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Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scrote

January 20, 2022
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[–]giftofnocondemnationFDS Apprentice 332 points333 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

He’s not “potentially” cheating, he is already cheating.

[–]fdsalt1 98 points99 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is not "cheating", he's grooming a child! He's a predator.

[–]giftofnocondemnationFDS Apprentice 50 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Betraying her trust is cheating. Being a disgusting pedophile doesn’t give him a cheat-pass

[–]vilepurityFDS Newbie 20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sexting is literally cheating… why would she word it like that…

[–]MysteriousLife7FDS Newbie[S] 732 points733 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

The good thing is the top comments are telling her to get a lawyer, call the police and get a divorce instead of making excuses for the scrote. It’s not your fault for your husband to behave this way. He chooses to engage in this immoral and illegal behavior. You only have the option of protecting yourself while removing him out of your life and making sure he faces consequences.

[–]MsWriteNow07FDS Newbie 160 points161 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

On the one hand, I’m really glad that these people are giving her advice which can help her and this young lady. On the other hand, if she was say 18 instead of 16, you just know the advice would be completely different and they’d be blaming her

[–]vilepurityFDS Newbie 27 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s scary how there’s only a 2 year difference, and if she was 18 the comments could be completely different… :/

[–]halebaIeFDS Newbie 354 points355 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

I’m surprised they’re not telling her to coMmuniCate or that men are naturally biOlogiCally attracted to 16 yo girls.

[–]MysteriousLife7FDS Newbie[S] 297 points298 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well this post is not on relationship subs so the commenters may have at least some common sense.

What I fear is if the girl were 18 (barely legal), the narrative could very well be legitimized and steered towards “He has the RiGhT to be attracted to young women! If it’s not illegal then we shouldn’t judge” by other scrotes! 🤡

[–]PetsAndPlantsAndPets 132 points133 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"LoVE kNoWS nO aGE."

"hE'S a MaN, wHAT eLsE iS hE SuPPoSeD tO Do??"

[–]PasDeToutFDS Newbie 70 points71 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

SHe’S OnLy fOUr YeArS aWaY FRoM tHe WaLl aT 16!!!!

[–]MissApplication 126 points127 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This woman needs to reach out to the girl's MOTHE!!!

[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie 43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s my first thought - the OP will get through this, but little girl will not.

[–]WandernWondernFDS Newbie 25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My thought too. Boink him. Let the authorities deal with his nastiness. The girl needs to be protected, taught, something. Like is she being sex trafficked? What’s going on?

[–]melympiaFDS Newbie 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, she should CoMmUnIcAtE her husband's doings to the police and the girl's parents. Then get some popcorn and watch what happens.

[–]Unfit_NeedleworkerFDS Newbie 48 points49 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m surprised by the comments. If it was an older woman, it would be the woman’s fault for sure! Some probably still think so 😏

[–]FlockAroundtheClockFDS Newbie 161 points162 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hope she doesn't have kids with this creep.

[–]jjlew922FDS Disciple 160 points161 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

It never ceases to amaze me how often the “no major fights or disagreements” somehow end up with the man being a complete lunatic psychopath pedo living a double life. Like wtf 😳

[–]extragoudaFDS Newbie 48 points49 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Because the "no major fights of disagreements" just means that the person you are in a relationship with is duplicitous and acting the part of the perfect partner to love-bomb you. In the case of a psycho, they can keep up the act for years.

They can have serious discussions with you where almost everything they say is a lie, and because it is an intrinsic part of their personality, they lie to everyone around them to support the lies they are telling you.

It takes experience to spot a lying psychopath, and there would have been little red flags here and there, that if she mentioned it to her friends, her friends would have brushed it off as picky or countered with some scrote-y thing that their husband/partner does so that bad behavior is normalized.

In this case, the guy abuses children and was probably using his relationship to look "respectable".

[–]Far_Promotion_8513 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No fighting, is often a sign that the woman is a pick me with no self cconfidence.

These type of woman, let every nag and every disrespectful comment slide, because they are to afraid to get up for themselves.

The men, knows that she does not have enough self confidence to set boundaries, and just escaletes further and further...

[–]cutekittensmeowFDS Newbie 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't invest the energy to have any sort of major fights or disagreements with people I don't care about.

This scrote obviously doesn't give a single fuck about his pedo-beard wife.

