Are the women who offer Blue pill advice on here just outliers or are they modifying their message to suit their audience?

CaricaDurr · 2026-01-14T00:46:59+00:00

I don't surround myself with women who are obsessed with those kinds of things in real life because I don't care about them either.

People who are average and below average in looks, height, income etc end up in happy relationships all the time.

The internet is a very convenient place for like-minded individuals to create an echo chamber.

In some instances the echo chamber can be a bunch of shallow materialistic women who want everything without bringing anything to the table.

In other instances it can be a group of men blaming an entire gender for their own misfortunes.

In real life things aren't so black and white. There are plenty of awesome women out there who don't have such rigid materialistic standards. Also there are plenty of equally awesome men who would never think to blame an entire gender for any of their failings in life.

Siukslinis_acc · 2026-01-14T04:10:39+00:00

Internet forums and complaints are usually the loud minority.

90% just read without any interactions, 9% interact with the content, 1% created the content - that is how online usually works.

People also tend to ve more active to complain or spread negative stuff. People rarely go on a forum and post "i had a very nice day". So what is on the internet does not fully portray real life.

Also, a lot of the posts here kinda feel lime they were made by neurodivergent people, who have a specific set of difficulties and specific rigidity.

kmb218 · 2026-01-14T00:36:57+00:00

That’s kind of how I perceive the red pill guys here. Sometimes I feel like they are a few outliers who have never set a foot outside.

toasterchild · 2026-01-14T00:57:28+00:00

I never see comments like this because forums full of superficial people like that would annoy me. One of my coworkers who I'm pretty close with is 1st gen Italian and it's like going to another world to spend time with her family in their neighborhood. All the people there talk about is superficial shit like looks and money, it's like they live in a completely different world than my main group of friends who NEVER talk about such things. People who share interests tend to group together.

ladybird_00 · 2026-01-14T00:32:35+00:00

I think they just enjoy antagonizing men

Makuta_Servaela · 2026-01-14T00:39:15+00:00

A few flaws with your premise:

If you're able to see the conversation, then it isn't women talking amongst themselves. They're women (and men) talking while knowing they have a male audience.
If the place is about discussing those traits, then people who come to them will talk about those traits. That doesn't mean that's the only thing they care about, just what they talk about in that specific forum. That's like someone looking at this sub titled "Purple Pill Debate" and thinking that every person ever has seen The Matrix.
The women who offer advice here may not be the same women who post on those female-focused forums.

Lemon_gecko · 2026-01-14T02:58:17+00:00

Okay, I am an outlier, that much is clear. I also don't see debating as offering advice, I advise pretty rarely and I try to do that only in times when it's applicable, like when a man asks about attracting sluts.

Then I also don't deny that height, looks, dick size matter, I just don't think it matters in a way men think. For example I've stated what dick size is okay for me (and it is a range), and men couldn't believe me and argued a lot that I'm wrong. As a slut I also have the advantage of open girl talks, so I also know about some other women and their preferences, so I don't think I'm that much wrong. Or I have a height preference, but it doesn't work in a way men think.

Can I represent all women here or the majority? Probably not. But I see women often agreeing with me on that and I see mostly opinions of them that I relate to, so maybe my opinion there represents a big group of women. Are there more shallow ones? Sure. Just as there are women who simp for drug dealers. If you want to go for them - go, and talk to them about what they like.

NiaMiaBia · 2026-01-14T00:45:19+00:00

Can you give an example of the advice you’d get?

Side note: I’ll be so glad when y’all stop asking women for advice. You’d be much better off asking men that have been successful with women.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2026-01-14T01:43:47+00:00

What forums are you reading?? The only online space I see middle aged women frequent are Facebook mom groups.

mashedturnip · 2026-01-14T02:08:22+00:00

Are most women blue pill ?

wild_squirrel_ · 2026-01-14T01:24:54+00:00

The only time I see content like what you’re describing (women obsessed with height, money, penis size, etc) is on this sub or other subs where men complain about dating. It doesn’t reflect the women I know in real life or online at all.

Granted, I don’t use dating apps to date women or browse subs like FDS so I’m aware there’s stuff I don’t see, as well as some generational differences.

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PlanktonBeautiful250 · 2026-01-14T06:37:35+00:00

The forums you read are also self-selecting communities. Women who have a different taste to what's being discussed won't bother commenting.

jorts-enthusiast · 2026-01-14T14:38:15+00:00

I find this sort of generalization so exhausting. Not all women are the same, just as all men aren’t the same. Assuming that we are all lying to you to hide the fact that we are a part of a secret shadow cabal of women running the world shows that you subscribe to the gender war bullshit that distracts us all from real world issues.

I’m not obsessed with looks, money, or penis size. I prefer dating people that I am attracted to and with whom I am compatible. My boyfriend isn’t 6 foot or terribly wealthy but I love him and for some people that’s shocking because it goes against the narrative that women only want super tall rich dudes. I don’t “change my message,” I stand by my thoughts and views on dating and gender relations.

Some women are obsessed with looks, height, money, and dick size. Vocal minorities will always exist. For every 1 middle aged woman bitching about how she only wants a tall rich man, there’s 10,000 normal women who want to meet someone they’re compatible with, and that’s just it. Similarly to how for every 1 raging misogynist, there’s 10,000 normal dudes.

pie-mart · 2026-01-14T14:56:51+00:00

I think women can do what red pill men do. Spew nonsense because it gets views and money. I however, don't have friends who belong to a single school of thought and base their identity on it. Including red or blue pill.

If you need this to be part of your identity I cant be friends with you. Having trauma or issues surrounding dating however, is different as long as you don't label your philosophy of coping with those issues with a random bullshit school or philosophy (blue/red pill/whatever)

Especially since those schools of thought are predatory

Meant to keep you angry. Online and watching and commenting and stuck in the loop of your emotions and rarely do they ask you to self reflect beyond your anger and frustration. The blue and red pill crap is often meant to keep you in a rage baitable mind frame cuz it makes them money and keeps you online

Disastrous_Agent9307 · 2026-01-14T14:58:29+00:00

I think everyone cares about these things, but to varying degrees and not to the exclusion of factors like personality, other skills, and moral fiber.

It's like asking me if I think men only care about boobs, bums, and being sexually open....I don't think they only care about those things, but I do think those things seem to be significant to men.

Keep_calm_or_else · 2026-01-14T04:18:38+00:00

What forums are these?

I have frequent women's forums and relationship advice spaces for the last twenty years and I have NEVER seen height or penis size mentioned even once. There are a thousand things women talk about in these spaces. Men's physical attributes are not even a topic.

JadeGrapes · 2026-01-14T22:05:33+00:00

Are you 100% sure those are women, and not just some guy named Chuck?

Tylikcat · 2026-01-14T18:28:40+00:00

You're talking about two different groups of women on online fora. Fora all tend to develop their own communities and cultures.

Title	Are the women who offer Blue pill advice on here just outliers or are they modifying their message to suit their audience?
Author	PlanktonBeautiful250
Upvotes	37
Comments	229
Date	January 14, 2026 12:21 AM UTC (6 months ago)
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