flag.

2021-06-25T08:04:23+00:00

I mean, unless is something exaggerated body counts don't really matter to me. They did in the past, when I was less confident in myself and I didn't like myself much. Now I'm happy with myself and I would not compare myself with anyone, so the body count doesn't matter.

intensely_human · 2021-06-25T15:14:37+00:00

Yes. At least with the idea of a virgin, it’s physically attractive to me. I don’t like the thought of another man’s body smeared all over the woman I’m with.

But I don’t try to seek it out and I don’t ask. I just don’t think about it at all. I’d prefer if she didn’t talk about it.

But generally speaking yes. I don’t like the thought of other men all over my woman. It’s significantly less threatening if I somehow know I’m better than them. Like if she got laid a few times and it was meh and then she met me and it’s the best sex she’s ever had, then the other guys don’t bother me.

But if she’s got dudes in her past that fucked her in some amazing way, that I can’t fuck her, yeah that’s no fun for me.

TL;DR: as long as the other dudes were ugly or had tiny dicks or something, I’ve got no problem with it

2021-06-25T15:54:34+00:00

Anything above 3 for me. Before anyone attacks me, there’s thousands of girls with that body count. Relationships are healthier with a partner that has a low body count.

2021-06-25T06:51:21+00:00

I love a girl that fucks.

Sultan-Lannister · 2021-06-25T08:39:05+00:00

Having a high body is unattractive for me. I keep mine low, and would want to be with a person with whom I share the same views regarding sex.

As for what’s a body count that makes me say no? I’d say one that is considerably higher than the number of relationship she had. For example, say by her mid 20s she had been in 5 relationships, but her body count is like 13.

I’m really concerned about STDs and emotional stress that comes with relationships and sex, so if I see that the she does not worry as I do about them I cannot be at ease with her.

Honest answer, no idealism.

DanChed · 2021-06-25T10:49:49+00:00

I don't ask

TheSunshineMan · 2021-06-25T16:43:48+00:00

Yes of course - lower the better in every case.

For flings/FWB - it really doesn't matter though.

For LTR - no way I'd want one that had a high body count.

Zahmbomb1337 · 2021-06-25T06:13:11+00:00

Oh boy, casual sex no problem, relationships iffy.

Even though I'm (33m) simping for my best friend/roommate (35f) who is also an escort/sugar baby. I can't even imagine the body count. Like last year she probably slept with more people than I have my whole life. I love her though.

frangry1 · 2021-06-25T10:13:55+00:00

Honestly who gives a crap about body count. Never a priority for me and I never ask. Only thing I care about is that there is no new after we have become exclusive.

Edit: plus asking for a body count number is stupid high school shit.

Teamtoast · 2021-06-25T09:38:16+00:00

If you ask them their body count, then you’re insecure

qwerty745896 · 2021-06-25T08:20:36+00:00

No not necessarily I love experienced woman

qwertyified · 2021-06-25T11:08:05+00:00

Yup a high number (double digits plus) is a major turn off

PurpleLightningart · 2021-06-25T06:47:38+00:00

No, I could care less and when someone tells me that they do, I think that they’re naive , because any attractive woman 25 and up would have had a decent amount of past partners already

Cyrus_the_Great98 · 2021-06-25T10:57:06+00:00

I'll only deal with high body counts if they were in a relationship. Means you actually give a shit about the people you fuck and you want to give them something you haven't given some random guy on the street.

therealpurndaddy · 2021-06-25T11:19:19+00:00

It doesn’t really bother me. I’m the one to not talk about past relationships or hookups. It would be different if they constantly wanted to talk about it or brag about it but if you have 100+ bodies, fuck if I care?

paperfairy · 2021-06-25T13:12:28+00:00

I don't care about your body count.

GrandRub · 2021-06-25T14:28:21+00:00

"low" as in 0-1 is kinda iffy ... cause women that like sex... tend to have sex....

ScalpelLifter · 2021-06-25T15:14:08+00:00

Yes. Anyone who says no isn't being truthful tbh. It wouldn't be a deal-breaker but I'd prefer it low for someone I want to marry. But for anything else it's not a big deal

2021-06-25T15:19:42+00:00

Not important. It doesn't matter if she's a virgin or if she's been in bed with 100 guys.

