What are signs that a woman does not get men?

Valsynnart · 2023-01-05T14:23:15+00:00

If she’s a nun she’s getting none

Meihuajiancai · 2023-01-05T11:57:58+00:00

She thinks that what she finds attractive, men also find attractive

TermAggravating8043 · 2023-01-05T11:39:45+00:00

Fantasies about this perfect man, perfect relationship, perfect family etc believe ms in love at first sight/soulmates etc

Has absolutely no idea about maintaining a relationship or believes in big fancy first dates or film styled first meetings

ColonelGray · 2023-01-05T14:21:39+00:00

"I have a brutal personality and some men struggle to deal with that"

HungerISanEmotion · 2023-01-05T16:52:49+00:00

The biggest one is inflated sense of self worth.

Next one is grown women playing teenager games.

Notanothrshitthrow · 2023-01-05T11:23:21+00:00

"I intimidate men with my confidence and sense of humour"

Translation - I'm a Cunt who men can't stand to be around, solely because I am a Cunt.

Gravel_Roads · 2023-01-05T11:38:34+00:00

I think women more often value the circumstances surrounding a romantic encounter (ie if the weather is nice, if the restaurant was memorable, if you met under interesting circumstances), while men value the immediacy of it (ie they notice her body, her smell, if they can touch her ect.)

And often, these two approaches compliment one another; a couple that shares their experiences often get to experience both equally enjoyable aspects of a date.

In that way, i've noticed that women who don't "get it" (usually because she didn't grow up around men, she has a social disorder like autism that makes it harder to understand others in general, or a mental health disorder like narcissism where they are unable to value themselves or others in a healthy way), often value the wrong aspects of an encounter because they assume men value the same things women do.

Ie, I knew one girl who was very spunky and adventurous (which is great!), but sadly, even though she was very proud of all the things she went out to do (she was really sporty and did marathons and shit), she could be kind of off-putting when she was talking about it because she'd assume men would value her athletic accomplishments (because men value one another for these things), and she'd tease men if they 'couldn't keep up with her'.

She wanted to compete with men she was attracted to. But that means she'd come off as competitive to them, which turned them off. She tried busting their chops and acting tough and thought men liked it... when really they just tolerated it because they liked when she wore revealing workout clothes.

xzpw · 2023-01-05T17:35:09+00:00

All women basically get men, if they want.

So when they don’t get men, it’s usually because they’re a volcel. Thus, the reasons are because their standards are too high. Many reasons for why standards too high. There are some exceptions like some gals being ultra insecure and thinking no one wants them but - tbh - it is usually got a good amount of narcissism underneath where if Chad approached, they would say yes.

I’ve met gals all over the range for why standards are too high. Too hard to pin the details down for such a broad issue.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2023-01-05T11:31:28+00:00

Women who think that men are intimidated by their confidence and success. Nobody cares, you're an insufferable bitch.

Along those same lines girls who call themselves "boss bitches" and "girl bosses".

KissCutMe · 2023-01-05T15:56:20+00:00

I’ve scrolled through all these comments and I’m truly not trying to be a bitch but.. nearly none of these are right. All the women described in these comments get men.

Most of these comments are “if she’s a bitch” and.. no. Men eat that shit up. The women who don’t get men don’t get them for the same reason men fail, I assume. But I’ve never met a woman who didn’t get men.. so it’s gotta be because they don’t have the confidence to go outside. Being absolutely terminal with insecurity and blaming everyone else for your failures and never going outside because of it.

I’ve met all kinds of women. Bitches, feminists, blue hair, “boss bitches”, ugly ones, sour faced ones, ones that smelled absolutely disgusting, low body count, high body count, fat, super thin, short hair, masculine, ditsy.. it doesn’t matter. And sometimes it doesn’t make sense.. but they all get men.

JDWhiz96 · 2023-01-05T12:19:14+00:00

All women can get men.

Now, retaining the man she wants? That’s completely different.

gymbro718nyc2 · 2023-01-05T13:42:32+00:00

Men are intimidated by my success....(and not avoiding me because of my unbearable personality).

imivani · 2023-01-05T19:53:31+00:00

The question should be rephrased to "what are signs that a woman has unstable relationships with men?" because every woman has men after them

Swordfromthecement · 2023-01-06T05:04:08+00:00

I’m pretty cynical, you’d probably have to change what you mean by “get men”. Most women can get fucked on by a wide variety of men. Hell I have friend who’s 300 pounds and autistic, her tinder is always full.

