Q4M: Ever turned down sex with a woman? What happened?

63daddy · 2024-06-19T20:46:28+00:00

Yes, I’ve turned down sex with a woman.

What happened: we didn’t have sex and I went home alone.

Middle-Effort7495 · 2024-06-20T04:50:32+00:00

There's 3 options:

They will call you gay, because secretely most women see homosexual or bi men as less-than.
They will say you have a small penis anyways so they don't care (female equivalent of, whatever you're ugly anyway)
They will say you never get laid (Because they know that's their only value)

I have a very attractive friend who gets randomly groped/sexually assaulted by chicks at clubs/bars shockingly often, because they think it's okay if they're a woman. You're not getting away without a, "are you gay" or "you have a little dick, anyways"

Zabadoodude · 2024-06-19T20:44:18+00:00

Why for a change? I'm pretty sure most sober men would turn down a sloppy drunk woman. It's usually the men that are too drunk having sex with the women that are too drunk. Curiously only one of them is seen as predatory.

In terms of personal stories: plenty of times. Women that are way too drunk. Women that I wasn't attracted to. Women I was in a relationship with and just wasn't feeling it that night. The reactions varied. Some take it in stride, some get angry, most are pushy then get insecure and a bit annoyed.

one_ball_policy · 2024-06-19T22:14:53+00:00

I turned down sex once cause I drank too much had an upset stomach and was afraid I would throw up. She kept pouting and complaining so I gave in. Ended up not throwing up, but the sex was average at best. So I guess technically I didn’t then it down fully, but attempted

BrainMarshal · 2024-06-19T21:30:13+00:00

"Are you gay?" - but she wasn't drunk tho

Ask me how I know.

Wattehfok · 2024-06-19T22:40:43+00:00

Yes.

We were stone cold sober. She was cute. We kissed.

We were also flatmates and she was the ex of another dude in the house (it was a very big house).

I could see the situation spiraling rapidly into more drama than I was willing to deal with, so I turned her down as tactfully as I could.

She was kinda flabbergasted, and was pretty frosty to me afterwards.

I still occasionally wonder what if…

Spicy_take · 2024-06-19T21:42:14+00:00

I wouldn’t exactly call it “sexual discipline” when the woman asking is just ugly and hard to look at.

salochin247 · 2024-06-20T02:47:08+00:00

Yes I have and I would have lost my virginity if I hadn’t. I am still to this day a virgin at 31 and this was the only time a woman ever wanted me in any capacity. So why did I say no? Because I found out that she was kinda slow girl who was still in high school at 21 and it felt wrong to take advantage of her carnal desire for me taking her home at night after work. Tbh I feel like I overthought it too much and unfortunately I think about more than I like, it was probably my only chance. But I’ll never forget her French kissing at least.

LapazGracie · 2024-06-19T21:25:21+00:00

Yes many times. They were just ugly and I didn't want to fuck them.

Most of them just buzzed off. There was this fat black girl who liked me when I worked at Wendy's. Her and all of her friends started to hate me afterwards. Said that I was racist. Then I started to date a skinny black chick lol.

But yeah mostly uneventful.

wtknight · 2024-06-19T23:19:19+00:00

Never because of her being drunk. I've never had sex with a drunk woman. The women I've dated were never much into drinking.

Once it was because I knew the woman had a boyfriend and I didn't want to facilitate her cheating on her boyfriend. Although she was attractive, she wasn't really my type, so I don't regret rejecting her. I've never been into sex with women who I don't have feelings for, anyway. She never talked to me again after that.

The other two times they were women who were attracted to me who I wasn't attracted to. They stayed friends. One found a boyfriend shortly afterwards who she eventually married and I lost contact with her. The other I was friends with for quite a while, but I lost contact with her after I met and started dating a woman who I actually was attracted to.

MyUpSeemsDown · 2024-06-20T05:49:30+00:00

Some girl in highschool wanted to have sex out in the woods next to the school where all the cool kids hung around at the time, I said no and she called me an asshole.