Siyuen_Tea · 2021-06-25T15:27:50+00:00

Body counts are a concern for people with insecurities. Which is most people. Alot of people would say it doesn't matter but say the wrong thing and suddenly it will.

Think of it like meeting a celebrity. Most people will concede they're just a regular person but if they met them, there excitement would say otherwise. More so, if you say you had sex with a celebrity a person may be insecure because they glorify there importance, even if to you they were a regular person.

Wallstreetnword · 2021-06-25T15:52:56+00:00

YES ABSOLUTELY low body counts are Very attractive. But mostly I just don’t want to know anyone she’s been with before me

2021-06-25T16:51:08+00:00

A woman who’s slept with a lot of guys in relationships is fine.

A woman who slept with a lot of hot guys at parties based on superficial reasons and drinking is not attractive and makes me question what sex means to them.

I’m a guy but every woman I’ve slept with I intended for it to be a FWB thing or at least someone I could see from time to time if I wasn’t dating anyone. Some of these panned out to be one night stands but at least in my mind I’m not into doing it once with someone and never seeing them again. I guess finding out how the person is can turn you off of building a relationship with said person though.

I’ve slept with around 12 women. Wish I was in a long term relationship or even married with kids at 31 now but I am not for various reasons. If a woman had slept with 20 or more men I find that unattractive. I’d really prefer a attractive girl with a low body count and preferably no more than 10 mostly from relationships. I don’t expect anyone to not sleep with someone on superficial qualities if they have the ability to a few times at most, but if we’re talking 20 or more partners and it’s a woman (women can get sex pretty much whenever they want and from whoever they want) then I have to question whether a long term relationship with her would be safe or smart based on things like delayed gratification and how she expresses her affection.

dontbanmeagaindudes · 2021-06-25T05:54:37+00:00

Body count doesn't matter at all.

AnonymousEngineer21 · 2021-06-25T15:09:26+00:00

I used to be a weak and pathetic simp and think "oh what a slut, she's slept with [insert number here] guys" but a few years passed and I'm more mature now.

I don't care how many men a woman has slept with because:

the past is the past
I have 0 partners and if she has experience then it could be a great learning experience for me.

Daegs · 2021-06-25T08:54:35+00:00

don't give a fuck, higher count can mean better skills :)

Crusaders1992 · 2021-06-25T09:31:42+00:00

Nope. I can hardly judge when I'm well into the 20s, imo a girl that's experienced will not only be more fun in bed but like me she may well have had fun but realises that those days can't last forever and is ready to settle down after being more wild in her younger days. That's my view of it anyway, doesn't always pan out that way.

Sad_Top1743 · 2021-06-25T11:12:56+00:00

I love sex and love hook ups and casual encounters when I’m single, I am totally monogamous and loyal when I’m partnered.

I’ve never had a STD or an abortion, never had a pregnancy outside of marriage, I’ve had sex with over 100 different people by age 35 and have had two very happy marriages (ten years into the second one now).

My husbands loved that I have a high libido and can talk openly about everything sexual, we experienced so much growth in our intimate lives due to enthusiasm and communication.

Intelligence, personal responsibility and health awareness combined with the confidence to live a full and satisfying sexual life make for great wives, so don’t be scared of an experienced person.

Good-Tap-9604 · 2021-06-25T10:23:46+00:00

Low count or even 0 is very attractive to guys. It screams exclusivity and someone that you could generally trust. A nightmare for guys would be knowing somebody smashed your love life and done all sorts with her lmao.

L34N4R3AL · 2021-06-25T08:49:12+00:00

The lower the better. You buying a 1998 car with 250k miles with plenty past owners? Or the one with 98k miles with 2-3 previous owners?

justanobodyreallyyy · 2021-06-25T06:59:00+00:00

It’s actually unattractive to me. My body count is 40 at 22yo. Any girl with less than 10 makes me feel like I’m taking advantage of them.

Cybion_ · 2021-06-25T08:18:59+00:00

Whats with people saying body counts don't matter ? Are you saying your ok with someone who f###ed 100+ people during their life time ?

Anyway i know 2 girls, both are the same age (20 years old), one has 5 ex bfs the other never had a bf and probably still a virgin. What's the difference you ask ? One is a toxic bitch the other is cute and wants a serious relationship.

I didn't make this up btw.

