What do you like about men?

toasterchild · 2026-02-10T00:18:55+00:00

I find men physically attractive. I don't get sexually turned on by simply looking at them but that doesn't mean i don't find men attractive. Sexual attraction just also requires interaction.

Werevulvi · 2026-02-10T00:20:09+00:00

I like their broad shoulders, deep voices, facial/body hair, muscles, of course penises, just overall masculinity in general. Although often I like it especially with some hints of femininity in the guy as well, like maybe he has wider hips, or long hair, or a small nose, more of a slender figure, or he's short, or whatever, as long as he's still recognizably male, and generally in shape.

I can find the female figure aesthetically pleasing, but I'm not sexually attracted to that. So although a lot of the features I listed as attractive in men, I don't see as attractive in a sexually appealing sorta way in women.

The only reason I don't often gush about what attracts me in men, is because it kinda just feels awkward to talk about other people's bodies like that. And because there's always someone who's gonna feel left out of my list of things I find attractive. Even though I think I'm attracted to a fairly broad range of men, at least if we disregard the fact that over half of all men are overweight and out of shape.

UnstableHotspot · 2026-02-10T00:29:01+00:00

I like it when men put their hand behind the passenger seat when backing into a parking spot.

Motherofvampires · 2026-02-10T00:06:02+00:00

I like the physicality of men. Their angular bodies. I like to watch men doing physical things, especially things I’m not strong enough to do. He doesn’t have to be a bodybuilder, but I like strong hands, forearms. I also like it when men do something mildly heroic such as rescuing an animal in distress, donating blood, something that shows they care for others. I find it attractive to hear a man talk about something traditionally masculine, productive and practical he’s good at and enthusiastic about, such as a mechanic talking about engines, especially if there are lots of technical words.

socraticsnail · 2026-02-10T00:10:41+00:00

I like my fiancés shoulders and his chest hair and his belly :)

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-02-10T01:27:56+00:00

I’m attracted to a wide variety of men. I like how they look. I like how they sound. I like how they feel.

P1anth0 · 2026-02-10T07:10:27+00:00

Physically? Face, body hair, arms, hands, abs, voice, and how tall they are. I am really attracted to long hair on guys because it’s safely rebellious.

Emotionally I like being held by men because it feels secure and warm.

There’s also a lot of random things they do that are hot. Seeing my husband be a father is hot. Soft dominance is hot, like if they are controlling in a caring and protective way. The powerful/tender combo gets me. My husband pretty much perfectly demonstrates this duality of being deeply kind but in control.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-02-10T03:39:20+00:00

Do you want my actual sociopathic answer? I do like women as well. What I like about men is that they are more sexually motivated and easier to manipulate. I don’t leverage this nearly as much as I could, because I do have a sense of fairness about it. I feel like a man should be getting something in exchange for whatever I’m getting from him, and I make sure he gets what he wants in return. Even if all I’m wanting is to get off.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2026-02-10T02:11:25+00:00

I like me some nice forearms.

the_scar_when_you_go · 2026-02-10T01:30:36+00:00

Men's bodies are awesome. Aside from the red zones (always a delight, visually and tactilely), hands, shoulders, bellies, the variety of facial hair, and how beautifully they age. The way their skin feels and smells. Amazing. 10/10

I love the simple enthusiasm over a cool stick. Info-dumping about a car they built a model of as a kid. Revealing they can identify wild plants or make a killer pie, just bc they decided one day that they wanted to. When they forget that they're "supposed to be a man" and just become these incredible, warm, shining bundles of absolute joy. Men wear happiness so well.

ChadChasingBReturns · 2026-02-09T23:53:54+00:00

I only feel attraction to athletic fit men.

jlovelysoul · 2026-02-10T05:17:54+00:00

I would say I’m pretty far on the feminine spectrum and I gravitate towards masculinity to sort of balance me out but not necessarily rough and aggressive types. More so a quiet confidence that you know can handle situations if need be. Not really about looks for me but more so the person and the energy that they exude. I think the kids call it demisexual nowadays? lol

Routine-Present-3676 · 2026-02-09T23:53:03+00:00

I have never once liked a person just because they are a man. I know plenty of men that I like individually because they're awesome though 🤷‍♀️

Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2026-02-10T01:23:35+00:00

For me and my guy personally? I love that he’s fit but not too bulky. Also….big fan of his dick. Not gonna lie 😂

OkKiwi3544 · 2026-02-09T23:56:03+00:00

I am a straight woman and I’m physically attracted to men??? I don’t understand your question. I think my husband has nice shoulder and a nice back and an attractive face. I like his arms, I like his legs. Also, he treats me well and has similar values to me and cares for me.

I don’t understand why you keep asking this same question over and over. Like, dude just admit you are listening to echo chambers and hate bisexual and lesbian women. You literally post in a “women are not into men” subreddit lol.

ResponsibilityAny217 · 2026-02-10T14:40:48+00:00

Men can be a great mixture of beauty, strength and grace internally and physically. It's a fun thing to possess and it's enticing up close. Personally my type is twinks that's just what I'm drawn too.

why women date men and not women ?