Another instance was where this girl I knew just by association was insistently touchy and huggy with me at a party, in front of her boyfriend at that, while I was absolutely plastered. Sometime went by and one of my friends asked me if I was going to fuck her at which point everything snapped into place. I just started distancing myself and removing myself whenever she chased me down and at some point I told her to back off. She didn't really make a scene but her bf was always standoff-ish with me whenever we crossed ways after that.

Wish I would've talked to the first girl and let her down easier because I really just wasn't interested in her. But a solid "nah I'm good" was definitely of one lacking of social grace at least on my part. Second one, I dk what I really could've done in that situation where all I remember is her rubbing off on me while I was snapping in and out of reality and a singularity point of me puking my demons out.

boom-wham-slam · 2024-06-20T01:37:51+00:00

The most fitting situation to your ask... a drunk girl wanted to fuck me. Long story short I said no and took her home.

She then harassed me for months and showed up at my house multiple times screaming how I need to fuck her and how she will say I raped her (thankfully I had recorded it). How I'm the worst person and an abuser and a million other things.

Crazy part is I thought I was going to fuck her the day after because I actually liked her. Smh

Jaded-Worldliness597 · 2024-06-20T04:44:33+00:00

I was in a very shitty marriage. VERY shitty. I had a coworker whose husband was addicted to World of Warcraft. We were the two newest members of the team and both the only two under 40. We would routinely see each other at sales conferences. We called and talked on the phone for sometimes almost an hour... every day. We finally went to this one meeting in Florida. After the main event we ditched everyone else, went and walked on the beach. We had a really incredible time. We chased each other in the moonlight, held hands... then went to the bar to get some shots. Around 1am I was walking her back to her hotel room and when we got there she asked if I could come in. I don't know why. I may never really understand it, but I said that it might not be a good idea. I said we both had people trusting in us and some lines are just best not crossed. I lost a good friend after that... and it hurt a lot. Later, I got divorced having found my xWife cheating. Usually it's when I try to be the good guy that I wind up getting fucked over.

tendrils87 · 2024-06-19T21:05:45+00:00

She was in our friend group and was horny and feeling me up, stroking the shaft and everything. Didn't really care, but the moment she tried to get on top of me and stick it in I noped out because I wasn't attracted to her.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-06-19T20:38:46+00:00

I was heartbroken over girl and one of my closest Female friends was choking and comforting me when she was like, “I know what might make you feel better” and I told her that I really appreciated it and it wasn’t like we both hadn’t both thought about it before. But she was my closest girl friend and I was her closes guy friend so we kind of leaned on each other for certain times like this. So I said “this is going to sound strange but I don’t want to have sex with you because I Love you?” And she got it.

Gravel_Roads · 2024-06-19T21:06:34+00:00

A few times. It’s not as exciting as I think dudes here fantasize about.

One time was a friend who caught feels; the worst of it was a sad drunken conversation where she cried and said “I know you care about me, but you won’t fuck me so what does it matter.” But I think it was her cathartic way of getting over it because that was a decade ago and we’re still friends.

The other was just a feisty drinking buddy I didn’t know very well. She was a bi rugby player. Big sexy thigh muscles. But way too much drama, as a person to wanna get entangled with. It was a non-issue, and we continued being drinking buddies

harmonica2 · 2024-06-19T21:04:31+00:00

I turned down a woman who smelled bad once. Other than that women too drunk.

PMmeareasontolive · 2024-06-19T21:54:23+00:00

Several times. It went well when I knew the person. The only time it went "badly" was with someone online. We had started to flirt heavily but I didn't want to meet when and where she suggested so she started calling me gay, a pussy, etc. Might have been someone trying to catfish me into something, who knows.

zoxzoxzo · 2024-06-19T22:54:05+00:00

Yes, with multiple ones. Reason being none of them hit even the low bar of attractiveness for me to engage in intimacy with them. Nothing special happened afterwards

silverhippo15 · 2024-06-19T23:15:04+00:00

No. I don't rizz up uggos.

saywhatitis11 · 2024-06-19T23:23:05+00:00

I was practicing cold approach. Just wanted to see how far I could get. It was midday at a bar and she was day drinking. After about an hour, she was ready to go. She was a little heavy for me and a day drinker so not the sort of energy I wanted to invite into my life. We both said we needed to go pee. She went to pee, I dipped.

