Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...

EmpyrealMarch · 2021-11-08T03:28:29+00:00

I remember I was in NJ seeing a concert with my Asian girl friend. We took the bus from our university to that city and were walking the rest of the way. This old homeless man said something very vulgar about female organs and Chinese food and was visibly shaken. I told her "Don't worry about it, just ignore him." And he proceeded to call me a burnt, roach colored, black bitch, threatened to rape my dead body, and proceeded to follow us almost all the way to the concert venue and continue to call me names. He was also black btw. When we got to an area with more shops and people, we ducked into a store and he didn't come in.

There's been so many incidents that they kind of blur together. But this one stands out to me the most because of how persistent he was.

The_Cat_Empress · 2021-11-08T03:55:29+00:00

My blood pressure rises to astronomical levels when I imagine a poor woman being harassed and those PATHETIC men not doing ANYTHING to help...

Gaia help me I'm getting mad.

And again...I would NEVER assume you were a heartless b*tch...MEN say that because they hate boundaries and a woman can BREATHE wrong and she's called that.

Yet we have PLENTY of men DEFENDING these violent homeless men...men defend horrible monsters because "oh but he's a victim of (insert issue here)" I don't care!

scorchedsouI · 2021-11-08T03:07:10+00:00

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christmasforoutlaws · 2021-11-08T04:41:32+00:00

Gosh, there's a lot. It started when I moved to the place where I currently live. I have very unusual characteristics for this region and I was highly fetishized for a while. It was made worse by the fact I was dependent on public transit.

The first homeless dude started chatting me up while I was waiting for the bus. Female socialization was still a thing for me in those days so I felt compelled to talk to him even though I really didn't want to. I was 23 and he was at least in his 40s, but he looked a lot older. He got on the bus with me because he had a job he was going to. He was rambling on and on about himself while I was like "uh huh" "haha cool" "yep." He followed me off the bus at my stop and kissed me before I saw it coming. I practically ran into workplace to get away from him.

So I had the next day off after that encounter and I did my best to forget about Bus Stop Man. I hoped it would be a one-off thing and I'd never have to see him again. I was wrong. Another employee approached me a few days later telling me that Bus Stop Man had been looking for me on my days off. He approached her because she rode the same bus and our workplace had distinctive uniforms. Bus Stop Man was demanding to know where I was, why I wasn't there, and what my work schedule was. He was getting really aggressive with the other girl when she didn't have any answers. It got to the point where I had to go into work early to avoid seeing him or I had to literally run to my workplace (bus dropped me off at the end of the street) as fast as possible to avoid him in case he was waiting around for me. I had to tell my managers in case he came inside looking for me. The only way I was able to get this guy to go away was to have a very physically imposing male friend of mine threaten him.

The second instance happened during the time I was trying to fend off Bus Stop Man. It was one of my off days and I decided to take the bus to a favorite store of mine one afternoon. This guy was desperately trying to get my attention and soon sat down next to me uninvited. He started rambling about a boat that he was fixing up and how he wanted to take a trip to the Caribbean. He said I was the prettiest girl he'd ever seen and he wanted me to go with him. Mind you, he didn't even so much as say hello to me or ask my name. I was very annoyed because I was at the receiving end of a lot of unwanted attention and Boat Guy was what made me snap lol. I wasn't thinking when I said "Nah, I don't wanna end up like Natalee Holloway, thanks." He visibly deflated and said "...oh" and promptly got off at the next stop. That was the day I learned female socialization is bullshit and I was just going to say whatever came to mind from then on.

The third one happened maybe a couple months after Bus Stop Man and Boat Guy. I took a bus to the mall one day and I had made up my mind to leave when a homeless guy started following me. He started screaming because I was way ahead of him and wouldn't acknowledge him. There were no words, just sound. I think he was trying to scare me? Anyway, there were a lot of people there that day and I'm light on my feet, so I wove through the crowd and exited out a side door. He got confused, screamed some more, and went out a different door on the other side of the building. I ran all the way to the bus stop and left as fast as I could.

