Besides looks, what trait are you MOST attracted to in a woman?

ComfortableJeans · 2024-06-24T19:45:50+00:00

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Comfortable-Wish-192 · 2024-06-24T18:20:38+00:00

Gotta be able to talk about anything and everything, and want to.

2024-06-24T19:01:38+00:00

Ambition (career/business - wise), independence, and ability/willingness to be a nomad

If I had to pick one, I'd choose ambition because it should come with independence automatically

Solondthewookiee · 2024-06-24T20:03:17+00:00

Sense of humor and intelligence.

Qwertyy123098 · 2024-06-25T01:54:41+00:00

what trait are you most attracted to in woman?

Kindness, intelligence, humour, creativity, confidence, bravery, athleticism. The on trait I cannot do without is kindness.

Hoopy223 · 2024-06-24T17:58:17+00:00

Friendly/bubbly personality. Someone who is really upbeat and positive.

GrandpaDallas · 2024-06-24T18:34:49+00:00

Sense of humor and sense of adventure are both very important to me. I’d say it’s one of those

Schmurby · 2024-06-24T18:38:50+00:00

I really dig it when women like to try new foods and I absolutely cannot stand fussy eating.

BaronIncognito · 2024-06-24T18:46:47+00:00

Intelligence is extremely attractive to me. I'm a higher IQ dude (so cringy to say that, I know, I know) so I really like women that are smart and value education.

Dense-Tell-6147 · 2024-06-24T18:11:04+00:00

Elegance. And I don’t mean expensive clothes. I mean refined, cultured ways, in talking and acting

Opening_Tell9388 · 2024-06-24T18:21:33+00:00

Sense of humor, discipline, emotional intelligence, loyalty, individualism,

If I had to pick one I am going with sense of humor.

TheGreatBeefSupreme · 2024-06-24T17:59:28+00:00

Gentleness, kindness, and not being needlessly confrontational.

Cunning_Linguists_ · 2024-06-24T18:05:09+00:00

critical thinking skills & humor

SilentFroggy · 2024-06-24T18:51:24+00:00

Puts effort into me. Makes me feel important

Vlad_The_Great_2 · 2024-06-24T18:26:13+00:00

Genuinely a nice person. Actually likes my company. Honest. Laughs at my jokes.

KingOfTheIncels_ · 2024-06-24T18:52:23+00:00

If we can just vibe and get along effortlessly that's the dream. But that's all women I guess.

I suppose I want a wife who I can chill and game with.

2024-06-24T19:11:23+00:00

Probably kindness would have to be there, otherwise it's a no-go, right? Next maybe humor, then intelligence. The rest of those things are nice but not necessary unless the person had a crippling lack of any one of them, like to the point where it affects their daily functioning. Most normal people can muster up enough of them given supportive circumstances.

KamuiObito · 2024-06-24T20:37:09+00:00

Bravery. Spirit.

LethargicBatOnRoof · 2024-06-24T21:02:46+00:00

Resilience and curiosity.

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2024-06-24T21:50:48+00:00

My top three are definitely kindness, a compatible sense of humor, and openness to new ideas and experiences.

Sorprenda · 2024-06-24T20:44:41+00:00

The way she moves. It's when a certain energy flows through her every movement, from her smile, to her walk, the way her hair swings, without ever feeling blocked up or restricted.

Consider it like how water in nature feels (vs a plastic water bottle sitting in your car for a few days). When water is open and free flowing - like the ocean, a river's swimminghole, or a pristine lake - it feels overwhelming alive, sensual and receptive, almost irresistibly enticing you to jump in.

noonereadsthisstuff · 2024-06-24T21:48:00+00:00

Being able to give and receive brutal honesty.

I admire people who can deal with the truth without flinching.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-06-24T17:59:06+00:00

I loved making girls laugh or them getting me to laugh. Just felt like no matter what, we’d have a good time.

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headchefboyardee · 2024-06-24T18:30:42+00:00

Reasonableness/Objectivity- The ability to see outside your circumstance in an era where individualism is at is highest is rare.

MrSaturn33 · 2024-06-24T20:30:18+00:00

Definitely just having a good personality. That's a big turn-on. A simple litmus test: how they treat strangers.

r2k398 · 2024-06-24T20:38:35+00:00

Loyalty, honesty, integrity, mostly independent, intelligence, and a good sense of humor.

the_calibre_cat · 2024-06-24T21:15:06+00:00

Confidence in her loyalty to me - i.e. my being able to confide in her and talk about anything, etc. She's got to be smart, too, like I'm not in this to pump 'n dump, I'm here for an equal and a life partner. I'd expect to be able to talk to her about anything, and I'd offer the same, but like... "anything" is a broad topic, so like, she'd need to bring some shit to the table so that we can have a good back and forth.