FWIW I’ve slept in bed with a naked woman many times without sex for various reasons.

GrandpaDallas · 2024-06-19T23:45:40+00:00

There have been a number of instances for a number of reasons.

Sometimes I’m taken, sometimes I’m just not in the mood, sometimes I’m not attracted to her, and yes, also if she’s too drunk.

One time in particular we had been friends for a few months and I just wasn’t that into her. She flipped on me and asked if I was gay, which I thought was kind of funny. We don’t chat much these days.

Bro_with_passport · 2024-06-20T02:19:39+00:00

Not well received. My (now ex) wife got caught cheating and tried using sex as a tool to manipulate me into getting over it. I just wasn’t interested, I was worried about paternal uncertainty, STDs, and just generally had shattered trust.

She was pretty upset and started begging, it was awkward to say the least.

ExcelsiorState718 · 2024-06-20T03:08:37+00:00

Plenty of times mostly because she was ugly ..In a relationship I have because I was tired...

I've never had a drunk or impaired women try to have sex with me..usually if they're that drunk they get emotional and start crying and rambling about drama and I take them home...

Ok I take it back therevwas this drunk chick one time but she was old not my type nope I turned her down she went elsewhere

stlmick · 2024-06-20T03:21:01+00:00

Yes, a bunch of times. I was asked if I was gay several times. I was once told that she would say I tried to rape her. I was told men don't say no to sex. Most of the times though, nothing weird happened and if it was a girl I was potentially interested in dating, they took it as rejection and were no longer interested in me.

untamed-italian · 2024-06-20T17:38:21+00:00

Ever turned down sex with a woman? What happened?

Plenty of times. Most often nothing 'happened', we just do not have sex right then.

Sometimes, well often if I am being honest, the lady would give me a temper tantrum. Especially younger ladies. Women like to pretend men are bad at rejection but they're significantly worse at it in my experience.

One lady tried to murder me for rejecting her. Another just straight up started telling her friends we fucked anyway. Another made a family in her Sims game with me as the husband and kept sending me screenshots and little stories about it.

males who actually have demonstrated sexual discipline

This sounds sex negative, puritan, and a little misandrist.

It restores my faith in humanity to hear stories about when the girl was clearly too drunk and the male decided to do the right thing for a change.

It sounds like you indulge too much in the opposite stories then, if you need to summon these stories to even the balance.

Knowing what you know now, would you have done anything differently?

Not really, except for the attempted murderess. Definitely would never have interacted with her at all if I knew what I know now.

abaxeron · 2024-06-20T22:36:42+00:00

Yes. The femonoid was ~5 years my senior, I was 16, we were both drunk, I decided that this is not how I want to lose my virginity. Helped her to get comfy on a sofa and told her to take a nap. Her reaction was to go to bathroom, throw up, grab some coffee, and fuck someone else.

Some time later saw her for the last time with a baby. Didn't bother to ask for details, left town shortly after.

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-06-21T01:02:14+00:00

Multiple times, including a FMF threesome. It never goes down well. Best case scenario - they ghost you.

The funniest story I have is when a couple intoxicated women were chasing after me, screaming at the top of their lungs and demanding my penis. To do that they ditched a guy they were fucking a minute ago, who kinda waddled after them, trying to pull up his pants. I don't know what they were on, but they really wanted to fuck because they chased me for two blocks.