The fourth and fifth ones happened on the same day. This was shortly after the mall incident. I lived in a V E R Y rough part of town. Lots of homeless people and prostitutes. I had just moved there not knowing how bad it was. I was walking back to my shithole apartment from the Dollar Store when some decrepit old man shouted at me from the steps of a building. "Hey girl! Come sit on my lap!" He had a hoarse yet barely-there voice and he gestured to make his point. My dumb ass stood there for a minute trying to parse if he'd actually said what I thought he'd said. He looked like this and I'm pretty sure my face looked like this. But after my experiences with Bus Stop Man, Boat Guy, and Mall Screamer, I just walked off to the sound of "Fuck you, BITCH!' behind me.

Not even 10 minutes later a homeless guy crossed from the other side of the street and decided to follow me because that's what everyone was doing that summer, I guess! He was zonked out of his mind on drugs and trailed behind like a zombie, huffing and moaning and scraping his feet. He was having some tantrum about how life is SHIT (screamed for emphasis) and how PEOPLE were SHIT and something about BITCHES and FUCK YOU. I didn't give his tantrum any attention because of the audacity. He had no idea he was screaming at a woman who had just escaped homelessness herself. He quit following me eventually because he was bored but I had a big realization that night. The common denominator in these experiences is that these men who literally had nothing felt entitled to either my emotional or sexual validation or my fear. No matter how low they were, they still felt superior to me and were determined to assert that one way or another. Made me look at men in a whole different light.

scorchedsouI · 2021-11-08T07:08:06+00:00

Men's proneness to addiction and uncontrolled self-indulgence is one of the primary reasons there's more of them that are homeless than there are of women. Of course there are other reasons, but this is one. They act very aggressively when in shelters and refuse to conform to the rules and give themselves a second chance.

Women who are homeless usually have had something in their lives go horrifically wrong, and almost always have been sexually abused or raped by men before. They suffer immensely more due to their vulnerable reproductive system and sexual predators that prey on the weakest of society...

I said all this to gain some perspective, because I always hear on the internet about how poor and pitiful men are as a group because there's more homeless men than there are women, but I rarely see the specific behaviours of those men be mentioned, or the differences in the reasons why men and women become homeless.

It's important to be selective about when we exercise compassion. A grown, aggressive male that is screaming rape threats at a vulnerable young girl is in a position of power over her, even if he is homeless while she isn't. She is the one in danger of being assaulted, raped, or even murdered. It's important to acknowledge who the true victim and who the predator is in this situation.

dancedancedance7 · 2021-11-08T03:25:25+00:00

Yeah ew. I don't care how politically incorrect this is - homeless men terrify the shit out of me. They follow you, scream obscenities, run after you, lash out at you for walking away or crossing the street, throw stuff, and generally don't respect personal boundaries. Sure, not all homeless men, but enough to where I will avoid certain parts of town and walk very circuitous routes to get to where I'm going.

europoor24 · 2021-11-08T03:22:56+00:00

as a teen one touched my shoulder in a train car, and basically was going on about how he was going to take me back to his and r*pe me cause I was his, and said something similar to my stepparent.. funnily enough only backed off when my ZVM raised his voice at him (then he shuffled off like a coward of course).

one got in my face about giving him money so I did - he was taller and stronger and as a teen I was scared.

22- a few flashed masterbated in public in front of me, happy as a clam knowing the police weren't doing a thing (this was near a highschool as well).

- thankfully I usually cross the street and haven't had more stories that stick out like this

AAlegend8 · 2021-11-08T00:14:42+00:00

Yep. I’ve been physically attacked, sexually assaulted, and been yelled at more times than I can count. When I was 11 one exposed his genitalia to me. I’m terrified to say no to any requests for money, and if they feel like addressing me in public I feel forced to respond lest they attack. Men just don’t seem to have the same fear of homeless men, funny enough 🤷🏼‍♀️

catastrophejr · 2021-11-08T00:00:57+00:00

Notice how these violent unhoused men with mental health problems are still apparently lucid enough to pick female victims instead of male ones? Even through the haze of schizophrenia or heroin withdrawal or whatever they're suffering from, they're careful to direct their violence at women and girls. They rarely pick fights with other men. I wonder why!