We'd also more-or-less have to be on the same page like, politically and philosophically. Sucks but I can't really date a religious person or a conservative. Religious people because I just don't believe in what they believe in, and conservative because... like, conservatives are bad.

2024-06-24T22:08:35+00:00

Sweetness, knowledge and moderate (not in politics)

jazzmaster1992 · 2024-06-24T22:14:37+00:00

Genuine kindness and consideration for others.

Savings-Bee-4993 · 2024-06-24T22:31:42+00:00

Loving, which encompasses kindness, respect, and care.

2024-06-24T22:46:20+00:00

I honestly cannot say. Attraction is an emotional thing.

I could make a list of preferences, but if I feel strong attraction for someone who does not meet these, it won't matter.

But mostly its just someone who gives off a positive vibe, does not take themselves or life too seriously and can hold a conversation easily.

I want to say not argumentative, but I think a better way of putting it is someone who is assertive. IE, will not have a covert contract and will not be passive aggressive.

After that, its mostly spot the red flags.

SKY_ACTIV3 · 2024-06-24T22:51:37+00:00

I’m late, but in addition tho what other people have said the #1 trait I judge people on is integrity.

Are you willing to practice what you preach? Are you willing to sacrifice for what you believe is right? Are you willing to do things that may not be immediately beneficial to you for the sake of doing the right thing? Do you hold yourself to the standards of humanity that you hold others to?

No one, I repeat, no one is perfect on these things, but when someone values personal integrity, it shows. I think that’s a truly rare trait, and someone who aspires to be that kind of person gets my attention immediately. Massive green flag for a relationship of any kind, but especially LTR.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-06-25T02:07:21+00:00

I personally like a woman who is just caring and compassionate. Seeing a woman caring about other people, like actually caring is the most attractive thing for me.

2024-06-25T05:31:03+00:00

help me achieve my goals micro, mini, medium and macro

2024-06-24T17:56:39+00:00

humility. I don't like arrogant people, and when someone thinks they know everything, it can be hard to be around them.

2024-06-24T21:12:09+00:00

The ability to rationalize one’s emotions.

63daddy · 2024-06-24T18:25:00+00:00

Reliability, trustworthy, lack of baggage, takes care of her health and is active.

Anti_Thing · 2024-06-25T04:31:39+00:00

Faith in Christ.

Upset_Material_3372 · 2024-06-25T07:45:49+00:00

Attracted to me would be a very desirable trait.

Spicy_take · 2024-06-25T08:07:23+00:00

Just make life more peaceful.

chifuyu-kun- · 2024-06-25T09:49:59+00:00

Looks are the least of my priorities actually.

PiastriPs3 · 2024-06-25T10:52:37+00:00

Humour and ability to chill without judging others. Seems pretty rare in women I know.

2024-06-25T11:43:25+00:00

I like a girl who is sassy and aggressive and playful and quite confident about it. I once worked with a woman and all on her own she would go talk to the boss and arrange for me and her to always be working together. We would joke around alot, sing songs, she would get all close in my face and be flirty. I’ve never had so much fun at work in my life. It was incredible, I didn’t know it was even possible for a woman to be so fun and confident. My whole life I’m used to women being a massive borefest mentally, and all they have to offer is looks, and then this amazing woman just appears out of no where and blows my mind. She moved away now, but I’ll never forget her, those memories are cherished forever. I’ve never met a woman like that before, and never since.

Muscletov · 2024-06-25T12:08:22+00:00

Mental fortitude and non-neuroticism without arrogance.

BeepBeepYeah7789 · 2024-06-25T14:48:52+00:00

I love confidence in a woman. Not to be confused with arrogance.

BrainMarshal · 2024-06-25T15:07:55+00:00

I was attracted mainly to a woman's moral character, her empathy, shared interests... looks came in almost dead last. I'd already dated young hot babes and they are what made me hate dating any young woman at all.