Another was a married women at my buddy's birthday. She wanted to jump me first, but I have met her husband and kids, so I gave her a half shake, she then proceeded to get shitfaced and fucked every other guy at the party.

eli_ashe · 2024-06-21T05:35:14+00:00

i think it amazing that the OP believes that the only reason a man would turn down a woman for sex is because she was 'too drunk'. talk about passive aggressive question. Wonder how many times she or other women have accepted sex from a man that was 'too drunk'.

with a few exceptions, every time i've turned down a woman for sex she got upset cause she felt like she was entitled to it, and actually had a hard time understanding why someone would turn them down. i mean, genuine confusion at the notion.

it was pretty impressive, i mean, to just see that level of confusion arise from something so basic as 'no thanks'.

more than one pushed themselves on me too despite my refusal, even my repeated refusal, i assume for the same reason, e.g. over inflated egos and disbelief that anyone would refuse a woman's advances.

nnuunn · 2024-06-19T21:44:07+00:00

It was my girlfriend and she didn't want to wait until marriage but I did. She said she was alright with it and was ok waiting, but she got impatient and we broke up before we ever got married.

Dense-Tell-6147 · 2024-06-19T21:09:33+00:00

Several times, mostly in case of (missed) ONS

Most cases I wasn’t able to determine how drunk the lady was and preferred declining; a couple got a little aggro. Once a lady was almost blackout, so I ubered with her to her place and watched her until she woke up. She was then grateful.
Twice I didn’t have condoms with me (wasn’t expecting hooking up) and there was nowhere to get any. One lady called me a f*g for that.
Once I stopped because the lady seemed to have second thoughts and looked sad during foreplay. That was obviously frustrating, but it was the right decision and she thanked me a lot for that. Another time, another lady stopped it herself, and I reassured her everything was alright and we cuddled. Had sex on the next date, and she was enthusiastic.
I declined advances from a couple married older ladies, who asked and reacted very politely.

The only thing I’d make (and I made afterwards) different is always have condoms with me. I would also have hooked up with one of the older ladies later on, but at the time she had divorced I was living in another country. I wouldn’t do anything else differently

Steakman1 · 2024-06-19T21:41:02+00:00

I’ve had one woman who wanted to hook up because she liked my car. Obviously a gold digger scenario, so it wasn’t worth my time. I just ended up being dismissive of her advances and she got the hint quick. Wasn’t much else to that.

2nd situation was a woman who I wasn’t really attracted to, who was all over me at work. She never outright tried to sleep with me. But considering she ended up basically stalking me for a month after I rejected her, my guess is that she didn’t have many limits on what she was willing to do to get with me.

3rd situation was a woman in our friend group who liked to get pretty touchy and flirty when she was drunk. She was in a relationship with a guy who often wasn’t present at the parties we had. I dont think she was explicitly trying to sleep with me or anyone else she got flirty and touchy with. But she would definitely get drunk to the point where someone could take advantage of her if they wanted. Luckily these parties were limited to people everyone knew pretty well. I’d get pretty drunk myself and of course enjoyed the flirting and touching from her. But I always made sure it never went too far. There was one guy who ended up trying to cuddle with her when everyone went to sleep. But that worst thing that ever happened with her at those parties

As most people who know me here already know, I’ve pretty much never had an interest in casual sex. So these were pretty easy decisions for me. The 2nd woman I wouldn’t have done anything with even if I had an interest in casual sex. But the gold digger was pretty stunning in my opinion, and the third woman I also thought was physically attractive.

Fun_Push7168 · 2024-06-19T22:08:02+00:00

Randos, yeah mostly they get pissed and try to insult my manhood.

Acquaintances , they mostly take it as no big deal. Couple exceptions were waking with my dick in their mouth and saying they have to stop. Those were met with claims of how I led them on.

In relationships, yeah , first they're shocked. Then they get irritated and super insecure about my attraction to them, then frustrated and demanding an explanation. Been kicked out a couple times over the first declination. Pretty much the shit stories I've heard men will do ( or have been sort of guilty of myself) when frustrated except for the absolute shock part.