Palminator · 2021-11-08T02:01:25+00:00

My college bf and I were in SF and were approached by a homeless man, asking for money. My bf was in the process of giving him money and I decided to give some too. I was reaching in my purse and the homeless man grabbed my arm and violently pulled on my arm (I received a visible 5 finger bruise for days after). I froze. My bf grabbed the homeless man by the neck and flung him to the wall, then grabbed him (by the neck again) and threw him to the ground.

The homeless man then called me a b*tch … ummmm ok

tellmesomething11 · 2021-11-08T00:09:29+00:00

It’s gotten so bad where I live. When I was remotely working, I had to arrange for my ex husband to escort me and my daughter around because they were everywhere and super aggressive. Now that I have to go back into work, I have to be in a high vigilant state, on the subway and walking to and from work/ getting my daughters. I don’t go outside if I don’t have to. This is why I will be leaving the city soon, because it’s gotten out of hand.

s_slayer · 2021-11-08T06:41:52+00:00

Omg something so similar happened to me on the city bus in LA. I was 16, my sister was 18, a homeless man follows us on the bus and sits near us and starts to say gross, threatening things to us. He said "no matter where you get off I'm going to follow you and give you a taste of my 9" chocolate lollipop". We were really scared obviously. After awhile the bus driver, a woman (of course, doubt a man would have cared) called us up to her. She said she'd heard everything and said stay on the bus as her route was almost over and she would personally give us a ride home. The guy realized what was up and finally exited. The woman must have driven 30 min out of her way to take us home in her own vehicle. Total angel.

Another time a homeless guy shouted to me I was going to die. I wish I would have shouted something back like well so are you but I let him get to me and spent like two days thinking I was going to die in some freak accident. I never give them money. Most are mentally ill and potentially violent. I'm sorry you went through this. I bet it happens more than we know unfortunately.

WestAtmosphere · 2021-11-08T04:14:17+00:00

Been spit on and stalked for blocks by one young man for literally no reason. He was definitely on something and looked like a street person, not totally sure if homeless but gave those sort of vibes.

Came out of my house for a walk only to be cussed at by an older homeless man calling me every single female oriented slur under the sun.

I'm sure there's more but honestly they would have happened years ago.

Any female homeless person I've come across hasn't really done anything, they more have just been yelling into the general "void", and just seem out of it. Meaning they haven't personally harassed me or physically harmed me.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-11-08T00:52:00+00:00

One spit in my face as I walked down the sidewalk. Of course, not one man did a damn thing. They all just looked away and likely consoled themselves about how they'd never do that

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-11-08T02:21:02+00:00

Not just homeless men with mental issues - but I have had issues with immigrant men in Europe who have no purpose - who just loiter and menace.

I was chased by one outside a busy shopping centre as I was walking back to my uber. My male co-worker was waiting for me at the car.

He saw the interaction - the man talking to me --> me politely moving on --> me walking faster ---> the man pursuing --> man running behind me

And my male co-worker just watched and did nothing.

Fucking loser. And he was a big ripped gym bro. The fucking audacity.

aurelia_86 · 2021-11-08T06:15:22+00:00

Yesterday I was waiting for a bus at 9pm at night and a man (who I assume was homeless) came up and started punching the bus shelter and calling it a "sh*t b*tch c**t'. He gave up quickly but it was pretty terrifying especially since he then wandered up and down the street yelling similar comments as he went. I just huddled in a corner to try and stay out of his sight so he didn't think to punch me.