[–]Thestral-glow6FDS Newbie 325 points326 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

“Even if he comes up with an explanation for this” 🤔🤯 there is NO acceptable explanation for a grown man to be sexting a child.

She needs to leave and report that predator.

[–]HostileovariesFDS Apprentice 124 points125 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In the US if he exchanged nudes with her he could be charged with the federal crime of possessing child pornography. Regardless of age of consent in the state, child pornography is anyone under 18

[–]annie222222 65 points66 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She’s in denial because she is in love with this guy. This is why abused women never leave, there is a part of you that had dreams with the guy. But she will get some good perspective from people insisting she go to the police asap.

[–]PerspicaciousCatFDS Newbie 90 points91 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Right like what?? Honestly she needs to get it together and help protect the literal child that he’s grooming

[–]lostmilleniaFDS Newbie 24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Does she need help with her homework or driving lessons? 🤮

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The fact she’s even asking Internet strangers for an opinion on this tells me she does have an inability to form decisions by herself Aka Pickmeisha

Pickmeisha’s have a habit of saying ‘Is this super disrespectful thing okay?’

Or dismissing it in their head.

Or getting aggressive at people who say ‘yeah that’s fucked up’ because it stings their ego

Misogyny does not view any women as special , whatever it claims to a specific target

‘ what should I do????’

‘Please gaslight me out of my instincts’

So I guarantee red flags have been ignored.

Bc you shouldn’t need to ask the Internet about that

She even has firm evidence in front of her , showing he is sending sexual messages to a minor.

She has confirmed, the person is a minor.

What is there not to understand.

Because there is no logical explanation he would be hiding this from her, at all.

Instinctively she knows he’s a cheating predator. And has evidence .

She is likely in shock but at the same time this is something you would tell a therapist and the police.

[–]corkymuu 72 points73 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not sure if you noticed that 1) all the top comments giving advice were women and 2) if you sort by new, it’s just a bunch of losers going “but the age of consent is 16!”

Just really highlights how little men give a fuck.

[–]SpiralDancingCoyoteThrowaway Account 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think it also highlights how 'consent', instead of being the lowest possible bar for anything approaching decency, is a get-out-of-jail-free card for so many men.

[–]StrawberryMoon3FDS Apprentice 304 points305 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

How is she lost on what to do? Her husband is a pedophile! She needs to leave him asap and report him to the authorities

[–]halebaIeFDS Newbie 260 points261 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

There was a post where a woman was asking for advice on what to do about her boyfriend (not the dad) sexualising her 1 year old baby girls lips saying they were bj lips and making sexual comments about her in general.

Pickmes won’t leave even if we tell them to.

[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple 88 points89 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wtf?!

[–]Guyincognito9876FDS Newbie 77 points78 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Holy shit.

[–]natdiego 71 points72 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Whaaaat? Are you serious? Wtf that is so disgusting, what kind of mother would have their baby around someone like that🤢

[–]highmaitenancebitch 57 points58 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow I wish I didn't read that 😵😭

[–]StrawberryMoon3FDS Apprentice 141 points142 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's disgusting. I hope she threw him out

[–]MeepnitFDS Newbie 43 points44 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Something just died inside me while reading this...

Like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?!!?!!???!!!!!

I hope this disgusting creature will rot in jail 🤢🤢

[–]MissApplication 30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good goddess!

[–]WeCaredALot 24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

WTF

[–]extragoudaFDS Newbie 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She was probably in shock and/or denial... or wants other people to tell her that she didn't really hear him say that. I've been in situations where a guy was making inappropriate comments about me (or even a woman making inappropriate comments), and when I point it out to people who are actually in the room, they say, "no, really, I'm sure they didn't mean that." It's a real by-stander effect/cognitive dissonance thing where the image they have of their friend/spouse/partner does not match incongruous information, so they try to make the new information "fit" by making it make sense.

This is the same sort of thinking that happens when microaggressions against women and POC are committed by people who think they are allies.

It's a psychological phenomenon that can be involuntary unless you are hyper aware of it. It's not just a case of being a "pick-me".

If you have a very complicated case where there is abuse of a minor, the majority of non-abusing care-takers will choose to believe that the child is lying. I forgot where I read that statistic... or if it is still relevant. Because the child lying is more comforting (it means that the child was NOT abused, and is lying) to believe than the idea that your partner is a child abuser (not only is your partner not who you think he was, your child has been abused, and you now have to divorce and report an abuser to the police... and there may be a trial).

