He called me a princess

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-06-10T12:17:00+00:00

I fail to see what you did wrong? You don't owe him a relationship or sex. This is a stranger. If it does not work for you both, then so be it. He should date someone else who is willing to drive or who lives in his city.

How should a relationship with him work out if you already cannot agree with each other and when he, on top of it, insults you, a total stranger to him and acts entitled? He doesn't even know you and his disrespect already shows. Hard pass on this man.

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-06-10T12:38:06+00:00

A man reveals his character when you tell him the word "No".

Good for you. You dodged a bullet.

EclecticBarbarella · 2021-06-10T15:23:32+00:00

So… he’s willing to meet you when he’s already made the trip for someone/something else, but not willing to meet you if he hasn’t. He sounds so impressive (/s). Expecting you to drop everything to see him for coffee, or drive hours when he’s the one wanting to initiate a date… thats the spoiled princess attitude. You did great

sewingmachinesavior · 2021-06-10T11:47:06+00:00

Dodged a bullet. Did not have to drive hours to find out. You aren’t a princess. You’re a queen. 😂😂😂

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-06-10T12:19:07+00:00

He tried to pass the job of arranging the date to you, which would have resulted in you being the pursuer, and the thing is once you're the pursuer you spend so much effort sorting something out that you're more inclined to go through with it even when you start to see red flags, because you've already invested that energy. That's why FDS says let him do the planning, because it's an indicator to his actual interest in you.

IAteTheDragon · 2021-06-10T12:33:33+00:00

Oh if you accepted to meet him when he was in town, I can totally see him bragging to his pals "Hah! I have chicks standing in line to date me in EVERY city I visit huhhuhhhuuuu! 😎" Good job on being 💯 princess!

straightouttashtetl · 2021-06-10T12:15:33+00:00

That's all it took? Bullet dodged. Men who call women princesses always want them but can't have them. They can die mad about it.

NowTruly · 2021-06-10T16:46:59+00:00

Where TF is the wooing?

Even a small fish under the sea will build a nest for a female to inspect for suitability before mating.

But we need to meet halfway? Why, exactly?

companyofwolves · 2021-06-10T14:14:41+00:00

If a man really wants to see you, he will move mountains to do it. Pestering you about meeting you somewhere for his convenience just shows how little of a shit he gives.

Tellin on himself with that low-effort 'princess' neg. He wants to be catered to and always get his way (every single Ivy League guy I have known is like this, even the ones from disadvantaged backgrounds. EVERY single one!!!). Self-centered and whiny. YAWN.

CuntWaffe · 2021-06-10T12:17:07+00:00

Scrote: "You're a spoiled princess" Me: "And?"

Hedy__Lamarr · 2021-06-10T17:01:54+00:00

He called you a spoiled princess because he thinks of you as already being in a relationship with him. He's chosen you and now you need to do what he asks when he asks. Except there is no relationship. You've never even met this person before.

If he really wanted to meet you, he'd just keep in touch and then plan ahead for a first date so that you'd be free the next time he's in town.

Don't bother with guys in another city. They're either desperate for a bang maid, desperate for sex or looking for a way to cheat.

I live in a huge city and I won't even bother with men who live on the other side of town.

ThrowawayCompassion · 2021-06-10T16:28:42+00:00

“Princess” is the “insult” used when LVM find out you aren’t a pickmeisha.

lostmillenia · 2021-06-10T15:20:25+00:00

He was mad you fidnt make it easy for him. How fucking entitled!

So glad you went with your gut and kept boundaries. Fuck boy would have wasted your time.

By the way... who insults a stranger like that? What a wackjob. Hes prolly verbally abusive anyway with anger like that. God forbid we dont drive 2 hours to meet up with a guy who wouldnt do that himself.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-06-10T12:10:14+00:00

Ugh he just wanted to get his pp wet ASAP and got mad it didn’t happen. What is it with friends and setting their single girlfriends up with terrible jerks??

FerretNo195 · 2021-06-10T12:00:25+00:00

Men do this all the time! I've had men who I have barely known, who kept my contact info, over the course of YEARS (one was when I was contracted to work in tech almost a decade ago!) reach out to me during the pandemic. They all tried to get my info, ask for my LinkedIn or facebook (I refused). They also have asked me where I am living, and if I think I will be in their area visiting. What pieces of fucking shit. Block, delete. What a bunch of useless people. And these men are business owners some of them, and successful. They are still lazy, entitled fucks. One is a musician and semi known. That person has to be one of the laziest and narc leeches I have ever known (they always are).

PS

Have a long talk with your friend about your safety and being used.

Platipus6 · 2021-06-10T12:26:52+00:00

Your friend sucks too. Surely they were savvy enough to realise this guy was looking for a quick fuck. You were being pimped out for his benefit only. He mad you didn't do out-calls.

radsera99 · 2021-06-10T16:13:13+00:00

No way lmao why should u go to an unfamiliar city to meet some random guy u don’t know? If he had a brain he’d realise that’s inconvenient and dangerous for you. He’s deluded

pancakefrisbee · 2021-06-10T16:27:36+00:00

Good for you. He sounds lazy and low value.