There was a homeless guy in my city who walked up to me and asked me out on a date. I said no, asked him to leave me alone and walked away. Well. He remembered my face for years. I'd be walking round the CBD and then I'd randomly hear him yelling: "Greek b*tch! Think you're too good for me, Greek b*tch?". Other times he would call call me "Jew b*tch" and tell me I was an "ugly Jew" and that he was going to "get me". He'd mix up the ethnic slurs between various Mediteranean ethnicities and Jewish and make comments about my appearance accordingly. No one said anything of course. I remember one time I was at a traffic light and he came up and started screaming in my face and literally everyone just stood there awkwardly.

Homeless male violence is a taboo topic in many liberal/radical/anticapitalist circles, but I think it's important to call these disgusting men out. Being unhoused and experiencing mental health and/or drug problems doesn't give men the right to physically, verbally, or sexually abuse women and girls in public spaces.

I agree. I have sympathy for the issues that these men face but it disturbs me that it's somehow taboo to talk about the very real threat to women's safety and wellbeing they present. Like somehow if you talk about not wanting to be screamed at, threatened, spat at or assaulted - well then you must hate homeless men!

There was a guy in my suburb I used to give money to on the reg, he was a nice guy and all I ever heard from him was "god bless you my sister" or "peace to you my sister". I give money to homeless charities. I don't hate homeless people! I do however want to be safe and I want the same thing for other women too and yes, that means talking about the violence and the threats we face just for having the nerve to walk down a public street.

Davina33 · 2021-11-08T07:32:06+00:00

I'm so sorry. I've never experienced anything as bad as you from homeless men. I'm the last town I lived in, this particular homeless man would always shout sexual comments out at me. It put me off going to town a lot. I'm from England and I never saw many homeless people until the last 10-15 years. Either the problem has got much worse or they are just more visible now.

Men talk about how life is worse for men because there are more homeless men on the streets. Do they have any idea what happens to women and children on the streets? It's far more dangerous. Yes I got housed quicker than a single male but a woman with children is more vulnerable than me. A healthy single male is less vulnerable than a woman, especially one with health problems. The law has got it right when it comes to that at least.

Amazing_Wolverine_37 · 2021-11-08T04:01:19+00:00

Unwanted kissing and public masturbation. More times than I can count.

Vector_4_Food · 2021-11-08T00:38:56+00:00

My brother spends his time either homeless or in jail. My family did our best to treat his antisocial personality disorder but those things are nearly untreatable. Destroyed our family though. After some time on the streets and doing God knows what drugs I think he might have developed other mental conditions. He's definitely violent and deserves to be in jail. I also have limited sympathy for single homeless men.

gl1ttercake · 2021-11-08T00:53:46+00:00

Spat at me when I declined to give him money, and because I wouldn't make eye contact with him. "What? Are you too good for me, Princess?"

Maingurl · 2021-11-08T02:02:58+00:00

I made the mistake of making eye contact with a homeless man lol. He asked me for change but I didn't have any money. He then proceeded to call me every name in the book. The very next day I saw him again but this time he chased me down the street with his bike. I ran into a parking lot and hid between the cars until he left. It was terrifying. Ever since then I ignore every homeless person I see.

_cnz_ · 2021-11-08T00:52:25+00:00

I attempted to give him a huge handful of my food after he asked for some but he said that my hands were probably dirty (no joke) and wouldn’t take the food unless I gave him the whole thing. I said no bc 1) i was too broke to buy another one 2) I needed to take food with my medication and 3)I was offended that he thought MY hands were dirty. Homeless man then threatened to hurt me and wouldn’t let me leave the train. Train car was empty until a tall man walked in and asked if I was okay (I was on the verge of tears). The homeless man then got aggressive and a huge brawl broke out in the train car with blood everywhere. A few guys jumped in to help the tall man (but he honestly didn’t need it). I ran to another train car nice as soon as I was able to w/o getting hurt. The homeless man eventually ran away and I thanked the tall man for his help. This is the only time I’ve ever experienced a man helping me publicly during a time of need but I don’t expect this to happen again

tiavarga · 2021-11-08T00:41:47+00:00

I have lived in the SF Bay Area for over 10 years. The stories I could tell…and it’s just getting worse.

