Men tend to complain about women being fatter in person vs. their dating app pics... Well in my experience TOO 👏 MANY 👏 MEN 👏straight up LIE about their height

rebelliousswagger · 2021-10-28T20:40:06+00:00

That plus “hatfishing” Which is used when they have a hat on in every pic to hide their receding hairline.

Also the pics from 2/3 years ago where they weren’t as fat.

poppinkitty · 2021-10-28T15:17:12+00:00

They also use decade old pictures, a time when they had hair and didn't have beer bellies. I was taking to an old school-mate of mine and I asked him for a picture since he has none in his insta profile. He sent me a picture from our school days. 🤡

poison_snacc · 2021-10-28T21:56:00+00:00

First of all, a lot of guys these these days, especially the ones you’ll meet online, are a deadly combination of entitled and unpredictable. You never know what someone’s reaction is going to be if you end up not looking like whatever kind of snack they believe themselves to be entitled to. If you’re going to get into OLD, remember there are a lot of freaks out there, it’s a dangerous game, so protect yourself and test out whatever photos you’re using with a friend to make sure they match your appearance at that very time!!

That being said, it is a hell of a lot weirder IMO to lie about something that will never change, like your height (or the size of your nose or the shade of your skin or your natural hair color etc) than it is to intentionally or unintentionally conceal your weight with photos. This is because humans can fluctuate in size horizontally all they want, but never vertically. The only exception to a guy changing in height would be a late in life growth spurt or one of those mysterious leg length surgeries that incels are said to be obsessed with— both equally rare occurrences.

Why say you’re 6’1” when you’re 5’10”?? It’s so glaringly obvious. We know they think we’re dumb so I suppose that’s part of the logic but I just don’t get it. It’s honestly an incredibly strange thing to try and conceal. Height will never change. I fortunately haven’t had the pleasure of getting heightfished but I’m excited to read y’all’s tales of this bizarre experience. What are the justifications behind it? And why do it if you don’t already know whether a woman even cares about your height?

Determinedblonde · 2021-10-28T22:34:48+00:00

Any time a guy says he’s a certain height, subtract 2-4 inches and if he says he’s in ok shape, add 2 sizes

MsXxSelfDestructxX · 2021-10-29T00:11:19+00:00

The worst ones are the guys that think being 6' tall is an excuse for them to also be morbidly obese and live unhealthy life styles since being taller accounts for being able to consume more I guess idk.. I'm 5'2 so I don't really require a HVM to be over 6' but I also want to avoid dating short men because they are the ones most prone to being violent in my experiences

champagnebjs · 2021-10-28T15:38:28+00:00

YES! Guys be catfishing all day left and right on OLD. 1) 10-15 yr old pics from their fit, youthful, prime college days. 2) wearing hats in all their pics Bc they’re bald or their hairline has receded. 3) well-defined 6 pack in pics but 80 lbs heavier in real life 4) shorter in person of course 5) lying about age 6) taking professional pics with the right angles and lighting. One guy managed to hide 40% of the rest of his large, oblong shaped head and the Mt. Everest of a nose he had. shutters never again. Literally day and night. Completely shocked, I walked right out.

I think the only way to find out is to REQUIRE a video call beforehand. Not the best and foolproof way but it’s better than nothing.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-10-28T17:02:25+00:00

I propose a thought experiment.

Go on a dating app and set the preferences filters to only show you "fit" or "jacked" or "thin" men. 95% of the men who you will see are going to be obese fat-lards who classify themselves as "thin" or "jacked" or "fit" in order to match with thin/fit women, while they continue to look like Jabba the Hut.

don't EVEN get me started on hatfishing and beardfishing.

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-10-29T00:19:25+00:00

I'm wary of men who don't show their teeth in any of their pictures. Had a bad experience with someone who was basically all gums. Plus he lied about he height, dude could have been a jockey with how tiny he was.

meecy166 · 2021-10-28T17:01:51+00:00

Not just height but weight too. I'm 5'9 and skinny. I was going to meet up with this guy and he said we were the same height and he was like wow you are my height. Met him in person this guy had to be 5'6, and he had a massive gut belly, like sir you are 25. And it was so big but he hid it in his picture lol. Another red flag is that he literally agreed with everything I said, like even when I was testing him about stuff I don't like, he still agreed with me, trying to pretend to be something he is not lol.

sacchilax · 2021-10-28T20:45:16+00:00

I remember my ex told me that his height is with shoes on just like the NBA players do. LOL. Maybe if he had skills like Muggsy Bogues it would've been different....but the only basketball skills he had were on NBA2k.