Reasons, just worn out, they were too ugly, they were too drunk, I just wasn't interested, I was taken etc.

Since you're interested in stories I'll give one that stands out;

I'm walking around the bar strip in a little college town. Shes walking around with her mom and stepdad. She just comes up goes " omg I love your shirt, I'm Sara what's your name?" " Want to walk with us?" She's cute but chunky I'm not into her like that but I didn't think much of it, seemed fun to have company, she's with her parents...fuck it.

I say sure. We stop one place all together and get a drink, do the introductory thing. They invite me to walk down to the docks so we go. We get to the docks and her parents want to go to dinner and discuss meeting back up with her. Were all kind of drunk but she's quite drunk.

She goes ok, grabs me and says " you're coming to my room". Then stands there , hands folded, head tilted, smiling I involuntarily look her up and down as I hesitantly say "iiiii ..uh" and feel for my phone to check the time for no real reason. She doesn't notice but her mom does. Her mom jumps in with " you're supposed to be meeting someone aren't you?" I say " yes! , how did you know?" She says " im experienced, I know when a guy is tempted and can't, plus you were checking the time".

She tries to reach out and stop me after saying bye and starts to say something beggy but her mom actually pushes her arm down and gets in front of her and just says " hey let's.........." Idk something or other. " He's meeting up with someone"

Anyway, thank you mom for the out without hurting the daughters feelings.

Ayaka_Simp_ · 2024-06-20T00:22:52+00:00

She tried to rape me.

Green-Quantity1032 · 2024-06-20T04:44:33+00:00

Yes, she cried.

I tried explaining that we’re friends but really I just don’t find her attractive.

She still tries from time to time but doesn’t cry anymore

berichorbeburied · 2024-06-19T22:48:51+00:00

Yes.

Turned down my bestfriend. Which started a downward spiral of regret.

Turned down a woman in the car this year. Because she kept playing yes and no games. She said no. But would let me take her clothes off and fondle her. And she would lean in to kiss me. And if I backed away she would tell me to come closer. I wasn’t mentally ready to cross that boundary. The next day she told me it could’ve happened and she wouldn’t have been mad at me. But that situation ended after that failed attempt.

When I was 19 I could’ve had sex with a 34 year old manager that everyone liked. But she was playing hard to get. And would only let me dry hump her or kiss her or fondle her. That situation ended because I had sex with someone who I met the same day. And told her about it. So she came and started crying. But actually we were still cool. But it really ended because she wanted me to come live with her and her kid. And like. I obviously did not do that.

In highschool I was on a bus and a someone my age saw me and pretended to drop something to talk to me. Then asked me to show them where a location was. Then when we were halfway there she asked to go to my house to use my phone. Then like she gave me a lap dance and pulled her pants down and sat on me. But idk why I stopped it to be honest. But I don’t know who she was and I never saw her again.

Another time someone pretended like they knew me. And like was hugging me. And then idk how it progressed. But they were like letting me grab their ass. And buying me stuff. But I just didn’t show interest I think that’s how that ended.

Women in their 50-40 try to get me to have sex with them. But no.

Moral of the story those are some examples but the situations always end when I don’t pursue or initiate sex.

Which is why recently I’ve become more sexually agressive to my bestfriend.

I don’t want that connection to end.

It might be too late or I might get one chance to fix everything.

Thanks for this post. I understand what I have to do

Solondthewookiee · 2024-06-19T23:05:38+00:00

I mean are we talking within a relationship? I've turned down girlfriends and my wife for a variety of reasons, usually either tired, sick, or injured.

I turned down a casual hook up once because I was already in bed and she wanted me to come over.

Outside of a relationship, I turned down a woman because I was in a relationship, another one because I just wasn't attracted to her.

I did turn down a woman because she was drunk but then we fucked in the morning when she sobered up, so I don't know if that counts.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-06-19T23:54:15+00:00

Nope, never got approached by women, never had the opportunity to sleep with women (wihtout money), barely touched a woman in my life. Barely had dates as well, and I am 33.