FareTheeRekt · 2021-06-25T09:33:02+00:00

To be fair, whatever her body count is, it's probably going to be less than mine. If it's higher (and she isn't a sex worker) then I think it could be an interesting date

deathproof-ish · 2021-06-25T14:27:53+00:00

No. Who cares. Why is this a question?

If someone has slept around, generally I think they know what they want and can get it. Man or woman.

If they want me for life, then so be it. If not, as long as they communicate that with me who cares?

wabbuwabbu · 2021-06-25T09:05:19+00:00

While having a casual relationship body counts don’t matter. However, a serious relationship that may lead to marriage, it can be a deal breaker.

barryn13087 · 2021-06-25T12:24:33+00:00

Don't ask questions you don't want the answer to.

korkdaddy69 · 2021-06-25T12:46:36+00:00

To me it depends on the circumstances of the high numbers if a woman has been in many relationships its likely that she has had many sexual partners and thats ok. What I find unattractive is when a woman has just had a lot of "meanless" sexual partners outside of relationships, because she has had random sexual encounters with her entire group of so called friends and she has had multiple "group" sexual encounters to me that is unattractive.

Some may call me insecure, but to me its important that when im hanging out with a woman's group of friends not every single guy at the BBQ has had sex with her and some even at the same time. Call me old fashioned.

Sweet-Tomatillo-9010 · 2021-06-25T13:03:54+00:00

I don't care. Me and my partner are dating a former sex worker. All we care about is that we are all open with each other and are not spreading STDs to each other.

StereoFood · 2021-06-25T15:21:15+00:00

My girlfriend slept with probably 100 dudes before me. Makes me sick to my stomach. She tolD me around 50 but I call bs. Nm I can do except trust her.

2021-06-25T16:05:28+00:00

Yes low body counts are very attractive

2021-06-25T08:39:19+00:00

Always wrap up

spam-male · 2021-06-25T11:25:06+00:00

If he’s the right person it won’t matter

Plaz_Yeve · 2021-06-25T11:48:00+00:00

No, I don't care as long as they're STI free

NewCommonSensei · 2021-06-25T13:16:25+00:00

I Don’t care I don’t ask as long as she’s std free

-Kast- · 2021-06-25T14:16:18+00:00

Meh. Went out on a date with this girl once, mostly just to try to have a casual, friendly relationship. She seemed chill. Then she asked me about sex and I played it like I was indifferent. Asked her how many people she had slept with. Her response: 60-80.

Chick wasn't even really attractive, more like a 5-6 out of 10. I nope'd outta there.

Anyways, what I realized was that the count wasn't what bothered me so much as it was the fact that she clearly was just "giving it away." To me, that implies low self-esteem and a lack of carefulness/selectiveness, which has all sorts of horrible implications from pregnancies to STIs/STDs.

It's not the number, it's how they got there and who they are as a person now.

Kakiblack679 · 2021-06-25T14:17:02+00:00

Dont care about high body counts, I dont keep track of mine. But I do care about low body counts, I prefer a girl thats experienced

VDKay · 2021-06-25T14:30:53+00:00

Personal opinion here.

If she's a hot girl (I know that "hotness" is subjective, but I'm talking about girls who are objectively sexy and hot, not only cute/good-looking), then I'm subconsciously "expecting" high body count, so it does not really bother me.

If she ain't that hot, then high body count is quite negative for me. I don't know if I can explain it better, but average or below average girls with high body counts will usually mean that they need to put out a lot more sluttiness to get so many men. And because I don't want my girl to be slutting around, I'd consider it negative.

DJBJD-the-3rd · 2021-06-25T14:39:28+00:00

What matters is did they cheat on their ex’s to get those numbers or were they single and/or dating and having fun? It shouldn’t matter what your number is. If someone loves you they love your number because that’s a part of what makes you you.

nsromanzo · 2021-06-25T16:15:17+00:00

You shouldn’t ask the question in the first place because it doesn’t matter. It’s a can of worms that is best left untouched.

loosetingles · 2021-06-25T16:26:05+00:00

This is the most high school question ever

InstructionNo8404 · 2021-06-25T16:33:42+00:00

I've learned to honestly never ask a girl that I'm dating her body count. It doesn't matter too much if she's had alot of sex, it's more so her character. I've talked to girls before that probably had crazy high body count, but what turned me off wasn't that they had alot of sex, but that all they cared about was their sexuality. All these girls ever did was bounce from guy to guy, post sexy pics on social media. They had no hobbies, don't read books, don't have srs goals. I couldn't have a srs convo with them. They were just hot girls, and they thought that it was a big deal. Meanwhile, the girls I've talked to who have goals and aspirations, give me book recommendations, have hobbies and aren't consumed and overly absorbed with the fact that they can get laid easily, they're awesome. Alot of these girls have just as high body counts as the other girls I mentioned, but it's not their entire identity. They're actually interesting and inspiring individuals, and that's what makes them keepers.