UnapologeticWife · 2021-10-28T19:27:47+00:00

There are studies that show men overrate their attractiveness compared to women, and that conventionally unattractive people overrate their attractiveness compared to conventially attractive people. I agree that some of these guys on dating apps know they’re misrepresenting themselves and do so on purpose and that trend is backed up by those studies. When I tried using online dating back in the day, I was blown away by the amount of men who thought they looked younger by 10plus years or would lie about their ages. Like, who told you that you look that young? Your mom?

kikyo143 · 2021-10-28T16:22:13+00:00

Yes exactly ugh my ex put on his profile that he was 5’11 (I’m 5’6) btw and he is easily 5’8 not very much taller than me. I remember one time when we were talking he said “you probably don’t like me because I’m short” and I subconsciously said yes (I’m not shallow but don’t lie about your height?)

and he was like “wtf? I’m not short I’m average”

I don’t understand why men lie about their physical features and then get mad when someone doesn’t accept it lool

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2021-10-28T15:29:37+00:00

Men lie about their physical looks as well. Not just height OP. We have to remember men are putting out the best they have to offer, pictures they believe they look good in and so will others. Height is just one thing they lie bout. Men will take a picture looking like Trevante Rhodes but pop up looking like Steve Buscemi.

let's also discuss men lying about their race, their age, and their career to get women interest. No Craig you are not Asian, No Chad you are not 25 you are 48, no you are not a dietitian you are a dietary aid and make 10 dollars an hour Bob. The height be just the icing on the cake, and IDGAF about height.

pinkgirly111 · 2021-10-28T18:46:57+00:00

and age. they def lie about their age to match with younger women. so creepy.

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-10-28T22:47:46+00:00

You also can't tell how current their pictures even are!!

I've actually run into my ex-husband's profile as well as my ex-boyfriend's...

ALL of my ex-husband's pictures were at least 2 years old!

My exbf also had old pictures, some within the past year we were together lol! And two really old ones. He at least had one current one though, but you still couldn't really see his face in it.

Look for clues if you can, my exbf has his forearm tattooed so these old pictures showed the development of his sleeve and it was obvious he had old pictures lol!

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-10-28T16:31:16+00:00

Men lie about their height, age and weight all the time.

saint-jezebel · 2021-10-28T17:00:38+00:00

I’ve been catfished by men who post old pictures, so ideally, they’re lying about weight, appearance and the life they’re living, but get upset at women for filters. IMO, posting an old picture is not ideal because if you don’t look like that, you’ll be quick to ask the woman for sympathy. Using our feelings against us. I block these men because they’re lying from the jump and I’m not with the games.

Want to add this only happened twice and I quit OLD so quick after this 🤣

bonghits4jess · 2021-10-28T16:12:51+00:00

Back in college I had a date with a man who failed to mention he was a wheelchair user. I even did the pre-screen FaceTime date and he still catfished me!!! He had full body pics of himself on his profile but I never realized that they were all of him sitting. I show up to our date and I’m looking around for him, and then I feel someone come up next to me and I look down to see dude in his wheelchair. I felt like it would be ableist to be upset and walk out of the date so I continued it. It was actually a pleasant date but I was still just like wtf this dude really failed to mention this huge characteristic about himself. I’m not sure that I would’ve given him a chance if I knew so he knew exactly wtf he was doing but yes. Men will lie about anything and everything

AmeliaEmiliaEmma · 2021-10-28T17:11:57+00:00

I was wise enough to do FaceTime before meeting- it’s a must! This guy pushed while chatting how “he is so funny” how he “has a great personality” and it was till the point it was obvious he was trying to steer me in that direction for some suspicious reason. Sure enough, FaceTime and…. Guy is at least 50lbs heavier, with a beard, put a hat on to hide he was bald now. Aged terrible from probably refusing to use sunscreen. His height was probably a lie too.

To be honest, he wasn’t funny, he did not have a great personality. He had a rude, primitive type of humor and laugh at his own jokes when they were not funny at all. Never talked to him after that.

quasarbar · 2021-10-28T22:37:52+00:00

Men downplay their obesity too.

Years ago I used a site where your profile would describe your body type. The options were, as I recall:

Athletic
Slim
Average
"I should maybe lose a few"
"Full-figured"

The last two were obviously kinda euphemistic, but whatever. It wasn't hard to tell what was meant by these descriptions... or at least, you wouldn't think it was hard.

There were a number of men who were approximately spherical, judging from their photos, who would select "I should maybe lose a few" instead of the largest option.

Like, no, "I should maybe lose a few" implies that you're 20 pounds overweight, not 200 pounds overweight, Richard.

AAlegend8 · 2021-10-28T16:25:07+00:00

Closed mouth smile, beware🎃Those teeth might be stained/randomly placed and he might have horse gums.

Tharwaum · 2021-10-28T18:49:30+00:00

Also maybe someone gained weight in a few months, explaining a difference; but there’s no reason to not know your height. And it didn’t change.

woadsky · 2021-10-28T18:53:52+00:00

Lying is a dealbreaker for me.