I don't meet men in the middle and I don't plan the date. If that makes me a spoiled princess, dudes like that are the freaking court jesters.

randowordgenerator · 2021-06-10T14:57:32+00:00

Queen!

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-06-10T16:29:22+00:00

Don’t do this, he doesn’t deserve a response, but I’d be so tempted to respond: Yes, I am accustomed to excellent treatment and respect. Sorry that’s too much for you to afford. Goodbye.

laserkatze · 2021-06-10T14:39:09+00:00

> something felt off about how he phrased it.

Gut feeling is so important! This dude put in zero effort for the first date and probably was just too lazy or ugly to find a tinder date whom he can present himself to in long monologues while he is in your town, so he asked you instead. A man who invites a woman to a different city for a date should only do so if she also is excited about visiting the city, because sadly it's a risk factor to be in a foreign town with a foreign man. This shows that he does not care about you genuinely, so you dodged a bullet, or how I also like to formulate it: The trash took itself out.

europoor24 · 2021-06-10T12:01:44+00:00

Dodged a bullet, you just said you'd meet him when it's good for both of you? nothing wrong with that. It's not as if you had been talking for a month or two consistently and were both really motivated to meet..

asteria2002 · 2021-06-10T15:29:27+00:00

I am glad that he showed you his true character before you wasted your time on him! You are luck!

4BigData · 2021-06-10T17:03:34+00:00

He's wrong! You're a queen! 👑

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-06-10T12:40:58+00:00

I suggest a day when I can come to a city in "the middle" instead.
I declined that too because it seemed a lot for me to go to this city for a first date

uhhhh he wanted you to go to a different city to meet him?

Aw helll nawwww

Lazy-Tax3986 · 2021-06-10T13:46:41+00:00

You did the right thing and were rewarded for it because you dodged a bullet. If he has the audacity to insult a complete stranger, imagine how he is to the women he actually knows/dates.

Angrboda229 · 2021-06-10T14:52:25+00:00

Yep you dogged a bullet. I rember a couple years ago when my friend (or so I thought) set me up in a blind date she and another friend went to high school with. They told me how great of a guy he was but he was just "misunderstood" and a "virgin like you".

I wanted to be nice agreed to go out with him and both of my "friends" were there to introduce us and sat at a table nearby for the first 5 minutes. I sat down with him and 10 minutes in he asked me if I was really a virgin, if I wanted to see his penis, hinting qt how big it was, and kept insisting I eat some of his food. He also sexually assaulted me when I went to visit him at his house and tried to rape me while his sister conveniently wasn't home. I proceeded to finish the date (I should have left immediately) and took my leftovers home in a takeout box.

When I told them of the incident they said "oh he's not like that". I told my "friends" that they were full of shit and to never set me up with anyone ever again. If anyone is wondering yep it was the same friend from my other posts who used to belittle me and throw me under the bus when we were in college classes together.

The same friend who told people behind my back I was "using" her for her car when she was the one who offered to drive me places in below freezing weather because we had night classes together and "it wasn't a big deal". The same friend who told others that I "stole" a guy she was sleeping (had no idea at the time) with when they were just fwb (she told me she almost got chlamydia from him because she doesn't use condoms and I wasn't worried because I never have sex without one. I was not aware they were having sex after the fact and cut contact with him immediately).

The time another guy we were friends with (who I went to high school with) wanted to date me and I suggested she'd be a better match since she wanted a relationship (or so I thought). She proceeded to manipulate him and when he became ill and hospitalized she said he blamed her for his illness because he was "in love with her" and "it was too bad he liked her better than me and he'd liked her first". All the flags were there, but I was too insecure at the time to ditch her fake friendship.

Edit: context.

rednopal · 2021-06-10T14:14:34+00:00

If women were actually interested in him, he wouldn’t spend time harassing one who rejects him. He’d just move on. Desperate and entitled

gravedestruct1on · 2021-06-10T15:06:08+00:00

Right move. Around the time I discovered FDS a guy matched with me on hinge and was a city away. Kept offering me things to go to his city like fixing an aspect of my car I was having trouble with. We kept talking for a bit and he started to get flaky and then the one time he was in my city he reaches out to me for a booty call and I shut that shit down so fast. If they really like YOU for YOU they would drive, period. People can’t hide their intentions for long, better for them to expose themselves then waste your time driving everywhere.

Plus the fact he thought you would drive 4 hours for coffee and called you a princess? Like what is he? He reminds me of those gross noblemen in old time movies that are entitled and typically ugly and get mad when the women doesn’t want them just for their $.

Aksentia_Ivanovitcha · 2021-06-10T16:55:31+00:00

The fact he was willing to drive hours just for a first date with you hints at an empty life.

Also wasnt like you told him he must come all the way just for you.