We also live in societies where girls are groomed to put others' needs above their own. So this translates to grown women putting the needs of their spouse above their own and repeating the pattern of grooming their daughters to be compliant. Hopefully, we are not raising our daughters this way anymore. Although in some places in the world, it's hard to say what is going on.

That said... we should believe all children. Because the truth, while difficult, will set you free.

[–]eudixmonia 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m so sorry for the baby… she needs to break up with him immediately before he ends up… well y’know 🤢

[–]Internal_Razzmatazz7 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The fact that I live on the same planet as people that think like this is truly horrifying.

[–]xpressurself111FDS Newbie 51 points52 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“BuT tHe aGe of COnsEnt is 16 heRe!!!!!” Is what I usually get from scrotes defending pedophiles

[–]annie222222 40 points41 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m her defense this is so upsetting I can imagine being frozen. She knows she needs to go to the police and that is terrifying. I’m sure she went to the internet to get the courage to go to the police.

[–]Ugythrowaway123At-Risk Pick Me Youth 171 points172 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Proof that the vetting process never ends.

[–]Mysterious_Call_924FDS Newbie 58 points59 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I know it's so scary!!! I feel bad for this lady, her entire life has imploded

[–]corkymuu 73 points74 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is what makes me feel completely hopeless with men. They can seem decent, but they’re such depraved, opportunistic creatures that sexualize anything that your initial impression is probably wrong.

[–]extragoudaFDS Newbie 37 points38 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

There were probably red flags she ignored in the beginning. Never fighting is one. It means that you don't know how that person would react to conflict.

Edit: this is not to mean that I blame her for anything, including any of her choices. People make mistakes due to inexperience or being groomed by society to please men. But I think she needs to get out.

[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yup. See comment below this. She ignored the red flags.

[–]Seen_Any_Elves 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

good point. this subreddit is blowing my mind

[–]ThankGodsImPretty 48 points49 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

16 is the legal age of consent in most of the USA. You know because disgusting old men want to have sex with children without any risk of going to prison. Not that it’s hard for them to avoid jail time for sex crimes anyway 🤬. Each state has an additional minimum age for consent under special circumstances. The youngest is Alabama starting at age 12. Men are like metastatic cancer.

[–]KimpracticalFDS Disciple 43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This makes me want to throw up and cry and it’s not even happening to me

[–]Ok-Performance5997FDS Newbie 128 points129 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

In a comment under her post she admits he had a similar issue happen before they got married (not with a underaged girl, but a young woman), and she still married him!!!!!!! Wtf?

[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist 60 points61 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Unfortunately this is far too common. Women are gaslit to think all men will be tempted to cheat… particularly with younger women, and he will change when they are married. So sad. Ugh.

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah they think all men cheat (can’t help it) and I like this one and he said he was sorry so I guess I’ll have to settle

No , no you don’t. Kick them to the curb.

Exhaust these cheaters. They don’t change.

They do not love you.

You’re only going to prolong the hurt and dramas.

They’re deliberately trying to humiliate you and pit you against other women.

They deliberately target younger / troubled women. Because it’s easier prey.

It’s worse staying with a cheating pedo than it is being single.

Send the message they are replaceable .

You will not tolerate their disrespect or forgive it.

All this passive forgiveness stuff is waged at women, far more than men.

Most time’s men won’t even admit to their behaviour- even when you have months of evidence in their face.

They will take you for a born yday idiot if you let them.

They will gaslight, have a tantrum, belittle your instincts and throw you ridiculous excuses even a 5 yr old wouldn’t believe.

Believe your instincts. Stop believing men have your best interests when you see how many men dog out other women.

Keep them gone.

It’s because they don’t respect women.

They don’t think you have a right to be mad or leave them either.

Most men would not forgive you the first time.

Why’s that? Because they know it’s a serious violation.

You’ve seen how men react when they get an inch back.

They know those mind games aren’t tolerable and are humiliating.

Yet they expect women to keep on tolerating it.

Promising ‘it’s just one a off mistake’ when it’s a pattern they had in all their relationships.

Or aggressively gaslighting you. Calling you paranoid / insecure. Denying it.

