Women Love Objectification, When It Benefits Them

SeaworthinessSea2407 · 2026-06-28T17:54:35+00:00

Well yeah no shit sherlock! Women (and men) like to be sexualized when they are consenting. This isn't some gotcha

chamomilecloud · 2026-06-28T17:46:47+00:00

Crazy analogy to make — you understand you are comparing women who are not doing anything to anyone except putting effort into their appearance, to a person actively assaulting others with a baseball bat?

The reason you think women are inflicting pain on you by existing is precisely because porn-addled male brains cannot comprehend these women are not your property to fuck as you please just because you find her attractive.

If you find her attractive, keep it to yourself, or tell her respectfully, and move on. No one is torturing you by looking hot, omg.

GGMcThroway · 2026-06-28T17:44:37+00:00

People like things that benefit them when the benefits far outweigh the downsides. News at 11.

Men would hate objectification too if it usually came with harassment, poor treatment, and being turned into a pariah while not being able to do anything about it. But since men don't receive those consequences, they don't understand that other people do receive those consequences. They're notably lacking in Theory of Mind, after all.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2026-06-28T20:19:26+00:00

Classic grass is greener mentality. You’re romanticizing one part of the experience while pretending the rest doesn’t exist. You see the free drinks. You don’t see the harassment, being dismissed, or having your value reduced to your appearance.

Objectification isn’t wanted just because someone puts effort into their appearance. Looking good isn’t consent to be reduced to a body, just like driving a nice car isn’t asking people to vandalize it. Those aren’t the same thing.

cb8585b · 2026-06-28T17:48:28+00:00

Woman simply exists in female body equals man is the victim akin to being hit with a baseball bat.

Lemon_gecko · 2026-06-28T17:51:08+00:00

Honestly, when i see posts and comments like this, i realize that men (who write like that) are incapable of imagining women as people. Women don't love objectification, they like when they are perceived as sexy, there is a difference, that many men can't grasp somehow. Nobody wants to feel an object. And yes, sexual interactions require consent, news at 11.

emmarie1023 · 2026-06-28T19:48:18+00:00

I don’t think you know what the term objectification means. It doesn’t just mean you find the person sexually attractive. It means you see the person only as a sexual object and not as a fully formed human being. It has nothing to do with how much or how little a women puts into her own looks, but completely on how misogynistic the person viewing her is.

pie-mart · 2026-06-28T19:00:33+00:00

Why can't yall understand the difference between sexualization and objectification

Solondthewookiee · 2026-06-28T19:40:17+00:00

And red piller discovers consent.

Altruistic_Look_7868 · 2026-06-28T19:48:13+00:00

A prime example of what porn addiction does to a mind. Thinking that any slightly attractive woman is there to be gawked or leered at.

Try to control your lust rather than blaming women for a poor lack of decency and self control.

Enough-Business-8287 · 2026-06-28T18:59:17+00:00

In my own personal case, I like feeling attractive and desired by RESPECTFUL men but I hate being reduced to an object. If guys like my humour, intelligence and personality, it feels good to see they also like my miniskirt, even if I'm not interested, so long as they take a no for a no. However, if I see that the guy ONLY likes my miniskirt and see me as an object to be used and then thrown away, that's not only disgusting but also potentially threatening, as men who objectify and dehumanise women are also more likely to sexually assault them.
I know that lots of other women feel that way too.

vicdamone911 · 2026-06-28T19:48:28+00:00

Just imagine the grossest guy you know sexualizing YOU. Now tell me how it was wrong to be grossed out?

Mors-Official · 2026-06-28T17:48:24+00:00

You're probably hurting, and it's easier to build a wall of logic around that hurt than it is to sit in it and feel it. What I heard in your first message wasn't a theory, it was a shield. You're telling a story about "them" so you don't have to look at the story inside you. And that story, if I had to guess, is about feeling unseen, rejected, or used, and deciding it's safer to be angry than to be sad. That's my point.