I'd say most guys, especially under 30, care about body count. From my experience though, the more secure a man is, the less he cares. I believe this because I used to care and think about this when I first started having sex. The more experienced, confident and secure I became, the less it mattered.

So as for the question, the body count number doesn't make her less or more attractive, it's more so her character that does that. But if she's a sex worker, that will make her less attractive to me personally.

ZidaneLoire · 2021-06-25T06:17:01+00:00

People are not bodycounts. I use a holistic approach. Who am I to judge?

Any dude who's salty here about girls with a high body count have a low body count themselves. No dude who had 100 girls will have an issue with a girl who had 100 dudes, if they do they're hypocrites. Their issue is difference, not numbers.

Spot the guys who don't fuck.

Alizoomzoom · 2021-06-25T10:09:24+00:00

Okay but why do some of you care so much how many guys a woman has slept with, as long as she's not one to cheat on her partners or sleep with people to make others jealous who cares? As long as she's healthy who gives a flying fuck? Why are men allowed to have high body counts and it be seen as an achievement for them and it's widely accepted but as soon as a woman fucks even one person she can be branded as a whore? Some of the people in the comments need to stop being so shallow

Domin8u315 · 2021-06-25T10:20:56+00:00

Popping a girl’s cherry seems to be a big draw yet interesting how having even more than 1 can be a turn off for a guy while we should accept him with more than 10. It’s utter BS!

Breezys-13 · 2021-06-25T10:45:37+00:00

The real turnoff is guys telling you how they didn’t use condoms in the past.

One guy literally told me how all the girls in his neighborhood « let him have sex with them » without a condom.

No we don’t only care about pregnancies (and for those who do wtf is wrong with you).

Condoms are sexy they tell you how much a person values their own body and self.

So a low/high body count doesn’t really matter to me as long as they’re not sticking their dicks in any germ pot they found.

Btw had sex with a virgin and he was great so...

shazz939 · 2021-06-25T06:50:25+00:00

There's a psychological and chemical reaction that happeneds for a woman when they have sex. A woman actually obsorbs part of each man she has sex with . This creates a bond a transfer of hormones in a way. If a woman has too many partners she looses the ability to bond . It's like a tolerance to drugs or alcohol. If she can't bond she cant be down for life or have your back . So fuk yes body count matters!!!

MarcosaurusRex · 2021-06-25T10:04:28+00:00

Completely irrelevant to me. However, I’m in a poly and open relationship.

LEKEDROL · 2021-06-25T12:36:58+00:00

Depends on the person, for myself i only date and marry virgin girls.

yesdaniel · 2021-06-25T15:06:08+00:00

As a man, the higher the better. Girls with low body count disgust me as well possessive, family-oriented GFs

Bpoh1992 · 2021-06-25T15:10:47+00:00

Body count isn't something I really care about. My personal bodycount is in the 3 digits so who am I to judge. Plus in my experience there's nothing wrong with her having extra experience.

Miknitian · 2021-06-25T12:30:34+00:00

It's generally not unattractive but no one wants to be the first guy at the party.

JL_Uni23 · 2021-06-25T12:47:57+00:00

For me, someone with a high body count has me concerned about STDs more then anything else.i remember reading somewhere that 1 in 4 sexually active people have some kind of std. I've also noticed that women with really high body counts tend to have serious issues with thier lives. I wouldn't get in a long term relationship with someone that's count is over 10, but that's my preference since I want a family, kids, and a stable relationship. Casual dating is something else, though, as it's more about enjoying the experience. Either way, I would definitely ask them to do a STDs test prior to sex, as it is a major red flag to me.

excentrik-art · 2021-06-25T07:54:46+00:00

I am rougly at 60 at 30, my fiancee is at 3 at 23. Ergo, compatibility in this area is difficult. I have all the experience and I let her know I want the best from her. She is passive, not sexually driven person, so I have to push her to make her have results with me and make her progress with her experience and comfort zone. Not an easy job to do.