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AreOut · 2024-06-19T22:41:19+00:00

I think most men did and it's not anything special.

If a girl is slightly drunk it might make the sex better, but if she is too drunk then the "sex" is absolutely awful and I'm even having problems getting hard. I guess most men don't want to f the corpse.

r2k398 · 2024-06-20T05:24:18+00:00

The times I remember were a lesbian wanting to experiment, my friend’s girlfriend, my friend’s sister, and a girl who was drunk.

thedarkracer · 2024-06-20T07:05:07+00:00

Not me. Ny friend who used to get a lot of female attention. He told me once a girl in tuition asked him to have sex at her home. He just hung up. We were both virgins at the same time which is 3 years after the said incident. I asked him the reason. He told me that he knew a guy once who did that. Sex was consensual and then he went to jail for it becausehe refused to marry. The laws heavily favor females in my country more than anyone except for martial rape. International people just don't know about it but think women are not helped by law at all.

zirticario · 2024-06-20T08:05:17+00:00

She wasn't drunk but I turned down sex a few times (on the same occasion) and I was pushed to the side fairly aggressively and "involuntarily" kicked.

No-Breath6663 · 2024-06-20T08:15:26+00:00

Honestly, last time I turned down sex with a woman I was raped.

Well actually I have 2 relevant stories on the topic.

First one:

Was with my girlfriend at the time. We had already had sex an ungodly number of times in only 3 days. (3 day weekend no work.) In fact, it had been 23 times. Yes I counted it up. So time number 24 roles around. She starts touching me. I told her no, I said "hey we've already had sex a ton of times. Honestly my dick isn't even gonna work and I'm just not gonna have sex with you again."

She pretty much looked at me like I was stupid and continued. She used her mouth to suction blood into my dick, literally forcing it to be erect, and then essentially we engaged in intercourse. I just laid there and she pretty much did everything. I never finished obviously and after she was finally done she literally got up and went straight home. Barely said a word to me.

I told her no a few times, she obviously ignored me. I didn't try to physically stop her, because I was scared my family would hear any type of scuffle. I was also scared she would try to flip it around and blame me. I was also scared she would breakup with me.

Another girlfriend I had, she woke me up while I was sleeping. It was common for her. I would get home for work, go to sleep and about 4 hours into me sleeping she'd get horny and start touching me. Normally I was totally cool with it and we've have sex and then I'd go back to bed. However, this time I was just too tired and my bladder was also completely full which resulted in me having to pee really bad which was giving me a stabbing pain in my pelvis area.

Anyway she was touching me, and got on top of me. I looked up at her half asleep and told her "I'm really tired" and she kind of ignored me. I could tell from looking at her face she was extra horny and just wasn't really all there as a result. So she's riding me, and I have pain in my bladder and I'm barely coherent. I kind of protested for a few minutes but she just kept making these little "aww poor baby" sounds in my ear and stuff like that, until eventually I relented and decided to participate. (To whatever limited ability I had.)

I didn't want to give her a hard no, because I didn't want to make her feel rejected and like I no longer was attracted to her. I also didn't want to go get up and piss because I felt like it would ruin the moment and therefore the experience for her. Afterwards I jokingly told her she raped me and she started crying, to which I consoled her and told her it wasn't rape at all it was more like coercion. Which didn't make her feel better but then I explained that coercion is normal and ok, it's only not ok in the case of threatening or implying violence. Then she felt better. I also then explained to her that I had been dealing with bladder pain, and I was just exhausted which is why I was protesting. This made her feel better but she expressed to me that she wished I had said something. I told her my reasoning and she felt a little bad. And then we lived happily ever after.

funfacts_82 · 2024-06-20T08:49:56+00:00

Almost always ended with her raging :D

SillyMushroomTip · 2024-06-20T10:10:25+00:00

Got punched in the face by ex girlfriend because I wouldnt have sex with her and another time I had a girl insult me through text because I was pussy for not wanting sex on the third date.