So I’d say women that aren’t able to get and keep desirable men aren’t too different from their men counterparts: fat, autistic, overly masculine, unconfident, poorly groomed, unadventurous, and/or ugly. Bonus points if their friends are more attractive than them.

Royal-Tip4585 · 2023-01-05T14:50:55+00:00

She thinks men’s playful banter with each other is actual bullying. No we’re best friends and that’s why he can say shit like that.
They assume all men who are good looking or have good personalities get laid or have good relationships. No. I had a friend who was a male model & engineer. He was having as many issues as I was. He was shy and didn’t see obvious signs like the rest of us. Dating is hard for us as a universal. Some it’s easier and some it’s impossible but no man is ever born with game.
They think we got no emotions. Just because your dad growing up was always cool headed doesn’t mean that every dude should be like that. Your dad might have had serious issues only your mother knew of. You don’t know.

-Bazuso- · 2023-01-05T13:16:03+00:00

She’s lesbian

EnteFetz · 2023-01-05T11:21:59+00:00

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gate18 · 2023-01-05T14:45:54+00:00

If a woman thinks all men are the same, she doesn't get men.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2023-01-05T12:54:41+00:00

A woman who calls men "trash".

Bruce_Hale · 2023-01-05T17:21:55+00:00

What are signs that a woman is not getting any men?

This sub.

FancyComfortable4678 · 2023-01-05T15:18:54+00:00

My first thought is appearance and/or bf% but we all know those aren’t significant obstacles to women. In practice, the only way to really be a femcel is to avoid or be caused to avoid contact with men (and the outside world in general). I’m thinking mental health issues, severe social anxiety, etc.

Coolio_Street_Racer · 2023-01-05T14:56:10+00:00

Usually they over compensate alot. Constantly bragging this guy bought me this, this guy was flirting with me, etc... They want it to seem like alot of guys are chasing them.

Teflon08191 · 2023-01-05T15:49:33+00:00

She thinks she can turn that one night stand with Chad Chadwick into a relationship.

gobblegoobleoneofus · 2023-01-05T12:00:39+00:00

mean and talks a bunch of shit about your hobbies and passions while her passions are drinking wine and watching TV.

DunboyCastleInTheSky · 2023-01-05T19:29:43+00:00

She thinks a man is looking for his “equal” (and even if he was, she’s not that)

Dstar538888 · 2023-01-05T21:30:40+00:00

Most women can get men...it's not that hard lol

Moneydamjan · 2023-01-06T00:19:08+00:00

if shes constantly pumped and dumped

Maffioze · 2023-01-06T09:50:47+00:00

Not taking accountability for anything and never apologising.

HighestTierMaslow · 2023-01-06T20:00:23+00:00

Very similar to my list for the genders reversed

-mental health issues, crippling social issues/problems

-introversion

-physical health issues/disabilities

-very negative, unkind, selfish, bitter etc personality

-not physically attractive

-not able to make any money (men care about income now, its not the 1950s)

Anybody who has these traits will have a hard time dating.

Swimming_Salary_8456 · 2023-01-13T22:18:21+00:00

She was born with a vagina

She says I’m not like all girls

She expects big extravagant first dates

She comes from a 1st world/feminist country

She uses terms like mansplain and patriarchy unironically

She says a real man….

She says she is looking for someone who can handle her

CruelAngelGradThesis · 2023-01-05T12:39:13+00:00

Getting rejected romantically and then proceeding to offer a fwb relationship.

It's great because it's a combination of not understanding men and not understanding what she wants either.

modidlee · 2023-01-05T13:34:14+00:00

The question should really be "what are the signs a woman can't get the men she wants to be in a relationship with her?" Because any woman can get men she really doesn't want to sleep with her. Which is why havng sex in itself isn't anything a woman should be proud of.

Mustbeaight · 2023-01-05T11:46:16+00:00

When you mean : doesn’t get men You mean doesn’t get any men at all no interest no nothing

Or do you mean : doesn’t get the men she wants?