2021-06-25T11:18:34+00:00

It was when I was younger. I’ve dated people with really high body counts while having a low one myself, eventually you realize it’s just all people having fun.

Where it does cross a line is when sleeping around is integrated into their personality and they haven’t developed as a person aside from being someone who likes to sleep around.

Moejason · 2021-06-25T11:37:42+00:00

Not in any way. Maybe with my first girlfriend, I felt a bit self conscious, awkward, or jealous about it maybe?

It was a little bit uncomfortable at first at 19, but then I grew up and high body count honestly means very little.

TallDarkandBot · 2021-06-25T12:53:32+00:00

Depends on what you are looking for, a relationship or a hookup. If it’s the former, Body count isn’t a good indicator for me as much as the thrill of the chase is. If a girl is overly sexual right off the bat, I just assume she is like that to most guys as well. The whole quality vs quantity.

If it’s a hookup then none of it really matters, just be safe.

whyvroserious · 2021-06-25T13:58:00+00:00

Don’t care as long as they're healthy

Varathane · 2021-06-25T14:52:40+00:00

No such thing as too low or too high for how many times a partner has sought out sexual pleasure with another person. Sex and pleasure are a renewable resource!

ayleidanthropologist · 2021-06-25T15:38:44+00:00

Not really. At least not a number, maybe the reason why would turn me off though.

catsfolly · 2021-06-25T16:27:24+00:00

Just depends on if you did it safely. 30 partners without protection just increase the risk of std’s/herpies and such. If you were careful then it doesn’t really bother much.

3Than_C130 · 2021-06-25T16:45:16+00:00

Personally I don’t care unless you’re like below 20 yrs and have like an exceedingly high number like a hundred

GabbyTheLegend · 2021-06-25T16:51:39+00:00

I not a man, but as woman, I really don’t care if a man has a high body count. My ex lied to me about his body count and when I got mad he thought it was because I was upset with the number. I told him I wasn’t upset with the number, I was upset because if I knew the number I would have had him get an STD test.

People go through times in their life where they use sex as an outlet which is okay. As long as they didn’t hurt anyone to rack up their count then it really shouldn’t matter. All I care about is if they are a good person and if they are clean.

2021-06-25T19:42:46+00:00

And this is why guys have trouble finding women...

-IntoTheUnknown · 2021-06-25T20:36:18+00:00

Me and her promised to wait till marriage. So yeah I hope it matters to her too

Evocatus_ad_levare · 2021-06-25T21:47:01+00:00

To me preferably 0

blkmexbbc · 2021-06-25T12:38:04+00:00

Sorry for throwing this out there but this thread sounds misogynistic.

IMHO you should ask if the girl is cool, stable, and you two want to be together. Judging people based on numbers rather than circumstances is, to me, not fair or accurate.

The how and why are way more important. I do agree that if she was out cheating, that this is a bigger no, but cheating with 5 or 50 does not really matter at that point.

I find it hard to take any moral high ground if, as a guy, I get into the high numbers but I want a girl to be in the low numbers. The girl could say the same thing? Why are your numbers so high? As one response puts it, maybe you are mentally unstable or depressed for sleeping around.

People’s lives get complicated. Things happen. Things and people change.

Again, IMO you have to look at the numbers (yours and her) in context.

hagion · 2021-06-25T14:03:22+00:00

What the hell? You have a double digit after having 10 ONS already.. and that makes you unattractive because you appearantly can’t handle a relationship? Such a weird way to look at it..

NickFromThe6 · 2021-06-25T14:16:31+00:00

I don’t care honestly. Let’s say we get together in a relationship and her body count is 99. If I’m 100, I’m fine with that so long as it doesn’t turn into 101 lmao, you get me?

ValuableIncident · 2021-06-25T12:23:30+00:00

If you’re a woman, and a man asks you that, leave. Seriously. It’s none of his business, he’s not entitled to know, and you’re under no obligation to answer.