Ecstatic_Edge5825 · 2024-06-20T10:39:06+00:00

Yes, it was because I just didn’t feel like it, she reacted calmly and we just cuddled

No-Rough-7390 · 2024-06-20T11:12:14+00:00

It was a woman I normally would not have been with but it was late and we had been drinking.

Well, she puked all over my floor once we got back. So yeah, I said no thanks. She also ended up pissing all over the air mattress I threw her on, so I kicked her ass out in the AM. Never talked to her again despite having known her for a while beforehand, but I’m okay with that.

coletrain2481 · 2024-06-20T14:50:02+00:00

When I was 15 I was staying at my friend's house for a week or so (during summer) and his brother's friend came over and I met her for like 5 mins (said hi how are you doing, etc) and then went about our day. Later that night she calls him, says she has been drinking, and that she wants to sleep with me. I was flattered but did not know what to do.

Eventually she actually came over (still drunk) and asked to come inside. Instead of doing anything I explained nothing was going to happen and we walked her home (maybe 15-20 min walk). That was the first time anything like that had ever happened to me it was quite the whirlwind of events lol

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-06-21T01:53:12+00:00

Lol I turned down a fatty once, and her friends came over and got ballistic, cause I said if I wanted to fuck shamoo I'd go to sea world

Unable_Evidence_4028 · 2024-06-29T14:12:37+00:00

Yes.

Some times women wanted to force me into sex and I didnt want to, and I had to say no.

I dont need sex as much as some of my exes demanded, and it usually ended up with hurt feelings and emotional outbusts.

macdaddy0800 · 2024-06-19T23:10:53+00:00

You get ghosted. They aren't good enough to get me sexually aroused. Big hit to their egos, the look of you gives them anxiety 🤷

Took a girl out on a second date.

Drove her home and she starts rubbing my hand with her finger tip like flicking her bean, I pull up and tell her I'll see her later and she says "oh but it's so early".

Wasn't feeling it.

mika_running · 2024-06-19T20:59:45+00:00

I had a friends with benefits kinda thing with a bipolar girl I wasn’t all that attracted to but she was really wild in bed, so I kept her on call. In multiple occasions she blew up my phone, asking me to come over, saying she needs my dick, she misses me, etc., basically like the incel men when they get rejected by women, minus the “I never liked you, you slutty bitch” part at the end. I know for sure once she was drunk and I’m pretty sure she was drunk the other time too. I didn’t engage because I had other things to do at the time, just wasn’t something I was in the mood for. Just ignored most of her messages or answered with one word responses to give her the hint I wasn’t interested. Eventually I just shut off my phone and went on with my night. She didn’t know my address, so I knew she wouldn’t just show up at my door.

Another instance I was invited by a girl I wasn’t attracted to to go to the club with her and friends. Just wasn’t my type - tattooed, a bit chubby. But I went with her anyway, because why not? Still a chance to get drunk and I might meet someone else that night. She tried flirting with me quite a bit, but I just wasn’t feeling it. Eventually she just found another guy and left with him, not sure if they went to another club or home together, but I didn’t care. I went home empty that night, but I had a fun time so I wasn’t too bummed out about it.

So yeah, two different women, two completely different experiences.

Ultramega39 · 2024-06-19T21:33:46+00:00

Although I have never directly been asked for sex I have friendzoned or rejected several women/girls.

And before anyone asks, yes I am interested in dating a woman but I have standards.

DietTyrone · 2024-06-19T23:18:51+00:00

Fat chicks, chicks who clearly have emotional baggage, chicks with weave. Turned down women in those situations.

I guess the most awkward one was the chick who unloaded all her baggage before we did the deed. Killed the mood and I couldn't bring myself to want to do anything with her after that.

Personalix · 2024-06-19T21:45:23+00:00

Turned a girl down from the college friends group because I didn't liked her and also because at the same time I meet a girl that made me feel like "I want to be with this girl long term".