All their relationships ended bc of that problem.

Yet they’ll deflect & say you’re the outlier/ problem.

They’ve never had issues before (LIES).

They always have the same issues with women.

They’ve always been problematic.

They won’t even tolerate you not showering them in affection 24-7, when they’re disrespecting you.

And women think oh maybe I’m being too harsh! He only sexted a 16 yr old! Oh it’s only another one! And another one!

Would he tolerate that? If the answer is a sound NO, ask why you are?

Most are pornsick pedos. Their brains are fully developed and they know the choices they are making will hurt you & are wrong. That’s why they’re hiding it.

If men thought it was so socially acceptable to cheat with minors- they wouldn’t hide it.

It’s not a given they will be taken back…at all.

[–]Previous-Charity1764 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This comment is so spot on!!!! Everything u said is 100% true and I only came to that realization recently

[–]purasangriaFDS Disciple 130 points131 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Total pickme behavior. "I just found out that I'm married to a pedophile. Should I be upset?"

Barf.

I'd make a record of the texts, and be retaining a divorce attorney.

[–]Jojo236503 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I will be calling the police if I find out my husband is sexting a minor !

[–]The_Moon_PieceFDS Newbie 127 points128 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Pickmes really out there going “my husband is a child predator, I don’t know what to do 👩‍🦯👩‍🦯👩‍🦯👩‍🦯” and just sit on it for TWO WEEKS.

[–]lostmilleniaFDS Newbie 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The brainwashing is deep in there! Yikes

[–]Free_Acanthisitta446 27 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Take screenshots and take it to the cops. Protecting the minor child is #1. Then see a lawyer. Her husband is a predator.

[–]halebaIeFDS Newbie 142 points143 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

With her being Asian, she probably looks even younger than 16.

Males are disgusting creatures and all they can do is pretend we’re just as bad lmao.

[–]VarietyAlive9209 21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don’t know if she’s having a hard time leaving because she put everything into her marriage and doesn’t want to start over, it she’s being emotionally manipulated or she’s still processing the unbelievable disgusting Info. But she needs to lawyer up, having a good support system and dip.

[–]ta138577 21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What possible explanation could this pedo have for sexting a young girl? This poor woman is already trying to justify his behavior in her mind

[–]youre_a_catPickmeisha™️ 56 points57 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That poor child, I hope the OP reports him to the authorities and that the sexting stops. I can't imagine what that poor girl's life will be like in the future when she grows up and realizes that she was groomed by a pedophile.

[–]CupVirtual 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This! I hope that she reports him to the police asap! First thing that came to mind is “is this predator pretending to be a teenager and sexting this 16 yr old girl?” He’s a pedophile and needs to be reported to the police and the 16 yr old’s parents too.

[–]wonkyeyes8877FDS Newbie 50 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I posted a reply to that. I barely ever comment in subs outside of FDS, but this one HAD me.

First off, what he's doing is illegal. Second, it is cheating.

[–]frostedgemstoneFDS Newbie 16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’m questioning if marriage is worth it anymore because this stuff is so common; a friend of a friend’s parents, who have been married for 20+ years, just divorced and the man left his wife for an 18 year old. There was also other insane shit like him having gay and CP in his possession amongst other things from a seemingly unassuming male.

[–]prettyp0is0n 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same, I hear the reasoning of people not wanting to have children because of climate change all of the time but this is a much more pressing reason IMO

[–]missusbatemanFDS Newbie 78 points79 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is when being a pick me is dangerous for society. Report this pedo! There isn't even a dilemma here. Report this creep and save more kids from the freak. Wasting time asking the internet what to do. Ffs.

[–]intergalacticanon44FDS Newbie 79 points80 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Why is she telling reddit and not the police 😫

[–]xfelugirlxFDS Newbie 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dump him and report him! That girl is in danger

[–]lolmemberberriesFDS Newbie 42 points43 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude is a predator, she needs to save herself.

[–]workingonit1976 14 points15 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Get the girls parents involved!! She's a minor I guarantee her parents will want to know and manage their end . Definitely call her parents!!

[–]riseaboveagainFDS Apprentice 22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She might not have a supportive or protective parent to turn to. It is probably why she’s talking to this adult man. She lacks boundaries and self respect and the reason for that is usually neglectful or abusive parents.