Fallen-Shadow-1214 · 2024-06-25T22:09:49+00:00

Expressiveness, Outgoing nature, Assertiveness and Caring.

thexiledking · 2024-06-26T04:57:25+00:00

No drama

2024-06-26T08:43:59+00:00

Kindness

sentientavenger · 2024-06-26T15:31:09+00:00

Kinkiness is the absolute most attractive trait in a woman I have found. I would happily take a kinky 6 over a sexually boring 8 or better.

abaxeron · 2024-06-27T07:56:38+00:00

If I HAD TO pick one,

sense of humor tied with libido.

If I had to choose one of these two, I'd flip a coin.

shonenhikada · 2024-06-24T21:15:57+00:00

Women smv/rmv often broken down into following traits:

Looks (race, face, body shape, butt and tit size, hair and eye color)
Personality (agreeability, nurturing, supportive, fun to be around, humble, kind)
Social status ( not known to be promiscuous, ideally no kids with other men, no visible sexual content that others can view, not divorced, body count low)
Money ( usually this is such a miniscule factor and only becomes relevant if the woman makes 10x the man salary. A girl being able to support herself tends to win out over girls who want guys to pay for everything; she does not need to be a boss, babe)

For smv (sexual market value), a lot of men for casual dating and ons will mostly care about 1. and overlook 2. and 3. This is why you see even among high, status men that some are even willing to date pornstars. However, when it comes to ltr/marriage, 1), 2) and 3) are looked at more closely.

Depending on what the guy prioritizes, he may weigh more on 1) and settle for a hot trophy wife. While other guys might place more weight on 2) and 3) and date a girl that's less attractive but who shines in personality and is less promiscuous.

stats135 · 2024-06-24T19:18:15+00:00

The best word I can think of is innocence.

On a higher level, I'd say what's most attractive in women is youthfulness. It manifests outwardly in looks, and inwardly as innocence.

Steakman1 · 2024-06-24T17:57:04+00:00

Being humble or calm. I can’t really decide between the two.

Fair-Bus-4017 · 2024-06-24T19:21:05+00:00

Intelligence / nerdiness / playfulness / submissiveness

All tied for first.

These, IMO, are far more important than looks.

2024-06-24T23:36:57+00:00

NO MENTAL ILLNESS

DietTyrone · 2024-06-24T19:23:51+00:00

Kindness, empathy (not just virtue signaling to seem empathetic), simple & straightforward (doesn't play stupid games about when to call and is just direct about what they are thinking), is selective about who she dates/sleeps with.

AreOut · 2024-06-25T01:16:38+00:00

Integrity. The thing most women lack.

wtknight · 2024-06-24T18:09:07+00:00

Removed. No in-group questions (men asking men or women asking women).

Edit: Question allowed because it’s part of a paired question asking both genders.

Cicero_Johnson · 2024-06-24T19:51:58+00:00

Besides looks....

Let's look down the list for non-physical attributes...

Non-argumentative.

OH! Only wastes her OWN money.

And knowing how to cook would be nice--I don't want to always cook.

JonMyMon · 2024-06-25T08:10:24+00:00

When she is enthusiastic, playful, naive, curious, id driven, free thinking

(but i assume my necessary traits to be reached already: kind, intelligent, nurturing, feminine)

NewOCLibraryReddit · 2024-06-26T01:14:34+00:00

Pussy and feminine energy.

TRTGymBroXXX · 2024-06-24T18:17:10+00:00

Blow job skills. Enthusiasm when giving blow jobs. Ability to swallow large loads. Brownie points if she does anal (pun not intended).

berichorbeburied · 2024-06-24T18:03:43+00:00

In my bestfriend.

Love/loyalty genuiness. compatibility. The fact that we genuinely like each others personality and can laugh for hrs. That we care about each other. That we can go a long time without talking. And pick back up like nothing changed and no time went by. Etc etc.

If I had to choose one thing. Love. Mutual love. The fact that whether I’m up or down. Whether I’m pissing her off or actively trying to please her. She will forever love me.

For any other woman.

Nothing.

Maybe the ability to have children?

Is that looks based?

I’m just going to stick with the default answer of nothing.

2024-06-24T18:07:35+00:00

Kindness, compassion, and generally being a good person - not exactly common traits in the fairer sex

2024-06-24T18:05:30+00:00

Has to be ok following my lead, otherwise it's not gonna work.

Barely-moral · 2024-06-24T18:03:27+00:00

what is the ONE trait you can not do without?

I would have said that insecurity would be it but I can do without it. Miss moral lost that trait and I remain with her so I can do without it at this point of the relationship.

I couldn't have done without that at the beginning.

Besides looks, what trait are you MOST attracted to in a woman?

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