Alarmed-Atmosphere33 · 2021-06-25T12:18:08+00:00

Body count is so arbitrary lmao I’m dating a virgin and why would he care about how many sexual partners I have had ? Y’all are weird and creepy lmao

2wheeledgod · 2021-06-25T10:03:19+00:00

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wzarya · 2021-06-25T11:13:27+00:00

I know of some men who liked his girl to have a higher body count. But the definition of high is subjective to everyone. To some 10 is high, to some 50 is high. They might want their women to have experience so they don’t have to teach their girls but other men i know of prefer our girls to have fewer body counts. I personally don’t really care as my body count is not high either. I think most won’t think of it as a deal breaker

Hellfire12345677 · 2021-06-25T15:08:36+00:00

I don’t really care about the sex part. It’s how that part happened. If they did it in an open relationship not an issue, they had made trust with a partner and agreed with it. If she had cheated or us 10 partners in 3 months it’s a bit more concerning.

2021-06-25T17:07:17+00:00

There comes an age where this isn’t even a question anymore. When secure adults and dating other secure adults this kind of information is so irrelevant.

However in my experience with this stuff as a teenager the only reason a guy seemed to care was because of his own insecurity, thinking that if his gf slept with more people than him that he is not good enough in bed or his dick is not big enough or he hasn’t tried these things himself yet and finds it humiliating etc etc. This kind of partner will never overcome this insecurity in a relationship with you, if they care that much it’ll be a thorn in the relationship.

However honestly most normal adults who have built up some life experience and confidence won’t even care to ask this kind of thing. They may wonder, but they know it’s not an appropriate thing to ask a lot of the time.

ICastPunch · 2021-06-25T17:07:33+00:00

Mmmm no. I mean I would be uncomfortable if I got with a girl that had slept with a person I see usually and I didn't know beforehand. So that's something I'd like to know before I get into a serious relationship.

But I sincerely wouldn't care if her body count is 1 or a 1000. I myself I'm not a celibate person at all after all. However 0 as the body count and teaching them sex could be pretty hot not gonna lie. Not only it feels special cuz you are their first and only ever but you can discover their sexuality as they do.

2021-06-25T17:09:49+00:00

I genuinely, on average, prefer a relatively higher number (~20). I’ve realized that girls with lower numbers don’t really know what they’re doing in bed. They also to know what they want sexually from a partner, which I think is important.

I’m at 60 or so, so I recognize that the amount of people you’ve slept with doesn’t necessarily define you in any negative way.

realmtraveller · 2021-06-25T17:09:58+00:00

It doesn't matter. It's a bit judgemental.

Disastrous_Jury1122 · 2021-06-25T17:10:57+00:00

If a man asked me this question I’d likely assume he was insecure and I’m not interested in that in the bedroom. I know you asked for male thoughts, but in the event that this is an issue for you… as long as your morals are intact fuck it.

KAFU23 · 2021-06-25T17:25:36+00:00

To each their own, but I personally think the higher the count the harder it is to get attached. I lost count after around 15 when I was 21. Since then its been hard to get emotionally attached to someone.

2021-06-25T17:29:38+00:00

To me? Yes!

SerjEpic · 2021-06-25T17:47:56+00:00

If I am going for a relationship yes because statistically, high body counts indicate the relationship will most likely fail. If it's something casual, no because it's casual.

2021-06-25T18:03:02+00:00

To be honest I’m at the age and point where if her body count kinda high say past 10, I wouldn’t mind keeping you around as long you respect me. I’ll probably draw the line past 20. Once your body count surpass that amount, I ain’t showing no respect. You wanna act like a hoe, get treated like one

Reddddeye · 2021-06-25T18:04:35+00:00

Dosent matter since every girl lies about it, she says none when it’s really 10, she says 10 when it’s really 30, etc

Kye7 · 2021-06-25T18:13:41+00:00

Absolutely. A low number is crucial.

Shamrocksoul · 2021-06-25T18:14:58+00:00

I definitely cared about it more when I was younger. But now that stuff doesn’t mean as much to me. People are people and you can’t really change what they’ve done before you 😋

Pumpseidon · 2021-06-25T18:25:18+00:00

Definitely a hard pass on a girl with a high body count.

notgreatbot · 2021-06-25T18:27:24+00:00

Definitely I prefer lower murders/fucks but that’s just me.

