How soon did your wife get into a relationship with someone else

Otherwise-Shop-9482 · 2025-10-23T06:09:35+00:00

Week she moved out of my house into his

LooseBranch568 · 2025-08-29T00:12:39+00:00

I found a plan b this week. It’s only been 3 months since asking for the separation, but she was at least already sexting

RudeEmployment993 · 2025-08-28T05:43:43+00:00

About 6 months before we split up. Then she lied to authorities and had me kicked out so she could cheat with him in my own house.

KendhammerJ · 2025-08-27T23:06:33+00:00

My wife came home on her birthday and told me she had made out with her co-worker. From there they immediately started dating - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_Z560cMuuk

old_and_weak · 2025-08-27T16:18:27+00:00

2-3 weeks after we separated. She invited him to her 40th birthday party, and told me "I would still for for you to come." No F that noise.

ArmSweaty8714 · 2025-08-27T11:06:25+00:00

A week after I moved out she had a "new" boyfriend. She was talking to him for about a year though.

Character-Change-507 · 2025-08-27T00:02:25+00:00

About -16 months. Maybe longer. I was in denial for a long time

ShaunyP_OKC · 2025-08-26T18:51:02+00:00

Right after we married. It took me a decade to learn about it though.

No-Victory6027 · 2025-08-26T18:11:07+00:00

2 months after moving out to her home state.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2025-08-26T17:24:24+00:00

About a year prior to divorcing.

At the time I still loved her. Why? Who the fuck knows lol. Hurt like hell but gym cured all. Nothing hurts like leg day, not even a cheating wife, so if its not leg day then it's a good day no matter what happens.

wodanob508 · 2025-08-26T13:51:16+00:00

after I filed and before we separated...lol

NC_Geezus · 2025-08-26T11:06:25+00:00

While we were married.

willowtrees_r_us · 2025-08-26T11:03:20+00:00

Not there yet but the real thought should be "I don't know and don't give a fuck"

Notlikeotherguys · 2025-08-26T06:35:58+00:00

Wait a minute... Your wives waited?

bodiesinthetrunk · 2025-08-26T03:18:20+00:00

I am about 2 months since she left me and we still need to file. Also she is still living with me and she just told me she has overnight plans tomorrow. So not long is my guess.

zauriel1980 · 2025-08-26T02:39:38+00:00

She was fooling around with a married man with kids of his own a whole month before she dropped the bomb on me, but as far as an actual relationship after the d-bomb and we split? Well fortunately it wasn’t with that guy, and I don’t have an exact date, but I’d say roughly 3 months. She was on the dating apps — which I know because I got on them too out of frustration … and guess whose profile was the very first served up to me on Tinder — and met someone there who she’s still with, almost 1.5 yrs later. He also moved in with her back in January.

I do my best to just not give a shit anymore. Most days are easy. Once in a while I’ll dwell on it, but I don’t break down. We have one kid together that we share 50/50 so it’s not like I can disassociate myself from her entirely. It just took a lot of time to fully understand and comprehend that as much as I loved her, as much as I was devoted to her, she had no respect or love for me (I didn’t even get a “I love you, but I’m not in love with you,” just a terse “I don’t love you anymore”). Which ultimately made it easier to not care about her the way I used to. So she’s replaced me, so what? That’s that guy’s problem now. All I care about is that he’s a decent dude to my son, which he seems to be.

Basic_Advance7627 · 2025-08-26T02:37:56+00:00

Well before I ever knew. Heck she was taking him supper and leaving me peanut butter with the groceries I bought!

Eric_C_Productions · 2025-08-26T02:37:29+00:00

Who cares? When the divorce process is finalized, whatever she does from there and her future it doesn't matter. Good riddance.

Any-Dare-7261 · 2025-08-25T23:11:35+00:00

The whore did automatically

l3landgaunt · 2025-08-25T22:47:51+00:00

At least 5 years before I found out.

Azazl187 · 2025-08-25T22:46:45+00:00

Almost immediately. She was the one that stopped being intimate years before hand too. Females are strange creatures

That1TimeN99 · 2025-08-25T22:18:22+00:00

Once I realized I needed out and that she didn’t care about me or saving our marriage, and did not matter if she wanted someone new or not and how long would take for her to find some one new. My peace of mind and heart was and is my priority.