eatchickpeas · 2021-11-08T01:34:23+00:00

theres a level of violence weak insecure men have for women and never men. a homeless man doesnt get to use his unfortunate homelessness as an excuse to abuse women. society shrugs and reassures the women 'well yeah im sure that was scary, but he was homeless and he felt bored? dont you care about his feelings? homeless people are crazy anyway'

randomgirl34861 · 2021-11-08T01:58:30+00:00

I don’t see homeless people too often because I’m in a country area. However, my interactions with homeless women have all been very non threatening.

I had a homeless woman who was definitely on some kind of drugs that sped up her CNS and/or had severe mental health issues tell me I was “stealing clothes out of her wardrobe” because we had the same style. I passed a homeless woman who was sitting on the ground and playing a hand game with her daughter at night. We made eye contact and they smilied at me. I gave them a few dollars and they said thank you and I went on my way. I passed them in a desolate area and they were just good vibes and friendly faces. I was in a bathroom and an older homeless lady was dragging a deflated balloon around and talking to it. She asked me if I liked him (the balloon) so I said of course and then she sat on the floor and took a nap.

Even though there is clear mental illness or substance abuse, I can’t say a homeless woman has ever gone out of her way to make me feel unsafe. I can’t say the same about homeless men. Homeless men have followed me, chased me and yelled at me before.

MissDesignDiva · 2021-11-08T02:10:04+00:00

Honestly, this is why I love wearing my super comfy steel toe shoes, they look like normal runners, nothing special about them visually besides a tiny green triangle marker to indicate what they are, but if I'm out and wearing them and a guy decides to harass me, lets just say a kick to where it counts is coming and he won't like it because these shoes have no give to them.

apommom · 2021-11-08T00:19:30+00:00

I was spit on and have been flashed. I’ve had them lunge in my direction simply just to intimidate me, but luckily nothing worse. I’m sorry to hear about the assault and harassment you’ve experienced.

catastrophejr · 2021-11-08T00:54:11+00:00

A man threw chicken bones at me and my 2 year old as we walked down the street. The other men with him did start yelling at him and told him to knock it off and go away but it was a really scary experience.

Altowhovian93 · 2021-11-08T03:25:46+00:00

I worked in a homeless non profit once. In hindsight, a lot of the men were there because they couldn’t maintain family relationships, put drugs over employment, and just could not cooperate with others. There were 2 out of the 16 I worked with that had the drive to get thru the program and move on. And of course can’t forget the one I found out a year later had been arrested for murdering his uncle and burning uncles home down. That’s why he was homeless!!! He’d murdered the uncle over money and was avoiding the police!!! Which come to think of it is why he only took jobs that paid under the table….

dude was not violent towards anyone while in the program but overall everyone there outside of 2-3 or the men had some kind of negative or creepy vibe. Very glad I don’t work there anymore!

Peengwin · 2021-11-08T01:27:04+00:00

Yuppp, I have more stories of disgusting comments and attempts at groping from homeless men (I suspect some of them by choice) than I can count. But you're right, people get so up in arms about saying they're nasty creeps. I will help homeless women as I assume most experienced harm at the hand of males but in my opinion, a majority of homeless men are/ were probably assholes that dug themselves into their hole

thewetdog_ · 2021-11-08T00:53:54+00:00

Luckily my only experience with a homeless man was so far incredibly benign, to say the least. He was a literal hobo in rags who stopped me from getting in a taxi on the street when I was about 20 and explained that the taxi was denying other passengers get in until I came along and that they had been engaged with a motorcycle who was probably around. He said initially he thought the taxi had been called by whomever they were waiting for so was suspicious when I (a 20 year old girl) was about to be let in by the driver. He kept saying “miss get into another one don’t take this car” and when I made out his reasoning I was terrified and the taxi ended up cursing at us both and leaving.