I also take full responsibility for not being honest with the first girl,I told her that I didn't wanted to be in a relationship right now but we could keep things casual and she agreed,3 weeks later I meet my current gf and things happened in the college party and ended up developing feelings for her.

Glad things worked out and she's now my girlfriend, first girl is secretly mad with me and my girlfriend for the usual reason "she stole it from me".

Oh and the funny shit,the reason why the first girl got attracted to me : because I'm tall???(180cm/5'11),I use glasses,I dress well and I have curls,I'm cute etc and the typical superficial bullshit.This is what I got told by a friend from the group and I realized that she's not gf material.

Not thinking with the penis can make you stand out for the right girl.

NewOCLibraryReddit · 2024-06-19T21:03:50+00:00

Yes. Once I thought I was into this girl. Brought her home. PLayed around in the bed. But, she didn't get this dick hard, and decided to take her home.

Another time, with a different chick, I don't think this counts, but she came over, and got right to sucking my dick. I came. And, she wanted sex after that, I started finding flaws in her as she sat on my couch. I got an "emergency" and had to tell her to leave.

Those are two stories on the top of my head right now.

KayRay1994 · 2024-06-19T20:52:38+00:00

A few times, usually cause they weren’t attractive but there was the occasional attractive one i turned down cause i didn’t like her - i’ll keep it to one story since tbh it was the most eventful - once I was hanging out with some friends and one of them brought these girls over, she was attractive, but also as normie as you could get. She had a thing for me, got close to me a bunch of times, tried to go for touches and even made the “you’re funny” line as i’m casually joking around with friends. That was the point where I think she got the message that I wasn’t interested, she said “you’re funny” and i didn’t respond (i wasn’t being cold, i genuinely didn’t hear her that instance), so she said “hey, KayRay, i said you’re funny!” i shrugged it off with a “oh, thanks” and she probably lost interest there - straight up, she was very much a normie type of person, i found her vapid and uninteresting so that was an automatic turn off.

thedeadpill · 2024-06-19T21:48:33+00:00

A few times. People I wasn't attracted to, or someone I had just started dating who was so very drunk.

When I was younger, I couldn't say no, but as I've gotten older and dealt with some of my shit, I've declined sex more and more.

Reactions have been pretty much the same: lots of "that's too bad", or politely parting ways (or the other person passing out cuz they're very drunk).

I think knowing what I know now... I'd have said 'no' more when I was younger, too.

obviousredflag · 2024-06-21T13:20:13+00:00

Bumble date, she 31, i 36. She wasn't attractive enough for me to really desire her, but she would do as a casual sex partner. She painted me as a fuckboy and that i just wanted to meet her to have sex with her. I denied, like the fuckboy i am, and because i was that unattracted to her, i told her that i will definitely not have sex with her, to prove i am not a fuckboy. Later that evening we obviously landed in bed together, despite her claiming that wasn't what she had in planned. I repeated, that i would not fuck her, like i said earlier. She tried to change my mind but i resisted giving in at first, because i wanted to see how she reacted. She got increasingly angry and tried to force herself onto me, in a playfight-y way, trying to get me into the mood. In the end, we fucked, because i found it easier to pull through with that, than to keep up telling her no. It was a night where i learned how it must be for women sometimes. The next day she still thought this was going somewhere and i had problems making her realize that this was just a ONS. She wanted to stay until the afternoon and go for a walk together. I told her that i am definitely not going on a walk with her and that it's time for her to leave. She stormed out, not saying anything.

Knowing what you know now, would you have done anything differently?

With my experience and knowledge now, i would have probably milked that power position and exploited her strong need to get this validation. It's super powerful to be the one who needs sex less.

Title	Q4M: Ever turned down sex with a woman? What happened?
Author	Windmill_flowers
Upvotes	25
Comments	154
Date	June 19, 2024 8:34 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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