By "socially privileged", I mean privileged in the social market, which primarily encompasses friendships and relationships. I'm interested in comparing the level of social privilege between men and women, so I designed a mini quiz/checklist to gauge how socially privileged you are. You just add 1 point for each statement that applies to you, and your final score is how many points you have.

Here is the checklist:

  1. I have or have previously had a sexual or romantic partner.
  2. I have had 3+ sexual or romantic experiences in my life.
  3. I have received genuine, well-intentioned romantic/sexual attention at some point in my life (even once counts!).
  4. Throughout my childhood/adolescence, I'd usually have a friend group (either at school or outside).
  5. Throughout my childhood/adolescence, I've usually had at least a few close friends.
  6. Throughout my childhood/adolescence, I was popular/well-liked at school.
  7. I have been invited to a party or social event at some point during high school/college (again, even once counts).
  8. I have been invited to MANY parties/social events during high school/college.
  9. I have been offered or consumed drugs/alcohol in a social setting.
  10. I've had fun, spontaneous adventures with my friends or romantic partner.
  11. I usually don't feel left out/excluded in social situations.
  12. I have someone to talk to about the problems in my life.
  13. People often initiate conversations with me in social situations.
  14. I USUALLY manage to make friends and find a group in new environments.
  15. I SOMETIMES manage to make friends and find a group in new environments.

Personally, as a guy, my score is a 0/15, and I imagine a lot of other struggling guys also score 0 or at most 3-5. So now I'm curious what the women here would score on this privilege checklist.

(NOTE: Feel free to question my methodology if you want, but I do anticipate a lot of women will question why so many of the questions are aimed at childhood/adolescence. This is because in school, everyone is essentially on a "level playing field" for socializing, so comparisons in this field are more reliable indicators of privilege; in the adult world, the results would be less reliable because there's just so much variance between different lifestyles/careers. )