Men are taught from young that their purpose is to provide for their partner and family and that they should derive a sense of joy, satisfaction and purpose from being a provider. Perhaps we should teach women the same too. They can also find joy in providing for a boyfriend or husband who takes good care of the house and children.

We should not blame women for being hypergamous. I believe society teaches women that they should be financially provided for, which influences them to be hypergamous. If we want to change this, we need to teach women that they can be providers too. Likewise, we should also teach men that they can also find meaning in being a homemaker and caretaker for their children, not necessarily a financial provider.

Now, what I’m about to say will be the most controversial part of my post.

For that matter, I do not think there is anything wrong with hypergamy as a concept. My issue here is that there needs to be more variety among women. It’s fine for some women to be hypergamous, they can pair with provider men. But when hypergamy is taught to all women, it makes things very difficult for a man who passionately wants to be a SAHD. It does slightly complicate things for those who want an egalitarian relationship, but not to the same extent.

Ideally, some women can be SAHMs while others can be providers. We can all play to our strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. But as it stands, society teaches men as a whole to be providers and women as a whole to be homemakers and caretakers. I hope can see the problem for people who aren’t suitable for the roles assigned to their gender. If this changes, they will not find it nearly as difficult to find a compatible partner.

I expect this to be a controversial post and I will probably get attacks from all sides. But we shall see, I’ll try my best to respond to comments.