[–]BooksandEarlGreyTeaFDS Newbie 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Can confirm, my parents were neglectful and I ended up groomed. I even brought one of the older guys I was dating to my parents hose and they said nothing to me in private about the situation, even though CSA was right in their face.

Edit: I said dating..... I really wasn't because what 16 is dating a man in his late 20s/ early 30s? I was being used and rose coloured glasses won't change that.

[–]Mysterious_Call_924FDS Newbie 38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

POTENTIALLY cheating?! Honey he ain't cheating, he's a paedophile

Don't confront this monster! She should file a police report and hire a lawyer and file for divorce. Before that, she needs a bug-out bag or something and a safe place to stay. Obviously she needs to get away from him ASAP and you don't want to confront a man who may up his crazy even more and hurt you

[–]Interaction_Anxious 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What a fucking creep. I would report him to the police because what he is doing possibly illegal. There is no reason for a grown man to be texting a 16 year old girl

[–]ifhewantedtohewouldFDS Newbie 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Potentially cheating” GIRL

[–]Invisiblescars_123FDS Newbie 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Proof that pickmes are dangerous for society. This one doesn’t even want to report her pedophile husband.

[–]Specific-Composer300FDS Newbie 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is like one of my biggest fears. Imagine building a life with a man and committing to him and finding out not only is he cheating, but with a minor! Imagine what she must have felt... Poor woman ❤️

[–]HeChoseDrugs 46 points47 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I went through something similar. Please understand- these women are almost always abused, and they no longer trust even their own eyes. The first time I sensed my ex was a pedo was when I noticed he was chatting with a 13-year-old online. 13! It was on World of Warcraft. I was horrified, but since I didn't see anything "suspicious" (hindsight: WTF? The fact that she stated her age and he continued to have daily conversations with her was freaking disgusting, I know), I decided to CoMmUnIcAte (read: I was dying to hear that I was crazy, because the alternative was that I acknowledge reality, and I just couldn't). Of course, he shamed me for snooping and double, triple, quadruple shamed me for thinking his intentions were anything less than honorable.

Years later, I was informed that he is indeed, a pedo. Only at that point, I had no proof- and the person who told me refused to testify against him.

IF ONLY I had kept evidence of the convo he was having, kept it secret from him, and made silent plans for divorce I AM SURE a competent judge would have made my custody battle a whole lot smoother than it was. A competent judge, that is... so who knows.

[–]Platipus6FDS Disciple 25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Fingers crossed she's not real but a pedo-hunter.

[–]ChampagneManifesto 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

! OMG YES that is the only way this story has a happy ending.

[–]up_d00tFDS Newbie 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"my husband is a paedophile what do I do?"

Get a really good divorce lawyer.

[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Should I let him continue to potentially rape children while I cry trying to figure out if I’ve been cheated on?”

That’s her focus, not the child. Shame on her.

[–]legoflowersFDS Newbie 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Divorce him and take his money

[–]PetsAndPlantsAndPets 20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Girl...

I think women who do this are asking for help not necessarily solutions, but out of desparation for someone to give her a way to keep her relationship. What else could it be if she's asking about what she could do? If this were some random man in her circle, or some older man talking to her daughter, the first thought would be to call the police. But we get so clouded in the head by these men...

Been there, done that. It's never been anything like an ex sexting a minor (because it would have been over effective-immediately), but it's definitely been me pulling at straws to not do the hard thing and break things off.

Also, she used the word "sexting" to describe what this man was doing with this child - what does she mean she needs to find out if this is "potentially" cheating??? Since when was sexting not cheating??

[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I mean, chances are very likely this is behavior she’s noticed before (another commenter said the wife DID have previous suspicions), and he probably gaslit her, and she was probably convinced that only physical contact counts as cheating. Then she comes to Reddit and the woman are like “sis, no.” and the men don’t even address that part and go right to the age of consent because they know it’s cheating and they can’t protect him from that but they can possibly protect him from going to jail. Even when it’s overt, they act covertly, like we can’t see it right in front off our face.

[–]SupremeDearLeaderFDS Newbie 20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Where's Chris Hanson when you need him !!

[–]throwawayaway388FDS Newbie 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Um, this isn't "potentially cheating", it's sexual harassment and potentially sexual assault.