NotSoSmartChick · 2021-10-28T18:30:52+00:00

My only catfish was the guy who said he was 5’9”, but in actuality he was 5’4”. The worst part was that height isn’t one of my criteria, but I won’t date a liar.

misandryisnotreal · 2021-10-29T01:32:47+00:00

BuT hEiGhT aNd HaIrLiNeS aRe GeNeTiC

shockingupdate · 2021-10-29T01:56:55+00:00

We keep getting curious and looking from time to time but IT’S ALL CHALUPAS 🤣

throwawayaway388 · 2021-10-29T02:16:44+00:00

I've read some weird PUA/RP shit that explicitly tells men to just straight up lie about their height 🙄

waddamelone · 2021-10-28T18:48:25+00:00

Yup! I was dating someone this summer and when I first saw him the only thing I thought was “He looks good. But is he really 185cm?” Then I asked him and he kind of got offended because “I never told you I was 185cm, I’m 180cm so maybe you’re thinking about your other dates?”.

185 or 180cm… He still looked shorter than both of those heights lmfaoooo.

husheveryone · 2021-10-28T17:19:51+00:00

“Catfished by George Costanza” OLD pics 🤣🤣deceased, sis! 😂😂

deadinsidelol69 · 2021-10-28T18:13:21+00:00

When I made the mistake of using the dumpster fire of OLD there was a guy who was really cute in his pictures, was fit, had nice hair, all the goods.

When he shows up to the restaurant this motherfucker is at least 5 years older than when the pics were taken, he's doubled his weight, and his hairline is receding. He was also clearly lying about his age, he claimed to be 23 but it was more like 27. I got very lucky and just so happened to see my friend and her mom at the same restaurant, so I ditched him and joined them instead.

Quebeks · 2021-10-28T19:32:42+00:00

Exactly!! That shit makes me so mad. No second date for guys who lie about their height. Why do these guys think we won’t find out they lied? Do they really think we are that dumb?!

4evaneva · 2021-10-28T21:13:46+00:00

My LVM ex said he was 5’9 but later admitted he was 5’7, I’m 5 feet - I couldn’t even tell the difference in him but of course him lying showed me his insecurities.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-10-29T07:02:41+00:00

😂😂😂the TLDR was savage and I'm here for it

pepperfog · 2021-10-28T18:22:25+00:00

I had a boss that was shorter than me. He was clearly 5'4" on his driver's license it said he was 5'10".

He also wore cowboy boots all the time because it gave him a two inch lift.

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slayeroftruth · 2021-10-29T06:02:33+00:00

Men lie about weight. They will use old pictures where they looked younger and fit then show up like this: https://imgur.com/556DUQq

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2021-10-28T21:00:01+00:00

I've experienced men lying about their weight and height

FI-REfox · 2021-10-29T03:08:18+00:00

LOOOOOOL, it's chalupas all the way down! XD

divination__ · 2021-10-28T18:05:19+00:00

I'm 158cm (just over 5"2) so I'm not super picky over height, the shortest I'd date is 178cm (5"8) and personally my ideal is between 180cm and 187cm (5"10-6"1). I went on a date with a guy who said he was 178cm (5"8). I arrived later to the restaurant so he was already sitting down, he only leant over the table to greet me so I didn't notice his height until the very end when he stood up and was at eye level to me. Granted, I was wearing heels, but they were small and I'd have been no taller than 160cm (5"4) in them. Obv there was no second date.

I don't understand why these men lie? He literally wasted hundreds on that date that didn't need to happen. Just find someone for whom your height isn't a dealbreaker, you're not going to win someone over with your charming personality or the money you're spending if you categorically do not meet their standards and for the people who know they have better options. Worst of all his personality was so dry too, so he wouldn't have even won me over on that front.

Yes, if he said what his height actually was, he'd have been more limited with the matches he got, but at least they would be matches who earnestly didn't care about his height. I wouldn't have matched simply because I know that I have other options, so he wasted his own time and money as well as mine tbh.

PeachPitiless · 2021-10-29T11:15:13+00:00

I'm actually still on OLD, I thought with my recent move it would help me meet men. Yeah it did, low effort pornsick men. Since I've been applying the handbook, OLD doesn't work at all. I hardly get any matches because I won't send likes first. If I do get a match, they start in on the sex or trauma talk right away.

The last match I got I thought looked perfect. Incredibly handsome, tall, active, well-written profile. Soon as we matched he sent me a voice recording about how he was glad to have found me now because he's been hurt in relationships so often. Oh and that he has PTSD from being a firefighter. He rambled on about his painful life for three minutes before I said more than a greeting to him. No thank you.

iaintgonnacallyou · 2021-10-29T00:04:16+00:00

I went on a date a few months back with this guy who was using photos from 3 years ago, at the very least. He had gained at least 100 lbs and wasnt even close to 6’.

TikiTikiTata-chalala · 2021-10-28T16:28:34+00:00

Haha, they also conveniently forget that a 3d person has depth that a 2d image can never fully capture -but what do I know?

DuchessDurag · 2021-10-29T06:02:39+00:00

I wish dating apps would use the technology that allows men to scan their height , weight and age accurately on their profiles.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-10-29T10:52:54+00:00

TL;DR: 300lb George Costanza catfished me with old pics of himself and OLD continues to suck ass 🤷‍♀️

omfg girl... you're planting images in my head! glad he's woosh

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