BaldieGoose · 2025-08-25T22:12:20+00:00

Definitely years before she told me she wanted to separate. Bitch even brought the guy to our house multiple times to have drinks and dinner and my dumb ass thought it was just a work happy hour as she said.

slow-motion-pearls · 2025-08-25T22:05:23+00:00

few months before the divorce. she should’ve tried hiding money better…my attorneys got plenty to work with.

iqeq_noqueue · 2025-08-25T22:01:50+00:00

A year before she asked for the divorce

StatisticianOld8246 · 2025-08-25T21:45:26+00:00

Don’t know anything about that bitch’s life

jimsmythee · 2025-08-25T21:26:57+00:00

My exwife tried to hook up with an old friend she knew from 15 years earlier. He was married at the time and unavailable. Then she met me and we got married. Had the 2 kids and the house in the suburbs.

Fast forward 10 years and our marriage is going bust due to her recent pill popping disasters, but we still lived together. She messaged him over FB messenger and they were talking about meeting up and a string of things about me and how horrible I am.

Turns out he was just as worthless as her. He had his own DUI and couldn't drive. And I wouldn't let her drive my car either. I found out about it when she left her computer unlocked.

I just told her, "I know about you trying meet up with Dave. It's ok. Better him than me." She got really mad because she only told a few of her friends and she needed to know who would betray her trust. "Who told you!!"

A month later, I filed for divorce. AFAIK? They never met up.

Runningchoc · 2025-08-25T21:24:32+00:00

I’ll let you know when the divorce is final how long prior to that.

brettholz15 · 2025-08-25T20:22:29+00:00

Immediately…

ForQueenandCountry82 · 2025-08-25T19:20:42+00:00

Mine has never had a relationship in the 5 years since we separated but she tried hard. She was letting every Tom, Dick and Harry sleep with her in the hope that they would enter a relationship. The only part that bothered me was when she was bringing these guys around my daughter but otherwise I just let it go. The guys she was having sex with when we were still married hurt more.

OctinoxateAndZinc · 2025-08-25T19:12:23+00:00

one year since they moved out and we're not even officially div but whatever, I have no control there.

At the time I found out I was obv upset BUT a day or two later it was FREEING because I knew then I was totally done. If she had come back, knowing what I knew, there is no way in hell I would have taken her back.

So steer into it and be free, finally.

Hammerhead87 · 2025-08-25T19:04:09+00:00

A few months before she told me she wanted a divorce, she started seeing someone almost 20 years older than her. I ended up filing for divorce once I discovered this and haven't looked back since. Sole custody and living my best life!

demonofthefall96 · 2025-08-25T18:38:27+00:00

Probably a month or two before we separated lol took me a good year to put all the pieces together and figure out what was actually going on before and just after the separation.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2025-08-25T18:18:11+00:00

Before we separated. I have no feelings for her.

LoveCrispApples · 2025-08-25T18:02:49+00:00

Probably around 6-8 months before she dropped the bomb. 3-4 for sure.

ChampangeSippa · 2025-08-25T18:01:43+00:00

Couple months before we broke up.

OutlandConnectionTA · 2025-08-25T18:00:33+00:00

Monkey branched. A week later she moved in with her new girlfriend.

Reasonable-Glass-965 · 2025-08-25T17:59:48+00:00

About two months before we separated.

Cool_Cat_Punk · 2025-08-25T17:39:48+00:00

Monkey branching.

Should have seen it coming, me being one of the branches. She waited ten years, just long enough for me to age out of dating and playing in bands.

She only fucks co-workers so it was one year into her new job. We're not even divorced yet.

Bagman220 · 2025-08-25T17:36:27+00:00

I was the one who filed for divorce and a few months into the divorce she had started to have online relationships and by about 7-8 months she had moved out of state to go live with someone else.

I have the kids full time. I think I am more upset that she abandoned the kids than I am upset that she moved on. Placing 100% of the parenting responsibility on me has been really tough. But when she comes to town to visit, we are pretty friendly and cordial. She always admits that she still loves me, and that makes it harder for me to accept that she moved on, but we move on none the less. There isn’t a good way to process those feelings, it simply takes time, and cutting them off really helps.

For reference, it was about 5-6 months into the divorce before I considered “dating” anyone else, and am yet to have a “serious” relationship. I told myself I wouldn’t commit to anyone seriously until after the divorce was finalized, but here’s my ex out there living with another man who wants to propose to her when she’s divorce. Gross.

mchop68 · 2025-08-25T17:36:12+00:00

About 3 weeks after we decided to separate. She was still living at home, paying no bills, supposed to be saving up for a place of her own. Went into the dating app scene and within a month she had fucked at least 5 dudes that I know of and had fallen in love with one of them. By the sixth week he had dumped her, she was devastated because that was her soulmate and she couldn’t believe he’d do that to her.