[–]ScaredTumbleweed 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is societal conditioning at work . . . Making this woman doubt her instincts. I’d get copies / screenshots of all his conversations with this girl, get a shark of a divorce lawyer, inform the relevant authorities, get this pedo scrote on a sex offender registry then ride off into the sunset.

[–]espressomeowtini 15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is physically nauseating to read. How has she held it in for TWO WHOLE WEEKS???? Sis… call the police, a divorce lawyer, and find a way to tell this girl’s parents. Not only is he an insecure cheating loser, but he is clearly a vile predator. Kick his ass out and never look back.

[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie 9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Someone needs to get her to understand that allowing this to go on makes her complicit.

[–]WriothesleyFDS Newbie 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was thinking this too - in addition to it being wrong to stay quiet, that she might get into legal trouble if it comes out that she knew and stayed silent.

[–]extragoudaFDS Newbie 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So he's a pedophile, but why is it important that the child is Asian? It would not have been mentioned if the child was white. I'm irritated with everyone in that post except the child victim.

[–]onedetachedmind 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She doesn't know what to do?? How about go to the police??

[–]natdiego 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OP also posted her husband did something similar before they were married.. all of this is just disgusting..how are you confused about whether or not you should be married to a pedophile-pervert-cheater?

[–]WeCaredALot 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm sorry, but is she stupid? She doesn't think she can forgive him "even if he comes up with an explanation"? Um, DUH. He's a 30-something year old man sexting a teen.

I try to be empathetic with women but come the hell on!

[–]TCookieofSassy 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Judging from her comments, something similar like this event has happened before. Before marriage...so even more reason not to have married him.

But, it appears she is realizing that she can't lie to herself about this. Also, he's a serious problem.

[–]lemonasia 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

  1. get a lawyer
  2. call the police
  3. get a divorce

[–]thangsnstufff 17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm very upset by the fact that she has known this for 2 weeks and hasn't contacted the authorities to put an immediate stop to her pedophile husband. In that time they could easily have met up so he could rape her as I'm sure is his ultimate goal. Hemming and hawing over her uncomfortable confrontation while a child is being abused. At this point she is an accessory to the crime as far as I'm concerned. I also think it's interesting how she leads with the fact that they have no conflict. If makes sense on his part...if she thinks nothing is wrong she won't go digging deeper. Chances are this is not the first child he's groomed.

[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sis! I just said this. OP cares only for herself and is not thinking about the child. So fuck her and her pedophile husband.

[–]Hypatia-etal 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She needs to save the evidence, give it to the police, get a lawyer & begin divorcing him aggressively, ruthlessly and immediately.

[–]valeriantincture 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I went through something very similar when I was 16 and became ‘involved’ with a married man in his 30s. When the wife found out, she blamed me and stayed with him. I’m really glad the top comments are telling her to lawyer up, leave him and tell the authorities. I really hope she listens. I can’t begin to explain how much it has impacted me down the line, knowing that adults like her chose not to protect me.

[–]jenna_grows 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s the “potentially” ahead of the cheating that makes me so angry and also sad and exhausted.

[–]HotConsideration3034 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What a sick man. This is unforgivable. Get a good lawyer and run as fast as you can. I’m happy you figured this out now. I’m so sorry

[–]HotConsideration3034 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can’t imagine waking up one day to the man I marry and finding out he’s a pedo. I’d lose my shit and go Lorena Bobbit on his ass!! My heart goes out to this lady. Hope she actually does something

[–]otter_bott 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He’s a pedo. Law enforcement, divorce lawyer, asap. Also - potentially cheating? How is this not cheating? Odd how the cheating is the part she seems to focus on. I’d be more worried about my husband pursuing someone who is a minor.

[–]vilepurityFDS Newbie 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

WHAT. THE. FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKLKKKKKLLLKKKKKK OKAY. I’m never getting married. WHAT THE FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK THIS is ACTUAL SUIFUEL

[–]hexriot2001FDS Newbie 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

call the police!!!!

[–]Junior_Accountant420 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she doesn’t report him to the police, she’s trash just like he is.

[–]Big-Paleontologist13FDS Newbie 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

i read this out to my amazing HV fiancé last night, his response ‘girl, you report him to the police, THATS what you do’

[–]MeredeenFDS Newbie 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

OP of that post, wtf she's a minor, you document/report to the authorities asap

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