Male attractiveness isn't particularly complicated if you understand the importance of standard archetypal masculinity.

This is after all how abusers find partners: overconfident, overbearing behaviour, sometimes combined with superficially charisma, passes as masculine for women who are susceptible to that.

This is how conventionally unattractive men can still find partners. They compensate hard with assertiveness and charisma (the second still arguably a masculine trait).

Even deadbeats with nothing else going for them will be found attractive by a percentage of women if they have enough confidence.

The worst thing for a man looks wise isn't a bad facial structure or poor grooming - it's being (unusually) physically small. And the worst thing personality wise isn't selfishness, arrogance, or stupidity - because arrogant, selfish, stupid men get in relationships all the time - it's shyness.

Shy men do not even register as men in the majority of women's eyes.

This is why imo some men are struggling now, at a point where women no longer have to depend on men economically - because that has aspect of society has changed, but the way men interact and relate, particularly in teens and early 20s, hasn't. Male socializing is still hierarchical, and every hierarchy requires people towards the bottom.

The majority of men who struggle with dating now are the victims of other boys/men. Of bullying and social isolation in adolescence when their personalities were still forming, resulting in them being unable to fulfill their gender role.

That's not to say every man who was seriously bullied is a permasingle virgin or that it's impossible to overcome, but it seems to be a common thread among those who have NEVER been able to form an intimate bond with a woman.

I should know, I'm one of them, I went through that, and I'm around other men like this on various subreddits and forums. Some of them are in their 40s/50s or even older, and the one thing that ties them together is adolescent bullying.