The thought of having sex with a women is sexually repulsive. I can think they're beautiful but if I think about them touching me I'm grossed out.

TalkingTanuki · 2026-02-10T03:45:42+00:00

I don’t like men. I don’t like women either. I like specific people.

My husband is the man for me. I married him because I love him, not because I’m into men in general. I’m attracted to him, I like touching and kissing him, and we still have an active sex life years into our marriage. But I didn’t marry him for his looks, his body, or his dick. I married him because of who he is and how he treats me.

MoonriseOverEarth · 2026-02-10T15:07:46+00:00

Men....

I do love their earthy sense of humor. I love their deep resonant voices. I love their hips. I do love a nice penis. When they are clean, I love a man's smell.

edited to add re: women.

I actually do like and did date women way back. I like women for very different reasons. I think women and their body shape is beautiful. I don't feel men are beautiful (which is not to mean they aren't sexually attractive). In fact, when men are too beautiful - ie, like Kutcher when he was modeling - I am actually somewhat repulsed. I like rougher men, weathered men, men who look like they do something, like Clint Eastwood in his hay day. Or Robert Redford in Jeremiah Johnson

Jonesdm5 · 2026-02-10T16:24:35+00:00

I love when I man sits down on the couch, legs spread and head tilted back resting on the cushion, eyes closed.

pie-mart · 2026-02-10T17:19:03+00:00

I find men physically attractive, if thats what you are asking. But im in a relationship with my partner because I like him as a person. And yes, the qualities he has, women can have as well. But I like sex with men, sooo yeah.

-hypnose · 2026-02-10T18:14:47+00:00

The way they can pick you up, hold you close, the way their body feels in general. Sitting on a man’s lap is one of the best feelings in the world.

And then there’s the way they make you laugh, the way they make you feel deep in your bones that everything is going to be just fine.

BrightPapaya1349 · 2026-02-10T10:55:57+00:00

I'm bisexual and I often feel like I just like hot people in general. What I like about men specifically is this :

veiny hands
strong shoulders and backs
forearms
lean body with muscle
a nice round ass that I will slap!!!!! having a nice ass is such an underrated feature in men. Please do squats at the gym. 😂
an erect penis, especially one that is not circumcised
them being taller than me and their hugs feeling protective and very warm (if I'm attracted to them obviously)
the smell of their sweat (again, only if attracted!)

I prefer men that are more feminine in nature and also more submissive in bed. Look up "twink" and you would describe at least 70% of what I like. I like well-trimmed beards sometimes too. Growing up my crush was Ewan McGregor.

My attraction soars when I hear his laugh, when I see him solve problems or help people around. If I am very attracted I will want sex nearly everyday with him and will welcome his vulnerability.

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ohdiddly · 2026-02-11T04:40:30+00:00

Mmmmm penis

Sonia314 · 2026-02-11T20:00:43+00:00

I find men incredibly physically attractive. I can't think of anything about the male body that is different from the female body that isn't a turn on. Like many women, I'm sexually submissive, and I also love the way their dominance (lower risk aversion, higher assertiveness, lower neuroticism, physical power, violence and protectiveness in the ancestral environment etc) ties into that. I do find men more enjoyable to be around intellectually, but that's just why my friends are mostly male; The sexual and physical stuff is why I'm straight. Mental connection is more important than physical connection in a romantic partner, but that doesn't mean the physical connection isn't important. My guess is what you're noticing is that people are not mentioning what makes them attracted to the gender they are attracted to because that's a given. It's not interesting to talk about things they are always attracted to. Instead they talk about things that make the people they are attracted to unique. It's also generally considered shallow and tmi to talk too much about physical attraction, so they are probably telling you less reasons related to that than they actually have.

HowDareThey1970 · 2026-02-15T05:46:43+00:00

Wait are you asking about what is liked about men or specifically about male bodies?

ThatBitchA · 2026-02-10T01:33:47+00:00

Nothing specific about men.

The people I'm most attracted to just happen to be men.

I'm not attracted to someone just because they are a man. Or just because they are a woman.

love_in_october · 2026-02-10T06:55:57+00:00

Well, women don't want to objectify men as they know from experience it doesn't feel nice. It's not even considered polite to say I like male legs and arses. I also like traits that aren't just found in men, like intelligence and pretty eyes.

Fast_Bag_3329 · 2026-02-10T13:23:19+00:00

i don't care for men that much but i love penis. what's a girl to do?

Same_Comfortable_821 · 2026-02-10T12:30:18+00:00

I like the intelligence of men and their ability to reason. I have my best conversations with men. I like how in control men are and I enjoy men’s bodies somewhat. Don’t really care that much.

What do you like about men?

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Physical Attractiveness is the Strongest Predictor of Initial Romantic Interest in Both Sexes; No Evidence Personality Plays Any Role

The most attractive men are tall and lean, according to women

Tall men have more reproductive success

Physical Attractiveness is the Strongest Predictor of Initial Romantic Interest in Both Sexes; No Evidence Male Personality Plays Any Role for Women

Title	What do you like about men?
Author	SnooRobots7665
Upvotes	48
Comments	281
Date	February 9, 2026 11:50 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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