I have had experience with loiterers, men that don’t appear homeless per se (aren’t as raggedy) but might as well be because they are meandering at the same spots day in and day out being sus and harassing women. Who knows where they sleep at night but they are permanently on the street and it’s scary because they are obviously part of some crew that’s organized and who knows what shit they are staking out, planning or doing.

They don’t seem to be dealers, they are just low lives (and I assume the dealers come and go) which makes it scarier because I really can’t connect what they’re doing here constantly so my imagination goes to even worse things.

But they have asked me what happened to the boyfriend and if Im looking for a new one. Its disgusting.

throwawayathrowaway0 · 2021-11-08T02:52:10+00:00

I don't know if he was homeless, but he was very disheveled looking and mentally unstable. He was at least 15-20 years older than me at the time as well. I was reading my book when he came up to me to ask me about my day. There were other people around us and I was really into the book I was reading, so I didn't pay him any attention as I didn't realize he was speaking to me. He went from 0 to 100 before I had even fully processed what had happened. He was yelling at me and calling me racist because I wouldn't say hi to him. I was so confused, but I am really good at ignoring things, so I pieced together what had happened as he berated me while I silently read my book. I've been grey rocking my entire life, so it's really easy to hide emotions. He even tried to engage other bus riders and encouraged them to shame me as well.

Bonus story: Around the same time of my life when I was taking public transit, I was walking on a desolate road in the early morning to my job, which was at a school. I had a backpack on and I had about a mile to go before I reached my job. A car coming in the opposite direction pulled up beside me and I hoped that he just wanted directions. As he slowed, I kept walking but slowly and when he stopped, I looked at him expectantly. He motioned for me to get into the car. I gave him a disgusted face and said, "No!" and I continued to walk. He was fortunately easily dissuaded and drove off. I bet he was mad that I clearly was not a child as I was in my late 20s at the time and looked like I was in my early 20s. He easily could have kidnapped me, so I feel very lucky to be able to tell this story.

tl;dr-Public transit is great for the environment, but absolutely wretched for keeping women safe in public spaces.

AmethistStars · 2021-11-08T07:28:00+00:00

I'm from the Netherlands, and I remember going to a house party of a friend in Amsterdam and this random homeless White guy kept shouting "Nihao" at me (in an attempt to make fun of me as an Asian person). I ignored him and continued to be on my way, because I didn't want to get into trouble, nor just in general waste time I could better spend on being at the party.

Compared to other people's experiences here it wasn't as scary, but I guess still worth sharing. Being homeless obviously does not mean a man cannot still be a racist and/or sexist bigot.

plomerst · 2021-11-08T01:09:18+00:00

Just last year, during the lockdown, a homeless man exposed himself to me when I was on a run.

IllustratorUnhappy55 · 2021-11-08T01:55:15+00:00

I used to work right by a downtown train stop. I'm a smoker and would sit at my buildings patio table for my breaks. It was separated from the sidewalk by a rail. Was talking to a friend and had one wander up to me specifically. He wasn't even coherent but I think he wanted to bum a smoke which I declined. He then went to the public sidewalk 5 ft away and leaned on the railing just staring at me. Creeped me the fuck out. Thankfully security finally noticed and told him to move along.

Then there was always this one bum asking for smokes. It got to the point I'd told him no so often he would see it was me and just keep moving.

I had a coworker whose dad was homeless. He had a military pension and chose to live on the streets as a crackhead.

Yet another example of if he wanted to he would.

sleepysiri · 2021-11-08T18:59:41+00:00

This reminds me of this man that was harassing a woman in the gym and all the comments were sympathetic because he had schizophrenia.