MistyMaisel · 2023-01-05T15:31:08+00:00

-Ugly

-Sour-Faced

-Overweight

-Needy/ High Maintenance

-Arrogant

-Overtly Mentioning a Deep Desire for Children Very Quickly

-An Unkempt Look with no aesthetic reason for it (punk, rocker, etc).

-Boss Babe Vibes? The kind of woman who says she doesn't need a man, etc.

-That particular type of bitterness about men choosing like slutty or hot girls.

-Expressing really outlandish standards for what makes a man worth dating (like saying he has to enjoy watching Desperate Housewives.)

-High amounts of media consumption which are nearly exclusively female coded.

-Too Much Make-Up that isn't well done

SebTheMenace · 2023-01-05T15:35:47+00:00

Blue hairs

midwesternMD · 2023-01-05T16:13:08+00:00

As far as dating app profiles go, I would say that the clearest sign is highlighting her career/homeownership/how much she can deadlift/etc. Also not disclosing that she’s a single mother is a weird one.

Those things are considerations in a long term relationship, but in the early dating stage, I think we mostly care about 1) is she attractive, 2) can we get along, 3) does she find me attractive.

Like, it’s good to be proud of your career, proud of buying a home, etc. But all that does is raise some big questions.

Does she have the time for a relationship, or does she value her career more?

If we get along, will her home ownership prove to be a liability insofar as moving in together?

If she’s all about the gym rat life, will I be judged for not embracing that lifestyle?

I view it as women broadcasting that they do/have the things that they want to see in a partner. If they take on that role, some might wonder where does a man fit into her life? For those of us who outclass women in xyz, we might think: that’s cute, but will I like you?

obviousredflag · 2023-01-05T12:25:07+00:00

blue hair

imyoung_44 · 2023-01-05T15:26:42+00:00

Lots of cats

Saitama1993 · 2023-01-05T17:10:03+00:00

She is a single mom of 3. Her kids are her world and anymore who wants a piece of the prize better step up.

MrQuiteLimited9 · 2023-01-05T14:49:50+00:00

Most men would love to be in a relationship, but these are the 80% of men that women ignore.

Also, men are becoming more and more resentful that women these days want a finished product. We used to build lives together, but now women demand men have all their shit completely together before entering a relationship with them. (Note that men by and large aren’t like this and would gladly take a woman who is still building herself)

ZealousidealAd7191 · 2023-01-05T15:02:58+00:00

She parrots any feminist talking points

No-Improvement-8205 · 2023-01-05T11:28:50+00:00

Keeps talking about toxic masculinity and how Boy's locker room talk are toxic af and unhealthy

all the while she's sitting at a random café and talks in depth with her friends about the last person they had sex with

Cant and wont understand how poor men are at the bottom of society, pretty much anywhere in the world

Scarce12 · 2023-01-06T19:27:51+00:00

She's had many sexual relationships - relationships that didn't work out or she wasn't interested in working on.

Fit-Faithlessness149 · 2023-01-05T15:26:46+00:00

High body count low relationship count

lulll · 2023-01-05T16:50:36+00:00

women dont give a shit if they dont 'get' men because theres some fucking fool out there who will put up with her bullshit

KayRay1994 · 2023-01-05T15:04:25+00:00

if her trust issues are so bad that her first reaction to seeing a man is pushing him away
Bitterness towards men in the sense that the concept of a man has them angry - this can even present itself through a huge, almost god like self image that’s really just a mask - meant to present a holier than thou attitude
Insecurity, though to the point of not even trying to look good, simply looking like she’s given up
the lack of a social, personal or professional life

Moon-on-my-mind · 2023-01-05T15:58:35+00:00

A happy woman.

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DisasterPeace7 · 2023-01-05T19:26:53+00:00

If we're talking about getting man in terms of attraction: it's because she's ugly

But if we're talking about get in terms of "you don't get it"

See un ironically uses the feminist handbook Buzz terms on a regular basis: "misogyny", "grape culture", "predatory", "incel", you know the words
" Men are intimidated by a strong/successful/intelligent woman" more than likely just means you're annoying to be around at a high level
" my past shouldn't matter "
Calling a guy "husband material" and thinking it's a compliment, basically she means that youre a solid retirement plan for a girl who hooks up with the guys that she's really attracted to when she's younger
Thinking that we should find the same things attractive
If she has male friends and she thinks that there's no way they find her attractive/ wanting to be friends with men and thinking that you're "just like one of the boys"

West-Ad-9697 · 2023-01-06T11:31:46+00:00

She thinks a man wanting her is a harmful, selfish behavior and an evil attitude.