The brain has a neat trick it plays when the pain gets too deep. It intellectualizes. It takes a raw, messy emotional wound and turns it into a tidy argument. That gives you a feeling of control. But the wound doesn't heal under all that armor, it just festers and drives your behavior from the shadows. The anger you're holding onto actually changes your neurochemistry. It keeps your amygdala fired up, dumps cortisol into your system, and makes it nearly impossible to experience connection or trust. You're not protecting yourself. You're marinating in a stress response that's making you sick and keeping you alone.

bluestjuice · 2026-06-28T18:22:09+00:00

You're conflating two different things here. It's perfectly possible (savvy, even) to leverage a mechanism that provides a possibility for advantage for yourself, but not love the system. It's even possible to love the advantage you gain while disliking the mechanism.

If work for tips, as a server say, and I know I make more money when I smile and act friendly with the customers, it would be foolish of me not to do that, even if I dislike it. It's possible to think that this is a stupid system or even an immoral system (maybe I want to do away with tipped wages and have my performance compensated fairly by the establishment instead, and my performance reviewed by them as well), but still do my best to earn as much as I can within the tipping system.

Ronniebbb · 2026-06-28T19:44:35+00:00

There's a difference between noticing someone and simply being respectful and saying you look pretty or whatever. And either accepting rejection or you strike up a convo...and being a asshole who is deeming and crude to women. I don't like to feel like prey, I don't like to feel like the man will harm me. And that is all in how everything is delievered and body language.

For example when I was 12/13 two guys leaned out a car window and yelled at me about my body and how they bet I would like a tag team. Gross, disgusting and not at all appreciated, also I was a damn child so even more ick. Nothing about that was complimentary nor would anyone actually like it.

When I was in my 20s and out during a heat dome, a guy approached and very respectfully told me how pretty I looked and struck up a conversation. When I told him I had a boyfriend he didn't push it and wished me well and I did the same. That is nice, complimentary and very appreciated.

Does matter if were dressed up or not, bare minimal or no make up or full glam, or hell walking around naked with thigh high boots. Nobody likes to feel like they're in danger, everyone wants to be respected

Kreeps_United · 2026-06-28T19:28:46+00:00

I think the thing you have an issue with is consent. There are things I'll do or put up with for money, but I shouldn't be expected to do for free for anyone who wants.

Gentle_prv · 2026-06-28T21:13:28+00:00

There is a cavernous difference between those who objectify themselves knowingly, while benefiting from it, and those who are objectified by vile people.

Example of the former: an actor/actress, model, influencer (specific types/genres), porn stars, sex workers, etc.

Example of the latter: a person minding their own business while dressing modestly, a child existing (anyone who objectifies children should be hospitalized and/or shot), etc.

Example of grey areas: swimming wear, workout clothes, revealing clothing (with certain parts of the body emphasized), etc

The very last point is where most people have hang ups about. The vast majority of adult swimwear is designed to look good, especially women’s swimwear. Workout clothing for both sexes varies, but some of those clothes leave nothing to the imagination. And then you have clothing that is designed to highlight certain features of the body. Like, respecting someone is one thing, but if you’re out here wearing booty shorts and a crop top, or for men, grey sweatpants (IYKYK), you can’t really fault people for looking at you.
^^^It also should be stated that I personally don’t give af what anyone wears, it’s your body. I’m just saying that actions have results.

PositionStandard6089 · 2026-06-28T22:10:26+00:00

"Their looks are often a major source of power, and many invest huge amounts of money, time, makeup, surgery, clothes, filters, gym routines, and social media effort into maximizing that power. Then they act confused when men notice the very thing being constantly displayed and monetized."

who? when? where? i'm sure you have real world examples so what are they?

b_berry458 · 2026-06-28T18:43:59+00:00

Many women actually spend a lot of energy concealing themselves to make others feel more comfortable. Dressing up might be a rarer moment of fun for some women, modern women are wearing oversized clothes plenty too. No one wears heels these days. Maybe they just think fuck it every once in a while.

Personally I don’t feel comfortable wearing makeup day to day, will get a taxi if I’m dressed up instead of public transport. It’s not as simple as women ‘baiting’ men, sometimes looking pretty is just a nice way to celebrate something etc. I think women who flaunt it receive plenty repercussions, aggression from men and dirty looks from women.