First of all, there are so many people with that, who are not behaving that way. Coddling the mentally ill and homeless as if they do not have the capacity for misconduct outside of their problems is infantilising and it takes away just accountability.

cupittycakes · 2021-11-08T08:23:29+00:00

This is miniscule in comparison... But

I was getting on the bus as one male was getting off- I could tell he was arguing with someone else on the bus and last thing I heard him say before the doors closed was something like "you're lucky I didn't pull my gun out and shoot you".... I looked at the people around me like "that guy really talking about shooting on a bus full of people!?" And others told me the argument got pretty scary/intense before the bus driver told him to get off

And another time I was waiting at the bus stop but standing behind the little bus shelter... It was sunny and I couldn't see my phone screen bc of it, so I stood against the bus shelter for shade. It's plexiglass, so see through, and this obviously homeless dude having a conversation with someone was sitting inside the shelter. I'm facing them through the plexiglass but didn't even notice them because I'm doing things on my phone. Next thing I know he is banging on the plexiglass, cursing me out, telling me to get out of his business.

This made me so irrationally angry... I almost called the police for him threatening me... but I figured I didn't need to make his day any harder when I could just turn my back to him. I realize it MIGHT have looked like I was taking pictures of video of them, but I certainly wasn't. Just... I know you're homeless but this is not your living room sir

These were in a nice college town and not direct violence to me, some of these stories you ladies have are terrifying

Cel_Gabe · 2021-11-08T12:54:53+00:00

Here are some of my experiences:

One time my sister and I were driving on a lonely road through the business district and a vagrant, fully naked and erect, was walking about the pavement, gesticulating wildly and speaking unintelligibly. It was terrifying because who knows what would have happened to us if we were walking instead.

There was once a story in my country where a vagrant held down a woman and forced himself into her mouth.

During Christmas period last year, when my mom sister and I were going back to the car park after some shopping, we noticed a vagrant by the fence, partially hidden. Why? He was masturbating while watching the mostly female drivers getting in and out their cars. I alerted a nearby police officer, who did nothing (big surprise).

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2021-11-09T02:02:53+00:00

I never had a problem with homeless men for the most part. I used to give them food. But a lot of men are homeless because it's their fault (the sane ones). But for the mentally illed ones, I'm always on guard. Idgaf if they have problems they can't help. I'm ready to protect myself. They shouldn't be out on the streets.

lansburysoda · 2021-11-08T01:50:30+00:00

This is why I will never live in SF/LA unless I absolutely have to. It’s gotten completely out of control

asocialsocialite · 2021-11-08T05:26:10+00:00

Frankly, I think that radical/leftist men envy the primal violence of homeless men. They see themselves in them, and they absolutely support their right to personhood more than they respect ours.

Homeless men are fucking awful, and are absolutely dangerous. I'm at least happy that cities like Austin have cracked down on their encampments - it makes me feel safer as a woman being able to just be, rather than having to put up with shenanigans from degenerate scrotes that don't have anything to lose. I honestly think that we have done a major disservice with deinstitutionalization, because these guys being on the street are a net negative.

frogchickenhorse · 2021-11-08T02:26:04+00:00

In my late 20s, I was working and studying, didn’t have any extra money. A homeless man asked if I had change. I didn’t, said no. He must have gotten change as he came out of the shop with a can of dog food. He got up in my face, yelling this is what he wanted the change calling me a bitch. I stated I don’t care.

Seriously get a friggin job. I have felt like the working poor for most of my 20s, so can they can too. Being verbally abused by your boss, me too!

And if they whip out disability or mental health argument, guess what me too!

LR_today · 2021-11-08T03:29:37+00:00

I let a homeless acquaintance stay with me for a few months, she ended up bringing her homeless boyfriend in. Apparently when I wasn't there (which was often) they screamed at each other constantly, cops called, etc. She admitted that he beat her. When he disappeared (like dropped off the face of the earth for 10 days) she thought he was dead. I told her "he's not dead or hurt lying in a hospital, he's an asshole and left you, be happy you are rid of him". Sure enough that slimy scrote emerged a week later at his baby mommas house. She hadn't paid rent (a measly $400/month including food! Which was a 5th of the rent/food) and I kicked her out. She cried that she would have to go to a shelter, I said YUP, I'll drive you there. She wanted to live for free and take advantage of me.