It’s been a whirlwind of emotions but shits happened so fast that all I can do is watch from the stands at this point.

funnyman6979 · 2025-08-25T17:28:02+00:00

A year and a half before the official divorce with two guys and then after divorce met guy number three picking up my kids and he was in what used to be my dining room in his boxers. He’s still the best dad ever and I’m the failed dad but hey, here I am on Reddit trying to give back when I can.

DetroiterInTX · 2025-08-25T17:21:12+00:00

6 months before separation, month before I understood what was going on (he was not local).

dfb54749014 · 2025-08-25T17:15:38+00:00

2 years before she filed for divorce. 😂

FairCar7137 · 2025-08-25T17:14:17+00:00

2 months after I left, 4 months before finalizing the decree and he met my daughter 1 month after finalizing 😂

2025-08-25T17:12:49+00:00

While we were married lmao

MonarchistExtreme · 2025-08-25T17:01:44+00:00

It is bothersome until your brain finally accepts the reality that the version of her, that is doing all the awful things to hurt you, is actually her and not some freakish aberration. Once that happened, I found myself having sympathy for her new man bc I knew what was in his future.

The fact that she cheated on me, hurt me, like an insult and still does but not like a broken heart. Like the same irritation I'd have if a good friend ripped me off in business. The vast majority of women do not leave a marriage until they have the fill in selected.

Freeman2be · 2025-08-25T17:00:07+00:00

Weeks before I filed, with the same guy she previously had an affair with. She has spent weekends, nights, and has an upcoming trip away with him. She doesn't know I know (keeping in back pocket). I am disgusted when I look at her. I cannot control what she does, but I can control how I react and move forward. It's incredibly hard, but I try to move forward each day. Cannot wait for her to be my "ex-wife".

KILLER1175 · 2025-08-25T16:52:42+00:00

Literal days after I got custody of my daughter, I saw her with her new bf. I laughed my ass off and went about my merry way. Almost feel bad for her new supply. Divorce isn't even close to final yet.

PghSubie · 2025-08-25T16:48:25+00:00

My ex-wife wife got married on the day after the final divorce decree showed up in the mail. She was engaged months before that and cohabitating. I celebrated the elimination of any risk of alimony. They got divorced 10-15 years later. Now she's living with some other guy. I feel bad for him. But, that's not my headache

Ok_Builder_3285 · 2025-08-25T16:45:54+00:00

My wife cheated for years. I knew the guy, not friends, but cordial. I even stuck up for him with his employer and helped him keep his job at one point....while he was sleeping with my wife without my knowledge. I came home from work one day and all my clothes were in garbage bags in the driveway. He moved in a few days later.

Gullible_Rich_7156 · 2025-08-25T16:44:20+00:00

Thankfully long before we got divorced. Five years on I’m happy, thriving and with a wonderful woman. From what I hear there is a bit of buyers remorse on his side. Best of luck buddy! I suffered through 17 years and made it out ok-YOU CAN DO IT!!! LOL

2025-08-25T16:44:11+00:00

My ex cheated on me on 3 separate occasions, 1st time provided us couples therapy, then 2nd time I got us individual therapy cause "she wanted to change", 3rd time - I ended up kicking her out of my house cause she had a new friend. I tried my best to ensure my marriage would not result into a failure but somethings can't be helped.

I process my feelings everyday, I'm a simple man, memories, and I do reminisce, sometime I catch myself think what I could have done different. This is normal because it is literally trauma our brain is trying to resolve becuase it is a big deal. It's been over 36 months since our separation and it still feels fresh but overtime the bad taste in your mouth will subside.

2025-08-25T16:37:30+00:00

My ex-wife cheated, so the timing should be negative I guess. I didn't love her at the time anyway, so it's easier in my case, but I was still very angry to be cucked. I just get back to some extent to feel the closure.

ElFrijole · 2025-08-25T16:35:29+00:00

Before I even knew we were headed for divorce

HyperionAlpha · 2025-08-25T16:34:51+00:00

If you find you are like most men here, you will learn sooner or later that she has already taken on someone, even if she says there is noone else.

Mickyfrickles · 2025-08-25T16:19:05+00:00

I don't know if she has yet. I'll probably find out that she's been cheating though.

smooth-vegetable-936 · 2025-08-25T16:11:57+00:00

That’s why not everyone should carry

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-08-25T16:10:09+00:00

About 3-4 months before she randomly woke me up in the middle of the night to say she wanted a divorce. "I just want to be alone." Haha

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2025-08-25T16:09:17+00:00

A year before we divorced

Terminal-Earth · 2025-08-25T16:05:48+00:00

A month or so, even though it may have been much sooner…

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-08-25T16:04:48+00:00

She went back in time to surprise me.

Title	How soon did your wife get into a relationship with someone else
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Date	August 25, 2025 4:01 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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