Big_Psychology_3 · 2026-06-28T20:39:35+00:00

All humans self objectify. It’s our quick mental technique to assess how others perceive us. It’s a valuable strength to navigate society. But yes, statistically women have higher degree of self objectification than men do; of course this is not true at an individual level. Any given man might self objectify much more than any given woman, for example.

the_scar_when_you_go · 2026-06-29T12:48:43+00:00

Imagine being called "fresh meat" and "babygirl" by a group of men 8+" taller with builds you can only dream of, on your first day in prison.

You got attention! Don't tell me that not being able to turn it off is a problem. So what if accepting it is likely to be taken as consent, and rejecting it risks violence? Grow up.

You get influence and leverage! Totally worth the way you're gonna have to "pay" for everything you get, even if you didn't ask for it. Just don't be stuck-up.

You get validation! What are you complaining about? You have the value of a porno mag - that's a cigarette or two. Avg men aren't even on the market. Take it as a compliment.

Free drinks! Free snacks! Free protection! I mean, "free" in terms of money. But when you pay them off, just look on the bright side. More validation!

Followers and dates! Not in the traditional sense, but close. Just don't trust them, don't piss them off, and don't take it personally when the inevitable happens. If you weren't so pretty, you'd be ignored. This is way better.

If you aren't chomping at the bit to be thrust into that situation, congrats. You're a normal, avg person. No one wants it. They just want some idealized version that they made up to be jealous of. One where there are never any issues or risk, and everything is awesome.

Ignorant, misguided and sad.

AmandaPea · 2026-06-28T19:22:39+00:00

Objectification is the first step toward dehumanization. It's correlated with violence.

People generally want to attractive. Even then, there's a difference between a Clavicular, with his attention seeking behaviours, and a woman being sexually harassed on the streets when it's hot outside and she's wearing shorts and a tank top.

jorts-enthusiast · 2026-06-28T20:47:35+00:00

What’s crazy is I don’t post myself on social media, I don’t dress slutty, I don’t even really wear makeup, and you’re still here telling me that I like being objectified and am trying to be objectified. Lmao

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Neverending_Danding · 2026-06-29T10:57:51+00:00

You confuse objectification with sexualization.

I'd argue no person (of any gender) would want to be objectified, but some like being sexualized and use it.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2026-06-30T17:57:08+00:00

Yep, women want it a little bit more than men, but we both love it.

davidmetty · 2026-07-02T04:59:11+00:00

They complain that complex emotional work is exhausting, so being seen as an aesthetic object allows her to bypass that labor temporarily in her own mind...

That being said, I wholeheartedly agree with this premise. The concept goes far beyond simple vanity. Objectification is not merely being viewed as an object; it is receiving external validation in the form of aesthetic perfection, sexual desirability, and immediate worth.

Zealousideal_Force10 · 2026-06-28T18:54:11+00:00

Objectify a woman who is into you = 😁🥰
Objectify a woman who is not into you = 🚔👮‍♂️
Don’t objectify a woman that is into you = 💩🔥
Dont objectify a woman who is not into you ✅

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Acrobatic-Monk9735 · 2026-06-28T20:25:15+00:00

Why do men act like it’s some secret gotcha when women enjoy the benefits of something??

Leftysquirt · 2026-06-28T21:44:41+00:00

Very well written

Ventynine · 2026-06-28T19:48:17+00:00

Of course not every woman is the same, and this pattern shows way more often on social media rather than in real life.

But you are spot on, tbh.

Prime example is OnlyFans, a place where women deliberately objectify themselves (in the worst ways possible). But as soon as someone treats them as an online prostitute it would be wrong? Yea, fuck off…

I know a woman who does OF is probably the most extreme example, but the same applies to many other women.

So yea, I think you’re right.

Separate-Win3438 · 2026-06-29T01:28:02+00:00

A simple solution for women is to simply dress up with a hijab.

Title	Women Love Objectification, When It Benefits Them
Author	Emotional_Meal748
Upvotes	42
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Date	June 28, 2026 5:38 PM UTC (3 weeks ago)
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