Every one of my homeless people stories ends with them overstaying while completely destroying wherever they were housed, taking advantage to the point of evil, and never caring if their actions made their host homeless.

I will never help the homeless personally again. I will never take one as a roommate again. I am absolutely livid that my landlord is trying desperately to make me homeless out of his lust for money.

Edit: that woman from the first story went back to her homeless woman beater because of course she fucking did

Suspicious_Bad_5178 · 2021-11-08T12:00:12+00:00

Once a homeless man grabbed my ass, it was the most disgusting thing ever. I was just paralyzed and shocked

Longirl · 2021-11-08T13:03:32+00:00

I made friends with a homeless man, I’d give him food, money, clothing etc. I used to see him on my commute to work. I didn’t see him for a good couple of years and walked past him not recognising him and he got up in my face and starting screaming at me because I didn’t say hello. I genuinely didn’t recognise him as he’d grown a beard.

cinequefoils · 2021-11-09T21:16:25+00:00

A few years ago I actually developed agoraphobia after a particularly awful experience being sexually harassed by a homeless man on public transportation. It had been happening for years (I’ve even been spit on and once had to sprint a mile home at full speed to escape a man who announced to the full bus that he was going to rape me, no one stopped him and the driver let him off the bus with me) but this one time just made my brain shut down though I don’t even remember what happened now.

I hardly went further than my porch for months and couldn’t take public transport for even longer. I’ve had people admonish me for talking about my experiences as if them being unhoused excuses assaulting and sexually harassing women.

NemesisNoire · 2021-11-08T01:51:40+00:00

I thought two homeless punk guys were collecting cans and bottles to make money until one turned and threw a bottle at my windshield. Of course I was stuck in traffic for 10 more minutes and no one cared once the punks ran off and their car's were safe.

Ok-Yogurtcloset3467 · 2021-11-08T11:24:42+00:00

I had one make tongue gestures at me when I was around 12 and out with my mum. I had another come real close to me tell me to come spend time with him. I said no and moved away and he followed and kept saying "you know you want to".

And this one wasn't directed at me. But I saw one man follow another woman into a store. He was being awful to her. Just so rude. And she wasn't even looking at him, she looked scared. I had to go up to her and ask her if she was OK. He got aggressive with me and then quickly walked off. It was like he thought he was invisible and I reminded him that he wasn't.

Keepers12345 · 2021-11-08T12:06:26+00:00

No, they don't have the right to prey on women or anyone else.

I had an man spit on me while crossing the street

Wasn't a major trauma, but it was a turning point where I realized that I'm safer by ignoring/not responding to any attempts to engage

If I'm not comfortable giving a random guy on the street my attention, why does it make sense to give it to any other random guy?

Shelters have rules and sometimes the people who don't go to/stay in shelters for help integrating back into society are on the street because they're ineligible due to violent behavior/drug use/not following the rules, by choice because the rules can be imposing, rotation, and/or other reasons.

The way that I see it, men in those situations often have little to lose and a lot of power to gain by abusing others

Keep safe.

jijitsu-princess · 2021-11-08T02:50:48+00:00

I’m fortunate to live in the country. The homeless may pass though our small town but the cops move them along fairly quickly.

The closest city to me has zero tolerance for this type of bullshit. The sheriffs arrest pretty quickly and don’t release. True story: my aunt owns a business and goes to the farmers market every Saturday to sell her goods. No shit the homeless guys help her unload and reload. She pays them in food and lemonade.

There is something to be said about living in the Deep South. Most everyone is carrying concealed, you had better be polite and most of the criminals go to church because their grandma would whip their ass. Too bad most men down here still have horrible character.

poison_snacc · 2021-11-28T21:35:41+00:00

These men are the number one reason so many women who end up homeless stay homeless. They are abused so consistently and so badly by homeless males while on the street & in shelters that they spiral into severe mental illness and lose the chance to get back on their feet. I know this because it happened to me at one time in my life.

Title	Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...
Author	catastrophejr
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Date	November 7, 2021 11:57 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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