GabbaG0ul · 2021-06-10T18:03:21+00:00

He probably has a whole ass wife and kids in his city anyway. When men look for women outside of their area, it’s normally to have a side piece.

cakewalkofshame · 2021-06-10T15:09:52+00:00

The entitlement of these scrotes is unreal. I guess all women need to be as easy as ordering a pizza or pulling up a porn video to fap to. Good riddance.

nnanna11 · 2021-06-10T14:29:55+00:00

i remember a scrote getting mad at my sister because she wanted to cancel a date hours away. you did nothing wrong <3 men hate it when women have standards

spinsterchachkies · 2021-06-10T14:41:21+00:00

It was totally reasonable to suggest him meet in your city whenever he is there again. Anger management my god

seashellsupplier · 2021-06-10T17:50:54+00:00

This is great vetting! A HV who was interested would have set up a date in your city, especially after you making clear that is what you want. A LV or a guy who wasn’t interested might have tried badgering you or just told you he was no longer interested. This guy has anger issues, why would someone you haven’t even met bring up so much anger? Bullet dodged imo.

Ladyofblades · 2021-06-10T18:00:07+00:00

This is why I never, ever accepted dates well meaning friends suggested me. If the friends are not self aware/FDS pilled the men will almost inevitably be garbage. (One tried to set me up with a 60+ year old looking for a younger brood mare)

High value men are almost never single long enough for them to need to be set up on a date by someone else, with the possible exception of super busy successful types who hire high end matchmakers.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-06-10T19:02:19+00:00

The only "princess" in this situation is him. What a whiny little bitch 😂

Good job, queen! I can't imagine traveling for hours to meet a guy. It's so stupid. He is absolutely delusional if he thinks any attractive, smart, competent lady would agree to that.

restlessGal · 2021-06-10T20:17:35+00:00

Yet again proof that education and intellect have nothing to do with emotional intelligence. If he was that bothered by you not wanting to come visit him he could’ve expressed in many different ways, but no, he chose to be immature and petty about it

moonlightpuddle · 2021-06-10T14:57:25+00:00

What an entitled loser. It's always the intellectual types that can't stand when a woman stands up to them. I hate this pressure they like to place when planning and I commend you for standing your ground. He showed his true colors. Ivy League or not, his personality is a dumpster fire. As Buffy would say "You're beneath me." You don't need his particular brand of misogyny, it likely comes with a God complex. Doing the Lord's work by tossing the trash out before it can accumulate in your life. Good on you, don't ever doubt yourself/your gut! 💓🙌😅😁

pennynotrcutt · 2021-06-10T14:48:33+00:00

You have to dis a lot of frogs to meet a prince.

Longluck · 2021-06-10T14:57:21+00:00

Once again, showing the double standard of terms used for women versus men. Being called a princess is bad, but being called a prince is good🙄

You made the right decision OP.

ucompost · 2021-06-10T15:13:16+00:00

I would reply

“A princess? Nah I’m a queen of a kingdom. MY kingdom that you don’t have the be a part of.” Blocked delete byeeeee. I hate princess anything a princess WAITS to be queen. I’m not waiting for shit. I’ll take my crown thank you very much!

Hell I prefer GODDESS (cue Galadriel “all will love me and despair!”)

AbbyDean1985 · 2021-06-10T18:27:27+00:00

Male lawyers are some of the rudest, mist entitled men I have ever met. I spent three years in law school with them and several others facing off with them in court. His behavior doesn't surprise me. You handled this really well.

tomatfrogbubbles · 2021-06-10T18:32:13+00:00

So princess is an insult now? Lmaoo yes I am, thank you :)

no_tak · 2021-06-10T21:29:52+00:00

I read a post on here earlier advising us to suggest a different time/place when a man asks us out to see if he can deal with not fully controlling where we are and what we do. Seems you got your answer. Don't look back.

Also, if you felt the wording was weird, trust your gut. Chances are it doesn't lie to you.

Maude2010 · 2021-06-10T21:58:27+00:00

You were totally reasonable and he’s an ass.

FreshStarter0 · 2021-06-10T22:13:38+00:00

LMAO there is a crosspost describing the scrote as a "potential HVM". Hey scrotes, if this man had the slightest potential of being even a... moderate value man, the very worst he would do is gracefully respond "good luck" to the OP if he didn't think traveling to her city was worth it and move on with his life. Instead, he threw a fucking tantrum over text as if she owes him shit. They can't even hide their misogyny for a second.

If anything, this is more evidence that FDS works. She didn't waste any time before he showed his true colors.

modernmedusaa · 2021-06-11T18:44:58+00:00

Hahahaha male rage - he had a tantrum bc he’s not got his dick wet in a while. These type drop the mask fast when you won’t roll over immediately.

‘You need to get a grip and meet me immediately so I can get my dick wet nurrrr!’

aquietsword · 2021-06-12T02:52:01+00:00

He couldn't even pretend to be high value long enough for one date. The men out here are pathetic lol

UnitedHoney · 2021-06-11T15:08:25+00:00

A HVM wouldn’t be phased by that. Texting a long message name calling is something literal high school girls do. Also, trust your gut. If it sounded off, then there’s a reason.

Title	He called me a princess
Author	Kellianny
Upvotes	1036
Comments	133
Date	June 10, 2021 11:45 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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