The primary difference between feminine women and unsocialized women is in how they see male aggression, sexual male aggression specifically. Normal women understand that when most normal non-psychopatic men want you, they want to shower you with kisses, spoil you, make you cum 10 times a night and then bring you chocolate.

Unsocialized women only see the initial stages of sexual aggression, and have read on the violent consequences of the psychopaths'. The few and far between experiences they have are likely to be with either young insecure men that don't communicate the parts of the kisses shower and post O chocolates in bed - or pump and dumpers that have been juggled by women's demands so much in the past, that they can't be bothered investing emotionally and literally just want to bust a nut, and will pursue the easiest way to do so.

Perseus_the_Bold · 2023-01-05T15:53:13+00:00

If by "get" men you mean understands men then:

She thinks men can be "told" how to be men by society and that our masculinity isn't an inherent act of our own will. Therefore she thinks everything she sees wrong in men can be "fixed" by telling men to be something else. Through education, propaganda, media, etc.
She thinks that what men feel is what men think.
She thinks that sex is anything other than a bodily function for men; and not something we literally cannot control, only suppress or deviate - like a migraine, a bowel movement, hunger, or sleep. Try controlling your appetite and tell us how that goes. Sexual urges also cause anger when not satisfied, just like when you skip breakfast and you're "hangry" in the afternoon, but much more intensely.
When women believe only their emotions are real and valid and then have the autistic-solipsism to preach that men are unfeeling when we emote our anger and frustration at their cluelessness.

If by "get" men you mean actually gets men as in relationships/sex, then:

She travels often and on short notice.
Everything in her home has her personal touch and nothing is out of place from her personality.
She is very generous with gifts and remembers a very large number of people to give gifts to.
She dresses plain and stylish while neither a slob or trendy.
She isn't very physically attractive.
She is older
Has a very disagreeable or bossy demeanor.

[Edit] it seems my honesty has offended women. This is why I advise men to never tell them the truth, just tell them what they want to hear.

KommandaKoopa · 2023-01-05T14:27:50+00:00

They make posts/comments here on Reddit.

SoldierExcelsior · 2023-01-05T17:16:24+00:00

They invalidate men's needs fears concerns desires for example I've heard it so many times "all men want is sex"or "sex isn't everything" "looks isn't everything" obviously men know this but it's very important to us it's how where biologically wired we can't just wake up and say forget our sexual desires forget physical attraction.Male needs are shunned by society.300lb female talking heads always in the media saying the most riculous things even the term incel is disingenuous if women had to put in even half the effort men do to get sex they would all be incels.

Men don't fully get women but we try to understand them atleast at best women just learn to manipulate men and use men's sexuality against them.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2023-01-05T17:46:31+00:00

Every teen romance movie ever.

SteelFox144 · 2023-01-05T21:12:24+00:00

I don't think there are any because women don't really "not get men." No matter what a woman is like, it's trivially easy for her to find men who want to have sex with her. She doesn't even have to look. If she just puts herself out there, the men will find her. If a woman isn't having sex with men, it's because she's choosing to not have sex with men.

cromulent_weasel · 2023-01-05T22:51:47+00:00

"Romance just happens. It doesn't require work from either party."

JalenHurtsMVP2022 · 2023-01-05T23:32:33+00:00

Life isnt a disney movie and you should expect less of men because “they are just people to”

ace1244 · 2023-01-06T02:00:19+00:00

When men don’t drop everything just to have sex with them. When men are preoccupied with their passion it is more important to them than sex. Women don’t get that.

immrdadguy · 2023-01-06T02:05:24+00:00

lol there are no signs. Woman can get men’s attention. If they really want it

Flightlessbirbz · 2023-01-06T02:15:35+00:00

Idealistic, virginal, traditional values, usually religious, plain looking, possibly overweight, homebody, believes someday God will send her Prince Charming, obsessed with some fictional character(s).

Title	What are signs that a woman does not get men?
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Date	January 5, 2023 11:16 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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