2021-06-25T18:35:30+00:00

More than 10

LevelUp84 · 2021-06-25T18:57:12+00:00

High, I don't want her thinking about me too much.

oscarony · 2021-06-25T18:59:02+00:00

If her body count is above 25 then issa no from me dawg

IMOY21 · 2021-06-25T18:59:39+00:00

Bro i’m only 17 and i used to care like a year ago right now i don’t though if i fw u i fw u. I’d draw the line if u chose to have sex with someone u weren’t attracted to at the time tho cuz why am i dating someone without boundaries. Unless you fixed those issues then we’re back to idrc

ithinkoutloudtoo · 2021-06-25T19:11:47+00:00

Body count is the same thing as notch count in this regard. You can also abbreviate it as n-count.

Izzyisagod · 2021-06-25T20:28:35+00:00

Of course

Depressedkid1998 · 2021-06-25T20:32:17+00:00

They mostly lie, i have slept with 7, 1 of them refused to tell me, one said 6, the rest said between 1-3

jh0407133 · 2021-06-25T20:40:37+00:00

loco_stealth · 2021-06-25T22:06:48+00:00

If she's got a body count that's over like a dozen, I'm pretty turned off by it, mostly because I think I'm going to be just another link in that chain.

eg8245 · 2021-06-25T22:18:07+00:00

2021-06-25T22:57:01+00:00

For a fuck no. Relationship yeah

HungerForHipHop · 2021-06-25T23:04:44+00:00

I dated a girl who’s body count was 65. She was fucking crazy. She wasn’t even that good in bed either so not sure if body count correlated with experience.

My body count is 29. I’d prefer to date someone around that.

Purpleman101 · 2021-06-25T23:29:37+00:00

I prefer my partner to not be a murderer.

RoachWeed · 2021-06-26T00:17:34+00:00

I would say more than mine. (5) if you’re higher than me, in my mind you either have more experience, or you’ve been around the block depending on the number, so both are discouraging

Wander1900 · 2021-06-26T00:37:27+00:00

For a wife yes

2021-06-26T00:49:17+00:00

Don't care that much. If a girl has a high body count, I'd probably just wrap it up extra tight

2021-06-26T00:52:55+00:00

Doesn’t matter to me at all and doesn’t seem to make a huge difference. I’ve been with girls who are bat shit insane / cock tease sluts who had been virgins or with only 1 guy before me. I’ve been with better quality more stable women who slut it up in their teens and 20s then want to settle down who were really fun to date and good loyal company.

Body counts only an issue if you make it one. I never bring it up or ask.

People will cite statistics about body count in relation to long term potential but they fail to recognize lots of those virgins who stay married and loyal are usually religious / conservative background which has more to do with their choices than simply being a virgin.

The_iron_mill · 2021-06-26T01:27:53+00:00

Body counts literally do not matter to me. If someone is a decent human being, that’s far more important than how many people they have had sex with. And no, those two things are not related in any way.

SubstrateIndependent · 2021-06-26T02:02:14+00:00

Doesn't matter in the slightest

empirebuilder1 · 2021-06-26T02:05:15+00:00

I literally don't give a fuck as long as it's not a number likely dangerous to my own long term health

not_dale_gribble · 2021-06-26T02:14:28+00:00

Doesn't matter at all as long as they're currently clean and it accrued while they were single

YerekYeeter · 2021-06-26T04:49:19+00:00

I try not to think about it. I know she's been with other dudes but that's how she's so good at that thing I like. I also don't want to be asked about mine because I'm pretty close to a 3rd digit. I just hope one day we'll each be each other's last and that's all that will matter

Leather_Brilliant_88 · 2021-06-26T05:07:55+00:00

What’s your body count?

tHiShiTiStooPID · 2021-06-26T15:13:50+00:00

Low? Nah. But if the number exceeds your age that’s getting kinda gross.

readonlyuser · 2021-06-26T19:14:59+00:00

Zero is alarming, one is concerning, the rest is gravy. The only concern is STDs.

CumInMyWhiteClaw · 2021-06-27T18:47:22+00:00

Hookup: The higher the count the better

Casual relationship: Medium to high is best but it doesn't matter so much

Serious relationship: I'd prefer something low

Title	As a man are low body counts attractive to you?
Author	justanobodyreallyyy
Upvotes	505
Comments	476
Date	June 25, 2021 5:13 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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